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Let’s talk conception and lube! Share your experiences and thoughts with Balance Activ and you could win a Cambridge Satchel full of Balance Activ products (worth £250) NOW CLOSED

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AnnMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 02-Dec-13 10:41:07

Balance Activ want to hear Mumsnetters' thoughts and experiences about using lube when TTCing.

Here's what Balance Activ have to say, "We conducted a survey of 2,000 women across the UK and we discovered....

~ 46% of women trying to conceive experience pain during or after intercourse due to vaginal dryness
~ Normal off-the-shelf lubricants are spermicidal yet 25% of those trying to conceive are using lubricants that are as toxic to sperm as contraceptive jellies"

Balance Activ are promoting their new sperm-friendly lubricant developed specifically for couples trying to conceive - giving a boost to sperm motility, helping create the right environment for sperm to survive as well as providing lubrication which is sometimes needed.

They say "The vagina can be a harsh environment for sperm to survive because its pH level is 4.5, in contrast to semen which is between 7-8. Balance Activ Conceive Fertility Gel and Spray has a pH level of 7, creating the ideal environment for sperm to survive. Both products also benefit from a key ingredient – Hyaluronic Acid (HA) which is naturally present in the vagina and cervical fluid, which allows the sperm to move more easily towards the egg. It is safe, natural, odourless and non-sticky, designed to help couples trying to conceive."

They'd love to hear your thoughts, opinions and experiences of using a lubricant during conception and how it can help. As well as any experiences of using regular lubes when TTCing. Where do you get advice on this topic from? And have you heard or read about any issues with jellies or lube when TTCing?

Every MNer who adds a comment to this thread will be entered into the prize draw to win a Cambridge satchel full of Balance Activ product (worth £250)!

They also have 30 free samples of Balance Activ Fertility Spray to give away. Winners will be chosen at random from all comments placed before 16/12/13.

Thanks MNHQ

WaitingForPeterWimsey Mon 02-Dec-13 15:59:57

We try to use nothing (sorry Balance Activ) in the hope that this makes a bfp more likely.

FluffyDucky Mon 02-Dec-13 16:04:16

We use lube alot, for pleasure and also medical reasons. I had a look into conception friendly stuff and was so shocked at how much it cost! It definitely put me off buying it, I decided instead to try to use less of our Durex stuff and how for the best lol!
If it were affordable we would buy it, but anything over £5 max, it would have to be bloody amazingwink

butterfly86 Mon 02-Dec-13 16:46:11

We used it and I fell pregnant that first month, it's not thick or sticky it feels very much like normal cm I would definately recommend it for anyone ttc it was £12 but was the only one on a whole shelf of lubricants in boots. that was sperm friendly.

akachan Mon 02-Dec-13 16:48:03

We use lube quite a bit and I didn't even know it was spermacidal until quite recently. I would buy a conception friendly one certainly.

I am a little surprised that a vagina is a harsh environment for sperm though - seems a strange adaptation!

BrittleStick Mon 02-Dec-13 17:09:06

I've been using Balance Activ on and off while TTC on Clomid. I don't normally use lube, but I think Clomid's drying me up... No luck with conception yet, though.

My only comment about the product is that the spray bottle is a bit weird and I find it a bit fiddly and awkward in the heat of the moment. A simple tube or something would be much nicer.

CheeseAndFriedMushrooms Mon 02-Dec-13 17:13:06

We've used KY jelly and a Durex one when not trying to conceive, and Pre-seed lube when we were trying to conceive. Pre-seed worked everytime.

allchatnicknamesgone Mon 02-Dec-13 17:14:52

This is my first month of trying the gel (not the spray). It's ok if you want it inside, but I prefer a lube that I can use on both of us. I didn't understand the spray and the thought of spray my bits sounding a bit wrong - like I had a disease. Weird that this product got though market research.

Also, way too much money and the website does not give enough info if you want to read up on it (especially the spray)

Obviously, I will take this all back if I get my bfp!

