So this is the scenario, how would you deal with it and/or your dh/dp (sorry it's a long one!)

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K8eee Sat 01-Jun-13 20:18:57

Right so here it is...

Dh has dss every school holiday and he was due to pick him up Tuesday morning just gone, early.

He drove 266 miles to dss home town and stayed with a mate over night. They ended up going out, he stayed up later than he should've, but got 6 or so hours sleep. He picks up dss Tuesday morning, and heads off approx 7:45am back home to me. With half hour or so he feels tired so pulls over into a service station on the motorway, parks up in the corner out the way of anyone, locks himself and dss in the car and explains to dss that because he is a but tired he just needs to rest his eyes ready for the long drive home. Dss has his ds and dh phone to occupy him for the 45 mins dh rests. Once awake, dh quickly runs into the service station, grabs a red bull and makes his way home and gets here safely.

Now, what is your judgement on my dh and his actions? Sensible for stopping to rest, or irresponsible and unsafe for resting with dss in the car.

Dh ex went absolutely ballistic saying he was irresponsible, and now is refusing dh to have dss in the car with him. This has resulted in us having to pay for her fuel to come and pick him up. I was very reluctant to let dh give her the money, but all week she has given us grief, and has pummelled dss with phrases such as 'you're not safe with daddy in the car anymore' and 'you're never allowed to go to your dads ever again' which I also have has to answer questions from his to justify the reasoning for why his dad had a cat nap before the long journey.

tigerrose Mon 10-Jun-13 16:49:19

I think that if he knows he is going to drive with a 7 year old in the car the next day that he should not have gne out the night before!
some times men only think of themselves, he should have been aware that he may be over the limit if he had a drink and lack of sleep can effect your response times. very iresponsible! he did the right thing to stop as he had no option if he wanted to be safe on the road, it was the lesser of 2 evils. but he should not have gone out the night before - is he a teenager!?. being a mum I can understand the exes concerns but he shoudl still be able to see his child with the proviso does not happen again. sorry if this sounds harsh but thats how I see it

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