Right, none of what I'm going to write will necessarily make sense but I could really do with some wise words.
Having been single for a year and about to divorce I joined a dating site about three months ago and very luckily met the most amazing guy.
Separated two years with two kids perfect I thought, have hit the jackpot!! I adore this man he is absolutely fantastic.....as always there is a fly in the ointment!
Namely the ex wife, I should have realised trouble lay ahead when she rang him on our first date (he had already told her we were going on a date!) for a "chat" about the kids day lol since then our relationship has grown from strength to strength but so it seems has her bitchiness, I met his children recently and as they were coming to his house I was quite prepared for a quick but civilised and friendly "hello, nice to meet you" with the ex errrr, no! She rang my bf and insisted he meet her outside a local supermarket?! She made it quite clear she did not want to meet me, I don't see what good can ever come of it it just makes it awkward for everyone most of all the children.
I dare say to her massive disappointment the children and I hit it off big time they are fab kids, I have three myself (11,9&3) but having never dated anyone with kids before I had no idea what to expect.
Over the past few weeks things have got increasingly frosty between them and seeing as they have been happily separated for two years I can only assume I am the problem.
Now this is what I am actually deeply upset my bf and I had a chat about Xmas his plan had been to spend Xmas eve and Xmas day with her and the children I don't exactly savour the thought of him spending the day with her but I trust him and know he has no feelings for her so I was ok with the arrangements and we planned to see each other Boxing Day last week however he asked her how she would feel if he was to leave early Xmas evening to spend a bit of time with me and my children well to say that didn't go down well would be an understatement she is on a lot of online parenting forums but not ones like this (if I explain too much it'll be inappropriate) basically from what bf has told me they all know each other on this site as they all share a childhood issue and use real names etc know each others children and so on soooo she has gone onto these sites including good old fb slagging me off to all and sundry!! It's really really upset me that she won't meet me and actually get to know me she has decided I am enemy no.1 and wishes to tarnish my name as much as she can, it's causing massive problems between bf and I and to be frank I don't know if I am willing to sign up to a lifetime of this shit, she ended the marriage by screwing his friend, repeatedly!! Oh who was also a member of his family!!
Despite her shitting on him from a great height he has remained a fantastic and devoted dad but now he wants a little bit I time and a life of his own she is going mental and making seeing a future together a little tricky. I might just be being a cow but I would like anyone's opinion on this (except hers, she is a twat 😉)
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Moosylorris · 19/11/2012 14:15
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