Hi. I am asking on step parenting as i actually wish to get the opinions of the non resident parent and step family.
I will briefly explain our family lay out so hopefully you can give honest opinions of what i am thinking.
I have a dd, she is in primary school.
She lives with me full time and my dh and 2 other children.
Her dad lives a fare distance away with his wife and their son.
She goes there 3/4 weekly for the weekend and nearly half of the holidays.
Her dad pays £30ish a month through the CSA.
Money is quite tight for both families. (treats are planned/ saved for etc)
We share the travelling.
Dd does dance lessons (discounted) and swimming (my dm pays)
We choose for her to do these so happily cover costs etc.
However is it normal to ask for extra to cover the more routine costs?
E.g We worked out it cost £100 to kit her out for school this term.
Lots of extras conected to school e.g musical theatre club/ recorder/ class trips etc.
Her new glasses i paid £30 on top of the voucher.
Is everything like this just down to me and dh to pay for or is it the norm to ask for help with additional things connected to school?
Where do you think we should draw the line?
I do not want them to think i am taking the p*.
Also how do you go about it? Ask for money up front or i pay and send reciept?
If anyone can take the time to explain what they do and how it works i would be very gratefull.
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Bm needing some advice over money issues? What is normal to help with?
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HalloweenDuck · 09/10/2011 15:00
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