She is 12 and is here every second weekend as well as approximately half the school holidays (weeks at a time).
When she is here she literally doesn't lift a finger, and never has done. We have always done everything for her, but she is getting to the age now where I wonder if we should be asking her to take care of a few things. She has her own bedroom and bathroom - is it unreasonable to ask her to clean the sink occasionally and change her own sheets/dust surfaces?
I have discussed with DH on several occasions, and he always agrees with me, but nothing really ever gets done, or he will ask her to make her bed, and she does it once and then never does it again. I often go up to her room after she has left, and it is a bit untidy, then the next day I go in and it's been tidied up (DH has obviously done it to make it look like she has done it herself)
I can only imagine that he thinks that if he asks her to do these things that she will not want to come here, as he like that with a lot of other things.
I do understand how he must feel, but on the other hand, this is my house too, and I will ask my own DC to do these things once they are old enough, so I feel it would unfair to "let her off"?
I find it impossible trying to treat them all the same.
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Is it fair to ask DSD to do chores?
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TwoPhotographs · 03/08/2012 12:18
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