ChicaMomma Mon 02-Dec-13 17:16:39

We used Conceive Plus and got pregnant first attempt. I'm not sure if it helped, but i really think it did! Would definitely use something similar next time around.

quackojuliet Mon 02-Dec-13 17:43:16

didn't use anything as fell preg soon after starting to ttc, but would use if we were having issues and dryness became an issue.

mssleepyhead Mon 02-Dec-13 18:00:45

There certainly is a lot of pressure when ttc and although this is only my second month of trying I've certainly wondered whether lube would help with those not-feeling-it-have-to-feel-it moments! The reason I haven't bought any yet is because I don't want dtd when I'm TTC to feel medicalised or forced, and I think for us using lube would. Somehow I need it to feel more sexy and less like a treatment to keep the sperm alive.

I would try this if we were getting a bfp after some time of trying. The spray bit would put me off too, I don't like the idea of spraying anything on my bits!

makedoandmend1 Mon 02-Dec-13 18:41:48

I found out about many lubricants being spermicidal when I was TTC #1. We tried using a Kiwi product - PreSeed - which I really liked. Other online friends recommended egg whites, but I didn't really feel comfortable putting food inside my vagina.
The cost was a limiting factor in how often we used the sperm-friendly lubricant, as well as the sachets it came in (so messy!). When we TTC again, I will be looking for a product with applicators or something less messy than tear-open sachets.

Fairylea Mon 02-Dec-13 18:59:14

Does it really boost sperm mobility?! That's a huge claim to make and one that I hope will be medically tested and approved as otherwise it will give a lot of false hope to a lot of people.

Dh and I both have fertility issues. We were on the waiting list for ivf when a year later we found ourselves naturally pregnant on the same day as the ivf appointment letter dropped through. Amazingly it just eventually happened. No special tricks, no lube. And the specialists and tests had all said we would never conceive naturally.

Ds is now 18 months and currently trying to eat the Christmas tree.

petalsandstars Mon 02-Dec-13 19:07:33

If you're on a regular schedule to maximise the chance of catching the window around ovulation it can feel a bit mechanical so using lubricant can add something different to the normal feel. But if they're mostly helping prevent bfp then maybe that was a poor idea

Steffanoid Mon 02-Dec-13 19:25:23

we dont really have much experience, my BFP came the first month of TTC hadnt really considered about lube that was sperm friendly it is something we will need to consider in the future as I dont think we'll be that lucky againwink

LittleTownOfBOOTHSlehem Mon 02-Dec-13 19:34:07

I've used pre-seed before Balance Activ was available (I think). After a long history of infertility and using traditional 'unfriendly' lubes I switched to 'sperm friendly' and I really think it helped. It did the job, it is certainly not inferior to any other lubes, pleasant to use and I would recommend.
I used it as a regularly lube afterDC1 and got caught with DC2, no fertility treatment! The lube may well have helped wink

Quodlibet Mon 02-Dec-13 19:51:05

I got pregnant the second month of using Conceive Plus, after 8 or 9 months of unsuccessful TTC, and again the second month following a MC, so personally I'd recommend sperm-friendly lube. My theory is that DP's sperm needed a drink and a snack for sustenance on the long journey.
I'd say that the applicators that allow you to squirt the lube inside your vagina are better (in my opinion) than the pump dispenser. If you are using expensive lube you want it to get right to the place it's most needed! I don't like the sound of spraying my bits either.

FrillyMilly Mon 02-Dec-13 19:52:39

I had no idea that most lubes where spermicidal. It didn't even enter my head as something to check. We just used normal lube when TTC and didn't seem to hinder too much.

unadulterateddad Mon 02-Dec-13 20:37:33

Just used baby oil, seemed to work......

KnitActually Mon 02-Dec-13 20:38:33

omg! I had no idea that it was spermicidal. That said, we use fairly minimal lube when not using a condom. So it probably wasn't a big issue for us when we were TTC

No experience of using lube, fell pregnant with both DCs in the first two months of trying, very fortunate I appreciate but really, vagina is a harsh environment for sperm? Doesn't make much evolutionary sense

blizy Mon 02-Dec-13 21:16:42

I have no experience in young lube whilst ttc, although my husband and I are discussing the use of something. We have been ttc for almost 3 years now and we find I'm needing a little helping hand with moistness now. I knew of pre-seed but hadn't heard of balance activ.

Managed to conceive both times using durex lube, took 5 months both times for bfp - seems to be how long it takes for my hormones to kick in after stopping the pill rather than anything to do with the type of lube.

sharond101 Mon 02-Dec-13 21:50:06

Tried lube before (the flavoured stuff) and found it so messy never ventured there again.

