Sorry but Im just fuming at the minute. Just got back with dp - we dated for about 2 years, then split (i had a disasterous relationship with another guy which ended quite recently). DP has been asking me to give things another go for a while and I decided I would.
Anyway to get down to it his ex is driving me crazy. DP has a lovely teenage daughter (14) she is an average teenager, loves music, clothes, toiletries, makeup etc etc and in an effort to make her feel special this christmas (she has had a hard time with exams etc) I have gone out and spent about £100 on presents for her, £50 in cash to her to spend as she sees fit and another £50 which I have spent myself on little bits of makeup and pj's perfume etc. I have always kept in touch with his DD and actually had her to the cinema etc even when her dad and I were split so I have a very good relationship with her.
I am very careful to always be very positive about her dad and mum, told her it can be very difficult to be a parent etc etc but they must be good parents as she is so lovely!.
DP called his ex to discuss christmas generally, ie was anything else needed for DD, he told her that I had given DD cash for herself and also bought presents etc for her - Ex gets very snotty and says "yes Im aware she has given her money" and starts asking what has been bought and carrying on about "doubling up on presents" etc etc to which DP answers well it doesnt matter if she does as she can use it in my house. Ex basically says "whatever" and rang off.
I checked with DP regarding cash to his daughter - her grandparents do it also - but I wanted to be sure.
I dont know why his has annoyed me as over the years I havent retaliated at all to anything his ex has done or said to me but for her to be so obnoxious about her DD has actually bothered me a great deal. DP is anxious to smooth things over and has just said "ignore it" - basically what he has always said to avoid any animosity no matter what the ex has done. I stood up this time and said "no" I will not have my actions and good nature towards you dd disrespected - you should have challenged her about that and said "lastrose was generous enough to set aside money for dd so dont be obnoxious regarding it".
Its like the last straw. We broke up previously over his lack of a spine when it came to his ex - when I agreed to try again I made it clear to him that this had to stop (they guy I dated whilst myself and dp werent together had similar issues with his ex and a million issues of his own so Im reluctant to go back into anything that is so stressful again!).
feel horrible!!
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To be just fuming with my DP over his dd and his ex!
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lastroseofsummer · 21/12/2011 20:29
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