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Shhh - share your leeeeetle white lies during pregnancy with PG tips Decaf and you could win £250 NOW CLOSED(173 Posts)
You may know know the advice is to cut down on caffeine during pregnancy.
Inspired by threads like this the team at PG tips Decaff want you to share your best little white lies told in early pregnancy. Maybe the ones about why you're not drinking or why your usual has changed that you told your friends or work colleagues in those precious few weeks between P-ingOAS and getting a positive and feeling confident enough to be able to announce the pregnancy. Or you may have a top tip on explaining why you're not on the strong(er) stuff all of a sudden.
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I usually avoided going out where people would be drinking in the early weeks of pg (not hard if you were feeling grotty anyway), but if it was unavoidable my excuse was always dental infection and antibiotics - the ones that make you vom if combined with alcohol.
For some reason everyone always sympathises with that one. Anything else and it's gwan, gwan, gwan, gwan, just the one <channeling Mrs Doyle>
I had to make excuses for my martial arts class for weeks.
They were very high impact and I'd been kicked in the stomach once before.
I kept saying I had a cold/ wasn't 100%/ had sprained my ankle. I had a stroppy call from the teacher who was annoyed I was missing classes as I'd miss my next belt test. I think he knew something was up so I confessed.
For one, my early days coincided with Christmas and all the food bingeing. I just said that I had been too greedy over the festive period and was rueing it as I was really expanding. People had already seen me packing it away at the office Christmas party.
To avoid drinking I would say I was already hungover (and generally looked it due to "morning" sickness) or was abstaining as I had been drinking too much!
I simply offered to drive places so nobody thought it unusual that I wasn't drinking.
I did used to lie to DH about being too exhausted to do things I just couldn't be bothered with. And I lied to work about intending to come back after maternity leave
My excuse for not drinking til I was showing too much to avoid telling the truth was that they had changed the epilepsy medication I was on so couldnt drink on my new tablets.
I didn't go horse riding for the first 12 weeks as at risk of miscarriage. Tbh I didn't go horse riding at all while pregnant, but in the first trimester before I told my friend I told many excuses. I had a sore back, heavy cold, a hangover, meeting friend in town etc etc. When I told her at around 12 weeks she said she had guessed
I also played on the tiredness/sickness a little with family!
With DS1 I was a terrible liar & when asked by a friend if we were thinking about starting a family soon I just muttered something about not planning to wait much longer while staring at my shoes! Same friend had driven DH to pick me up from a course when I'd passed out around the time of implantation though so I suspect he already had an idea. He went from questioning me every few weeks to not mentioning it again until we announced & then gave me a knowing smile!
DS2 was a different matter. I was terribly ill so had 'flu' for a very long time but was also organising DS1's 1st birthday. That was a fun day to get through with all our nearest & dearest expecting us to make speeches & be hospitable while I could barely eat/drink/stand up! Thankfully DH, DM & DMIL did a good job of entertaining everyone so I don't think anyone noticed. DSIL said she did after we announced but she's always got 'feelings' about things that she keeps to herself & only reveals after they've happened!
I do remember Dad offering me some wine when I was 5 weeks pg the night before DBro's wedding. I just said I didn't fancy any. I'm not a big drinker anyway so it wasn't unusual for me! It turned out to be a good thing in the end because my cousin needed picking up unexpectedly! That did involve me driving in the dark/rain along fast, unfamiliar roads. I was terrified I was going to crash & lose the baby but I was absolutely not going to announce my pregnancy on the eve of my brothers wedding!
I didn't need to make anything up about drinking caffeine though. I used to drink nothing but tea & coke & gave them both up while attempting to recover from depression. Now I have 1 cup of caffeinated tea a day & drink decaf or fennel tea the rest of the time. No one batted an eyelid at me wanting decaf anything!
I got pregnant in early january so passed everything off (healthy eating, no caffeine, alcohol) as a New Years Resolution!
Well in my old job, I didn't have the luxury and fun of having 'The Big Secret' as it was policy to tell straight away as soon as you knew, due to the dangers of being involved in fights or the possibility of being taken hostage etc...so everyone on staff knew almost as soon as I did
Can I still play please?
Have to say that I only drink decaff tea, but haven't yet tried PGTips. I generally use either Tetley or supermarket own brand.
In the beginning I was blaming everything on a dodgy meal/food poisoning, until my mum convinced me to POAS.
I never really needed to lie to anyone about being pregnant to cover it up, but I did have a few very awkward conversions about families where I guess I lied by omission.
I had to pretend to get pissed (on soda water with ice and a slice) at a staff do (our company so had to go). All fine, no problems but try singing along to Abba, full volume, arms around everyone while SOBER. I tell you, quite put me off pregnancy.
usually say am dieting too many calories in booze so will just have a diet coke
I'd had 3 mcs before I was pg with ds, so hadn't been drinking alcohol or caffeine for 2 years. DH and I didn't tell anyone at all till I was 12 weeks pg, and more generally till 20.
But the urge to throw up on everyone was strong, and I had to sit very still in my office first thing in the morning, so I found emails every morning that 'really needed some thought'
At 7 weeks I was bed bound with sickness and told my boss I had a tummy bug. A week later I was hospitalised with hyperemisis, so I had to fess up. Second time around u tried seeing acupuncturist when the sickness began. I took some annual leave, but told my colleagues I was using some spa vouchers I'd got. Not sure they quite believed that I went three times in a week!
I was hiding my second pregnancy quite well I thought, until I heard my toddler loudly mimicking my morning sickness at playgroup. Hard to explain that one so I came clean.
Offer to drive. If it is your second pregnancy, say you have to be up early with he little one and can't fancy being groggy.
Or a health drive.
I was so poorly with a really bad cold at the beginning of pregnancy that not drinking was fair enough given how rubbish I was looking. I was supposed to go to a big meeting several hundred miles away, so had to confess to my boss - but a general illness was how I explained it to colleagues.
More obvious was the lack of caffeine I was consuming - but decaf is now my usual drink (as sleep is so precious I don't want to disrupt what little I get) so I won't need to pretend again!
