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KatieBMumsnet (MNHQ) Wed 16-Oct-13 10:38:53

Last week MNers shared their top tips on keeping your LOs onside whilst doing the supermarket shop - thank you for all your comments. Watch Shop Talk now to see if your top tips made it on the show!



Barclaycard Freedom Rewards, in association with Mumsnet, have created a new weekly online chat show: Shop Talk. Over the next few weeks, they'll be looking for MNers' shopping tips and tricks on a range of topics.

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I've always used a shopping list to keep my two amused. One gets the trolley, the other gets to cross stuff off the list as we get it.
We also let them scan the shopping at the self-service checkouts, while we pack it. That gives them something to look forward to.

ouryve Wed 16-Oct-13 12:19:29

DH and i divide and rule. DH takes at least one of the boys and goes and looks at the toys etc. I take the trolley and fill it, from a list, either alone or with the older boy. DS1 likes looking around the fruit and veg section for interesting items and he usually has his own mental list of cereals, snacks etc to put in his own basket. He always makes a beeline for the reduced pastries!

MrsPnut Wed 16-Oct-13 12:25:05

We use the self scan system at waitrose so DD2, age 7, uses the (Frank) Zapper to scan all the shopping as we do it. I also send her on errands whilst we're in the shop, like going and choosing her own yoghurts or cheeses whilst I choose something else in the same aisle. I sometimes give her the list too and get her to check off the items we've bought but making her feel part of it keeps her engaged and means we can get round much quicker.

dahville Wed 16-Oct-13 12:25:31

When he was younger we kept my son entertained by making funny family and noises (especially farting noises, he liked them best) but now he's happy to sit in the trolley, eat a banana or some baguette and chat with us.

As he gets older we'll get him to take things off the shelf and put them in the basket or trolley, he's already made motions to do this.

Roundles Wed 16-Oct-13 12:30:36

Shopping list bingo!
Smaller girls are sometimes happy just to have a basket to carry (the thrill wears off after a while...)

DreamlessSleep Wed 16-Oct-13 12:34:12

Just get them them involved, "six apples in a bag pls ds, see if u can find the satsumas dd." And playing eye spy works well too.

LaTrucha Wed 16-Oct-13 12:41:13

DH is awesome at supermarket shopping with the children. He sends them off to get things, lets them push the trolley, makes them laugh the whole time.

It's all to much for me, so I stay at home or go by myself grin

StillNoFuckingEyeDeer Wed 16-Oct-13 13:06:23

DD1 is 2.8. She occasionally has a drink or a snack whilst we're going around the supermarket. Something like raisins or breadsticks that she can't eat too quickly. I often get her to hold things or put them in the trolley for me - she likes to help. I sometimes let her chose what we buy eg she picks the fruit or bread. I get her to tell me which numbered aisle we're on too. If we're just doing a small shop with a basket I let her run around trying to find the things we need. If I get desperate, she can also be bribed with a roll from the instore bakery or a promise of a glass of milk from the coffee shop.
DD2 is young enough that as long as she's not tired or hungry all I have to do is smile at her to keep her entertained.

BoyGirlBoy3 Wed 16-Oct-13 13:14:14

I agree a treat with the children before we start. However they are master negotiators, and begin bidding for better offers, as soon as we get through the door. They have expressed a lot of interest in the scanners at waitrose, so maybe i will try that, as suggested on this thread.

BellaVida Wed 16-Oct-13 13:26:13

I have various techniques, with varying effectiveness, depending on what mood they are in! I have 4 young children, but it is doable.
- give one a shopping list and pen to check off items, then have a trolley pusher and a fetcher. Rotate jobs every x number of aisles (agreed in advance to avoid arguments!).
- we do shopping trolley driving licences! The children gave to stop at 'junctions', keep left, park, reverse and do u-turns. When they have had enough practice, they are tested to see if they 'pass'.
- use it for maths practice. Send them each to find products in the aisle you are in, calculate any offers and bring back the best value products. They will be especially keen if it is something they really want!
Or if all else fails......
- do the shopping late when my DH is home and I can go on my own!

beeelaine Wed 16-Oct-13 13:30:34

i was fed up of our son wanting this, wanting that, the cost of the shop goes up when you have kids with you, so a few years ago i gave him a budget of £3 to buy what he wanted from the chocolate isle for the week and he spent ages working out which chocolate to buy so he could get the most grams of chocolate for the money. He only got the budget if he was good all the way round the shop and we went there last. I know its bribing but it made the shop more fun for him and when he is with me now he is so quick at maths and he tells me which pasta etc is the best value for money!

CMOTDibbler Wed 16-Oct-13 13:32:21

DS writes a shopping list before we go, based on meals hes requesting in the next few days, or packed lunch needs, and is pretty happy to just be sorting that out, plus requests to get things for me.

In Waitrose, he does have the promise of a babyccino at the end as that (and my coffee) will be free

BornToFolk Wed 16-Oct-13 13:40:29

Online shopping grin I'm a single parent with no car so while I can get to a supermarket, getting the shopping back again with a small boy in tow can be a bit challening. So I don't.
Shopping is ordered from the comfort of my sofa. I can add things to the order as I think of them and search around for the best deals. I usually get the shopping delivered when DS is in bed so it doesn't interfere with my time with him. The only downside is I'm sure DS thinks that the fridge magically refills itself!

Pascha Wed 16-Oct-13 13:46:55

Hmm. I deal with the supermarket trip by doing online. There is no way on this Earth will I be taking a 3 and 1 year old to do the full weeks shop voluntarily.

I do pop in for the odd bit though and I confess I am guilty of heading straight for the box of cars for 80p or whatever. I let the 3yr old choose one to look after all the way round and he's generally happy enough. He also likes looking down on the shoppers from the coffee shop upstairs so I can bribe him with that and also get my fix of caffeine - win-win.

Huffpot Wed 16-Oct-13 13:59:01

By involving them in the shop and getting them to get the items from the shelves and also helping put things on the conveyor belt at the checkout

Geniene Wed 16-Oct-13 14:01:22

I give them a list of their own and they love collecting the items, I also ask their opinion i.e ooh which jacket potatoes do you think you the biggest and yummiest? This keeps them entertained and they learn to enjoy shopping.

