People have starting making plans for Christmas and friends and distant family are inviting me round. Last year I have found myself saying I don't know because we have to wait for ex wife to decide when we are having the kids which invariably is about the week before the school holidays when she has planned her life and then ships the kids off to us accordingly.
Assuming we are still together at Christmas (for those who have read my other posts - I am getting things straight and finances organised) am I right to take my friends up on their offer and say it will just be DS and I coming. Now it doesn't make much difference if it is DS and me or DS, me and DP and I know my friends wouldn't mind if DP is a last minute extra but they can't accomodate 4 or 5 (eldest has boyfriend who has to come everywhere with us now. [hmmm]).
DP wouldn't be happy if he was left at home alone if his kids weren't with him and wouldn't understand why he wasn't allowed to come. But if he can't commit to come, because his kids MIGHT turn up, then I feel as if I my friends and I aren't priority so he should stay at home anyway.
Of course, he could agree to come and if ex wife tries to tell him he is having the kids that day, he could refuse couldn't he? Although you would think that is impossible if you talk to him!
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theredhen · 12/11/2011 18:20
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13/11/2011 01:49
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