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NOW CLOSED Tell Pink Lady® what would have been on your bucket list of things to do before you’re 21 – a bottle of pink Taittinger champagne and flutes worth £100 to be won

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AngelieMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 08-Jul-13 14:19:50

As part of their 21st birthday celebration, we've been asked by Pink LadyŽ apples to find out what was on (or is on if you're still that side of 21) your bucket list of 'Things to do by the time you're 21'.

They say "Pink Lady® apples first arrived in the UK 21 years ago and we are celebrating in true Pink Lady® style! We're running an on-pack promotion where you can win one of 21 prizes that are on our birthday wish-list, including a trip to the Big Apple, a week in Tuscany and a jaunt on the Orient Express. Between turning 21, the traditional 'coming of age', and a wish-list packed full of adventures, it got us wondering what people did, or thought they would have done, by the time they hit this major milestone."

So, did/do you have a bucket list of things to do before your 21st birthday? Maybe you wanted to see the world or go on holiday with your friends? Did you aspire to go to university or start climbing that career ladder? Maybe you were determined to do a skydive, or get the piercing you'd always wanted? Or perhaps it was as simple as falling in love? Did you achieve any of them? Any epic fails?

Is there anything you wish you'd done before turning 21? If you could, what would you tell your younger self to do? What would you advise your DC's to do before they are 21?

Whatever you did or wish you had done, Pink Lady® would love to hear about it.

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Thanks and good luck,

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ouryve Mon 08-Jul-13 16:45:47

I didn't have a particular bucket list, but I do now wish I'd gone to more gigs, while I was a student and it was all on my doorstep. Of course, surviving on a student grant and being flat broke all the time is what got in the way of that.

themonsteratemyspacebar Mon 08-Jul-13 16:48:56

Live on your own
Carry on education if you can
Get a job
Enjoy being you
Say yes to every opportunity
Dance and laugh as much as possible
Go on holiday with your friends

Steffanoid Mon 08-Jul-13 16:49:16

I wanted to experience 'real life' I did it by going to uni, lived in a rough city, made some amazing friends, I wish I had enjoyed it more while it was happening, I did meet my dp there though smile

reggiebean Mon 08-Jul-13 16:54:43

My biggest goal was to visit all 50 states in the US before age 21, and I made it to 49 (Hawaii is the only one I've missed, and arguably, that's one of the better ones to go to!).

DoItTooJulia Mon 08-Jul-13 17:01:13

I wanted to get married to my then boyfriend....we managed it but we were 21, not before we were 21 IYSWIM! On my 21 st birthday we went to Marrakech for a Mini holiday and in Le Jardin Marjorelle decided this was our year! We're still married 11 years later, and always celebrate with champagne! If I'd have had a bucket list, I'd have done pretty well!

AtYourCervix Mon 08-Jul-13 17:14:00

I had a list of mountains, lakes, rivers, deserts and waterfalls I was going to see. Wonders of the world and special places.

I had A Plan. Things And Places To See Before I Am 21.

DD1 had other ideas though and decided to arrive 10 years early.

My Plan is still hovering away in the background. Only now it is Things And Places To See before I Am 51.

ChippyMinton Mon 08-Jul-13 17:33:37

Drive through Paris in a sports car with the warm wind in my hair. And I did smile

Travel, definitely travel!

I had my first at 20. I've never been out of the country. Unless you count a day trip to France when I was at school. I'm currently waiting until I have enough money to go somewhere. Dc 6 arrived 11weeks ago. This could be a long wait wink

gazzalw Mon 08-Jul-13 17:36:10

Do everything (legal) you get the opportunity to do - life is too short to put off until tomorrow what you could be enjoying today;

Live on your own;

Do something every week that challenges you - don't get stuck in a rut;

Learn to touch type - a sadly under appreciated skill which will carry you forth thro' life without too many typos!

Make the most of your opportunities for education....

Don't be hindered by other people's expectations of who you should be and what you should do.

Go to a ball and walk home bare footed.....(includes staying up all night)

Visiting the capital cities of Europe (or at least Paris, Rome, Madrid, Brussels and Berlin)

Mckayz Mon 08-Jul-13 17:46:07

I would have gone to more gigs, gone to uni, gone to a festival, travelled around.

