Does your dh/oh know you post on here?

[harassedinherpants]

Or is this your secret and safe place to let rip and receive support??

My dh doesn't know, but I know he wouldn't mind. He knows things aren't particularly easy for either of us at the moment, but we seem to be getting things sorted.

[WildistheWind]

Interesting question !

I didn't tell DH in the beginning for the reasons you mention ( safe haven etc).

Earlier this year when we were going through a very rough patch with his ExW I did tell him about it and how much it helped me keep sort of sanity/perspective.

He inquires about it sometimes but doesn't get involved too much!

[jonesy71]

No no no, DH knows nothing about it, it's my secret weapon when I don't know how to deal withhimandthestepchildren a situation.

[Petal02]

Good Lord, no !!!! This forum is my secret sanity check.

[cobbledtogether]

DH knows I'm on line, but has got it into his head that I'm on Netmums so my secret is safe.

He gets so hideously defensive if I ever suggest I'm not happy with something to do with DSD, its probably best. I've found it comforting to know its not just me!

[JeMeSouviens]

Unfortunately, and also my posting name. He is the type who doesn't think it's rude to read over my shoulder.

He also looks through my facebook, my emails etc... So that when I mention, oh, so and so is pregnant, he already knows. Doesn't give us much to chat about, except what is happening at work, and the plonkers he is lumbered with [boring emoticon]

[Sushiqueen]

He knows I come on here. Not sure if he realises I post much. But then nothing I put on here about the ExW and the DSS's would be news to him.

He knows exactly what I think about the whole situation (not good at holding my tongue when it comes to them)and totally understands. Helps he feels the same way most of the time :)

[foolio]

No way!! I'd be in deep sh*t if he ever found out. As far as he's concerned, our situation is merely "awkward" but everything is going "fine".

This is the only place I ever really vent, and it's also the only place I go to for advice.

[bonnymiffy]

I think he knows but if he found out my nickname I would need to change it!

[EMS23]

he knows I come on Mumsnet but I don't think he knows I post. He'd have a shit fit if he knew I spilled any details about us at all as he lives in constant fear of his ex and would worry she'd see something or know I was on here!

[SMummyS]

He knows I go on a mums forum and that I get advice and offer support on it..

Not sure what he'd say if he read some of my posts even though he'd agree with what Id put..

[Suda]

MJ and Petal and others on the s/parenting forum have helped me sooo much. my DH knows I go on something ( Babyheave - Netmums ) but is very respectful of privacy so really doesnt try and look at what I'm saying - I think he probably is relieved that am letting off steam elsewhere so letting him off the hook a bit !!

I once left my laptop on the bed and went to loo and DH cme in and went in bedroom - I had completely forgotten and it was quite vitrolic about his DS - I had to do a sort of 'Saving Private Ryan' - 'No...oooooo and slow motion lunge at my laptop and get rid of it. He wasnt even reading it though and was sat right in front. But anyway most things - even the bad things I have said to him in rows etc so he knows how I feel.

[Petal02]

My husband knows how I feel, although I'm not sure how he'd feel if he saw it displayed on a website, even though it's all completely anonymous. Some things are best kept private.

I must add that I'm so pleased I found this forum. I used to think I was the only person in the world who found step-parenting difficult.

[glasscompletelybroken]

Me too - during the first year of sm-hood I contacted the Health Visitor at our local surgery to ask if there was a local support group for Step-Mums. She seemd genuinely astonished to be asked and asked me if I was having problems, as though that was unheard of.

I thought, oh well it's just me then - I'd better shut up and get on with it!

Now I know, from this forum, that actually I'm quite normal!

What a relief!

[WingDad]

My wife knows I post on here, so really isn't arsed though, she's a total technophobe haha!

[SMummyS]

GCB I thought I had a shite time of it and I was the only one till I found mn and found that although yes I was having a shit time there are other sm's who are having it worse than me. It's certainly helped my outlook on things

[Suda]

Yes GLASS we are 'normal' cos I just asked one of the wardens nurses and she said ' course you are dear '

[Suda]

Ahh thank you - consider yourself worthwhile then MJ - you've certainly helped me - its not just the advice and camaraderie its the ability to laugh about it or at yourself that helps aswell. Sometimes I come on here wanting to tear my hair out and go off crying laughing.

[glasscompletelybroken]

yes completely normal in every way that's us - it's the rest of them wots mad...