DP has 2 kids from previous marriage, I've always really liked his kids and get along with them brilliantly especially his little girl.
However, recently we've encountered some problems with his ex, it's regarding money and legal matters (I won't bore you with the details) but I'm really struggling with all the stress of it, even to the point where I'm having panic attacks and just been signed off work with anxiety for 2 weeks.
So I'm pretty much blaming all my stress on his ex, I really can't stand her and wish she wasn't around.
The trouble is I've found that since I've started feeling like this I've felt more negatively towards the kids, little things have started annoying me more, characteristics which were once cute are now annoying as they remind me so much of his ex.
I'm trying to just act normal with the kids and I've not been at all horrible to them but I know I've been avoiding seeing them a lot, I'll make my own arrangements at weekends so I'm not spending much time with them.
I know a lot of how I'm feeling is down to my state of mind and depression and I'm really working to try and sort my head out. I keep reminding myself that the kids are innocent in all this but when I look at them I just see their mother and everything which is wrong in my life right now is down to their mother.
Please somebody tell me how I can disassociate these feelings for their mother from the kids as I just want to start enjoying my weekends as a family again.
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missduff · 06/05/2012 17:26
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