I am at the very end of my patience. We have her every saturday and every other Sunday as well as on a tuesday and a thursday (...yes that's right, HALF of the time not to mention that it's 3/4s of the weekend time)
This is great, it's fine. I'd rather she was here where she has consistent rules and boundaries and where discipline doesn't go from laughing at the bad behaviour one minute, to a slap round the face the next.
What I object to is the fact that EVERY saturday we have a list of things she needs. Now, I know a 12 year old needs a lot of stuff. I have a 4 year old and she needs a lot of stuff too. But her mother doesnt work, we both work. We have a mega busy working week. Why can't school shoes/ tights/ make up (yes, make up), shampoo/ ingredients for cooking class etc etc be bought during one of the many many hours her mother is sat about on her arse??! WHy must our weekends revolve around going in to town (where I work and don't desire to venture every weekend as well as week day) trapsing about spending money we don't have on these things?!
We pay 15% of my DPs salary to her mother (no allowance for the fact we have DSD half of the time) AND we have to buy everything DSD needs because her mum chooses to work 16 hours a week in a minimum wage job.
I am sick to death of the whole thing. She tells DSD that her dad is tight and only pays her the bare minimum which is obviously untrue. She also tells DSD the reason they are poor is because she has to look after her and therefore can't work... even though DSD goes in to town after school on the days she is with her mum and hangs around with her friends until about 6pm.
I took to DSD immediately and love her very much but it seems that with every second I resent her more and more, and it's not even her fault she's done nothing wrong...
The woman is a lazy good for nothing vile piece of bile and I just don't know what to do.
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Absolutely sick to death of DSD's vile mother
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