JasmineLondon Mon 02-Dec-13 21:52:55

Would def have tried this sort of thing if had known about it. Had no idea most products contain spermicide ...

bluerose84 Mon 02-Dec-13 21:53:18

We've used durex lube on & off throughout trying to conceive & it hasn't helped us yet. I've looked at products that have been suggested on MN but was shocked at the cost involved. If nature doesn't take it's course though I may have to 'invest' in the sperm friendly products & see if that helps us on our TTC journey.

wafflesandpeas Mon 02-Dec-13 21:55:10

I have been TTC for 2 and a half months, not sure whether I like the idea of a lube, seems like it might kill the mood a bit. But I might think about it if nothing happens in the next few months.

rootypig Tue 03-Dec-13 00:17:03

I find this interesting as I have never, ever seen this discussed anywhere. Which is unusual these days.

I didn't give it much thought when TTC, the lube we usually use is KY, I didn't investigate whether it's a help or hindrance to sperm but didn't use it when TTC on instinct. I suppose we made TTC sex as 'vanilla' as possible ? We were lucky to conceive quickly so didn't look at aids beyond conception vitamins for me.

It's an interesting idea - as a total ignoramus I'd like to see the assertions about pH and whatnot backed up by some linical endorsement - otherwise I'd probably err on the side of thinking it's loreal style made up 'science'

We regularly use lube. Used conceive plus when ttc. I don't feel there is enough info on different types tbh, and they are expensive but when your desperate for the bfp I suppose you will try anything. The easier to use the better imo.

SoMuchFruit Tue 03-Dec-13 07:06:42

The next step for us while TTC#2 is OPK's and some sort of lube. I don't have loads of EWCM and I think that may be an issue. I was looking at usi ng Pre-Seed/Concieve Plus/this product.

Price of all of the 'Sperm Friendly' lubes is hmm but I know that HA is an expensive ingredient. Interested in the use of HA. We use it in a totally different form, a product called Legend, for horses.

Bit weirded out that I'd be putting a constituent of synovial fluid in my foof... it is harmless though and at least you've SAID what's in yours. The others don't.. which is what has put me off so far.

Pickofthedocs Tue 03-Dec-13 07:26:20

Used pre seed when ttc DS. Now mixing between that and others for ttc again without much success so far. Not sure if something else going on or these feel slightly stinging externally. I seem to get sore and almost like thrush in second half of cycle esp before, makes it quite quite unromantic. May try balance active again, it's been a while.

SolomanDaisy Tue 03-Dec-13 07:59:40

We had fertility issues and I read a lot about people using preseed at the time. We didn't as I have lots of ewcm, so it seemed unnecessary.

I'm a bit concerned that they are making assertions that might confuse people and/or give false hope to people with fertility issues. How come the vagina is a hostile environment yet they claim their fluid mimics cervical fluid? Why is there no medical evidence on their website? Has the product actually been proved to increase the chances of conception? If it has, that's great news, but they need to provide the evidence.

flymo79 Tue 03-Dec-13 08:35:24

I only found out that 'normal' lube is spermicidal through mumsnet, for the first few months trying to conceive we used regular (KY) lube as we were dtd so much and it became a bit difficult to "create the best environment" down below. I then ordered some conception-friendly lube through amazon, having studied reviews and read up on things like texture and ease of application. I got my bfp the first month of using a conception-friendly lube, would definitely recommend with the amount of doing-the-deed necessary!

PS (Completely agree with the comment above about not making much sense evolution-wise, however if you are gunning for it and don't want to wait for nature to take its course, or if you don't have much ewcm on ovulation, I think it can really help).

SpicedTeaAndXmasCakeOrDeath Tue 03-Dec-13 08:35:37

Didn't use any when ttc-ing as I found ewcm a good indicator of ovulation (and therefore the best time to 'try') and there was enough not to have to use lube.
Use lube when not ttc-ing and its not a good time though (just after period ends for example) tend to use ann summers one though just because its relatively cheap and easy to pick up in town

TheMarshwiggle Tue 03-Dec-13 08:54:22

I only discovered that normal lube was bad for conceiving after I had my first (took 6 months to conceive using lube). Didn't use lube for my second and conceived first time. If I was trying again I would consider specially designed ttc stuff

CrispyFB Tue 03-Dec-13 14:58:59

We've used Preseed to conceive three of our four children. Given DH has issues with poor morphology, anything that mimics extra mucus so to give the swimmers more places to swim can only be a good thing! Plus.. of course.. after TTC for 13 cycles, properly charting etc etc - well, sometimes you need a little help.