I told everyone I was suffering with migraines and had been advised to cut down on caffeine. For some reason, no-one questions migraine!
Truthfully, I didn't have to do anything...I didn't find out I was pregnant until very late in my pregnancy! I had already gone on a health kick for around a year, then found out I was 6 months pregnant!! (yes I know, so many will be saying HOW? HOW?...but I am being serious)
So when I find out I just told everyone hahaha
I just said I had a tummy bug and was a) drinking water to stay hydrated & b) avoiding alcohol as it was making my tummy worse.
I had a horrible manager when pg with DC2 and wanted to leave it to the last possible moment to tell her I was expecting so had an awful lot of 'appointments' to check up on unrelated surgery I'd had the year before as cover for midwife checks.
Oh gosh I found out just before we went to a wedding so I carried one drink around with me for hours!
I also discovered my pregnancy in January so was able to pass avoiding off avoiding caffeine and alcohol as a detox. Now I drink decaff tea all the time so I wouldn't have to lie *next time (ahem!)
I was always on Antibiotics for a throat infection which just made me go totally off junk food too... or had gone out the night before so couldn't face anymore alcohol. Depends who I was telling the fib to.
I did a lot of the driving, so no excuse needed.
Also, one time I turned up at a party with cranberry juice and said I was drinking it for a reason. So, most people assumed cystitis. I felt that I hadn't completely lied, just been a bit misleading!
i said I had thrush so as not to use jacuzzi or steam room in leisure centre. I am tea total and decaffeinated tea at that so needed no excuse for the drinking.
I didn't have to lie at all, I felt awful but nobody seemed to notice!
I would say that I was on a detox diet, which always fools the men, but there are very few women who wouldn't suspect something was a miss as it is practically unheard of for me to go without booze! I once found out I was pregnant, 2 weeks after starting a new job and tried not to say anything whilst feeling like death and dreadfully dreadfully sick. My new colleagues were really worried about me and I should have 'fessed up sooner.
I used to buy myself a glass of lemonade and tell people it was vodka and lemonade. I'd ask the barman for ice and a slice to make it look realistic.
I was sick all the time and told everyone that I had suddenly become very sensitive to my workplace. Considering that I worked in a pathology lab and was surrounded by body parts, they seemed to swallow it. So to speak.
I said I had a UTI. It explained the frequent loo trips, drinking lots, possible antibiotics, zero alcohol, dizziness, lack of appetite, & discouraged further questions!
I had "food poisoning" to explain my lack of appetite.
Then ended up on "antibiotics for a minor skin infection" to explain my lack of drinking.
Then DS "started waking in the night" to explain my tiredness.
Pregnancy is very obvious with me so I generally become a hermit in the early stages.
In fact once we had announced our first pg friends admitted that they had started to become really concerned for my health.
I felt terrible to have worried people so just soldiered through and explained less when I became pg with DD.
Just watching my weight It wasn't really an issue to be honest.
My friends wouldn't notice any change in drinking habits, I drink decaf and no alcohol plus they aren't the type to push drink upon you so it's not a big thing saying no
I told everyone I was on antibiotics so couldn't drink. Completely forgetting that I was talking to a nurse who began demanding to know what antibiotics and insisting that I could have at least one. I went bright red and everyone knew
I said that it was disturbing my sleep patterns.
It's pretty sad that people feel we have to make up a reason and justify to other people why we don't drink/smoke/drink caffeine. No?
It's a deviation from ones normal routine Jptb. If I am seen walking into work from the opposite direction to normal, having coffee instead of tea, wearing a new coat, or buying the TV Times instead of the Radio Times, then I might be asked to comment on that.
My top tip for the workplace is to have just one confidant who can run interference for you if necessary, and in extreme circumstance get a round in at the pub and return from the bar saying loudly "and here's your G&T Tiara!" As he hands you a lemonade. IME nobody in the history of the world has ever believed any woman between the age of 14 and 60 who claimed to be not drinking because she's on antibiotics for a dental abcess.
If there was drinking going on, I made sure I was driving. And for foods that you're advised to avoid, I was trying a new way of eating which ruled out x, y or z. I never had morning sickness thankfully, that must be so hard to mask.
Then isn't an 'I don't want to.' enough? I don't feel any need to justify anything to anyone. <killjoy>
can't think of a white lie off the top of my head I get the odd assumption about drinking and being pregnant despite not being pregnant because I prefer not to drink. never understand why noone believes that I just don't want to drink but reading this it now makes sense!
I found out I was pregnant six weeks before my wedding day. So I couldn't indulge in all the lovely wine we'd spent ages choosing for the meal. I managed a sip of Pimms when we arrived at the venue, but after that I don't think anyone really noticed I wasn't drinking wine, as they were too busy knocking it back themselves!
I was quite rubbish about this as was showing from 5 weeks. As that was pretty much straight after Christmas, everyone figured it out at work. And I had to eat constantly to avoid nausea, which probably made me 'show' even more! Second time around I wasn't at work any way, and family guessed the instant I started having decaff, but I had massive exhaustion early on that time so didn't really leave the house for quite a while. We'd just moved house and didn't know anyone so it was quite easy to hide.
"I'm on a health kick" - that's the easiest excuse!
Dry January/drank too much in December. Caffeine makes me wee all the time, can't taste the difference with decaf.
I had awful morning sickness from about 7 weeks with both of my two daughters so I had "fess up" pretty early on. My friend made up a story about an extreme detox diet which went on for weeks!
In my first pregnancy I first told work I had food poisoning but I was still in work so they all guessed in the first week of sickness.
I tried to avoid people and lunches with people that didnt know yet... Nearly everyone guessed by 8 weeks
one colleague overheard me saying about going tothedoctors and asked if it was because of all of the throwing up i was doing, so i kinda went umm yeahhhh he said its just a virus and it will clear up soon
I found out I was pregnant at the end of January, many years ago now, so I said it was a new years resolution not to drink and I became very popular offering lifts on nights out.
I also stopped drinking coffee again I said I was on a health kick.
