Hi,
This is my first time posting on this forum. I have been seeing my man for over a year now and we are hoping to move in together next year. I have 2 children from my previous marriage who live with me most of the time apart from when they go to their dad's every other weekend and extra in the holidays. I am in court next month as my ex says he wants joint residence which I suspect is because he is jealous of my new relationship.
My man has one son who he has about half the time but on his ex's terms which means there is no real set pattern except he has him every other Saturday - the rest revolves around his ex's work pattern.
My kids are building a really good relationship with my boyfriend. My daughter (6) did say the other day that she didn't want him to come round as much but then was all over him when he did come round - I suspect it is her father's influence! I am slowly building a relationship with his son but it is taking time as I don't see him as much and often when I do I'm dealing with my own kids.
So just wondered if anyone has any advice on making us work as a stepfamily. My particular concerns are:
- I am worried about my boyfriend's son feeling left and sidelined by my children as he will be with us less. He will be moving into my house where my children are already established.
- My children often sleep in bed with me and I'm worried about them resenting my boyfriend when they can't do this any more.
- How to sell the idea to the children - there will need to be juggling of bedrooms and the boys will have to share initially until we can afford to convert the loft.
- Getting my parents to accept the situation. They have been really supportive since I split from my husband and worry about my new relationship.
Things feel really right when we are all together but I'm not naive and I know it will be hard work making it work.