Theimpossiblegirl Tue 03-Dec-13 19:42:50

Didn't use anything when ttc but this is really interesting. I conceived pretty quickly (was a lot younger then and very lucky) and I hadn't really considered the fact that most lubricants are spermicides so would definitely bear this in mind if I convince DH to try for another. wink

CakeLab Tue 03-Dec-13 20:02:22

We have always preferred to use lube. Just ordered some preseed after discovering standard stuff is not very sperm-friendly as about to begin our 2nd month ttc-ing. Expensive, but hopefully worth it. Not sure I'd go for a spray though - would rather go for something we can both enjoy using.

bunkygirl Wed 04-Dec-13 08:08:48

We used normal lube for first two months of ttc before I read that it could kill sperm. Stopped and got pregnant next month!

JasMumOfFour Wed 04-Dec-13 09:02:56

I think a good old fashioned orgasm does much more to help sperm mobility frankly lol those swimmers need something to swim in

AnnMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 04-Dec-13 09:32:21

Hello: thanks for all the comments so far: a few of you had product queries and Balance Activ have asked me to post the below for you:

"Balance Activ is a responsible women’s healthcare brand and the team behind Balance Activ Conceive is conscious that TTC is a sensitive subject area. Our Fertility Gel and Fertility Spray are both sperm-friendly lubricants containing Hyaluronic Acid, a key molecule which is naturally present in the vagina and cervical fluid.

When we refer to the vagina as being a harsh environment for sperm to survive, we refer to the pH levels between the vagina and semen. The normal pH level in the vagina is between 3.5 - 4.5 and sperm is usually around 7. Balance Activ Conceive Gel & Spray help to temporarily raise the pH level in the vagina to create a more sperm-friendly environment.

In addition, in-vitro studies have shown that the Balance Activ Conceive formula can aid the motility of poor quality sperm.

We understand that there are numerous factors that can affect conception and while we cannot guarantee that using Balance Activ Conceive will make you pregnant, we advise that if you're going to use a lubricant when TTC, that you use one that is sperm-friendly".

orangepudding Wed 04-Dec-13 15:04:20

I used pre-seed 5+ years ago, this was after four months of trying. I did get pregnant the month I started using it. In the unlikely event I wanted to try again I would probably try Balance Activ if it didn't happen in the first couple of months.

abbykacz Wed 04-Dec-13 16:15:45

Tried it when pregnant as I was very dry, it helped a lot. Would use it again

onelubeonelife Wed 04-Dec-13 18:36:07

Feeling quite proud of my thread name change after watching Gareth Malone's Sing While You Work last night grin

We had never used any lubrication prior to TTC. But after some painfully dry experiences back when we where at it like demented people I bought some Pre-seed. Had only heard of Pre-seed and Conception plus, wasn't aware of Balance-activ until this thread.

Have been using the lubrication for 3 months now and have to say it has made a massive difference. Frankly, when we know that the deed needs to be done and we are tired/can't really be arsed it's nice to know that the lube makes the job a lot easier. After using the first time DH asked me to order an industrial-sized vat of the stuff!

I don't much like the tube-applicator things though; they're quite uncomfortable to use and applying in the bathroom beforehand feels too clinical. Have been using directly. Hopefully that doesn't affect the function…

In answer to this… And have you heard or read about any issues with jellies or lube when TTCing? : I've read on here and elsewhere that using these conception-aid lubes can aid XY sperm motility and therefore slightly increase the chance of males. Being a sceptical bod I'm not convinced on that but thought I'd raise it anyway.

I'm also a scientific-type bod and have done some cursory searching of the scientific literature to read the evidence. I haven't found anything about Balance-Activ specifically and studies seem to be quite thin on the ground and old (late 90s). The most recent study (Agarwal et al, 2008) says that Pre-seed didn't decrease sperm motility like other general lubes. It doesn't say the sperm motility is increased. Perhaps Mumsnet could ask Balanc-activ to provide the studies mentioned above and on their website that 'Balance Activ Conceive formula can aid the motility of poor quality sperm'? This would aid couples to make evidence-based decisions on using fertility-aid lubricants. Conception is a very emotive subject. Providing the hard evidence rather than airy-fairy references to 'studies' would help couples analyse whether they want to add yet another cost and hope to the rollercoaster of conception.

