I've had a couple of threads in here previously, we haven't seen sd since summer last year.
We had previously had her here arou d 50% of the time. We'd had so many problems over the years with her mum, social services had her on the at risk register at one point and we have always been the constant in her life providing the stability she needs.
Her mum called out of the blue the night before we were due to pick her up for a holiday and basically accused us of physically abusing sd and said there was constant ciolence in our home.
Many weeks of social services getting involved and Ending up in the family courts ensued, we finally ended up with a court order stating that sd's mum and fAmily is not to be negative about us and that sd can have as much contact as she wants, sd mum is not to block any contact and there were very specific co-dicils about us writing to sd once a fortnight with weekly phone contact and involvement in school etc.
The court stated that they felt there was no truth in any of the allegations made against us, (I have a daughter the same age as sd who was interviewed and school reports etc were all looked at), sd has a history of telling lies and we requested counselling for her to determine what state she was in mentally.
The counselling hasn't happened, she is refusing to communicate with us at all apart from letters sent recorded delivery demanding various things such as laptop and iPod touch, in her letters she swings from threatening to send her mums husband to make us get her these things to telling us she will see us again when we get her these things. Her mum is obviously supporting her in this because the letters are all sent during school hours from her mums workplace. (you can track a recorded delivery letter to see where and when it was posted. The post office is the one next to her mums workplace)
We have also had some really nasty text messages again threatening and generally being spiteful.
We have sent Christmas cards etc but she has not bothered to even acknowledge them.
Yesterday morning we got a message from her mum demanding we pay for a passport for her because sd has told her we threw hers away and they want to go on holiday in the summer. Dp replied that we have never had a passport here which is the truth. We have never been abroad as a family, she has been to France however with her mums family last year......
Her mum has sent a barrage of messages now saying that sd is insisting we took her passport to stop her going on holiday without us ever again....
I am SO sick of the lies and the spite. We have had to defend ourselves as a family despite it being her mum and her chaotic life choices that have always been the issue. All we have ever done is support her and make sure she has as nice a life as possible and we are basically repaid by her lying about us and being a spiteful spoilt bitch.
I can't do it anymore, I know children should be given unconditional love but she has ripped our family apart and completely devastated my dp and dd with her lies.
I don't want to hear from her or see her again.
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So angry with sd that I feel I want nothing more to do with her.
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miniwedge · 01/04/2012 13:08
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