Due to morning sickness I started drinking orange juice, ginger drinks and bitter lemon drinks to try and reduce the sickness. It must have looked a bit strange to suddenly start drinking these at work but nobody queried it!
I dont really drink any way so that one was not a problem I took decaff ttea bags into work so no one knew. The difficult one was chocolate when im pregnant I feel sick when I eat chocolate and everyone knows how much I love it so I just said I was on a diet.
Someone at work signed me up for a very silly, physical team challenge in my early stages of pregnancy. It involved bending and lifting at speed, against other teams, all in the name of charity.
I had to pretend to have a meeting and book the fake meeting into my online calendar, which is visible to everyone. Then of course I ran into one of the team mates right before the event, so ended up mumbling excuses about forgetting which meeting room I was supposed to be in, while striding away quickly. I looked like a right idiot.
I tended to avoid going out or would have to drive because had to do something the next day when it came to drinking alcohol. At work I would use the being healthier excuse for not drinking so much tea/ coffee.
I drink PG Tips decaf tea when pregnant. For my first pregnancy I snuck a box into the office and replenished the caffeinated tea tin with decaf bags! . No-one noticed the difference and it meant I could accept a cup of tea without arousing suspicion!
Now I am a SAHM I don't have to worry about work but I only have decaf tea in the house and serve it to everyone. I don't bother telling them it's decaf (including my husband who unwittingly drinks it in the morning) as no-one seems to taste the difference!
I had 3 weeks of "really bad flu". I think most people had worked it out by the time I had told them what my flu actually was, or at least they did when I told them. :D
I just told everyone I was carrying a few extra pounds.
My mum gave me a right ribbing to 'get that weight off'.
I wish I'd thought of something better
Drinking - I told people I'd had a sudden change of heart and disagreed with drinking alcohol as it went against my (non-existant) beliefs. This was after spending the whole year before (I'm an undergrad at uni and was living the full student life!) getting hammered, dancing on tables, doing karaoke and other studenty activities.
I found out I was pregnant two weeks before Freshers' Week. It must say something for my acting skills (I'm on a drama degree) that my friends actually believed me!
Ttc in January so said I was doing the Dryathlon!
Have also used the 'Im on antibiotics' excuse.
Is tricky though, am sure I've been rumbled!!
I had hyperemesis every time I was pregnant so no hiding the fact I was up the duff! I might have laid it on a wee bit thick about how tired I was ;)
Ooh Totes, you're bloody lucky you didn't work in my office. I'd have murdered you if you replaced the work teabags with decaff and I suddenly came down with withdrawal migraines.
I used to pick a slightly unusual flavour juice or soft drink and just say it was my absolute fave and so that's what I'm drinking now.
I don't drink tea or coffee so haven't ever had to worry about the decaff thing when pregnant - and when it's come to alcohol excuses, I've either 'had' a dental problem and the strong antibiotics that really make you ill if you drink alcohol, or been the driver or just been too tired to drink much (I had ME when I was younger and drinking half a glass of wine had the same effect as knocking back a couple of sleeping tablets, if I'm run down it can still make me get really tired really quickly, and most good friends were already used to me going out some nights and not drinking 'just because' I didn't want to fall asleep while I was out!
I did go to a wedding with dh before I'd told anyone that I was pg - so both dh and I had a glass of soft drink with our meal as well as a glass of wine and the toast for the champagne. I'd occasionally take a sip of my alcohol and play around with the glass - but dh would be drinking from both my glass and his glass so they went down and nobody noticed, meanwhile I was drinking more of his soft drink.
Didn't need to tell too many fibs beforehand, although my aunt was in hospital and I lived much closer than my mum, who therefore expected me to go and visit her much more than I actually did (mostly because I kept falling asleep very heavily in the afternoons). I just had to lie about being ill, and then apologise lots afterwards.
The only thing I actively lied about was finding out what sex the dc were going to be - we found out both times but just said that they couldn't tell as the legs were crossed. Not least it was because everyone expected me to have girls as everybody else in the family has lots of girls and no boys - I have boys and couldn't cope with with all the big deal they were making about having girls so it was much easier to say I didn't know and let them get the surprise when they didn't have any time to mull
and bore me obsessively over it. At least once the dc were born they were distracted with the baby itself.
I used the not drinking as I'm doing a detox month excuse! But as I had terrible morning sickness and was a constant shade of green I don't think everyone was fooled
My husbands company organised a fancy evening out as a treat for the managers and their partners at a gorgeous hotel, I was 9 weeks pregnant. It was a 7 course meal, but they surprised us with a whole wine sampling experience too, in a panic I blurted out the first thing that I could think of - I'm allergic to grapes!
I'm not sure anyone bought that lie though, the sommelier looked at me as though I'd come from another planet.
I used: the antibiotics one, driving, having a hangover to big to ever want to drink again, being on a diet, and drinking virgin cocktails and just hoping no one noticed, they all worked but the hard thing was to keep thinking of something new... made me realise how often I hang around with drinkers - too many excuses were needed!
With my first pregnancy, I had planned on having a dry/detox january and had told all my friends that I was going to do it back in December. So, mid Jan when I found out I was pregnant it was easy to carry on drinking green teas and avoiding alcohol without any suspicion. When I carried on into Feb I just told people that I was feeling so good on it that I was going to see if I could make it to Easter. Nobody was suspicious. With my 2nd pregnancy, people were guessing at 7 weeks as I kept being sick and was already showing. None of my lies worked that time.
I don't drink, don't smoke, never have caffeine. So didn't need to lie. Also vegan, so didn't need to avoid all those dodgy foodstuffs either. I was invited to a wedding abroad though when I would have been eight months, so had to decline on financial grounds, though this was easily accepted, as an overseas wedding is expensive.
I'm not a big drinker anyway, but there was a celebration at work over moving to new premises when I was about 8 weeks. They were serving pink champagne but had some lemonade available too.
By chance I had a bottle of summer fruits squash on my desk, so I stealthily nabbed a clean wine glass, filled the bottom with squash and then topped up with the lemonade. Looked just like I was drinking the champage, so no-one questioned me at all.
