How do I explain???

[Squiglettsmummy2bx]

Long story but the basics are that my bf & my 8 year old DD keep going head to head. I am pregnant & I think my daughter may be acting up a little because of this but I am finding that if she is rude (& generally it is very slight rudeness) my bf leaps on it then she argues with him & he argues back. Then I am put in a situation where rather than being able to pull her up on her behaviour I am forced to defend her against his constant sniping. How do I explain to him that he is 30 & I shotmaking forced to take sides but if he is going to verbally attack my child I will throw him out & take her side over his whether he was originally right or not as I feel he is bullying her?

[nenevomito]

You need to speak to your bf away from DD and before the next row. Talk together to agree a joint approach to your dd's behaviour. You then need to talk to dd about what is and what isn't acceptable and explain what the consequences are.

You feel he's bullying her. He probably feels that you're undermining him. DD or learns a good lesson on how to cause divisions between you and your bf.

The only way you're going to be able to deal with this is to compromise. Him to back off an let you pick up on the rudeness, but YOU to agree to pick up on the rudeness.

[Squiglettsmummy2bx]

Thank you. This is exactly what I have tried to get him to let me do but he is impossible to speak to at the moment. Will try again tomorrow.