Oops, got a bit in depth there! But I for one would be interested in reading the evidence.

In our case though, we'll still be using a lube whilst DTD. We won't get very far at all without it I suspect and we may as well use a sperm-friendly one. We'll give Balance-activ a go next time I reckon and see how it compares to Pre-seed grin

Luckystar1 Wed 04-Dec-13 18:42:30

I bought conceive plus in the hope that it would work post mc. Month 1 I got a uti the only time I used it. This month dh used it just on himself on our optimum day and it numbed him so much he couldn't perform... Needless to say we won't be venturing down that path again!

DinoSnores Wed 04-Dec-13 21:20:10

I only discovered that normal lube is spermicidal here and then noticed it on the side of the bottle. Used Preseed when TTC DC2 and DC3 and got pregnant fairly quickly so would think about Balance Activ or Preseed when TTC again. The applicators aren't exactly glamorous though!

I've never used it, I've always had it in my head that its for old ladies or Friday nights at centerparcs.

ShreddedHoops Thu 05-Dec-13 15:13:36

Ooh this is timely - just started ttc our second and I seem drier than I used to be, even around ovulation time. I also get sore after sex, so not doing it as much as we ideally should as I need downtime to recover in between sessions! So had been vaguely thinking about lube, but I didn't realise most were spermicidal. And I didn't realise some could actively help sperm along the way! Will look out for Balance Activ. Hopefully it will help...

ShreddedHoops Thu 05-Dec-13 15:14:10

(Plus I like handbags. Sex, handbags and babies. I like all 3)

Aquariusgirl86 Thu 05-Dec-13 15:18:43

I used conceive plus when ttc both times and fell pregnant first month both times, no idea if it works as I may just be very fertile but I'll definitely buy it again when ttc

daisydaisy11 Thu 05-Dec-13 17:37:32

Had no idea regular lubricants were hostile to sperm -you live and learn!

Wonderwomanssister Thu 05-Dec-13 18:33:43

IIRC I found out that otc lubes are spermicidal through reading one of Zita West's books. Would never have occurred to me before that, so not surprised it's not commonly known. Have only ever used lube post partum with condoms though, so wanted the sperm blocking kind then grin

tipp2chicago Thu 05-Dec-13 19:23:13

We used pre-seed when trying to conceive. It worked too, we now have a beautiful DD who is currently trying to re-arrange the sitting room! I was amazed how many lubes were spermicidal/not recommended when TTC.

smaths Thu 05-Dec-13 19:47:34

I had no idea lube was spermicidal, but I'm a tightwad so only buy ky jelly which does not have spermicide. Au naturel is better of course but i found that when I was breastfeeding it took a looooooong time to get warmed up and ky was the quick option.

DevonCiderPunk Thu 05-Dec-13 20:44:04

OMG that thread title makes my teeth itch.

MissRee Thu 05-Dec-13 20:47:08

Have heard of lubes like preseed but never tried any to be honest as I've never needed to.

I do hope you don't go down the marketing route that everyone NEEDS a lube to conceive though.

Parsley2506 Thu 05-Dec-13 21:05:27

Lube is a fairly regular participant in our efforts to conceive. I had literally no clue normal lubes were spermicidal till we'd been trying for about 4 months and I started thinking about what might be going wrong. Tried preseed which as a product was fine but found the applicator process so deeply unsexy that I gave that up fairly quickly and just used it on an 'as needed basis'. Went to no lube at all for a while but then tried conceive plus when we wanted to up our efforts again. Got a BFP a couple of months later but tbh we had been ttc for 18 months by that point so I'm not sure id want to credit the lube with everything. Sadly that pregnancy ended in MC at 11 weeks and we're now ready to ttc again. Had never heard of balance activ till today, spray sounds a bit weird if you ask me, seems very medical?
I appreciate these products all have taken extra years of development but the price point for all conception friendly lubes is, frankly, ridiculous. We will continue using our conceive plus but once it runs out, assuming we've not conceived again by that point, not sure I'd be desperate to shell out another £15.