I pretended I was on a course of antibiotics at the big annual industry awards event where I won an award... It was so difficult to turn down the pleas of 'just a glass of champers won't hurt'...
I got very absent-minded during my pregnancy. I forgot to go and teach a class that I had been teaching every Monday afternoon for the previous 3 years. I had to call the participants the next day (when I eventually remembered!) and tell them I had had transportation problems. Fortunately this was before mobile phones were everywhere, so it seemed plausible. I then confessed and apologised again once the 12 weeks were past.
Switching tea bags in the staff room kitchen has got to be the best
My early days of pregnancy were in December, so numerous meetings up the pub, and the Office party and meal. Everyone knew I liked to drink and was fairly scathing of "detoxes", so my story was that my partner had jokingly bet me that I would not be able to be teetotal throughout December. I, as a contrary being had taken on the bet and stood togain £50 if I saw it through. In reality I wouldn't have done such a thing for three times that, but everyone was convinced - I even asked people to witness my teetotalness in the event of a dispute. I eventually told people the truth when I was 20 weeks which meant that after December at any drinks opportunity 'd have to get the round in and pretend there was vodka in my orange juice! Caffeine wasn't a problem as drunk water at work and an occasional decaff coffee orRedbush tea. It was tricky fibbing like that - especially as one fib led to another - after the xmas hol it was "so, did you win your bet?" and I then had to relate an entire an fictional conversation, my partner's good natured but disappointed handing over of the money and my sense of victory...........
If you get a wine glass and fill it with Diet Coke, and put a shot of blackcurrant cordial in, it looks like red wine. Tastes a bit sickly - but I like really sweet drinks.
Also it's quite hilarious to make a massive one then down it in one when people are looking
(Caffeine free Diet Coke, obviously)
I was so sick I couldn't hide it. Even thinking about tea or coffee made me retch so there was no option of switching to decaff! Everyone knew pretty much as soon as I did so I didn't bother lying - just said I felt too I'll for tea/coffee/alcohol and didn't elaborate but it was perfectly clear what my reason was!
Mine was actually the other way. I pretended my morning sickness was a hangover.
I was giving a huge presentation to a foreign client when pregnant. I hadn't told anyone yet as we have a poor pregnancy history. As I was explaining a new process to a room full of stakeholders I suddenly felt really ill, I took a sip of water and continued but without warning I threw up all over the central table. There was vomit everywhere. I couldn't stop. Nobody knew what to do!
My boss was on the speaker phone asking what was happening and I was desperately looking around for tissues. I simply said "Je suis desolee, ive a trop bu!" (I am really sorry but I have drunk too much) I didn't want to tell anyone about the pregnancy yet so let them all think I was hungover.
Eventually they found out and were all very understanding.
I am only newly pregnant and desperately trying to think of an excuse for not going on a cocktail binge in London in a few weeks, so these are all really handy!
But yesterday I faked a sprained shoulder, to avoid helping to carry a table in the office, and on Friday dh is going to buy me fake drinks (tonic disguised as gin) to cover it up. Only 7 weeks until we can tell everyone!
I came up with a fairly good plan for my work xmas do, which occurred when I was about 10 weeks pg.
Went down to the bar it was being held at the day before and had a long chat with the bar staff.
On the day, every time I ordered a G&T (my normal tipple of choice) or anyone got one more me, they made up a lovely looking 'ice and a slice' with soda water
By the time we moved onto the restaurant for dinner, I was able to plead 'too many g&ts' at the bar, and stick to water for the remainder of the evening
With DS, I went through the office Christmas party, Christmas itself and a cosy night in, just me and my BFF and several bottles of wine, all without anyone twigging. It's amazing how little drunk people notice once they're merry… never really had to use an excuse!
The not-drinking-loads-of-tea in the office was harder to hide than not drinking booze. I switched to red bush – really, really strong – and that hid the caffeine-cutdown nicely
Oh, I did have a pregnant-lady-shandy with this pregnancy early doors – had a pub lunch with my mate and toddler DS in tow, so ordered a lemonade with a beer top at the bar while she watched DS at our table. Then pointed out that as I was at home with DS that day, I wouldn't have more than a pint as I wouldn't be able to cope with his
destructive exuberant behaviour if I had any more…
I told people I was on a new diet that meant I had to eat every hour to boost my metabolism. In reality I ate crackers to stop me from feeling so sick!
I found out just before a big work night out - we were staying in a hotel too so no chance of me offering to be the driver to disguise me not drinking!
I told everyone at work that I was feeling a migraine coming on (I was known to like a tipple on a works night out so they would realise very easily if I wasn't drinking). This would give me a reason not to drink but also a reason to sneak off to bed early!
As my luck would have it, I was really enjoying myself, thinking I had got away with my little fib and could actually try and stay awake later than usual and enjoy the night. I ended up running to the loo, throwing up along the way due to morning sickness that was lasting all day and night! I slipped away and went to bed and everyone felt really sorry for me assuming that it was my migraine. I was gutted to have missed out on what was fast becoming a great night!
I made sure I bought my own drinks instead of doing rounds, claiming I was a bit strapped for cash at the moment. Easy to get a tonic water or a coke and claim it's a G&T or a vodka something.
I drank cold chamomile tea in a wine glass when we held a party for my son's christening and no-one could tell I wasn't drinking white wine. It had the added advantage of being soothing on a nauseated tummy! I just had to make sure no-one picked up my glass by mistake!
Told everyone my due date was 2 weeks later to get a bit of peace & quiet :-)
With DD it was much harder to hide not drinking tea from the pot than with alcohol. I claimed I was on a detox diet and only drank hot water with lemon at work for weeks. I then had decaf tea and coffee at home.
I only went out "drinking" once in the first 12 weeks of that pregnancy because I felt so dreadful, and I just never said I wasn't drinking. I had an orange juice, everyone assumed there was vodka in it, and that was that. I knew if I made a big deal of not drinking, everyone would suspect!
