Have been mulling this over for a few days, not knowing quite how (or where) to express it. Thought it might save time to say I am not the OW, am not trying to undermine DSS's mum or sggest that people with MH issues can't be good parents. Have posted about our difficulties before.
So - DSS's mum has MH issues. These include OCD and GAD. There are a number of difficult areas including food, clothes, travelling, numbers, certain words, personal hygiene, medical issues, body issues, 'keepsakes', photographs, 'firsts' and hoarding. (This is not an exhaustive list).
Whilst not underestimating the impact these things have on her life, and that of DSS, I should also mention that psych reports done during the court process have concluded that she is using her MH issues as a weapon against contact, which she hates. Currently she is living with her mum as the property she rents is uninhabitable due to the issues above. In the past she has gone to a support group, but we are not sure if she still does; she hasn't had any other kind of treatment (as far as we know).
DSS (10) has been much more open lately about the difficulties he faces on a day to day basis. We think this may be linked to DH's recent return to court for holiday contact (all contact is court ordered) when DSS was interviewed by Cafcass away from his mum, and was listened to. DH and I want to help him cope with the difficulties he faces. DH has suggested the broken record technique, for example. But neither of us know much about dealing with MH issues so any advice would be helpful.
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Some suggestions needed to help DSS cope with his Mum (long, sorry)
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balia · 06/04/2013 21:17
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