I am stuck what to do here. I am a step mum and have an 11yr old DSD who has just announced she hates me after 6 yrs and does not want to be part of our family and is not visiting any more. OH being a DisneyDad taking her out. (she has been EOW and every Wed night for 6 yrs) So STRESSED at the moment with this.
On top of this I now have my DD not wanting to go on holiday with her dad, SM and a 4 & 2 yr old. I feel a hypocrite at the moment as I am trying to talk her in to going but can understand why she does not want to go. Over the last 7 years DD has never been on holiday with them, been away a few times but always with Grandma & Grandad as well and only for long weekends. She only visits for tea once a week and very rarely sleeps over due to Ex's shift pattern. Ex asked a few months ago if he could take her away in the summer hols camping and she agreed.
Last weekend DD went camping with them and came back in a mood. I do not like to pry and ask questions about what happens when she is there so she was very quite for a few days. She has now told me that she does not want to go away with them for a whole week. She found the weekend very hard and had lots of complaints to tell me:
Dad did not really interact with her.
4 & 2 yr old all over her miss behaving but she did not feel comfortable telling them off herself so had to put up with it and grown ups did not sort out. She said it was very tiring.
She felt she was just like a baby sitter to the little ones being asked all the time to do things and help.
She complained about a few things SM did but I have explained that this must be hard for her not knowing how to deal with a 12 yr old as she has never had to.
Says a whole week away with them is a long time in a tent and will be miles away from home.
She does not want to upset her dad by saying she does not want to go but she really doesn't want to go!
If I approach Ex saying she does not want to go I don't want to sound like a controlling Ex myself. Any suggestions or view greatly appreciated.
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kalpamum · 17/05/2013 14:13
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