With this pregnancy I was (and am) still breastfeeding DD, so I never had to lie properly about not drinking booze - I just said I couldn't as I would be feeding DD later that evening. And I was working from home, so no one noticed my tea-drinking habits!
I had always 'lost the Des coin toss' with DP so I was always driving!
Told friends when I saw them as they knew we were trying
Told work for the same reasons as PP re prison duties
I always has decaf anyway so no need there. In fact it's only now that DD is a bit older & I'm back to work that I have caffeine!
Usually drink Yorkshire tea
I told XH that it would be dangerous for me to do any lifting or stretching, which meant that I was unable to use the hoover through the whole pregnancy .
My patents and in laws were visiting the weekend we found out and we weren't ready to tell, so I drank lots of gin and lemonades, but without the gin. When we announced the pregnancy mum made a comment about how much id been drinking!!
My friend stopped running ans told everyone she "was carrying an injury". Oh how we love to remind her of that little faux pas.
I think if you are normally a social drinker and are in a long term relationship/just married then people have an expectation that you will be procreating soon. This means they are always ready for the antibiotics, really hungover etc lines.
My tip is to order a drink but not drink it, nobody notices if you just take an occasional sip. I just used to pour mine away or when it was my round order a tonic.
as I was suffering from hyperemesis during early pregnancy I used a bucket to throw up into at work... they all thought I had a bug I was mortified though, as I didn't want them to think they'd catch anything...
a good tip for the bar hoppers is just to drink tonic water with ice and a slice; it still tastes 'drink-y' yet is alcohol free. Never had to hide my secret though as 2 young dc means nights at the pub as rare as hen's teeth
My office had a mouse infestation so I kept my tea in a Tupperware box in my pedistal (without box), hence no one knew I'd switched to decaf. Most colleagues are quit snooty abt their tea and coffee and don't use the stuff in the giant boxes in the tea room anyway - I just said my stuff tasted better, and I wasn't going to touch the free stuff provided in case it's been contaminated with mouse urine.
At drinks and nights out with friends, I just passed mocktails off as cocktails. Jamie's Italian does a really nice mohijto with mint, sugar and ginger beer that looks (and almost tastes) like the real thing!
"I'm going to write this assessment at home tomorrow"
(I'm going to have a massive lie in and then write a very basic assessment in an hour, in bed, so I can go back to sleep)
I found a somewhat over cautious website that said that pg women should avoid strong magnetic fields. I told DH that that included hand held electric mixers and the Dyson. And he had to change the cat litter of course.
Oh yes I did the driving thing too!
Also once or twice when out in pubs I deliberately ordered soft drinks that looked like stronger stuff, or pretended I was on something-and-coke when actually it was just the coke... though it doesn't work so well if someone else wants to buy for you!
I used to try to get the first round in so that I could get a tonic and claim it was gin and tonic.
We did go to a wedding where DH and I kept subtly swapping glasses during the meal. We were on a table with a load of old uni friends and everyone (except me, obviously) got pretty drunk. DH was far worse than anyone else. He was basically drinking enough for two very drunk people. He was sick before we went to bed and felt so rough the next day that I had to do the whole 4-hour drive home. We were the first of that group of friends to have kids. After we'd confessed about that night, one of the others started watching other couples' glasses at dinners and correctly predicted that our friends were pregnant before they announced it, because she spotted a glass swap!
Otherwise, at work I said I was cutting back my caffeine. On other days, I drank decaff at home or when nobody else was about and 'saved' my caffeine for when I was having a cuppa with friends.
And there I was thinking that everyone said "I'm on antibiotics". Couldn't have been more wrong, eh!!
I found it really hard at work making excuses to get out of drinking tea! We were a big tea drinking office and it got harder and harder to make excuses. On my roundi could just say I fancied squash and near lunch I used to say no I was popping out and then not go for an hour, that brought me 2 hours! When I eventually spilled the beans the guys said they had guessed because of the lack of tea
I found out I was pregnant in early December, just before Xmas party season. Our office is quite tight knit and we've all worked together for years so Xmas party tends to be the time to let your hair down. Being the youngest in our office it usually falls to me to lead revellers in much merriment. Knowing that I would face questions if I wasn't my normal self a few days before I faked a sore throat and told everyone I was on antibiotics so couldn't drink, or eat the shellfish starter, or have my steak medium, or have any blue cheese with crackers at the end... I think I was rumbled by about 7:31 that evening.
I found out the night of my long looked forward to works Christmas do at a castle. Free booze, posh meal etc.
I thankfully had a horrible cold and had already decided to drive but I literally sat at the table with this expression all night as I was so shocked.
I told everyone I was so ill that I had to go home at 9pm and they all thought I was pissed off about something.
Nobody guessed I was pg tho - I guess I do angry face when I'm shocked!
I went to someone's very special celebration at about 6m of with dc1. I nursed one glass of champagne throughout the afternoon, all the toasts, speeches, etc. Many well-meaning busy-bodies, constantly seeing me with a glass of wine and obviously not realising that it was always the same glass of wine, kept going on at me - did I really think I ought to be drinking while pregnant? Eventually I got fed up of telling them, especially as some seemed to forget or disbelieve me, so I changed tack. I told them that pregnancy was the best time to drink alcohol, as I now had two livers! That shut them up.
I had to lie on DH's behalf. When I told him I was pregnant he was completely as although we were trying and it was planned, we'd expected it to take longer. He's an insomniac by nature and while I went to bed and slept soundly, he lay awake the entire night worrying about everything baby related. The next day he fell asleep while we were at friends' and I had to let everyone think he'd drunk too much. Felt really bad about that and was relieved when I could later put them straight, as everyone else was pretty sober so it must've looked bad! So telling everyone went like 'GuesswhatI'mpregnant- now, remember that party? Well DH wasn't drunk...'
I cut down to one cup of tea a day. I only used to have 2 anyway so nobody really noticed! I did lie about not drinking alcohol due to being on medication though.
tummy bug.trying to go healthy with no drink and more fruit and veg.
always be the one to volunteer to drive
I found out on the morning of a massive party we had organised, had to do some quick thinking!