AnnieDanny Wed 16-Oct-13 14:40:39

DS's (2.5yrs) current favourite is taking photos on my phone of things he's going to buy for each of his 5 favourite soft toy animals, then he deletes each photo as he finds the item. (Mum imposed rules: 1 item for each animal, only one thing per aisle (to avoid 5 bars of chocolate). Plus, it has to be something the animal would conceivably want in real life. A typical selection might be:
Rabbit - carrot
Bear - salmon or honey
Owl - chocolate animal of some kind
Makka Pakka - some sort of soap (?!)
Mousey - cheese
...which isn't that far off what I'd buy anyway.
We also managed to find a mini shopping trolley for him which seems to add to the excitement.

sweetiepie1979 Wed 16-Oct-13 14:49:11

I give my 2 year old a note book and pen and she scribbles a list together in the trolley while I call out what we need. Then I check it and tell her how clever she is.

Spirael Wed 16-Oct-13 15:10:16

I do our shopping online, via my phone, on my way home from work on the bus. No bored child to entertain and no wasted time getting the order sorted out. Perfect!

If we do need to pop to the supermarket, I involve DD in finding items and making decisions where possible. She likes to be included and able to apply her influence by choosing, for example, whether we want apple or orange juice to drink this week.

Rarecherry Wed 16-Oct-13 15:13:01

I'm a fairly quick shopper, so its usually a fairly relaxed trip. I usually hand over items for my daughter to put in the trolly, she has one toy brought in to play with and if she gets too grizzly I usually buy something for her to munch on.
But recently she has learnt to do the scanning on the 'scan and shop' in tesco- best thing ever!

Turnipvontrapp Wed 16-Oct-13 16:34:15

Shop at Aldi, it takes a lot less time so there's no need for entertaining then! Failing that, get them to go and find things for you (older ones).

gazzalw Wed 16-Oct-13 16:43:01

Getting each child to plan a meal (main and pudding) they want to cook so that when we go supermarket shopping they take responsibility for sourcing their own ingredients - keeps them separate and focused and away from the 'naughty' aisles with all the things which would otherwise tempt them!

Or as someone said upthread, do online shopping or even better, plan shopping trips whilst they're at school so they are usefully entertained learning grin!

Glitterfairys Wed 16-Oct-13 16:43:31

I'm in different shops every day as I have to walk through our local town centre to take ds to school. I make sure I have drinks and snacks on me at all times as it's always when were out my nearly 4 year old decides his hungry/thirsty so this saves me spending money each day.
On a Friday if they have been good all week they can have a treat, this works as when they ask for something like a magazine , small toy or a pack of stickers I remind them that they can buy it on Friday and this normally encourages them to keep behaving .

Katz Wed 16-Oct-13 16:47:54

We shop online! The only time we go to the supermarket it's then a novelty. I get my girls involved in working which is the best deal and get them to help chose what we want.

WowOoo Wed 16-Oct-13 17:09:59

I find it quite stressful shopping with the children so I always need to have a pep talk before about how we are going to stick to the list.
I also try to avoid taking them, but sometimes I have to.

I get them to help me find things and they can choose some things themselves - fruit, a dessert or which type of crisps.
Sometimes, they can take some pocket money and choose a magazine.

RubySparks Wed 16-Oct-13 17:52:34

When they were little I did the frowned upon thing of feeding them either a baguette or box of strawberries as we went round... (Paid for of course!) and then as they got bigger it was a case of sending them off to get specific things. One day when I was already at checkout with my son and trolley load of shopping I went off to get something I'd forgotten and bumped into a friend so stopped for a quick chat... By the time I got back to checkout my son, aged about 8 had put all the shopping through but of course couldn't pay for it! shock In my defensive he was a big fan of the Home Alone movies...... Now they are teens I can get them to do the shopping for me smile

Mandz07 Wed 16-Oct-13 17:59:25

I have made laminated shopping list for each of my 3 dd's. each card has the essentials on that I know we will definitely have to buy at each big shop they each have a marker pen and when the fin the item on their lists the get to mark it off. I find making tasks into games seem to work best they also are promised a go on the ride before we leave the shops which keeps them happy!

bluebump Wed 16-Oct-13 18:00:34

I try to do my shop without my 5 year old but if I have to take him I give him the job of marking off the stuff we've put in the trolley from the list. He likes to load up the conveyer belt too so I use that as bribery the whole way around!

SmokedMackerel Wed 16-Oct-13 18:17:49

I buy small amounts - short and sweet. We have to go shopping more often, but if we whip in and out quickly they don't have time to get bored.

I let dd choose which bread/cereal/cheese/fruit/veg/juice/mill etc we are going to buy, and pick them off the shelves.

I avoid the pet food aisle as for some reason my kids think that the next best thing to a pet cat is a can of cat food confused

DoctorGilbertson Wed 16-Oct-13 18:53:01

My three year old still sometimes likes sitting in the trolley seat "like George pig, mummy". Mmmm, my five year old is pretty well behaved now and I am teaching him how to calculate what is the best value/weight. He's not very good at it.

My biggest hint, however is to not take them both at once. I've never really managed this one successfully.

Mmmm, oh yes, and before we moved I didn't have a card so sometimes I would take one child shopping while DH took the other to the park and then we would swap when it came to paying. Timing was everything for this strategy.

When they were little, I would make sure they had something to eat as we went round, as it would keep them occupied and in the trolley. Nowadays, we send them to find things (closer ones within view for DD, further for DS). On the vanishingly rare occasions when they are not sniping at each other they will go off together to get something. There is generally some aspect of shopping which they get to choose. As they get older I will get them to work out how to shop to a budget for a meal, or give them their own budget for packed lunches as my DM used to do with us.

..they still hate shopping, though, and I find it much easier and quicker to do it without them blush

nextphase Wed 16-Oct-13 19:37:19

Self scan is a big hit with my two (2 and 4).
I also ask them to get things off the shelf, and they get to pick some of the food (e.g. fruit), or meal plan going round.
We actually use me going to the supermarket on a sat morning to get them dressed "Mummy is going to Supermarket in 5 mins, are you getting dressed and coming with me or watching TV with Daddy?" They go get dressed about 8am.

MadMonkeys Wed 16-Oct-13 19:42:24

My kids actually quite like shopping! The 1yo stares in amazement at all the wonderful things for sale smile and the 3yo 'helps' me choose the best bag of carrots etc to put it the trolley. It might be a bit of a novelty though as I usually do an online shop every week and then pop to Lidl for the stuff that's too expensive online.

SoonToBeSix Wed 16-Oct-13 19:55:21

I am a bad mother because I often my toddlers food to eat on the way round that I haven't yet paid for. In my defence it is pre packed fruit.

missorinoco Wed 16-Oct-13 19:56:15

Whilst I can shop with the children, generally I opt not to shop with all three if possible, both for speed, and for reduced stress levels.