DS1 arrived 1 month before my 21st. I don't regret him in the slightest but wished I had done more before he arrived.

Trills Mon 08-Jul-13 17:47:03

Remember that we only count years in 10s because of how many fingers we have smile

And learn how to open a bottle of champagne without being a wuss about it.

ClaimedByMe Mon 08-Jul-13 17:47:49

I didn't have a bucket list, I was just coasting along working in a shop, had met my, still, partner we were having fun nothing extravagant just loving life. We had a big party for my partners 21st and I am a year younger and wanted the same, that didn't happen I spent my 21st birthday on the maternity ward getting induced and had my daughter the next morning, not quite the 'knees up' I had hoped for!

I wish I had travelled more and possibly finished my education or went into further education so I have a career, I have loved being a stay at home mum but wish I now had something for me.

whattodoo Mon 08-Jul-13 17:51:26

I was going to join the navy and see the world.

But love came first and the navy never happened. Nor have I travelled much. I'd better get on with it!

I didn't have one but I imagine I was thinking along the lines of -
See The Jesus and Marychain live
Get a poem published
Take up am dram
Visit Maine

YoungBritishPissArtist Mon 08-Jul-13 17:58:00

I wanted to leave home and get a tattoo. I achieved both. grin

Is there anything you wish you'd done before turning 21?
I wish I'd been more spontaneous and had more adventures.

If you could, what would you tell your younger self to do?
Don't care so much about what other people think.

What would you advise your DC's to do before they are 21?
No DC, but my general advice would be to know how to look after yourself, cook a meal, wash your own clothes, manage money, etc.

CMOTDibbler Mon 08-Jul-13 18:08:51

I think the only important thing to do before you are 21 is to decide who you are. Not who your parents/family/friends/school think you are, but who you are, and what you want to do with your life. And generally, that means leaving home, finding somewhere to live and a way of bringing money in to fund the lifestyle you choose, and making your own mistakes.

coribells Mon 08-Jul-13 18:15:43

Get a job
Learn to drive
Have sex
travel somewhere on your own
Dance to till dawn
Learn to cook some basic meals
Learn budgeting skills
Do not drop out of education unless amazing job is offered

All the above are harder to achieve if hi haven't done them before your 21smile

nancerama Mon 08-Jul-13 18:35:45

A holiday to Disney in Florida was on my bucket list when I was 21.

As a small child, my grandparents holidayed there every year and sent me photos and postcards showing what a fabulous time they were having. It never occurred to them that I really, really wanted to go. hmm

I've still never been, but I'm determined to take DS there (and have banned the GPs from going without him).

Cherryoats Mon 08-Jul-13 18:54:08

I only had the ambition to leave home and go to uni. I did that but I did a useless degree. What I wish I had done, told myself and would tell my dcis to do a useful degree, have fun and travel

dahville Mon 08-Jul-13 19:04:22

Going on vacation by myself, getting a piercing, and living on my own were all milestones before I turned 21.

Ramblings Mon 08-Jul-13 19:04:30

I didn't have a bucket list at 21 but if I had have done I wanted to go to Vegas (I made it for my 30th). If I were to go back then I would tell myself to go to uni, make the most of my figure and do something amazing, like climb Everest or something equally tough whilst I was young enough and fit enough to do them!

In general I think that before you are 21 you should know yourself, have travelled a little bit and studied a lot. It's important to have an idea about the world and where you want to fit into it

HongkongDreamer Mon 08-Jul-13 19:09:37

Ive still to turn 21, 19 just now but would love to visit new york before I turn 21. Doesnt look likely though unless I win a competition or the lottery lol as im a student nurse.

EstelleGetty Mon 08-Jul-13 19:24:26

Learn to relax a bit more!
Do not take up smoking.
Spend more time with grandparents.
Get a flippin' Young Person's Railcard and use it!

Other than that, I would say travel more but then I did travel a lot as a young 'un and my life is so much richer for it.

FattyMcChubster Mon 08-Jul-13 19:27:52

Travel
Become famous
Become rich
Have a high powered job

Oh how times and ideas have changed!

