some days like today I feel Ive had enough of shit, this has been our life for the past few months, believe me it was bad before this but the ex has truly stooped to new lows recnetly, if i could get her prosecuted I would
Background: Ex has always said, if she had got a new partner, the new man would be a new daddy for DSS.
Ex has had a new man for getting on for a year.
DSS is extremly close to DH, I have very good relationship with DSS and DSS and his little brother are very close too.
DSS is a happy,sociable, confident child who achievs well at school.
So let me begin...
about three months back DH gets s knock on the door, opens it to find 2 police there. They ask to come in they want to speak to DH and myself. Its late evening, DH wakes me up. The poilcie tell DH they have recieved an a Domestic Violence call for the house and they have come to check on my welfare. I'm like what the hell are you talking about, have you got the wrong house, I tell them to leave, annoyed at being disturbed from my sleep.
They leave, I was very upset, me and DH cuddled, I was just gobsmacked by the intervention.
A few days later DH goes to pick up DSS from school as per normal. He gets there to find out his ex had picked him up about 2pm. DH tried to ring the ex, no reply. He contacts the police fearing for DSS's welfare (the ex is a fruit loop) We hear nothing for a day or so then the police conact DH to say they have found them, they are well but the ex does not want to speak to DH or say were she or DSS are. We had been sick with worry, then totally confused. WE had not at first put the 2 events together.
Then the next school day DH contacts the school. DSS is there, the head tells DH he cannot see DSS as social services are involved. Tehy told him allegations had been made that he had committed domestic violence to me in front of the children (we have a DS togther also)
In the next 3 months, we went through the agony of drip by drip allegations coming out, the gist of it being I had been beaten up in front of the kids for years, that DH tried to beat the kids too but I stopped him and took the beating myself and on occassion that DH had attempted to punch DSS in the head and there was more.
So into our life come the police and social services. For nearly a month and 1/2 DH was threatened with being arrested and prosected by the police. The police drop the case no further investigation, poor DSS had to be video interviweed by police
Social serices carry on with their insistence DH does not see DSS.
We go to court. It is revealed by ex solicitor that it was the ex who phoned the police!!
Another court hearing, sends social services to our house, to check on our son (by that time DH had been living with our son and for over 6 weeks whilst at at the same time not able to see his other son DSS) I was terrified, if these social workers found DS to be at risk from DH, DH would have to have left our house. If I had let DH see DS, they would have started care proceedings on our DS.
So social workers come round and see DS separately with me and DH. An agonising wait ensues for the report to come back. The report comes back, it is absolutely glowing report for DH, DS and I. No concerns, no further action, case closed.
Another court date looms. We have now seen the social services report for DSS and a statement from the ex a work of fiction from beginning to end.
We also have a very good report from DSS school, happy, high attendance, achieves well above average.
You seriously could not make the shit up.
The ex has turned our lives into hell for her own selfish reasons. God knows what state DSS is in, his mothers statment is full of examples of disturbed beaviour, beahviour we have never seen. DSS last time we saw or talked to him was the happy, confident, funny deleight he had always been. Im am really worried for DSS.
As for me, I have been of sick with stress for over 2 months and am now on an anti anxiety drug to help me through.
Before this I have said I would council anyone to think long and hard before getting involved with someone with kids. Id shout that from the rooftops now after living a tortuous hell since the ex spilled her poison.
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genders adn titles have been randomly been changed to anonymise the above as much as possible.