Hopemummi Thu 05-Dec-13 21:51:27

It never really occurred to me that lube could be bad but after ttc for a year I started reading up on the subject and invested in all sorts of paraphernalia in the hope it would help. Purchased an opk clear blue kit and activ gel but only use it on my ovulation days as it's so expensive!

Letitsnow9 Fri 06-Dec-13 01:10:45

Until this post I didn't know there was such thing as conception friendly lube!

livingzuid Sat 07-Dec-13 08:22:31

We tried conceive plus which was just a normal tube and presseed which came with inserters says how much to use. I didn't like it to be honest as using the inserters meant too much going in! It worked out much more expensive as well because we used too much.

In the end we conceived with no assistance but I liked the conceive plus over the pressed.

plinkyplonks Sat 07-Dec-13 14:39:57

No experience of using lube for this purpose or that this kind of product was on the market. Will take a look!

mrscog Sat 07-Dec-13 15:03:07

We nearly always use some sort of lube and after 2 months of TTC with no success we switched to pre-seed because I'd seen it discussed on here. Pregnant 2 weeks later. When it comes to TTC #2 I would use again, and would consider a different brand - the applicators did make everything feel a bit 'clinical'!

ThoraNomiki Sat 07-Dec-13 17:07:11

I found out through discussions on Mumsnet that normal lubricants had a spermicidal effect. We don't use lube on a regular basis but sometimes use it to change things up a bit so I bought some pre-seed. I don't bother with the applicators (way to kill the mood) we just use it as normal lube but sound in the knowledge that it won't hinder TTC rather than as an aid. This is the first time I've heard of Balance Activ.

seasavage Sat 07-Dec-13 21:46:30

We often use lube for fun. I've read about lube not beingideal for TTC. So I guess I'd be interested. TTC for my 3rd/ husbands 1st starts in Jan (happy in free samples as a potential feedback person :-)

Julietee Sat 07-Dec-13 22:11:47

We didn't use anything. I didn't know that lube could be spermicidal.

IncaAztec Sat 07-Dec-13 22:54:56

Didn't use anything, fell pregnant first month both times. Had heard of pre-seed being very successful for friends though. However, would consider Balance Activ in the future if we needed to as there doesn't seem to be many competitors in the ttc lube market.

Tyranasaurus Sun 08-Dec-13 08:18:31

Not keen on the wording 'vagina is a harsh environment'. I wouldn't want to use lube for conception (since I don't normally use it) I wouldn't want to think that my child was the product of crap sex hmm

MrsClauswearsspanx Sun 08-Dec-13 15:32:16

Lube.

I had never heard of any issues regarding lube when trying to concieve!

Maybe there should be more information out there regarding such things! I had heard of Preseed and was about to invest after TTC for a few months with no bueno results.

But I got my BFP right before I purchased. I would consider trying Balance Activ next time around, however!

Any brand who drops vowels out of their name is a brand you can trust, I say! grin

p.s. will my satchel say "Balance Activ" on it? Because that's a bit embarrassing...

We used conceive plus once and got pregnant straight away first time trying. Probably a coincidence but I would use again. I wouldn't use it normally as I didn't like the very runny texture but will use again next time I am ttc.

murielspark Sun 08-Dec-13 17:07:39

I've used either Preseed or Conceive Plus every cycle since I started TTC. We're 10 months in now and nothing. I've spent hundreds on these lubes. It's so depressing.

honeyharris Sun 08-Dec-13 19:43:03

We used Conceive Plus I think, we sometimes use lube anyway if we're doing it a couple of times in succession. My husband found it made him feel more sensitive than standard lube

ladybunnikins Sun 08-Dec-13 20:27:08

I've used preseed and conceive plus, I just apply a small amount directly rather than using applicators. It hasn't helped me conceive (2 years ttc) but it has made the process much more comfortable! I haven't heard of Balance Activ before and I'm intrigued by the spray. The bit I don't like about using lube is how cold it is when you first apply it and I wonder if the spray is also very cold?

sealight123 Sun 08-Dec-13 20:46:57

Me and my partner aren't currently trying to conceive, as we already have our hands full with our live wire 2 year old daughter smile but we frequently use flavoured and 'sensational' lubes, just for a different feel and...well for a bit of fun. Downside is that it can be a bit messylo
Truthfully, I think I am being very naive, but I didn't know that using different types of lube/not using it would affect conception but that may be because I was very lucky to have conceived my daughter quite quickly.

bakingqueen Sun 08-Dec-13 22:46:10

We are currently trying to concieve and have decided to try this as my friend got a bfp the first month she used this after years of trying. Got to be worth giving it a go

MinesAPintOfTea Sun 08-Dec-13 22:46:55

Didn't even think about using it.

