Am feeling a bit guilty and confused.
Background - married with 2 SS - one is 19 and is fine - has a job, his own place, the other is 16.
SS2 has always had issues - firestarting, consitent lying, stealing from a reasonably young age.
When he was 13/14 he was not getting on with his mum and StepDad. He asked to live with my DH and I
Whilst this was a big change for us (we are used to being on our own and although we had SS's to stay holidays and every weekend living together is different) - we agreed as he was so unhappy.
He moved in with us - we sorted a new school furnished bedroom etc. His mother did not even phone him for 8 months.
We started haveing issues after about 3 months and went to family counselling and then got referred to a youth mental health team as the relate councillor said his issues were too deep roooted for her to deal with.
His behaviour got worse - some of the 'highlights' were -
Stealing my underwear and wanking into it
Stealing money from a charity account we ran for a local group
Internet viewing of underage sex sites and other sites that were illegal (police had to approve computer for cleaning otherwise DH could have been arrested as he was adult male in house with access to computer)
Stealing so many things we had to put locks on our bedroom door and advise visitors not to leave bags anywhere
Police advised me that I was likely target of violence (based on relationship with mother, councelling, and sexual behaviour
Telling so many lies about everything we could not trust a word he said.
I could go on but you het the idea - our lives were hell.
As a family we agreed he should go to boarding school - he choose the school after long and frank discussions with the head master and child psychologists on staff.
He has now finished his GCSE's at boarding school and wanted to go back and live with his mother to do A levels. She agreed and he has been there since June.
However, all does not seem well from posts on Facebook and texts to my DH.
I am terrified that he will ask to move back with us or she will throw him out. Neither DH or I want him to live with us. He is so destructive.
I know some people will say 'he is only a child' - but his behaviour goes beyond the bounds of anything you would usually expect to deal with.
Would you take him back - honestly?
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Dreading SS asking to live with us..again
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WkdSM · 07/09/2010 17:33
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07/09/2010 23:27
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