Ok, so after a "discussion" with dp last night about our heating bill where I felt he was being an arse slightly unreasonable and accusing me of using too much heating in our new home because of the way I had set up the heating controls. He claims he's just worried about the cost but it felt like he was blaming me.
It's time to get the household expenses sorted properly. We've been working on a system where I buy all the food (which is half our total household costs) and pay for own car, clothes and anything for ds etc. He pays the bills, his car and anything for his kids.
My income is made up of part time employment, part time self employment and rental income from my old house.
Dp is employed and earns over three times what I do.
My ds lives with us pretty much full time with occasional weekends at his dads. Dsd2 lives with us 6 days a week, dsd1 and dsd4 2 to 3 days a week. So obviously his kids eat more, use more heating etc because there are more of them. However, I don't really want to get into the detail of who uses more electric or water etc.as I feel that seems petty.
So would a 1/3 split of household expenses seem fair with dp paying 2/3? Based on him earning three times what I do.
Currently dp pays for nearly all our going out, holidays etc (which we do a lot) but I would actually prefer to stay in sometimes which he seems to think is boring and as he works mainly from home, he says he likes a change of scenery. I'm prepared to contribute a bit more than I do now but would actually prefer some soft furnishings than constant meals out.
Thoughts please?
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theredhen · 08/07/2013 18:28
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