I love my new man and he has two georgeous children but I am freaking out a bit and wondering how to play it. He sees them three times a week and is very hands on which is what has attracted me to him in nthe first place among other qualities. I have had them round a couple of times for tea and they get on well with my dd. I guess what is freaking me out is that if the relationship goes further then I will be pretty much commited to living in this area for the next 18 years. I do like my area but there are few jobs and I do fancy a change in the future. I guess i want to have options. I also feel a bit freaked out about my role. Apparently their mum has said that they aren't allowed to call me mum and I wholeheartedly agree with her as they have a real mum. I know this seems premature as we are in the new bf/gf stage but these are all factors I have to consider. I find parenting 1 tough; will I be expected to parent 3?