Need some quick advice oh wise MN'ers. Have posted about my DSS before, you may remember.
DH's ex has mental health issues that have, over the 8 years we have been together, made for some huge problems in terms of contact. Recently we have made some small moves forward in terms of holiday contact, resulting in DSS being able to go away with Daddy for 5 days of half term. This is a huge step forward and in order to secure it, DH 'swapped' a weekend in November into half term - thus no 'extra' time in terms of hours, but a larger 'chunk' of time. (IYSWIM)
One of the reasons Ex agreed to this was because her older son has exams coming up and needed some peace to revise in.
Now she says that older son didn't get anything done (she's been having some problems with him, we gather) and so she wants to swap another weekend in November 'into' half term. In one way this would be great - DSS and DS could go trick or treating, and he could be part of doing up his new room.
But that would also mean an entire month without overnight contact (DH does see him during the week but as he takes him to an activity he doesn't get to spend time with him, really). DH feels this is too long - but does want to co-operate with Ex because of the recent moves forward. This is particularly important to him because due to the way the contact pattern falls, we won't be seeing DSS over the Christmas period except for one court-ordered overnight. DH is very keen that the progress in terms of holiday contact keeps going so that we actually have extra contact in the holidays.
Any thoughts?
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balia · 26/10/2011 19:15
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