thegrumpyone
Tue 24-Jan-12 20:23:20
so basically i had so much trouble with my sd i feel relived at saying no more! every time i raised a problem i was being a cow according to him and suddenly every thing my child did was wrong. she has accused me of doing so many things slamming fingers in a door, slapping her all untrue. she told me i was a selfish bitch on her birthday because we couldn't afford to buy her a bike. she has spat on my child stolen from her and guess just wanted to say am sad my marriage is over but thank god she is over.
brdgrl
Tue 24-Jan-12 20:31:26
I'm sorry, grumpy.
I was just thinking about how often this must happen.
I hope things will be nicer for you and your DC.
thegrumpyone
Tue 24-Jan-12 20:42:11
me to, my dd says please say dsd is not coming this weekend. am pleased as a mother to say no shes not, its empowering to say(with out saying it) i love you so much and this is what a mother,a women should do for her children.
allnewtaketwo
Tue 24-Jan-12 20:45:28
Sorry to hear that grumpy. How long were you together?
Sometimes things just aren't worth the amount of heartache they cause. Particularly if your poor DD wasn't happy either 
How are you feeling?
thegrumpyone
Tue 24-Jan-12 20:56:12
we were married for 3 years and together for 5. i really love the man but my girls in the end are more important. its hard for me and him but she gets daddy all the time which was what she wanted and my girls get to relax in there own home so i guess in the end we all win.
minceorotherwise
Tue 24-Jan-12 21:02:01
Sounds like an awfully hard decision to have made, but the right one. If he wasn't going to deal with it, you did the the only thing that made a better outcome for your children
thegrumpyone
Tue 24-Jan-12 21:10:59
thank you its hard but i have been the bad guy for to long. i know i wasn't the bad guy i tried and tired. just love my mental health and my girls more. god the step parenting thing is bloobly hard
PigletUnrepentant
Tue 24-Jan-12 22:41:28
I think you made the right decision... I took a similar one due my ex MIL, I thought I would rather get divorced than keeping putting up with her abuse.
I'm not going to say that the last few years have been an easy ride, but I have no regrets whatsoever. It comes to a point that loves dies simply because you can't face your partner expecting you simply to keep putting up with all the abuse without complaints.
TooMuchInLove
Wed 25-Jan-12 16:38:09
You have done the right thing for you and your girls! they are the most important things.
your ex will now realise you were right all along and he took you for graneed but its too late.
Its quite nice to read that you are strong enough to do it! Good luck op! (toomuch starts getting ideas)
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