I got a small bottle of vodka and emptied it in to the punch bowl, then filled it up with water and put it in a cupboard that I knew no one would go in.
When party time rolled round I kept pouring myself plenty of generous 'vodka' and cokes!
It didn't work anyway as when I announced a few weeks later everyone said they had guessed at the party. Bit gutted I went to all that trouble and it fooled no one!
My DH and I both like red wine so he had a few merry nights out where we 'shared' a bottle of wine which involved him drinking the best part of the bottle.
I decided to cut out caffeine when we started TTC but didn't want to give the game away at work so swapped all the 'real' teabags in the office for decaff ones without telling any of my colleagues. I felt bad at first but nobody seemed to notice! (Although there were a few more yawns in the afternoon!). Unfortunately when I became pregnant I went off tea completely which was a bit of a giveaway! I've still not admitted my deception (although I have changed them back again now!)
One birthday I had arranged a pub visit - kept sending OH to the bar to buy 'G&T's (or just tonics with no gin). Every time someone offered to buy me a drink I'd ask for a soft one, saying I was pacing myself. As the birthday before I'd fallen off a table (!) and then blacked out everyone thought I was just being sensible... until OH said to a friend 'isn't she glowing?'. Luckily no-one else overheard, but that friend did suss it out!
The metronidazole antibiotic for a tooth infection is a good one- to avoid alcohol- but only works once or people just think you have terrible teeth! I used to get a tall glass of lemonade or soda and pretend it was gin and tonic if asked
For the change to decaf tea I just switched tea bags and no-one noticed the difference!
It was quite handy having PG tips decaf, because if I offered to make the tea, I could generally whip it out and slip it into my cup where it then looked the same as the regular tea bags! The rest of the time, I told people I was having a super detox and had put myself on a strict health regime of no alcohol, no caffeine, blah-de-blah. People actually believed me and I even convinced myself!
I changed to decaf tea when ttc and in my second trimester if I had a cup of caffinated tea when out it would make me sick. I have never looked back since and feel alot better for it. I do often buy the pg tips decaf tea. I think its one of the better decaf brands. Yet when I drank caffinated teas I always chose tetleys or twining s before pg
i dont think anyone paid much attention tbh. some of you must work with v nosy people
i uninventively claimed to have a dodgy tummy once. amusingly half the office apparently had the same bug
My first one, i just pretended to drink, both coffee and wine, no one at work would have believed me if i said i wasn't drinking for health reasons or antibiotics was may years ago in the banking industry and long boozy lunches were very much the done thing. I don;t think anyone guessed, with number two i didn't even bother trying to lie just told everyone i was pregnant when i found out.
I told my friends i was on antibiotics at a wedding. They didn't believe me one iota but politely changed the subject. Apart from one who kept asking really loudly 'you're not pregnant are you jims?'
I told everyone I had a throat infection and was on antibiotics. That explained the not drinking or smoking fags, but I'm not sure they believed that a throat infection could go on so long.....
I just tried to make sure I was the nominated driver, or said I'd had a heavy night the night before, or was feeling off-colour. Or just made sure I or my husband went to the bar so no-one would no that the rum and coke was just coke, etc. AFter 3 months I allowed myself the odd drink anyway.
I looked knackered from being up with the older child in the night, , not morning sickness oh no.
I did tell my friends that I was 'on the wagon' and trying to be healthier with DS, and I have decaf anyway but usually Twinings (never tried PG yet)
Husband has used my pregnancy as an excuse not to drink when he doesn't want to - has told people at works do where there was pressure to drink that he was off it in sympathy with me. A complete lie as he has happily had a drink when he feels like it (read - with friends rather than with work!).
In the early stages all I wanted to do was eat. I was amazed nobody guessed at work, especially as I had been on extremely strict pre-wedding diet, returned from honeymoon & ate everything in sight!!!! Kept telling them all, "just relaxing diet until Christmas as worked so hard up until wedding" I was 12 weeks by the December so could come clean! They had all been fooled ;-)
I used the excuse of having to be up early the next morning for works do, everyone was really sympathetic and I felt guilty for lying.
one person told me i looked awful and did i have anaemia..which was true i did, so i used anaemia as an excuse for being too tired to go out and do anything!
and also i said id realised caffeine made me jittery so thats why i was cutting down.
I'm a midwife so often have women asking how to they hide it or keep Schtum, I always say the antibiotics line but know from experience that's getting old!
Myself, with each pregnancy I've made up the 'I'm on call' excuse when I've had nights out. It works a darn treat
I tried to cut caffeine right down during pregnancy, I said I'd been having migraines and the doctor had told me that caffeine can trigger them. I switched to caffeine free coke and caffeine free tea. I'm pretty sure some of the women at work knew what was going on, especially as I kept offering to drive for the works Xmas do so that I had an excuse not to drink. Combined the few 'dodgy takeaways' that led to me throwing up in the staff toilets, it was probably pretty obvious but they all played along. Doubt the men at work picked up on it though.
When using my own decaf bags at work instead of the communal ones I said I felt I had been particularly sensitive to caffeine recently and it had made me a bit hyperactive then crash afterwards. My lovely colleague's response was "Good thinking, you can be a bit scatty" - thanks!
My MIL seemed to be watching me like a hawk expecting some news (SIL was already pregnant). She commented after we went to watch the Jubilee pageant that she had "noticed I hadn't had a drink <wink, nudge>". I told her I was doing My Fitness Pal, did she know how many calories were in a glass of wine, and if it came to a choice I'd rather have chocolate!
To avoid alcohol I quietly manipulated things so that I was nearly always the driver - and when I didn't manage that, claimed to be hungover/on the wagon after a recent heavy night. Everyone thought I was a complete lush .
I don't drink alcohol but don't think I cut down on caffeine in my first pregnancy - in fact when I was at work I'd eat a toblerone and Pepsi daily from the vending machine!
We didn't tell anyone until 12 weeks, though a couple of people guessed due to my apparently strange eating habits. But I couldn't lie to them so had to say I was.