If they shop with me - no to bribes in general, I am then concerned they will not behave the next time unless I bribe them. I am not averse to a treat afterwards for good behavior, or a marble for the marble jar/sticker though.

I let them put shopping in the trolley, and have to bite my tongue as the poor vegetables fall in the basket. They can also choose products like cereal and biscuits (within reason).

My top tip is a list. I would not recommend trying to shop with your children without a list. Also do a favourite toy check at the end if you let them carry it round, if it gets dropped your heart will plummet like a stone.

GaryBuseysTeeth Wed 16-Oct-13 19:59:00

DS1 is almost 2; he gets to sit in the trolley & anything none breakable or bruiseable I pass to him to throw into the trolley, he also gets to hold THE PEN.
Occasionally he'll be given a carrot to keep him quiet, but obviously from the bag we're about to buy.

Ds2 is almost 3months (so a little easier to entertain).

Online shopping is a godsend!

SaltySeaBird Wed 16-Oct-13 20:06:29

My DD is still very young. Shopping used to be a breeze with her in the sling but now she is a bit bigger she can scream the place down if she gets bored.

She sits in the trolley and I let her inspect things I'm buying. She loves things that make noise (pasta, rice in a box) or will sit and sniff citrus fruit. If she is being especially tantrum prone I'll put her in the trolley instead of the seat. She finds this extremely fun and has full access to all the shopping to inspect (very strict about not eating or opening things, easily accessible stuff goes in the separate bit at the end).

IceNoSlice Wed 16-Oct-13 20:22:46

Why add stress to your life? And bore children when they could be playing? Online shopping for the 'big shop' every time. And small local shops for the 'top up' bits where the owners know DS and talk to him when we go in smile

Sokmonsta Wed 16-Oct-13 20:28:46

Online shopping! It's safer having the dc help take the bags through to the kitchen grin

If I have to brave a supermarket I prefer to take dh. Divide and conquer. He takes two and I take the trolley with twins.

Bribing them with a comic at the end for good behaviour.

These are all brilliant ideas.

I just go to the veg isle, get a pre-packed bag of carrots. Give them one each and the chewing and crunching keeps them occupied and mouths too full to whinge until we get to the end.

We have a list so know what we want and are in and out like carrot crunching ninja shoppers.

Puppypoppet Wed 16-Oct-13 21:00:10

Either do it online or go on my own to supermarket and leave DD with DH. Never understand why people treat it as a family outing - seriously why tramp around the supermarket together.

Trills Wed 16-Oct-13 21:10:01

The best way to keep children entertained while doing the supermarket shop is to do it online with the TV on.

Trills Wed 16-Oct-13 21:13:32

When I was younger my brother and I got £1 (might need more now!) that we were allowed to spend on whatever we liked - we went round all the aisles with mum/dad and tried to figure out what the best thing was that we could get for our pound.

(6 chocolate muffins was my best buy - you may have to be relaxed about junk food)

Hopezibah Wed 16-Oct-13 21:14:32

We struggle lots with supermarket shopping because my son has ASD and sensory issues which get triggered by supermarket noise, lighting, crowds etc.

Here's what we do for a successful shop:
Plan carefully what we need. He gets to make a list too to help.
He loves adding up - he is a little maths genius - so we get him to add some prices up or give him a calculator to keep track of the total (things like this keep his mind distracted from being a mischief!)
As a treat he can chose a magazine. This tends to occupy him at checkout time as he is busy choosing his magazine. (or occasionally we buy it first so he can read it all around the store).

For my little girl - food is the key! Things like popcorn or rice cakes or raisins that she can keep nibbling all around the shop.

Getting them to help with the scanning wand around the shop can keep their interest if you have the time and patience for that.

kilcrea Wed 16-Oct-13 21:24:37

Tescos is a fab shop if you have to bring the kids - firstly they have those kiddie friendly trolleys which look like a car at the front which are a pain to drive but the kids love them, and secondly they've just introduced self scanners in our local store so my 5 year old loves scanning the barcodes which passes the time really well!

Munxx Wed 16-Oct-13 22:09:26

I buy a baguette for them to munch on first ;)

I include my almost 3 year old with decisions, like which box of cereal to get and which fruit to buy

The baby enjoys watching the toddler

mummyofcutetwo Wed 16-Oct-13 22:15:10

We try to keep trips to the supermarket short and fresh, so we don't do the same thing every time. Sometimes DS1 writes a shopping list, other times we test our memories! I think his favourite is "supermarket sweep", when we do a slow version of the quiz show with us making up clues for things we need to get (or chocolate, crisps and toys in the case of DS1!).

sharond101 Wed 16-Oct-13 22:27:28

What are your top tips for keeping your DCs entertained around the supermarket? Do you promise a reward if they behave? Or ask them to get involved in finding particular items? Perhaps you take a book or toy for them to play with? Or maybe you’re yet to master this and dread each trip to the supermarket? Is it possible to have a stress free trip to the supermarket?

Luckily my 16mo DS is very social and likes to chatter all the way around the supermarket. I often give him something to hold like a banana or carrot. He holds it out to show everyone who passes and waves at them too.

TwerkingNinetoFive Wed 16-Oct-13 22:43:19

I make a picture shopping list for my dd as she is too young to read. I also make sure I've brought a few snacks and toys to play with. If all else fails we go to the dog food aisle to point at pictures of dogs (simple but she loves it)

BlackberrySeason Wed 16-Oct-13 22:56:27

Trip to the supermarket cafe works wonders for DS smile

Theimpossiblegirl Wed 16-Oct-13 23:04:26

My top tip is to leave them at home. Failing that, give them a list to keep them occupied.

HappySunflower Wed 16-Oct-13 23:18:20

We make a game out of it. she helps me to find things and pops them in the trolley and has her own basket to carry light things! Aside from bumping into the occasional display unit or customer, this works well.
I have books and snacks in my bag that I hand to her once the novelty of the above has worn off-which it does after about ten to fifteen minutes!

ChildrenAtHeart Wed 16-Oct-13 23:21:51

Top tip is to do it online but if we must go it's definitely best to make them involved - counting apples, finding Heinz beans, writing the lists, ticking the lists etc. Our supermarket has recently introduced self scan trolleys which my dd loves and would spend hours doing. As you can pack as you go a lot of time and stress is reduced

prettybird Wed 16-Oct-13 23:22:56

Grapes.

