The CSA have finally sorted out DPs CSA assessment based on his first job after 12 months of unemployment- it's taken 4 months, during which time ex hasn't been receiving anything (despite DP suggesting they enter into a private arrangement, when he was unemployed, she insisted on sticking with the CSA so that "she gets what she is entitled to". There is an arrears to pay - which DP can negotiate to pay off in instalments or pay as a lump-sum (on my credit card which we'll pay off over a few months).
I've suggested that he ask his ex which she would prefer him to do - whether she wants the lump sum, or would prefer a bit more every month for the next few months.
Has anyone else involved their DSC mum in this decision?
Instalments will probably be better for her as well.
But can I just say (I'm sure it was you unless I'm mixing you up with another poster of I am I'm sorry.) but I have been massively impressed at how much you have changed the way you think about the ex,its really very positive ad I admire you greatly for making that effort
ivy I'm pretty sure all the facts are there - although some posters are obviously unfamiliar with the CSA maintenance procedures and therefore assumed that I owed the arrears. Hopefully, that misunderstanding has been resolved now