I had friends who were big gossips come and stay when I was just 5 weeks pregnant. I kept schloer (spelling?) In the fridge along with the wine and made sure I was the one nipping back to the kitchen to refill glasses.
Had to start telling everyone pretty soon after that though as I had such bad hyperemesis I was hospitalised.
I cut down on caffeine soon as I knew I was expecting - difficult to hide as I was known as a real coffee lover and would have one cup after another most of the day.
Tried disguising it as being on a health kick - but I'm not that good at lying...so it soon came out.
At family parties just before we told people about ds2, I would swap wine glasses with Dp. So he'd end up with a fairly full one and I'd get a more or less empty one that he had drunk at speed.
Luckily his family are so vague and got pissed fairly quickly they didn't notice us switching glasses/emptying into plants etc.
Like many others I offered to drive a lot, as it was over Christmas time. I also had bad flu in the early days of my second pregnancy so blamed that for a while regarding my taste changes..I couldn't bear coffee for a while.
I actually switched to PG Tips Decaff throughout my pregnancy as it was the only one I found that still tasted like a proper cup of tea!
Because the shape of the tea bag is the same as regular, I just kept them in my drawer at work and whipped out a single tea bag when someone was doing the rounds and people were none the wiser!
I wasn't very good at thinking on my feet. I remember going on a business trip to France with my boss when I was in the early stages of pregnancy. He knew all too well my fondness for red wine, stinky cheese and suchlike, so the moment I refused both he looked me in the eye and said "you're pregnant, aren't you?" My flaming red cheeks gave me away immediately, but he was a lovely chap, and a recent father himself, so I wasn't too fussed about him knowing so early.
Apart from that, I used the old "antibiotics" excuse, or said I was getting over a headache earlier in the day.
I always drink decaf now , I switched when expecting my first and have never gone back! I also think that pg tips decaf is hands down the nicest! As far as white lies I once told friends I was drinking alcoholic ginger beer, it was just normal and used the idea I might have a terrible hangover to cover up my morning sickness during an overnight visit in very early pregnancy. I also convinced myself I couldn't possibly be pregnant in early pregnancy so I could relax, enjoy my honeymoon and the delicious food, drink and hot springs that I wouldn't be able to do, when I knew really I had to be!
I used the health kick white lie - giving up booze, caffeine etc. But of course I gained lots of weight rather than lost it!
I said I'd damaged a ligament in me knee so couldn't join in with my regular running group. I used the same injury as my work excuse for my first antenatal appointment, saying I was having physio (a few work people are in my same running group).
My colleagues I were outside
chatting surveying a footbridge we had in progress when a car drove past through a puddle and splashed me all up my expensive suit
The car had to almost drive back past us due to the road layout, so I ran towards it and was about to leap over the armco barrier which separated us then thought better of it due to my 'condition'
Instead I just gesticulated madly to the driver in the manner of a raving lunatic much to the amusement (and bemusement) of my colleagues
They joked about how maybe my recent switch to decaff wasn't perhaps such a good idea... a couple of weeks later all became clear to them
I managed to convince myself of the white lies I told.
I cut caffeine out during our IVF which few people knew about. My white lie was that I was getting heart palpitations and not sleeping due to exams; which was partly true but I bigged it up at the time. I then continued the whole "being healthy / not had caffeine over 2 months during exams, why switch back" line.
When pregnant, I said to my netball team that I'd pulled my back. I got so many well wishes and texts asking when I was coming back, felt quite guilty!
I found out I was pregnant on the day of my work Christmas do! I told my friend at work straight away as I needed her to do the 'little white lying' for me! Luckily I usually drink spirits with a mixer anyway, so nursed a couple of cokes all night whilst my friend was making sure everyone heard her say, "Another rum and coke?" as she went to the bar!
Since going back to work after Christmas I've been using the old detox after Christmas excuse. Only issue is, my tummy is much bigger due to the pregnancy bloat so people are probably either guessing and not saying, or think I'm getting the detox very, very wrong!
I was so so tired in the first weeks of pg, I told everyone at work I was reading a really good book so I could be on my own at lunch break and rest my eyes. As a beauty therapist it was all too tempting with a massage table in my "office".
I had loads of weddings/hen dos in the first 3 months of my pregnancy where people would have asked why I wasn't drinking. I just said that I had given up alcohol for lent. Failing that I used to decant sparkling grape juice into a white wine bottle and pour my drink from that! Ingenious I thought..
Cutting out caffeinated tea has to be down to a diet really. I thought maybe inventing some ailment to try to get rid of would be best. Like headaches (no, too serious, might worry people) or a tummy problem (no, too near to seeming pregnant, someone will guess)...skin sensitivity! Yes, that's it. It actually worked for the first pregnancy but then I got asked about the skin irritations throughout the pregnancy so often made the mistake of telling people 'it's justvsomething women in my family get when pregnant'. Which meant it wasn't much use as a little white lie for the next pregnancy.
Anyone else wondering if Johnny Vegas or Monkeh will be the proud father?
I just drank alcohol free beer and made the bartender put it in a pint glass or lemonade and pretended it had vodka in. All worked really well until my friends oh(who is a gp) spent an entire evening insisting that I must be pregnant because I looked so rough. I was very close to cock punching him.
I took along a bottle of white wine with me to Book Club, it was a screw top, and I had replaced the contents with alcohol-free wine. I knew I was safe because the others all drink red wine! I totally pulled it off!
I found out the day before I went to a festival. Spent the whole weekend telling people that I'd just had a drink with the last person I was with and hoping that none of them talked to each other.
I always drank tea and coffee very weak with lots of milk so didn't have to change that. I wasn't a great one for drinking either so drinking orange juice wasn't remarked on. However, around the seven week mark I was absolutely starving and eating far more than I usually did - but always had a reason like "been out in the fresh air all day", missed lunch etc.
I don't drink so never had an issue with that - I always find it strange that people have to justify why they aren't drinking alcohol.