<ducks and runs for cover> grinwink

rootypig Thu 17-Oct-13 03:39:22

I remember doing the supermarket shop with my mum, when my little sister was a baby. The technique was to dispatch older child to the snack aisle to procure a large bag of PomBears, open bag and give to small, demanding sister, then race to finish the shop before she scarfed all her crisps grin

Now I have 11mo DD, the idea is pretty much the same. At that age it's not difficult to give her something to hold that she finds fascinating, a shiny apple will usually do it. She is utterly delighted to 'help', and I am generous enough to buy the slobbered on, horribly bruised article at the end of my rounds grin. No rewards promised because she's still too small, and is it possible to have a stress free trip? not really, to be honest, we don't run a car so the shopping usually comes after a prolonged period for DD in her pram. In an ideal world I would go with DH but as the SAHP it's always works out I go on my own, during the day.

While I'm here, I am a Barclaycard customer and found the last iteration of Freedom utterly annoying. It wasn't clear at all how to collect or spend the money, and it seemed to be really patchily applied to my account? As someone who spends a terrifying amount with you, I'd prefer a straightforward cashback offer on family friendly things. Though who wouldn't.

Tortoise Thu 17-Oct-13 07:48:39

I do mine online. I'm a lone parent and I don't drive. Nearest supermarket I can get to it 15 by train. It would be impossible to carry it all home by train! Frozens would have defrosted by the time we got home!

Happiestinwellybobs Thu 17-Oct-13 08:06:03

DD is 2.5 and enjoys shopping. If we are doing a big shop, a steady stream of chatter gets us round without too much fuss. She also likes to put things in the trolley. She also likes to investigate other people's trolley contents.

If we are doing a smaller shop she insists on carrying the basket, until it gets so heavy that she is dragging it round.

Her one memorable helpful experience was "moving" things along the conveyor. However of the 40 or so items, the one thing she chose to move was a box of eggs, which were smashed all over the floor!

ShatnersBassoon Thu 17-Oct-13 09:19:53

I really try not to take the children to the supermarket with me. One child on their own can be really helpful and sensible, but more than one is really awful for everyone. They are always far more silly and more likely to moan about being bored if they've got a sidekick.

I go on my own, then I get DH and the kids to unpack when I get home. They don't seem to mind that so much because they like seeing what they can instantly stuff in their mouths I've bought.

babySophieRose Thu 17-Oct-13 09:24:21

My LO is two years old. As she likes to walk everywhere i let her take a toy shopping basket from the toys section at the supermarket and she goes along me filling her basket with some little stuff she likes. I have to take stuff out of it occasionally and put it back, but this is the only way.

Make a shopping list and let it be their job finding the things off the list. Ive always found that this keeps all three of mine occupied. if they find all the things we need, they get a treat!. never really had the problem of stressful supermarket trips thank goodness.

elizaco Thu 17-Oct-13 10:24:15

Give them their own simple shopping list, with just a few easy-to-find items :-)

mindingalongtime Thu 17-Oct-13 10:56:38

My minded children love going shopping and it is such a learning experience for them! Weighing, measuring, pricing, numbers, letters, packing items in bags, choosing fruit to try out, choosing vegetables etc, so much learning going on.

I never have tears or tantrums in a supermarket, and don't really understand why I see other children having mega meltdowns! ( But I have seen some of my minded children with their parents and that is another story, I stay out of sight!)

emily80 Thu 17-Oct-13 12:03:53

My youngest is 2 next month, I always take a tub of food (normally raisins or grapes that take a while to eat) and that tends to keep him happy as I whizz round as fast as I can. He also likes me just talking to him about what we're buying. It's been a lot easier since I started to shop at Aldi as it takes far less time to do the shop than it used to at Sainsburys, and DS loves it as trains go past outside so if he starts to get grumpy I just tell him we'll be seeing the trains soon!

Fillybuster Thu 17-Oct-13 12:14:48

It's a relief to see I'm not the only one who prefers to do the supermarket shopping without dcs in tow whenever possible! grin

When I do have to take the 3 dcs (8, 5 and 3) along I try to split up the 'jobs' in an age-appropriate way. For example, dc1 is in charge of the list, dc3 sits in the trolley and 'spots' the item and dc2 is responsible for fetching stuff and putting it into the trolley. If we're shopping for naice things in Waitrose then we always use the self-scan (despite it taking longer) and they take it in turns to 'beep' stuff, and absolutely love operating the weighing scales and printing the prices for the fruit and veg.

On the whole, I do manage to avoid meltdowns, although I occasionally have to resort to opening a packet of snack food before I have paid for it bribery and corruption to keep everything under control!

HepsibubbleCauldronToad Thu 17-Oct-13 13:04:00

I use the self scan system in Waitrose and DD3 (4.8) is always happy to collect and weigh things, as well as scanning them as we walk round. She's just learning to read, so my shop is starting to take quite a while as she wants to read stuff along the way, but we have time and she really enjoys it.

Before we go she will write her own list as I do mine - cereal she wants, stuff for packed lunches etc. Tbh I never really find it a chore. In fact grocery shopping is the only kind of shopping that I actually enjoy. blush shock

But take the other three with me (20, 19 and 17) and I am the one likely to go in to meltdown... I avoid their 'help' at all costs as it is generally accompanied by pleading for junk, wine, beer and vodka to take back to school/university and I'm damned if I'm funding their partying frankly. grin

Give me a food shop with my four year old. Any day.

ipswichwitch Thu 17-Oct-13 13:53:00

2 yr old DS likes his ride in the trolley. He also likes to be given the food to examine then put in the trolley. However, putting it in the trolley usually involves launching it over his shoulder with about a 60% success rate at getting it into the trolley. This is fine if it's bread or whatever. Not so good for the eggs.

He also likes to shout "hiya" at other shoppers, and he loves getting a smile or hello back, but if he's ignored the "hiya" gets louder and louder and he's been known to pull on sleeves to get attention if I let the trolley get too close to people! At least he's happy - and I'd take him shopping any day over DH grin

BarclaycardCass Thu 17-Oct-13 13:57:14

Hi everyone,

Thanks so much for all your ideas, they’re brilliant! I used to really struggle with my two when they were a little bit younger, especially at the checkouts where all the ‘goodies’ are positioned. Now I make them both write out part of my shopping list and in the shop, they’re in charge of making sure that we get the things on their list. It’s good handwriting practice and it keeps them occupied in the shop.

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Thanks again everyone for your ideas everyone, keep them coming.

Cass

CheekyChimpsMummy Thu 17-Oct-13 14:14:32

I write my list in supermarket order ie fruit and veg first, dairy next etc, so we're in and out as quickly as possible. My LO isn't the best behaved at the supermarket but I try not to bribe him, I just try to distract him with things to look at or we talk about his day at school.

