So it's slightly complicated set up. My dh is her step dad from previous relationship. But she grew up thinking he was her actual dad. He has always loved her the same. Dsd's mum told dsd the truth after she had split with my now dh. Oh confusing from the start I hear you cry! Please stick with me....
So dh and I have been together for 4 years and recently married. First time dh has been married. So I'm pretty used to step parenting as dh's son lives with us permanently. It's tricky but he knows where he stands with me.
After a mc and 2 yrs of ttc I found out I was pg with our first baby together. I have Dcs from previous marriage. soon after unrelated dh had am argument with dsd and she didn't come to see us for 6 months. She is 15. He couldn't make her as not his biological dd. When baby was born, she came over to stake her claim. I understood the insecurity and welcomed her back into fold. As I do with all dh's children. However I'm beginning to be worn down by the continual verbal battering from dsd. Shes had a go at me about the fact my baby is not in a routine several times. I'm bf as I have with all my dcs although ds has a formula feed if I'm at work. Her mum had a baby 6 months prior to me so this makes dsd the authority on bringing up children. She has opinions on my choice of highchair, my amount of washing, the fact I choose to bf and her mum didn't. I have never slated forums fed babies just defended my position on the proven stats of bf. But tbh it's getting me down..,,I do do thd my rules in my house thing. I am experienced mum of 5 and with dh's ds it makes 6 Dcs in the house full time. Her mum refuses to collect my dss putting her new sons routine first. Dsd isn't even allowed a shower after new baby has gone to bed as it will waken him. It sounds like a military operation!
Last wkd she had a massive go at me as our little ds was crying in the night. None other of our Dcs have ever moaned about this to me. I'd rather he was sleeping too but little ds is a whole floor away from her bedroom so although she may hAve heard him it's not like shes sleeping next to him.
I'm feeling quite worn down by her constant...my mum does it like this...,after 4 years!!!
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