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Step-parent = absent Father?

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Scarbs · 13/03/2012 12:49

I'm new here. I've had a look at the forums and I'm slightly confused. There's very little in the 'Fathers for Justice' line. I thought that a lot of the 'step-parent situations' would arise bcause of an absent father (absent or obstructed by mother-access), yet it doesn't seem to get a mention here. I had to battle like hell to get contact with my two sons, twenty years ago, and now my son is being prevented contact with his kids by an ex with her own mysterious agenda.
Can anyone redirect me? x

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UC · 13/03/2012 13:41

Hello Scarbs, you mean you want to find other fathers who have similar issues to you?

Most of the posters on the step parents area are step mothers/fathers, posting about issues they face as step parents, not as parents who have been denied access to their children. I'm not sure why you think many of the 'step parent situations' would arise because of an absent father?? Many of the people on these threads are trying to juggle relationships between children, their parents and their step parents, all of whom are involved.

There is a section called Dadsnet in the "In the Club" topic. Not sure why it appears there. I also don't know if you'd find more there though.

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theredhen · 13/03/2012 14:03

You do get posters on this board who write about court battles and the legal system and any frustrations that so often go along with that process. Some have been through many difficulties.

However, the vast majority of postings seem to be from step parents who have an active weekly role in the lives of their step children, which in itself does cause a lot of issues and upset.

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Scarbs · 02/04/2012 17:01

UC and Redhen, thanks for replies. I read a few of the problems faced by step-parents and it seemed like they had conflicts with the step-dad. My own situation is that the step-dad involved doesn't seem to have a pair, and simply goes along with the mother involved making her own agenda of obstructing contact between my Grandson and his paternal side family.
Until she grows up, I guess it just going to be frustrating. Ta.

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AnitaBlake · 02/04/2012 19:02

I don't see that this is anything to do with the steppdad. The biodad should be doing all he can to maintain contact with his own son and using his own contact time to facilitate contact with the rest of the paternal family. Why would the stepdad be involved. All he has is what he's being told, which could well be that the dad wants nothing to do with the child. Certainly my own DHs ex got away with this to her family for quite a loong time, first telling them she didn't knoow who he was and then, that he didn't really want much to do, and finally how evil he was dragging her to court when she was doing everything she could to let him have contact.

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