SetFiretotheRain Thu 17-Oct-13 15:22:40

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Thankfully we do online shopping for the big shop. Shorter trips we get by with the 'remember what's on the shopping list' games, and occupying DD with counting and adding which she thinks is very important and grown up.

I do my grocery shopping online to avoid this scenario! But inevitably, we do end up in the supermarket once in a while. DS is 1 so he gets spun about in the shopping trolley while I gurn at him which he finds sooooooo funny. DD is 3 so she gets to "help" and merrily fetches this and that with the promise of a reward at the end. All totally exhausting

TEErickOrTEEreat Thu 17-Oct-13 16:40:32

Shop online. Child entertains self with the two tons of toys in his own home.

GreenShadow Thu 17-Oct-13 16:53:48

My DC are now older and don't have to accompany me everywhere, but when they did (I was a sahm for years) they certainly weren't bribed or given food to eat in a supermarket. Shopping was just part of everyday life and they either sat in the child seat in the trolley or walked alongside, helping out on occasions.
I really don't like to see children eating in a supermarket - sorry, but it's food you haven't paid for yet.

clubnail Thu 17-Oct-13 17:03:57

Do your grocery orders online. Tis the only way!

SalBeautyMoll Thu 17-Oct-13 17:27:41

I had a very calm, patient dd who was never any trouble out shopping. Occasionally i gave her the end of a French stick to gnaw on.

When she was older she had to job of finding the items for me and later made choices about what to buy - quite an education.

Now she's a teenager, I have my weekly shop delivered, but I make point of taking her to a supermarket in the hols so she can mastermind a shop list and get used to budgeting, choosing healthy food, etc. She'll choose recipes she's going to cook and pick the ingredients.

NoPaidWorkbutPlenty2Do Thu 17-Oct-13 17:32:58

I have twin DS. (nuf said!) When they were toddlers (now 12) I did a shop near christmas and got some wrapping paper. They each wanted to hold a roll. After examining and waving their roll around (remember these things are longer than my arms) they then started to hit each other. Oh no! I'd only just started shopping! So I thought of letters and numbers they could form with the two long tubes and an additional arm or leg, 11 is easy, 4 is ok, L is a good letter. We must have looked a sight going round the store, and I remember having to stay in the middle of the aisle otherwise things would have been flying off the shelves! blush

VivaLeThrustBadger Thu 17-Oct-13 17:44:48

Just zoom round as quick as possible. 10 minutes for a weekly shop I reckon. Any kid should be able to manage 10 mins. The trick is to keep walking fast at all times - they're concentrating so much on keeping up/not losing you they don't have time to play up.

GetKnitted Thu 17-Oct-13 21:14:47

Several friends recently confided that they daren't take their child/ren shopping because they would just scream for toys. <hoiks judgey pants>

We may have exceptionally angelic children, or maybe we just got them into the habit of not getting a toy whenever they demanded it. Who knows?

mummyxtwo Thu 17-Oct-13 21:29:14

Like many other posters, I try to do my big supermarket shops online - usually Click and Collect rather than delivery, as I can choose when to fetch it rather than the Tesco man banging the door when I have just got the baby to sleep.

If I have to visit the supermarket, I try to have a concise list of exactly what I need and go straight from A to B to C without getting distracted by other produce. I tell ds1 (4.9yo) what item we are looking for next and tell him to shout when he sees it. He then gets it and puts it in the trolley for me, and I try to make it a bit of a game. Sometimes I have a crying baby and a grumpy small boy and I am at the end of my tether and so succumb and buy her a very small toy and him a magazine. That does the trick and enables me to get to the checkout.

Tyranasaurus Fri 18-Oct-13 06:58:37

Make it fun, and don't be in a hurry. Talk to your kid/engage them in the shopping. Avoid going if it's busy/you're fee;ing stressed.

Try and pick a friendly checkout person, you get the right one they'll chat away to your kid(s) whilst you get all your ags packed and payed for.

TiredDog Fri 18-Oct-13 07:21:14

I must be a terrible mother because my first 3 thoughts are

Online shop
Leave them at home
Be severe and cross with them all the way around...

I obviously need to read this thread

In the old days when I had younger children I used to give them a book or just take extra time, talking lots about the shop. Hated it.

So I refer you to my first 3 suggestions

ChocChaffinch Fri 18-Oct-13 10:11:11

when ds was 3 and thereabouts, the only way to get round was to let him pick a loose carrot (!) and he would munch it as we went round. He would imperiously point it at things (and people) as we trolleyed round. The upside was random old women praising his healthy eating habits.. at the checkout I'd pay for whatever was left ... but always did a big shop so didn't feel too guilty about a bit of missing carrot.

pussinwellyboots Fri 18-Oct-13 11:57:49

I try to avoid shopping with the kids (age 5 and 3) if possible, but that isn't always an option so I try to involve them in finding as much as possible, I usually make a couple of concessions that they can add to the shopping list -at the moment its a particular type of yoghurt - take a list and get round as quickly as possible. The till is the worst part but if in aldi i'll let them go and stand by the glass windows ahead of me and watch for trains.

HootyMcOwlface Fri 18-Oct-13 12:13:01

I'm really enjoying reading these tips as my boy is only 11 months so we've got this all to come. At the moment I can entertain him by getting him to hold something nonbreakable from the trolley. The crinklier the better. Bag of crisps is good.
My husband makes him laugh by spinning the trolley round when the aisle's empty. Also he likes to point out the hanging signs so we make a game of this. If I think he's sleepy when we arrive I leave him in his car seat (he's tiny) and he'll drop off.

Make sure that you have a child who enjoys shopping!!!! Dd1&2 hate it but ds enjoys it, he even enjoys clothes shopping. If your child doesn't enjoy it then I try to get them involved with writing lists and ticking them off, or bring a book to read. Make sure that they have eaten first otherwise they want everything they see.

ChunkyPickle Fri 18-Oct-13 14:11:43

My 3 year-old wields the zapper until he gets bored, then watches himself dance on the security monitors while I do the checkout (ever since the day he posted my credit card in the coupon slot he's not allowed to help with that bit)

He also picks the fruit/veg/bread/milk or anything on a low shelf (I have a baby in a front carrier, so can't bend down as easily as I used to).

If he's tired then I plonk him in the trolley on a shopping bag and hand him an ipad which keeps him quiet the whole way round.

telsa Fri 18-Oct-13 14:22:36

They have to be involved in the trip - so I send them off on a quest to find things first. They love that and it is pretty useful. (It must be said that I have no fears about them being abducted or getting lost - they are 5 and 8 and very responsible). Also I get them to help decide the meals and what to buy - so this is not just functional shopping. Also we play maths games. The odd promise of a treat at the end - a fruit bar or something - is also a great motivation to be well behaved.

woodchuck Fri 18-Oct-13 14:31:45

My dcs are older now, 8 and 10 so not as much of an issue to entertain them. DD likes to be helpful. DS likes to listen to his ipod and skulk ten paces behind us.

