Hi there
BF has a 9 yo dd. She lost her Mum when she was 5. I have dd 9 and ds 7. The kids have met a few times and on Saturday BF and his dd stayed over at ours. This went pretty well and the children seemed to have a nice time. I am VERY aware though that BF's dd finds this process tricky. She is often withdrawn and non-communicative (refuses to speak to anyone and turns her back) and sometimes seems angry. I'm also aware that 'jollying her along' isn't going to be anything like the answer.
I'd really like to be able to support her in feeling more comfortable around us. I imagine there are loads of issues for her about her bond with her Dad, jealousy, feeling overwhelmed by new people, needing to have control over her environment and of course grieving for her Mum.
Does anyone have any advice or any recommendations of reading material? On reflection I think BF and I underestimated how difficult his dd would find it and have taken things too fast. It's the first time he's introduced her to anyone and although she does seem to like me, she's obviously suffering.
Thanks in advance
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Stampingmyfeet · 08/07/2013 12:32
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