I'm having trouble juggling being a mum and a stepmum - Me and DP don't live together yet, but spending a lot of time together with the DCs at weekends. All the boys seem fine, but my DD (8) and DP's DD2 (11) both seem to struggle a bit with sharing their parents. My DD gets quite possesive over me whenever I pay attention to the other DCs (comes and sits on my lap, demands to be carried, generally acts like a baby).
This then upsets DP's DD2. Half the weekends its only me, DP and his DCs (as mine are at their dad's) and his DD2 in particular enjoys my company and we get on really well. She's obviously finding it hard to see my DD come and demand my attention and was tearful today after I overruled her on something quite minor in favour of my DD (it was my DD's turn, I was just being fair).
How do you help them to cope with sharing a parent/step parent? I'm unsure whether I should do more with DP's DD in the weekends when I don't have my own, to compensate, or whether to pull back a bit, so there's not so much of a contrast when mine are about? And whether to indulge my DD when she's being babyish or push her to grow up a bit?
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Sharing a parent - how to help DD to cope?
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purpleroses · 29/01/2012 20:08
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