When they were a couple of years younger, I would give them shopping lists to 'find' their own items.I found this helped with their reading, and I would do pictures to help them with their lists when they were pre-school. Now they quite like using the self-scanner as we go around.

Overall, though, i prefer to shop online cos I put far less crap imn the trolley if they are not with me!

CheeryCherry Fri 18-Oct-13 14:54:14

When my dcs were little I would try keep the shopping fairly quick and pain free by not doing a huge shop in one go. When they fitted in the trolley I'd get them to point out the items as we saw them. As they got older they could choose the fruit ,tins etc and put it in the trolley. There was some flexibility for them to choose extra things. A treat at the end would be to choose a comic/magazine...which took almost as long as the shopping! Otherwise I try to do it all online for home delivery....and everyone helps to unpack it and put it away.

Babycarmen Fri 18-Oct-13 15:18:39

For my youngest who sits in the trolly we take snacks and an activity such as colouring in or a small toy, and for my eldest (5) we make her a special shopping list of things she has to find and when she has found them all she can choose a sweety. She also helps me pack. smile

ILoveAFullFridge Fri 18-Oct-13 16:16:38

Older dc: give them jobs to do, products to find, etc.
Younger-but-not-trolley-bound dc (the toughest age IMO): chat, ask questions, give them jobs as well if possible.
Trolley-bound-dc: chat, tickle, give something to hold/eat.

Bribery has its place, too, but should only be occasional otherwise it loses its effectiveness.

I give my children specific items on each isle to find and for them to tell me the cost of them. They love hunting out bargins or calculating if the deals are actually any good.

hytheliz Fri 18-Oct-13 19:14:08

My eldest is in charge of the shopping list to help choose products and my youngest puts things in the trolley. They both help load up at the checkout and help to pay by handing the cashier the money/cards.

BlastOff Fri 18-Oct-13 19:43:22

Mostly shop online. If I go to the supermarket with the two ds, then I'll usually get them sitting in the trolley seats and let them drop things in, talk to them non stop, and let them think they choose things. Shopping list with pictures works well but rarely have the time or organisation to do it, but might start with simple words now ds1 is learning to read.

And not above a bit of bribery or a new book. The Thomas the tank annual kept ds2 enthralled for the last shop.

I keep them both in the trolley (they're 1 and 3 years old)
I've started a new 'tradition' of looking out for the biscuits, and go to that isle last, before picking some out to eat in the car.
Then it's just lots of 'ooh, we have to put them on the belt' and 'ooh, we just need to pay for them' etc.

Then we all sit in the car in a p&C space and scoff the lot!

But this does mean DS spends the whole time whining for biscuits.

Other than that, I do it at night when they're in bed.

ladygoingGaga Fri 18-Oct-13 21:14:21

Another one for keeping the kids involved, I challenge my DS who is 7 to find me something in the aisle. I asked him for spring onions this week, after describing them he came back with leeks, it fitted my description!

I also involve him in choosing the menu for the week, so if we are having stir fry, he can choose some of the ingredients.

AndHarry Fri 18-Oct-13 21:21:15

Depending on how organised I am and what else we have planned on our food shop day, I quite often use the click & collect option for online shopping. No supermarket battles and no hanging around at home.

If we have to go to the supermarket, I make a list so we can whizz round. My two are still small enough to go in a double shopping trolley so that keeps them contained. I shop on a Tuesday afternoon so it's a quieter period. The older one gets to choose a packet of chocolate buttons or Magic Stars if he's been good all the way round. No hanging around or messing about browsing and job's a good'un.

rusmum Fri 18-Oct-13 23:02:48

Dd 1 pushed the trolly, dd 2 rides in it and is in charge of the shopping list. We visit the sweet aisle last!!!

aaaahyouidiot Sat 19-Oct-13 00:21:58

Crikey just do it online!

When I do have to take them I usually end up promising treats then threatening to withhold said treats.

I think nice checkout operators who speak to them really help. I also avoid aisles likely to cause stress, eg Seasonal aka plastic tat.

Generally we just don't do it though.

kateandme Sat 19-Oct-13 01:25:36

let them choose the fruit and veg and put in bag.
depending on age let send them on errands to get things.
if they are too young to be out of site its see when they spot the right isle and once there and in distance to be near its who can spot the right tin,packet etc.
promise them a snack of threre choice if they behave.if they choose something at the start tell them it goes back if they dnt behave.
Ask them to place things in the basket/trolley.
if they are really good they can pick the meal to cook and look out for ingredients.
keeop them involved.this also helkps when we get home fpr "healthy chpoice of veg"etc.
the freezer is usually at the end so tempt them with a frozen item at the end.
i still rememebr when we were young we got an iced bun at the bakery.
or outsdie our supermarket was a mcdonalds and she always bribed us!!

indyandlara Sat 19-Oct-13 14:16:34

We do a few things. I always have a list so DD (4) helps by checking I have remembered everything on the list. She also always has 1 or 2 things not on the list to remember to get. She also helps with all the picking off the shelves. The self scanners at Tesco are great and she loves using those. You just have to be careful that she hasn't scanned all sorts of random things which are in the shelves but not in your trolley- she likes to try to zap herself!

tanfastic Sat 19-Oct-13 18:53:27

I let my ds who is 5 push the trolley. Only when it's not too busy though.

On other occasions I have promised him one of those ridiculously expensive pieces of plastic tat that they normally sell...just to keep him sweet. Normally works.

My kids are older now but the youngest at 8 yrs still plays up if we don't keep her occupied. A promise of her choosing the pudding or a multipack of chocolate treats to share with her sisters normally does the trick, especially as she feels important that she gets to pick what dd2 and dd3 have to eat smile
When they were younger had two in trolley seat and one helping to push, croissants or bread used to do the trick with the eldest doling it out as we did the shop. (bought on the way in)

Dancealot Sat 19-Oct-13 21:26:22

My youngest (2.8) likes to sit in the trolley whilst we race down the aisles shouting brum brum. Obviously we only do this when the supermarket is quiet and we don't go too fast! Otherwise I keep them entertained with a continuous list of questions and requests- can you help find the bananas, what colour are the tomatoes etc.

DanglingChillis Sat 19-Oct-13 23:29:21

My top tip is to do the shopping in the evening after they've gone to bed.

