Just trying to sort out our finances and wills, we were considering just getting a DIY pack as our intention was to just leave everything to each other but as my DH has a son by a previous relationship I'm not sure this is the best thing to do and wondered if anyone could help.
SS is 7, we have 2 children and I'm currently pregnant. We rent our home and are mostly on benefits as my DH has serious health issues and I am his full time carer. We pay £5 a week maintenance for SS (it was a lot more when DH was working but on benefits its all we can afford and CSA agree. SS's mother works full time, owns her own house, has very wealthy parents and is in line for a massive inheritance as she is an only child and so is not hard off at all but got CSA involved because she thought she wasn't getting her fair share (we have massive problems with her despite her being the one to leave and me not appearing on the scene til much later and as my DH's illness started with meningitus we were obviously being truthful)
We have a few assets but not much, my DH was a tradesman before his illness and we have a lot of tools still which we've kept in case he is ever well enough to return to work, we also have a joint life insurance policy, in the case of either of us dying it all goes to the other.
My friend told me however that if my DH died SS's mother could claim maintenance from me for her child and that his needs (and her claim) would take precidence over our children, should my DH die our arrangement was that I would sell his tools and work things and divide the money equally between the children (including SS) but that the life insurance money would be mine to provide for our children, pay off any remaining debts etc but could SS's mother claim a chunk of that too or as it would pass directly to me and not be classed as part of his estate would that be safe?
I am not trying to do SS out of anything but his mother is very well off and we, due to my DH's illness are not at all. The money we'd recieve in event of the others death would ensure that our bio children could be well cared for, I obviously would be able to work again too once the baby was old enough too but there are a lot of things to consider and I am worried I could end up not being able to provide for my children simply because SS's mother is a grasping bitch and couldn't care less if me and mine ended up on the streets as long as she got her cut. Any advice would be greatfully recieved
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SquallyRose · 06/01/2012 10:58
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