It looks like DP and his ExP will soon be off to mediation (DP is the NRP). Relations are not great between them. The biggest disagreement is that ExP won't stick to arranged dates for contact, because she doesn't seem to see DP as important to the DSCs - she will change things at very short notice (on the day sometimes), and parties/clubs always are more important than seeing him. For example, he got told recently if he didn't bring them back early on Sunday, he couldn't have them for the whole weekend. He will never have them for Christmas. He is not important them, they don't care about him. Things like that. I could go on! (NB things with the kids are great! Phew).
Anyway, ExP has agreed to mediation. I was just wondering what other people's experience of the process was? Can you agree on solutions that work and are stuck to? How does it work? The info we have says mediators don't suggest solutions, but just help you come to them - but if two people totally disagree, what happens then? I try to stick to 'facts' rather than my opinion, but it seems like ExP has no respect for DP as the father of her children and doesn't think he's important - can mediation solve that?!
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littlelamby · 23/09/2012 18:35
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