Next year, DP and I are marrying after 6 years together. DSD is 7 and stays with us for short trips? it?s an 800 mile round trip which DP makes in the other direction for the rest of the year.
Ex can be emotionally unstable and tends to the vindictive when upset. She has become better over time, though I am still a subject that she cannot cope with. We respected her wishes that I didn?t have contact with DSD until she was comfortable with it. This was the hardest and most difficult part of my relationship with my partner until I was finally allowed to meet DSD 6 months ago.
She is currently refusing to allow DSD to attend the wedding. I know my partner wants DSS there on the day. I also realise it could be intimidating and confusing for her.
Should we be pushing for her to attend? Or will we end up causing more damage than good?
We don?t want DSD to look back in the future and wonder why she wasn?t there ? nor do we want her attendance to be the stimulus for months of derogatory comments & unrestrained remarks from her mother.
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rspyac · 02/09/2011 16:58
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