My eczema has flared up very bad on my face - I have found myself making up a few reasons for it (stopping bfing my youngest, the weather, allergic reaction) although I do know that it is down to pregnancy. I was also caught out recently when someone asked me if we would be having any more children and I said that we were happy with what we had. Although that's true, I did feel slightly guilty afterwards for lying.
I live in a village where everyone goes to the coffee shop or pub to meet - mums, always coffee shop in the day. The cafe owner knew I was pregnant within a week because I asked her to give me decaff tea and coffee when we all ordered, without mentioning to anyone. She is a star and did precisely that - no fibs necessary! And at the pub, I just made sure to get the first round in and ordered a tonic without the gin, and then refused a second drink. Nobody clicked - sad indictment of how little I drink these days, though!
My top tip is to get the staff of your local pub or cafe on side, if you're a regular, and they will ensure your beverages are baby-friendly from the off without any drama!
I told everyone my allergies were really bad and the doctor had advised me to cut out wheat (beer) and wine. This was fine until there was bread on the table, which I would wolf down and then remember that I was off wheat.
I said I could have a gin and tonic, but would carry a spare tonic can in my bag. When we were alone, my husband would down the gin and we'd surreptitiously empty plain tonic into the glass. Always a challenge to cover the lovely can opening sound (which is remarkably loud! )
I used to say I was on antibiotics !
I told my DH that doing the washing up made me feel nauseous (it did once, and to be fair I had morning sickness for the whole nine months). He did ALL the washing up for the whole pregnancy - and we didn't have a dishwasher then either!
I'm not really a drinker, so that wasn't a problem.
However the smell of coffee and tea made me heaveheave in the first trimester, so that was a bit tricky. I used to say "no thanks, ivey just had one". Not sure I was always believed, but couldn't think of a better excuse.
It was lent and I often give up things for Lent, so no one batted an eyelid! Perfect timing :0
I drank copious amounts of decaf tea and always made sure I bought the work coffee and that it was decaffeinated (we had a container for ground coffee that was topped up so no one knew). My poor colleagues were, unbeknownst to them, drinking decaf 'proper' coffee for two months. I still feel The Guilt.
When out I was strategic and made sure DH or I bought my drinks that were gin and tonic... without the gin!
I managed to keep my pregnancy secret until I was 12 weeks, not easy when I was a midwife and certain things made me feel quite ill. I used the low blood sugars excuse a few times for my constant eating and tiredness, strangely it was still a surprise when I confessed
Not sure if this counts, but I was so tired and nauseous I pretty much became a hermit anyway. And we told family and friends because (I reasoned) I would need / want them to know if I miscarried.
I was a mature student at the time - well, 28! - and skipped out on pub drinking saying I couldn't handle it because I was so old. The 21 year olds accepted this solemn faced and nodding
First time tried the 'no champagne, want to remember my wedding' but soon came clean to anyone who saw me as I had hyperemesis. Except my boss no one at work knew until 6 months as I lost so much weight there was no bump (and when I was off with hyperemesis they just thought I was ill as had been off recently with women's stuff. No one dared ask as they're all men).
Here's how I did it.
Tiredness- late night or think I'm going down with something.
Morning sickness- food poisoning, tummy bug
Not drinking alcohol- driving, detox, diet, on medication or one of the above excuses.
Caffeine- only drank tea, substituted some for fruit tea explained by a health kick.
Anything else not conducive to pregnancy- have prior engagement, working, visiting family, one of other children has activity/ play date etc.
My lovely husband poured a glass of "champagne" for me when seeing in the new year with friends but had hidden fizzy apple juice in the fridge so it looked like I was joining in with the toasts and no one suspected at all! It was such a fun secret at that point. I didn't miss the champagne either. ..that much!!
I cant drink anything with too much caffeine in as I don't tolerate it well, I get terrible palpitations. so only decaf coffee for me and I stay away from red bull and high caffeine drinks. my close friends knew I was pregnant from day one so going out and avoiding alcoholic drinks was a doddle I just lied to everyone else and passed off the odd coke and orange as to having vodka in it...
I am having to ensure that OH pours/orders my drink in the company of friends.
I also had to tell work that i came down with a bout of Norovirus following being sick in a bin at work.
I did give up caffeine, when asked why I just replied I was suffering bad heads with drinking too much caffeine.
On going out drinking, I used to buy myself a lemonade and pretended it had vodka in or I would say I was having one soft drink for every alcoholic one, as did not want to waste my weekend with a hangover.
They all worked!
i didn't tell anyone i was pregnant till after my midway scan (other than a couple of very close friends) - when it gets to that stage you not only have to lie about changed habits but start dressing in big baggy jumpers and coping with sideways looks at how much weight you've put on.
i think everyone thought it was a weird health kick that saw me giving up alcohol and smoking yet piling on weight. i blamed it all on giving up smoking.
I roped in a friend to help me tackle drinking, she would loudly ask if I wanted another vodka and coke and get the rounds in.
Weirdly this time round ( I am 5 weeks pregnant) I have to accept a caffeinated tea at my mums and SIL's as they both drink decaf, but keep caffeinated tea in for guests!! I'm not quite ready to tell them yet and they'd guess in an instant if I asked for a decaf!
Rootypig that is funny!
I started 24 hours in advance sending texts claiming to have a bug, and that I'd have to cancel, then I was "feeling better, so would come along for a little bit, but think best if I don't drink".
I'm a big coffee drinker and so I still allowed myself one or two cups a day, but would keep the cup on my desk with the coffee dregs in it, if someone came to my desk, I'd often put my hands round the cup like it was hot, if I was offered a brew, smile and say I was just finishing this one. I don't think anyone noticed I went from drinking around 8-10 cups of coffee a day to drinking 1 that way, but I'm a nightmare now, anyone suddenly choosing the decaf option makes me suspicious!
The old faithful white lie of being on antibiotics lol x,
Hello - thanks for sharing your tips!
Am pleased to say Pinter has been selected as the winner of the £250 voucher for the store of her choice - well done!
I blamed decorating the new house on why I was completely exhausted all the time. Up all night plastering might have been read ass getting plastered... but no one saw me as I was asleep by 7pm.
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