Hi.
Just to quickly introduce myself. I am not a step mum, but lurk here as my ex has a new partner, and while its hard I am coming to terms with the fact that she is my dcs step mum. I find reading this board really helpful sometimes, as I get to see the problems that occur in my family, but from the other side iyswim.
I have 2ds' (8 and 6) Their step mum has as dd (13) and ds (11) plus they are expecting a baby. Now this new relationship, and the pregnancy was all rather fast, and ds1 struggled with it to begin with.
This week ds1 said (for the millionth time) that he never gets time on his own with his dad, as his step brother and step sister are always there, even at pick up and drop off. He said he asked his dad (yet again) for time without them, but his dad said that they feel left out, and don't like it if he says they can't come with him.
So, ky question is, what is normal? Surely his step children should learn that they cant always be with him, and have to be told 'no' sometimes? (i get the impression this isn't something they hear often) I understand that they want to spend time with their step dad and brothers, but are my boys not entitled to some time alone with their daddy?
My own mum remarried, and her and my step dad always made sure that their children got time alone with each parent, and I was 18 when they married!
Thanks for reading, sorry its long! And hope you don't mind a non step parent posting here :)
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