Okay, I will try to be brief. DSD is now nearly 15, in year 10. She lives with her mum, but they are having incredibly rough time at the moment, splitting up with her mum's partner and having to move (again - there have been many moves in the last 10 years). There have been many problems with her mum over the years, and she has always said that she wants to move in with us when she leaves school, to do college with us. I appreciate that a lot of this may be saying what she thinks we want to hear, but she has been saying it for 10 years now. However, due to current situation, she is now asking about coming to us earlier than planned. It would be a big move - Wales to England, 250 miles, a whole new school, friends, lifestyle. I'm genuinely concerned about DSD moving and fitting in with the local comprehensive at this so important stage in her teenage years. She's quite a confident kid, and I'm worried about bullying, general teenage shit. Probably just projecting all the difficult things that I had to go through at that age..? From a home point of view she would be very welcome - we have two younger boys who adore her. I'm under no illusions about what dealing with a teenager can be like, but I am happy to offer her the security that she hasn't got at home at the moment.
I appreciate that there is a whole different discussion around her moving away from her mother, which is not what I'm asking advice on here, as I think it's too emotive. There have been many incredibly difficult issues over many years which I don't really want to go into.
What I'm really asking advice on is whether you think she could make a good transition in the middle of her GCSEs, or whether this would be a really bad idea. Whether anyone has had similar situations, and how these have worked out. Or just any advice that you have really.
Thank you :)
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Advice please - 15yo DSD bad time to move/change schools?
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strongblackcoffee · 26/11/2011 22:31
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