KateOxford Sun 08-Dec-13 23:13:41

We didn't use anything, only vitamins which are designed for couples trying to conceive. I wasn't aware there were such products of would likely have tried them.

principalitygirl Sun 08-Dec-13 23:46:53

We used Conceive Plus and another ttc-friendly lube when we were ttc. Neither worked for us. We ended up needing assisted conception in the end. When you're desperate though you'll try any product under the sun that could boost your chances.

manfalou Mon 09-Dec-13 11:08:10

We've only ever used lube twice in the 7.5 years we;ve been together which was a water based one (no idea what its called!) and neither was when TTC, we fell pregnant 3 and 2 months after trying with our kiddies so maybe a factor as to why? I have to admit its not something that even crossed my mind as something that could effect the TTC process but quite worrying that it could be spermicidal!

I have friends that have been TTC for some time now so will let them know this very useful piece of information.. just incase they're using lube that isn't suitable!

Macdog Mon 09-Dec-13 14:05:07

Like many others on this thread, I had no idea about these products.
I'd probably have tried them when TTC

Thatsnotmyfigure Mon 09-Dec-13 16:11:32

We did use a lube when ttc no 1. To be honest we haven't tried this time round but thanks for the reminder!!

Very interesting about other products! Would be keen to try this when my mirena comes out in Jan!

DontCallMeDaughter Mon 09-Dec-13 18:38:31

We used Balance Active and I thought it was excellent. Really easy to "apply" and kept things moving so to speak!! I did find it a bit watery but maybe I just used to much.

We also got a bfp the first month we used it after 11 unsuccessful months beforehand. So I'm a fan smile

TinselBankWadger Mon 09-Dec-13 21:36:53

I managed to conceive several times with nothing other than natural lube so should I ever be lucky enough to be trying again I would continue to take the natural route.

Also, I have had issues with thrush in the past and the thought of changing the ph balance of my vagina is frankly very off putting! It's the ph it is for a reason. Okay yes if I was having a lot of trouble TTC maybe I would consider a product such as this, but I'm in no hurry for another protracted dose of thrush (especially if it worked and I got pg as then I wouldn't be able to treat the thrush effectively).

cheshirekat1 Tue 10-Dec-13 10:04:03

Took us a few months to conceive and I have to say I hadn't even thought that lube could help get the swimmers on the move, now I've read it, it does make sense. Important though that people recognise that some lubes are bad for sperm....

PenguinSalute Tue 10-Dec-13 10:48:11

I had never even heard of lube that aided conception! I fell preg very accidentally quickly with DS so it wasn't really something I considered. However, we hope to start trying for DC2 in the next year, so it's good to have the info that there are things like this to try if necessary. I have used BalanceActiv products before and found them good, so would definitely think of them as a reputable brand to try.

Bubbles85 Tue 10-Dec-13 13:58:41

Well I didn't consider that lubes could be spermicidal. We fell pregnant after two months of me stopping the pill. We had made a conscious decision not to 'try' but just to stop preventing it and see what happened. So we didn't change any habits, although I did stop drinking alcohol (luckily) just in case it did happen quickly! Although now i know about the lubes, I will definitely consider a sperm safe alternative if we choose to have another baby at some point.

gasbird Tue 10-Dec-13 22:49:25

Tried pre-seed, seemed to work!

BeigeBuffet Wed 11-Dec-13 11:26:58

I didn't know that some lubes were spermicidal. I would definately consider using Balance Activ as we are about to ttc from this month on. I'm not so sure I would use a spray but certainly the gel sounds like a good idea. It sounds like a win win situation, sex feels better and your chances are increased-result!

EmsyM83 Wed 11-Dec-13 18:21:37

We use KY as a general rule, I tend to react to Durex. Never given any consideration to conception friendly stuff before and not really had any issues. I probably would look into it if was to have issues.

