Can anyone who has children and step children give me some advice please?
My DD is 6 and my SDD is 12 and I find it very difficult when she comes to us, every other weekend, to find something that we can all do together or that we can do with them separately but give both of them an enojoyable time.
My SDD is very quiet, just started big school and when she's at her own home she does nothing at all, and has no interests or hobbies, so when she comes to us and we ask her what she'd like to do we just get the reply 'don't know'.
My DD who's 6 see's the SDD as her personal playmat for the time that she's with us and although SDD goes along with this, I do find that she sometimes looks really peed off (can't blame her,) but she never complains, or says anything.
DD is very very clingy with my DH when SDD is around 'he's my daddy' type of reaction and DH just goes along with this. My DH is no use what so ever, he will not do anything with SDD just the two of them and so invevitably we end up doing nothing and it's driving me mad!
My SDD has, from what I can gather, not sitmulation from her home, and her mother from what I can gather does not do anything with her, and I feel that she needs someone to help her to discover activies and hobbies that she can enjoy and help her grow in confidence and develop.
My SDD is on the rather large size, she's a size 14 - 16 womans clothing, at just 12 years old and I think this affects her confidence and is some of the reasons why she's disinterested in anything, but I may be wrong with this thought???
What I need are some good ideas for solutions to get at 12 year old girl enthused in something, whilst I can still engage my 6 year old - oh and of course money is really tight so it can't cost the earth ....
Any suggestions please ......
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stillworkingitoutmum · 17/02/2012 16:37
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