I didn't/don't have a bucket list for any particular age, just things I aim to do.
I've done a sky dive, been white water rafting, travelled independently, run a marathon and started a family. The only thing I wish I hadn't waited so long for is to start a family, but that's not really a 'bucket list' ambition. It's something you do when the time is right.
With the benefit of hindsight, I'd make a list of countries I wanted to visit 'before I settled down'.
For things to do by 21, I'd suggest:
Go to x number of live gigs
See a top comedian live.
Go to a festival
Camp in the wild
Skydive/bungee jump/whitewater raft
Run a 10k/whatever distance.
Cook for a dinner party
Eat in a fancy restaurant

Leanna1984 Mon 08-Jul-13 20:08:16

See the world
Volunteer in a wildlife reserve in Africa
Be confident and happy with who I am
Swim with dolphins
Save a deposit for a house

Bit of a long shot weren't they !

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Mon 08-Jul-13 20:15:04

to remember that life is short so don't put off things until you are older, thinner, richer, get that job, finish that job etc. so go to anywhere you want to go and don't think you need a partner to be happy, make yourself happy or my favourite saying that I wish had ruled my life when I was young... 'don't look for the light at the end of the tunnel... stomp along it and turn the fucker thing on yourself'. <thank you Sarah Millican>

ChocChaffinch Mon 08-Jul-13 20:15:29

Go shopping in New York
drive on route 66
do an army assault course
get a tattoo
Fall in Love

have done some of these. Haven't made it to America yet..
I add them as I go - I'm absurdly proud that I've

stroked a zebra
ridden a racehorse

skyeskyeskye Mon 08-Jul-13 20:18:10

I was very shy when I was a teenager and I wish I had had the confidence to do more things, like go to college, or uni, or move out of home

Wonderstuff Mon 08-Jul-13 20:42:08

Gosh 21 is so young. I wish I had taken more risks, grabbed more chances, at uni I studied and socialised, wish I'd joined more groups, done more work experience, realised that I didn't need to settle down. I was engaged at 21, married at 22. Wish I'd slowed down, lived on my own for a little longer. I now have a lovely family, and have been married 12 years, so it's all good, but I wonder...

I did go to uni, travel across Europe with college friends and to Morocco with uni, go to Glastonbury, leave home, go on a protest march, some excellent clubs, see amazing live music, spend a summer lazing around, have several jobs, make some fantastic friends.

I wish I could tell my younger self to follow my own path not someone elses.

My DS is 8 and on his list is "visit every country in the world". I admire his enthusiasm! grin I am rather past 21 but would love to visit more countries too, take in some festivals, pass my driving test, and maybe (gulp) meet someone new and amazing. A girl can dream! smile

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RachelHRD Mon 08-Jul-13 21:08:52

Gosh, looking back 21 does seem so young now I'm 43!!

I was at Uni at 21, living it up and having a great time, so I wouldn't change that. I'd taken a year out and worked for my Dad which was good experience but I think I'd have got so much from travelling for that year as many of my friends did. I always thought I'd do the travelling at a later date, but never got around to it. Guess I'll have to save it for when I'm retired and the kids are grown up!!

21 is just the beginning so I would advise others not to try and cram too much in before it - there's plenty of time to do it all, so take your time and enjoy it smile

Kormachameleon Mon 08-Jul-13 21:10:27

I had big aspirations for 21

When I was 17 I wanted to have married a millionaire or footballer blush by the time I was 21. I wanted a wag lifestyle with all the trimmings, nothing else I really wanted to do

By 19 ;
I wanted to buy a house
Be promoted in my job
Pass my driving test and buy a car
Be a self sufficient, successful career woman
Be as far away from footballers and millionaires as I could lol

By 21 ;
I had bought a house
Couldn't drive
Lost my job due to illness
Was pregnant and living with a non millionaire

So all in all, some successes, some failures. That's life

YeahBuddy Mon 08-Jul-13 21:16:30

I wish wish wish I had done more, taken more risks and enjoyed life a little more, lived rather than just existed before I had the responsibilities of a house and small children.

maybe I can do all the things I wanted to do before I have my second 21st (at 42) wink

Theimpossiblegirl Mon 08-Jul-13 21:17:14

Travel as much as you can. Take opportunities to do once in a life time things as they probably won't come again. Don't wait for things to happen for you- make them happen! Party. Have fun. But be safe.
smile

HelgaHufflepuff Mon 08-Jul-13 21:17:57

I didn't have a "Things to do before you're 21" list, but think it's a great idea! might have to apply the idea and tweak the age a bit for my next <cough> big birthday grin
Things I'd have put on my list would be to go to concerts. Any big and loud concerts unsuitable for small kids.
Go to a festival. Can imagine it'd be a lot more tolerable in the mud and tents with mates and beer instead of small children.
Travel.