Readynow Thu 12-Dec-13 11:39:25

We have been using Conceive Plus for a while now TTC #2 & conceived #1 whilst using it. I did not know there was another conception friendly lubricant on the market.

StarsAbove Thu 12-Dec-13 19:29:59

I had no idea lube could help or hinder when TTC. I got pregnant very quickly, I suppose I would have done more research if it had taken us longer. I suppose it is good to feel you are doing everything you can to maximise your chances.

As far as where to get advice when TTC - MN of course! I used an app to predict ovulation days too.

RemoteControlGeekToyOfTheYear Thu 12-Dec-13 21:31:27

Been struggling ttc for a long time now. Lube is most definitely a must for us. Currently using Conceive+ because we like the pictures on the box that show the difference between sperm trying to swim through ordinary lube and sperm swimming through conceive+. Those kind of pictures give a lot of confidence to long-term ttcers

TinselandGretel Thu 12-Dec-13 21:49:48

We TTC'd for years, lube was necessary because having sex on a timetable is less exciting than spontaneous sex!

We used pre-seed ferility lube, found it expensive but we were desperate and happy to try anything that would help. We did get pg, not sure if the Pre-seed made any difference or not.

Punkatheart Fri 13-Dec-13 01:04:05

I am very open-minded and liberal about most things but this is the one thing that makes me uncomfortable. Tried it once, really didn't like it! But it is a hard topic to bring up!

Punkatheart Fri 13-Dec-13 01:05:07

I am very open-minded and liberal about most things but this is the one thing that makes me uncomfortable. Tried it once, really didn't like it! But it is a hard topic to bring up!

GreyWhites Fri 13-Dec-13 22:56:53

I love a bit of lube, always have, even before TTC. So far whilst TTC I've relied on Conceive Plus and Pre-Seed. Spent 2 years trying to get pregnant, got pregnant this year then had to terminate pregnancy on medical grounds at 14 weeks. I'm in my early 40s now so I'm aware my time is running out and am back on the TTC treadmill. Frankly I'll try anything at all that helps right now. I've even resorted to crystals, for flip's sake.

Vikkijayne2507 Sat 14-Dec-13 21:25:08

I had read that normal lube was antisperm but I often found I needed to use something to get me in the mood. I only knew of 2 pro sperm lubes and one of them I couldnt get in any local chemist. We used normal lube a few times and went without. Im not sure which one we were doing as we TTC 5 times in 1 week some with normal lube some without I was very lucky and fell pregnant within first 2 months of trying. I was about to buy the lube for sperm but i got a bfp instead

Sleepingstarsmommy Sat 14-Dec-13 22:28:14

Been pregnant 4 times. Only used a special lube for the first pregnancy although I can't remember the brand. The other 3 pregnancies we just used our normal lube or none at all and still conceived on our first cycle of trying. Currently on our first cycle of trying to conceive again and using our usual lube. Maybe if we're not successful then I may invest in some but do think it is expensive. Have to say we didnt it particularly nice either.

Ilikesweetpeas Sun 15-Dec-13 20:08:34

Never heard of this but would give it a try, when you are TTC anything that helps is welcome!

whatareyoueventalkingabout Sun 15-Dec-13 20:09:46

I haven't ever needed to use it but would use this for sure!

AnnMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 16-Dec-13 11:54:00

Thanks for all the comments: mrscog wins the Cambridge satchel full of Balance Activ product (worth £250) - will do the 30 extra winners shortly

AnnMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 16-Dec-13 13:18:43

And the following MNers all win a sample of Balance Activ Fertility Spray - abbykacz, bakingqueen, BrittleStick, Bubbles85, CakeLab, cheshirekat1, DinoSnores, DontCallMeDaughter, endoflevelbaddy, flymo79, GreyWhites, Ilikesweetpeas, KateOxford, ladybunnikins, Letitsnow9, Littlemissexpecting, Luckystar1, Macdog, MrsClauswearsspanx, PenguinSalute, Punkatheart, QuickQuickSloe, RemoteControlGeekToyOfTheYear, seasavage, ShreddedHoops, SpicedTeaAndXmasCakeOrDeath, StarsAbove, Steffanoid, Thatsnotmyfigure and Vikkijayne2507

Well done everyone.

MrsCog will you be telling all your friends and family you won a huge satchel of lube??

Happy Skooshing ladies!

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