Hi wise stepmums, DP has asked me to post to see if any of you have some ideas about how he/we should respond to tonight's fiasco here. DP was away with work, I am at home with DSS and DS.
As soon as DSS came home from school he turned his hog out, ignored everything I asked him to do, started arguments with both me and his brother.
I tried to get him to comply and/or talk about what was wrong but to no avail. Finally his activity was cancelled as the rule in our house is you have three choices: a) talk about what's up, even if just in general terms or b) get on with things with everyone or c) take a bit of time alone - the 'sulk and make everyone else pay' option is not allowed.
Before bed I asked him what was up. He told me it is hard to do what I ask because I am not his mum. I said it wasn't the issue me not being his mum, we have house rules here, which need to be followed and that he had a hand in setting. Not following the rules would end in sanction for him or DS and that's that.
Do you think DP should say anything tomorrow or leave it with what I did? Part of me wants DP to give him a lecture about trying to make it all about me - but is that just my hurt feelings/frustration talking?
DSS is still sad about his mum, to be blunt she is very disengaged and emotionally distant, this morning DSS had said to me he was sad, I know this sadness must be a big part of it. But when he gets sad about mum, he then turns his fire on me, and I don't know whether to soak it up or stand up for myself.
Any ideas welcomed. Apologies for long post!
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What should DP do in response to how DSS was this eve?
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chelen · 20/06/2012 21:30
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