dsd's 17th birthday in 2 weeks. HELP!

[cheekylittlenamechange]

I have no idea what to buy her. her dad is useless. Most years I have bought her itunes vouchers, clothes, make up, lush products... the usual teenage girl things. This year though, she is 24 weeks pregnant silly girl and, not being amazingly affluent, we really can't afford to get her lots of lovely presents for her (as she has requested and we wish we could) and things for the baby (which she needs as has no money whatsoever).

Was thinking some baby clothes, a baby gym and some lovely clinique moisturiser and condoms because I am ohsofunny. But this seems very unoriginal, not personal and a bit blah. I know she is fed up with people constantly telling her that its not about her anymore and she must do everything for the baby. Bit tough to deal with at such a young age.

So, any ideas would be gratefully received.

[FriedEggyAndSlippery]

By all means don't spend money you do not have, but please don't get her baby stuff for HER birthday. Irrespective of her age and situation, that is quite mean (unless she's asked specifically "can I have things for baby instead of for myself" as I have sometimes)

[albania]

...a car?
She wants lots of presents for her, but not the baby? I'd just give her presents, then, it's her child and her job to buy stuff for the baby, not yours.
Ahh, how about maternity clothes? She'd need some about now, wouldn't she?
What about just a voucher to a shop that does clothes for her and stuff for the baby? Then she could use it for whatever she needs, which might well outfit the baby without you having to buy baby clothes.

[lateatwork]

will she be living independently when the baby arrives... if she will be (and isnt now...) how about something like internet access, phone contract / top ups etc useful stuff that is more of a 'luxury' but that will make her life easier when baby arrives... magazine subscription? but maybe not personal enough?

you can still do itunes, clothes, make up etc all still nice gifts even when preggars!!

[cheekylittlenamechange]

Thanks all. Yes, how did I not see that would be unfair?! I'm blind to the obvious sometimes.

albania do you not think that, as grand father and iamfartooyoungtobegrandma his so, we do, in fact, need to buy things for the baby. Especially since there is no way she can afford to buy anything. As an aside, we want to help her and support her, not seeing her often, it is hard to show her this without material reminders.

lateatwork she will, much to my dismay, be living with her mother, her dm's dp and his kids. No rules, help, dog mess in the house, cigarette and marijuana smoking in the house. Tbh, I hate buying her presents because they get stolen. Even bought her a safe one year. We already pay for her contract smart phone, thus the phone/internet bit is taken care of! Offered for her to come and stay here. She can have ds's room and he can move into the box room.

Sorry, got off track. Just very worried about the situation.

[WinterLover]

Cheeky how about a little hamper type thing of 'treats' like a face mask, the clinique stuff you was on about, intensive hair conditioner etc

Im 24 weeks pregnant too and my mum buys me treats every now and then as all our spare money is going on keeping out of the red and getting things for baby so the little treats are things I love but cant justify spending money on.

That way you dont have to spend loads but there is thought gone into the gift

[CeeMac]

I agree please please don't get her baby clothes, not for her birthday at least. How about a manicure or a facial which will make her feel special/pampered and they're not always expensive. Perhaps a massage if she isn't already feeling like her body belongs to that of the little person. Neals Yard do some lovely massage oils if a home treat would be better suited. Hope this helps!

[cheekylittlenamechange]

Ooh! I like the idea of a hamper! Wrap it all up nicely and pop it in a pretty basket. Then a pedicure since she can't reach her toes now. Or is that pointless as she can't see them?! It's only been 2 yrs since ds was born, how have I forgotten already?!

[WinterLover]

I can still do my toes.... just. A pedicure sounds nice, will make her feel lovely even if she cant properly see them

[cheekylittlenamechange]

WL, she is pretty huge now. Only 5ft 1 and is either having a sumo or has lots of fluid! Already checking out costs for manipedis and finding a basket! Thank you all, truly. I felt a bit rotten trying to justify buying her baby things on her birthday. Now, you lot have taken the decision away from me! I can look forward to her birthday again and watch her smile.