Hi all
For a long time I was never really all that bothered about having children. A couple of years ago met my DP and have become stepmum to his son who is now 3 - almost 4. Having seen how fantastic DP is with his son, and hearing him talk about the best moment of his life - when his son was born etc, it made me very emotional and very much want to have children with him. We are getting married this month and have talked about trying for a baby after having been married for at least a year.
I have major sleeping problems - have not slept properly in 11 years, tried all kinds of things, resorted to sleeping pills like Zopiclone and even Tamazepam which don't seem to work. When we have DSS overnight to stay I am super hyper aware that he is in the next room, and although he sleeps better now than when he was younger, I am on the alert for him to wake up in the night so I can ensure DP wakes up and sees to him (as DSS prefers DP to go in to him which is fair enough as he is his Daddy) as DP sleeps pretty soundly. I often will not sleep the entire night and then DSS will wake around 6am or earlier and DP will have to get up and see to him and do breakfast etc and tries to let me get more sleep - but then all I can hear are them playing etc and I dont sleep and I end up feeling pretty crappy for the rest of the day.
The thought of all of this is also now making me feel like I dont think I could cope if we had our own child. I can cope to a degree with DSS as he doesn't stay overnight all that often at the moment - but as he gets older will probably stay over one night a week or have him over a whole weekend every other week. With a child of our own of course that means every night of getting up to see to them, being hyper aware of them, and my general sleeping problems on top of that, I worry that I would have some sort of melt down.
I feel silly for thinking all of this, as of course women have been dealing with sleepless nights for eons but it is really bothering me and upsetting me quite a lot. I feel like I dont want to lose out on having children with DP but also dont want to put my own sanity at risk!
Any thoughts appreciated!!
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Woozlemum · 02/09/2011 14:18
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