VeryStressedMum Sat 19-Oct-13 23:36:00

The only way to keep dcs entertained whilst doing the supermarket shop is them watching the tv. At home. Whist doing the shopping on your own.

petalsandstars Sun 20-Oct-13 05:20:36

My DCs are too young to help yet so food is my coping technique giving rice cakes or flapjack etc on the way round.

Kipsy Sun 20-Oct-13 05:56:40

I do my grocery shopping online - bliss!

If I have forgotten some items or (horror) if I need to do a full shop with DC in tow, these are some things that have helped:

1. Feed/water them beforehand, plonk them in the trolley if they are tired
2. On no account let them push or steer a trolley. If they insist on carrying your basket, put in a 4pint milk bottle at the first opportunity so they give up. I know this seems cruel - but fatigue = bad temper.
3. Ask them to write out ingredients for a fav recipe, complete with checkboxes to tick. Put them in charge of finding and picking these items off the shelves. If you have younger DC, you could try writing their list with pics instead of words and the all important checkboxes.
4. Use self scan if possible and get them to scan each item.
5. Let them load items onto the checkout belt.
6. Let them buy a treat - to be eaten after checkout. This always works!

trice Sun 20-Oct-13 09:06:44

I make them do the shop from a list. We only get a few things from the supermarket so it doesn't take long.

Beccie77 Sun 20-Oct-13 12:57:33

My two are a little older and are made to play a more involved role. The younger is sent to fetch items from the list and is challenged to find the best bargain, 'is two for £1 cheaper?' The eldest is challenged on anything he tries to sneak into the trolley 'what sugar is in that cereal? Is that good for you? Which one of the ones you like has the least sugar?' We always leave that days tea for them to choose and supply as well.
'What do you need to buy if you want spaghetti meatballs?' And they are in charge of collecting those things (which invariably aren't on the list). They also have to choose brands, for example the list will say 'lunchbox biscuits' and they have to pick a pack, then they are looking for packets with at least 5 in, and if there's more they get to have the extra for lunch, again getting them to count and plan ahead.

I'm an advocate of bribery. Due to shift working the only chance we get to go to the supermarket is at the weekend when it's super busy.

I've found that a blind bag of moshi monsters will get me roughly 40 minutes of trolley filling wink

I am considering moving to online shopping though, although find that the price hits home a lot more when you can't see the pile of shopping and it makes me spend less.

babster Sun 20-Oct-13 15:51:00

When my kids were small, I would go to the supermarket armed with raisins and breadsticks to keep them busy. When they were a bit older, I'd give them jobs to do, fetching this and that. Now they are older, I merrily leave them at home and heave a huge sigh of relief!

skyeskyeskye Sun 20-Oct-13 16:21:01

I mainly do online shop rather than go with 5yo DD. but if I do take her shopping then I try to bribe her with a comic at the end if she is good.

I also get her involved, let her choose which yoghurts she can have , things like that and also ask her to help me find things in order to keep her interested.

It was so much easier when she could sit in the trolley!

asuwere Sun 20-Oct-13 17:09:17

online shopping makes life so much easier. If we do go to a supermarket, the kids know it's not for much and they get to look at toys so they are generally very well behaved. sometimes, if they've been very good round the shop, they may get a ride on one of those car/bus/plane things on the way out.

Aethelfleda Sun 20-Oct-13 19:11:52

Bribery! I either cheat and go while the older two are at school, or use the age-old trick of bribery. Usually with a pre-existing snack from Mummy's Magic Bag, but if not then I buy a bag of apples/multipack of something and open it shock before reaching the checkout to pay. It is worth it for the peace and relative quiet!

The only time I ever got properly cross in the supermarket was when junior was wailing and grumping because he didn't want to stay sitting in the trolley (he was tired) and a "sweet" middleaged lady told me in all seriousness that it was because I was ignoring him, and if I just played with him more, things would be MUCH better....(reader, I restrained myself. Just.)

MurderOfBanshees Sun 20-Oct-13 19:13:31

I'm lucky in that DS appears to love supermarkets (little weirdo), but if he is in a funny mood then just handing him the shopping list and pen keeps him entertained, or allowing him to carry some items. Keeping him busy seems to be key.

hawkeye21 Sun 20-Oct-13 21:33:07

Tried the inclusion techniques ('bananas next. Can you see where the bananas are?', etc). Now go for the avoidance technique and dash to the supermarket during my lunchbreak at work.

RedBushedT Sun 20-Oct-13 21:55:29

I involve my children in finding items and putting them in the trolley. I also do "time trial" shopping if we only have a few things to get. Before we walk into the shop we estimate how quickly we can do the shop.. Then we try to beat that time using the timer on my phone to check grin
It's a great way to stay focused as well, so we are so less likely to get distracted by stuff.

mrscog Sun 20-Oct-13 23:40:05

DS is 20 months. He is generally ok if I let him hold my hair (it's long) and then I occasionally let him hold things before they go in the trolley, that alongside a lot of chatter gets us through. I do also in quieter aisles spin the trolley around 360 and go ' wheeeee' which he loves. Does get a few 'looks' though!

mojojomo Mon 21-Oct-13 06:39:59

My toddler sites in the trolley. For a longer shop I'll have a picnic off various snacks available. He likes to weigh fruit and veg using the hanging scales. He'll hold the shopping list and tell me what we need (what he thinks we need, usually "more raisins!") He likes seeing other people especially babies. The highlight is if he's allowed to help with the self-scan till, put money in the machine then put the change in the guide dogs' collection dog.

lolancurly Mon 21-Oct-13 08:23:47

I get my daughter to help me collect items around the supermarket. Our local Co-op is small enough for her to know where everything is and not to get lost (she's 6). Of course, I can shop without her during the week, but this isn't always possible. It's also good for her to learn the value of food and to learn the difference between different products.

Patilla Mon 21-Oct-13 09:44:17

I have so many good ideas for handling this - from spotting letters/words on things or giving DS a pictorial list of things to find and tick off to role playing a spy mission to find the secret tin of tomatoes.

Do I use these?

No, I'm usually dealing with baby DD, I'm trying to remember the items on the list I left in the hallway at home and there is usually at least one dash across the length of the supermarket for the toilets (For DS not me!).

So I may want to be the mother handling two children whilst turning the food shopping into an educational experience, I'm more likely to be frazzled, harassed and dragging a four year old boy from the toy aisle while alternating wildly between hissed threats and desperate offers of treats for behaviour approaching socially acceptable coventions.

