Regulars will know how frustrated I have been with DSS inability to think for himself - and lack if desire to become more independent.
DP has chatted to a few professionals who we've been involved with - family support worker, youth counsellor etc and they've encouraged him to develop DSS independence as much as we can while he's with us; give him tasks where he has to problem solve, think for himself, deal with the unexpected.
But, if DSS develops more independent thinking, he is likely to get into trouble with his Mum - she yells at him if he doesn't do things her way, or takes over if its taking him a bit longer to do something that she wants him to do. Her philosophy is if you need something done, do it yourself because otherwise its not done the way she wants it to be done - that extends to DSS personal care (she dresses him after swimming etc), and preparing school/handover bag etc.
Are we setting DSS up to fail if we begin to teach him skills that will help him in life but that he'll have to suppress while with his Mum?
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Are we setting DSS up to fail?
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NotaDisneyMum · 06/10/2012 10:16
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