I'm in a bit of a quandry here.
I have posted before so will keep the context brief - DSD lives here, she is currently seeing her mum every friday night but this goes through phases.
Mum does not pay any maintenance or contribute AT ALL.
DSD has recently come to me to ask me to buy mummy some pants because she doesn't have any ... and has told me that she wears the same pants home as she goes in 'even if they have poo in them'...
She also recently came home in her cousins socks (who is TWO! DSD is 8!) because mummy didn't have any and her socks got dirty.
DSD has recently also let slip that she doesn't brush teeth at mums because she doens't have a toothbrush there and they use 'grown ups' toothpaste.
My dilemma is this.
Do I a) buy her a set of pants, socks, toothbrush etc for mums? (this option makes me cross, because really, who can't afford such basic things ffs)
b) send an overnight bag
c) accept that one night per week in dirty pants probably isn't going to kill her?
We have had similar things like this before and when DH tackles mum about it she just lies and says it's not true, but I know what pants I am sending her in...
DH thinks that for the sake of the peace we should let it go...
but DSD has now asked me on more than one occasion and I don't want her to start feeling upset about having to be in dirty pants!
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Fairy130389 · 14/04/2013 10:32
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