Do i need to give ex our address?

[poppet2010]

Hi there
I hope you can advise on our situation - i'll keep it short.
My husband was married, had two kids and left 10 years ago. He has paid maitenance for the two boys since he left and see's only one of them every week as she has managed to convince the youngest one his dad is no good for him. on the other hand, my husband has an amazing relationship with the other child who comes over every week and sometimes stays with us.
the ex wife has remarried and has a further two children. She makes our lives a living nightmare. I no longer go to my old hometown which is where she lives for the fear of bumping into her, I believe she could possibly hurt me. She has told lies to the CSA about us and tells th children their dad don't love them, the eldest can be really emotional and sometimes hates going home. Although our names are not next to the statements, she has posted on her facebook , seeing your ex with their new partner and seeing he has down graded, I hate you, i will kill you and the list goes on.
I want to live a normal life away from this behaviour and we have decided to move.
Please can you tell me if we leagally have to give her our new address? i would love not to give her our address as it would make me feel confident i could walk out of my own home and not have her snooping around. We have already repoted her husband for being abusive on our door step.

any advice is very much welcomed

[SMulledwineS]

You don't need to, that's what the court told us. I can understand the threats we've had them to and my DP was put in hospital by his exW's DH. We have now given them our address but it's a case of we don't go to their house and they don't come to our house!!

[poppet2010]

Hi and thank you for your reply

do you know if she takes us to court for whatever reason or if we have to take her back to court to again obtain access can the courts force us to give our address as we have access to the kids

i'm just fed up of hiding from her and want to live a normal persona life

[SMulledwineS]

If you've had the police involved there will be a record and you will have grounds to withold your address. Do you have him overnight?? We were told exW was allowed to withold overnight contact if we didnt want to give her our address.

[poppet2010]

very rare that we have him over night, she pushes for it on one hand then takes away on the other- very odd behaviour

[SMulledwineS]

'controlling' behaviour?? I would personally hold the address till you are told (by authority) that you need to give it to her.

[poppet2010]

We have had cafcass involved with the courts - do you think we would need to make them aware? we don't have defined contact orders.

[SMulledwineS]

Maybe once you've moved, but to be fair until you have actually moved no1 needs to know it may be worth a chat with your solicitor as I'm oy going from my experience :)

[poppet2010]

thank you for your help xx

[SMulledwineS]

No problem, good luck I hope everything works out :)