Nerfmother Mon 08-Jul-13 21:19:06

Before 21? I feel sorry for teenagers now! Stay at school til 18 as you have to, go to uni and rack up debt, try to save for a house, and a pension, and maybe squeeze in an orange Wednesday!

HotCrossPun Mon 08-Jul-13 21:25:26

I really, desperately wanted to fall in love and have a family. I had a bit of an unsettled upbringing and I longed to put down roots in that way.

I didn't quite manage it by 21 grin

But now I have a lovely DP and my first baby on the way so it's nearly crossed off the list!

aristocat Mon 08-Jul-13 21:38:22

I didn't have a bucket list but definitely had things that I wanted to do! This involved having a successful career and I can remember not being very interested in children/babies.
Myself and DH were enjoying life and going on holiday/working hard .... I really had not given much thought to starting a family until my parents passed away.
I now have 2 DCs and am a SAHM (which I enjoy so much)

Is there anything you wish you'd done before turning 21? If you could, what would you tell your younger self to do? What would you advise your DC's to do before they are 21?
Enjoy yourself and understand that sometimes we have to change smile
I often wish my parents would have been here to see my DCs.

Have sex!
Travel anywhere you can.
Wish I'd worked out back then that I was totally gluten intolerant.

ratbagcatbag Mon 08-Jul-13 21:48:35

Mine was to have my own house (mortgaged, but mine) I did it at 20 years and 7 months. Just got it in. Only 15 years to go which is great at 30.

I wanted to travel, but never happened. One thing I'd class as an epic fail, living beyond my means, took me ages to get out of stupid debt I'd ran up going out any buying stuff for stuffs sake.

I'd say travel, experience different cultures, be happy with yourself. smile

manfalou Mon 08-Jul-13 21:53:14

Get an Education
Traval as much as possible
Meet the man of my dreams!
Party Party Party

... went on Safari when I was 20, met my partner at 16 and then had a baby when I was 21! Now 23 and don't regret anything! Didn't Party hardly at all but I'll make up for that in later years ;)

missorinoco Mon 08-Jul-13 21:56:50

I didn't have a list. I achieved what I wanted - went to university, but that sounds very dreary.

What would I recommend - try to cherish what is unique about yourself rather than castigating yourself for not fitting in with the crowd.

IceNoSlice Mon 08-Jul-13 22:21:35

I achieved what I wanted to at 21: uni, worked abroad in vacations, partied hard, got a tattoo, travelled on my own...

But I was insecure and never thought I was pretty/thin/funny enough. So some of these experiences were not as brilliant as they should have been. Advice for a young me/ my DCs:
- if a 'friend' makes you feel bad or worthless, they are not a friend. Move on. It is easier to make new friends at this stage than any other.
- you are thin enough.
- you will look back at photos and think how pretty you were. Realise this now instead!
- don't be afraid to admit a mistake and change your mind. Don't waste time on the wrong degree/job/boyfriend if deep down you know it's wrong.

One other thing... Life doesn't stop at 21, it has barely begun. If you haven't travelled to all the countries you wanted to, there is plenty of time. I travelled at 18, 21 and 29 and had the best time at 29. Wiser, more mature and able to appreciate it all more (and less hungover).

sharond101 Mon 08-Jul-13 22:22:29

travel and have more boyfriends (i married my first boyfriend!)

earlymidlifecrisis Mon 08-Jul-13 22:25:36

Not a typical Bucket List entry, but I wish I'd had more confidence in myself and followed my dreams. I got there eventually... but I took the long (although very scenic!) route.