But then I never liked food shopping before DC so it's obviously genetic!

manfalou Mon 21-Oct-13 10:25:49

We usually agree a treat and talk about it as we go around the shop...its usually a bag of organix crisps. But where the eldest can reach things I also let him get things off the shelf and put them in the trolley.

However... I do mainly do my shopping online. So much more convenient and much easier to keep to the shopping list way from all the tempting offers.

WhyIRayLiotta Mon 21-Oct-13 10:38:46

My DD is 1 year 9 mths old - and to keep her occupied I have to bring a variety of things.... starting with something like an orange for her to munch on, graduating to something interactive - a toy / book / my keys and then moving on to a drink - juice with a straw... and finally (for when I am paying) a dummy.

She gets board quickly and I have to try and get round quick so I don't run out of things and have a grumpy girl. She would much rather run around than sit in the trolly - but its too hard to chase her and push a trolly - and its a danger as she scoots in front of people tripping them up etc.

Whole lot easier leaving her at home with DP... but thats not always possible.

OrganixAddict Mon 21-Oct-13 10:44:33

I can manage 1 or 2 dc easily - list checking, fetching items or doing the scanner.- they like to help. With all 3 is a bit trickier and I end up policing arguments over whose turn it is etc.
Trying to avoid bribing them to behave as they play up more to get the reward for stopping. Honestly, online or while older ones are at school is far easier.

whathappenedlastnight Mon 21-Oct-13 11:30:28

Supermarket bingo, we make a list of things such as;

An abandoned trolley
A child having a tantrum
A trolley with a wobbly wheel
etc

It is a much shorter game on the run up to Christmas though and we had a full house by isle 3 last year.

whathappenedlastnight Mon 21-Oct-13 11:33:29

*aisle 3 blush

Bubbles85 Mon 21-Oct-13 11:37:14

Oh definitely and taking them on the shop in the first place. But for when this isn't an option, taking a book for them to read seems to work quite well. As does involving them in some of the decision making over which packet to buy etc.

Elainey1609 Mon 21-Oct-13 16:00:46

I must admit mine are very good doing the shopping.
they normally have a little argument to start about who is to push trolley but they take it in turns so it is normally resolved quickly.
We have a shopping list my one then a liitle one for them with small things on like bananas and easy to recognise things so they can cross them off.
It seems to work however so does bribery...they get a pound to put in there money box if they behave to buy a toy with lol

NicNak71 Mon 21-Oct-13 22:53:24

We play "The first person to spot" game - a bit like eye spy only with specific products rather than just saying something beginning with. They also get to put the shopping into the trolley and choose their own juice, snacks etc. We always stop at the toys for a little while too and then once the shopping is done we go to the cafe for a drink and a bun.
It seems to work as we can usually go to the supermarket pretty stress free. The car park causes me more stress than my children!

BlackeyedSusan Mon 21-Oct-13 23:45:37

i go all joyce grenville "don't do that dear" blush at least it entertains the other shoppers!

ds gets to choose a cheap £1 toy to keep him amused if we have to do a big shop. sometimes he helps to choose things, sometimes to push the trolley, sometimes he sleeps in the bottom of the trolley sometimes he builds elaborate constructions around himself with the shopping. sometimes he is carried around the shop. we stop and let him do circuits around the pillars as well.

I try to be as quick as possible, stock up before the summer holidays and just top up but it is not always possible as I have my mums shopping to do too.

we will stop, hug (deep pressure) and rock sometimes to ease the stress for him. occasionally there is an asd meltdown, during which I become selectively deaf/blind and completely ignore the kicking and screaming happening under one arm and carry on as normal (as is possible one handed) sunglasses seem to cut down the glare.

we normally buy something small like a magazine or pcoket money toy that he knows he wont get if he is a pain, but then he is old enough to reason with! when he was younger he used to like to throw things into the trolley for me. it was never very organised but it kept him entertained.

IncaAztec Tue 22-Oct-13 20:19:34

What are your top tips for keeping your DCs entertained around the supermarket?

Mine is to have something specific for my toddler to shop for, this week a 'mini-mouse potty' is on the agenda. She looks for it in every shop we go into (i know which shop it is actually available in). Prevents boredom!

Do you promise a reward if they behave?

Most of the time, yes.

Or ask them to get involved in finding particular items?

As above!

Perhaps you take a book or toy for them to play with?

She would just throw a book or toy out of the trolley!

Or maybe you’re yet to master this and dread each trip to the supermarket?

I am dreading taking two, but I am sure we will crack it.

Is it possible to have a stress free trip to the supermarket?

No, online is the best way to shop!

BadlyWrittenPoem Tue 22-Oct-13 21:07:53

Currently I'm only physically capable of online shopping but what I usually do is involve them in the shopping. When very small this tends to be just talking to them and maybe giving them a suitable item to hold/play with while they sit in the trolley and then as they get older they are able to help get things off the shelf and find what we need. Or DD1's favourite thing is pushing the trolley although it can be a bit hazardous for other customers at times so I have to make sure I have strict rules about trolley pushing!

LonelyGoatherd Tue 22-Oct-13 21:11:05

We go to a supermarket with a cafe - huge treat and it also fuels the DC so they're not too hungry/tired to shop.
We keep it as short as possible (long list split in 2 - we each take one DC and one half of the list). The baby tends to be happy just looking around; the toddler demands JOBS and is entertained by putting things in the trolley and again onto the conveyor belt.

Just involve them 'can you see the oranges? Let's put them in the bag- we need three'
Etc etc

sealight123 Wed 23-Oct-13 10:45:29

Like most families, I keep my daughter occupied whilst shopping by letting her get involved. I let her choose foods for herself (in reason....she wouldn't be allowed 20 bags of sweets) like what fruits she would like and what 'special' tea she would like (it is usually lasagna haha). She also likes to count what's in the trolley and tell me what colour everything is smile

Scarlettsstars Wed 23-Oct-13 21:13:22

One word....
Ocado.

Life, and my fraying patience is too short otherwise

RedBushedT Thu 24-Oct-13 00:16:52

Dear me... just tried to watch the Shop Talk video. does the music have to be so loud? Struggled to hear the actual content!

KatieBMumsnet (MNHQ) Fri 25-Oct-13 12:10:24

Thanks for all your comments - we hope you enjoyed the first episode of Shop Talk.

The winner of the prize draw is...

MrsPnut

Congratulations, I'll PM you for your details.

MrsPnut Fri 25-Oct-13 12:22:56

Thank you, very surprised because I never win anything. I've replied to your PM and I shall start planning what I'm going to buy. I'm ripping out my kitchen today so could buy new stuff for that!

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