Hi all this is my first proper post on mumsnet, bit of background I have been with DP for almost 2 years and moved in with him a few months ago. He has a 5 year old son and his ex left him when DSS was about 2. (Not married so not actually a stepmum but I hope you will forgive the terminology!)
I get on really well with his son so thats not an issue. We have his son every weekend. DP has decided its about time his DS started staying in his own bed all night as he is a real fidget and keeps us awake, this morning for example he woke me up at 6.30 - both of them are still asleep but Im a light sleeper so its probably fair to say this has the biggest effect on me but I havent said anything to DP - he has been the one to decide that DSS needs to stay in his own bed, he has been routinely getting in with DP since he was tiny.
I would have posted this in the sleep topic except that the issue is that his mum freely allows DSS to come into her bed every night. Obviously she is free to do what she wants in her own house, but in the long term DP is concerned that its not best for DSS especially now he has started school. We arent sure how to to go about setting rules and enouraging DSS to follow them where this is concerned when his mum is not doing the same 5 nights out of the week and think he might get confused. This is DPs only child and I dont have children so we just need some ideas really.
Normally if we hear him come in, just saying go back to bed works but one night he came in five times and woke us both up every time. He did go back to his own bed but then came in at 6 am. Ideally he would stay in his own bed all night then come in at say 7 am for cuddles with daddy but we arent sure how to get there. Does anyone have any advice? Do we just go ahead and set rules and never mind what his mum is doing?
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JumpingJackSprat · 09/09/2012 08:14
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