Hi Everyone,
I have a son who is 8 and me and his dad split and divorced 6yrs ago, until 9mnths ago i was very happy being single, so was just me and kai for all that time. I have now have my boyf in my life, which is great as he makes me happy etc .....but my son hates him and they bicker all the time.
I should point out my sons dad is very active in his life and my son adores him.
My boyf gets upset as my son does not want to do anything with him, ask him questions or genrally talk to him. Ive tried to explain to my boyf to be paitent and that my son needs time to adjust and coming from a broken home myself i understand how my son feels and he wont out of principle make a effort to get to know him etc as this is what me and my sister where like with my step dad. I have left them alone a few times when i have gone to work or ive gone shopping to try and help them bond but this does not seem to help.
I constantly feel like im piggy in the middle either trying to defend my son actions or telling him off for being rude and having a attitude with my boyf or trying to get my son to see the good side of my boyf and give him a chance or arguing with my boyf as i think sometimes he could let some things drop for example he got cross with me cos i moved up on the sofa to allow my son to sit next to me instead of making him sit inbetween me and my boyf.
I feel like my head is going to expolde some days and am dreading fights over xmas.
This is all to us all and dont really know how i should be handling it. advice please
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Kaismum1 · 21/12/2011 08:39
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