Feeling blessed

[ma4pie]

Having read a lot of posts on this forum about the difficulties of step parenting I can't help but feel so blessed that my husband's ex is actually pretty bloody fantastic, as is my husband. I feel I should share as a thankyou to them both.

They have 2 fantastic kids and from the minute I was officially introduced I have been welcomed into the family. They had been separated for a long time and she has since married and has step kids herself. I have no kids of my own (though expecting soon) and so was in totally new territory with their two but have never been made to feel pushed out or that I was stepping on anyone's toes.

When we got married his ex took the day to help the kids and I get ready (which my work colleagues still haven't gotten over) and then stayed to have a drink with us in the evening. That was brilliant for the kids as they got to share the day with their mum too. When we decided to have a kid together we involved her and the kids in the discussion. She has been so supportive and offered lots of practical help as well as helping the kids choose gifts for their new brother or sister.

It's not always plain sailing but whenever there are problems we can all sit down, talk things through and reach compromises together. I can't imagine how much harder these last few years would have been if we didn't all (her new husband included) have such a good relationship. I do know that they (husband and ex) have had to work bloody hard to get to where they are now and I want to thank them for making the effort. If I can be half as good a mum as she is I'll be doing a good job.

[frenchisbest]

What a lovely read.. Hope the exw and husband get to see it.

[therantingBOM]

Wow! I am jealous... but also encouraged. Your children will all be so much better off for it.

[MJinSparklyStockings]

God you are so lucky - this is how it should be - all parents pulling together and not pulling the kids in half.