I've posted a fuller version of the story in relationships but to condense - I get the feeling DP's eldest son hates me. He was standoffish (but polite) when we first met and DP said he's always like that and not to read too much into it but all the times we've met since then he's been visibly off with me, negative body language, avoids talking to me and more or less ignores me. If I talk directly to him he'll be polite and reply with minimum requirements but that's it.
Just now, DP pulled up outside my house with his kids in the car to pick something up. DP said to me "the kids are in the car, give them a wave" so I went outside, waved and eldest seemed to almost roll his eyes, flung his arm in the air in a forced wave without even looking at me and instantly went back to his texting. DP laughed, gave me a kiss and then left.
DP either doesn't see what is happening here or see's it and doesn't want to mention it because he keeps telling me the kids are fine with me and he's glad everyone is getting on great!! Since the lad is 18 it's not the end of the world if we don't end up being best mates but we're buying our first house and moving in a few weeks, the kids will be coming every saturday night so how will this work? I'm fine with staying out of the way, entertaining myself, going out with friends and basically leaving them to it but will that really work from 6pm Saturday until 6pm Sunday EVERY weekend??
I'm nothing to do with their parents splitting btw, he was divorced two years before we even met.
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Ok so how does it work when a stepkid hates you for no apparent reason?
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5oClockInTheMorning · 19/05/2013 13:26
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