Punkatheart Mon 08-Jul-13 22:41:15

I wanted simply to have adventures and yes, fall in love. So I became an anarchist - did some crazy and dangerous things, then met an older man - a journalist. I would advise my own daughter to be more sensible, not drop out of university as I did, to let her head rule her decisions.

trice Mon 08-Jul-13 22:44:59

I wanted to make new friends, see new places, become independent.

I met the love of my life and set up home before my 21st birthday. Best decision I ever made.

halestone Mon 08-Jul-13 23:06:41

Go on a girly holiday Abroad.
Go to college
Travel by myself somewhere
Go in a hot air balloon
Swim with Dolphins
Pass my driving test and get a car

I managed 3 out of the 5 and am still waiting to travel by myself (highly unlikely now DD is here. And i would still love to go in a hot air balloon but DP won't take me up on my hints.

CheeryCherry Mon 08-Jul-13 23:37:53

Save like mad and then travel...which I did...a year long round the world trip at 23. Still have a few places on my bucket list, but for retirement age!

I had a very short list pre-21.

Go to Japan.

Always have ridiculous looking hair.

Start your own Business.

Date lots of silly boys.

I completed all of them successfully and look back on it fondly. I hope DD has a fun list too.

hermancakedestroyer Tue 09-Jul-13 08:35:29

Be happy - seize every opportunity that comes your way - do everything you want to do and not what everyone else wants you to do - learn how to open champagne properley so that you can take over in that 'no-one knows how to open it' moment at a party - eat an oyster - travel if you can - do something for charity - make good friends - enjoy yourself wine

I had a list, I wrote it when I was 14/15 and it was full of very shallow things, such as be on first name terms with someone famous, go on tour with a famous band, go out with the local heartthrob. I found the list when I was 18, realised I'd done everything on it, and it left me feeling rudderless for a while. What do you do when you've achieved everything you want?

Of course, as I got older I had new and more fulfilling items on my "list of things to do with my life".

To be honest, I think most of the pre-21 "things to do" will be shallow, because at that young age most of us are lucky enough not to have the pressures and responsibility of real life.

I will tell my daughter to go out, to be brave and to be kind to other people. I will also tell her the same thing my parents told me: "Wherever you are in the world, if you're in trouble, let us know and we will come and get you." Of course, that statement might not be one they could live up to (not that I knew at the time), but it gave me the courage and support I needed to go out and have a good time. None of which did me any good in the long run, but I don't regret the choices that I made at that age.

Labootin Tue 09-Jul-13 09:12:06

Bucket lists are for squares who think they need a checklist to prove they've lived.

TBH the only thing you should be doing before 21 is enjoying yourself.

You hopefully have your health, your looks (yy. I'm shallow) and think you're invincible.

Do what you want, but don't be defined by a list of what you should be doing

(At 20 iirc I was stoned in Goa)

MrsHoarder Tue 09-Jul-13 09:18:07

Go to university to study maths
Do a season skiing/repping
Be on a ski team
Snog crush

3 out of 4 is pretty good really.

Kveta Tue 09-Jul-13 09:18:08

I didn't really have a bucket list - I was quite focused on uni, and actually turned 21 whilst on a uni work placement year abroad - met DH there too (before he was DH, obviously!).

I think the only thing, in retrospect, that I wish I had done before I hit 21, was to have counselling to deal with my mental health issues (was sexually assaulted by a boyfriend as a teenager, and it messed me up royally!!) - would have made the rest of my 20s a lot easier if I had dealt with that earlier. But otherwise, I managed to get onto a degree course that interested me, got to travel, got to live abroad, made many lovely friends, and met the man who would be my husband (and father of our 2 children) all before 21 - not bad really!

I hope my DC have some ambition to do something before they hit 21 - but the only things I will be nagging them to do will be learning to drive, and completing their schooling! Everything else will be up to them!

Bluecarrot Tue 09-Jul-13 09:19:35

Travel - I was signed up to do a charity bike hike through India the summer I turned 18, a trek in Cambodia the following year and was going to work in an orphanage in Romania for 6 months ( helping build /decorate and move the kids in) in between the other trips. Dd came as a surprise - i was 3 months pregnant on my 18th birthday - so had to pull out of all of them!

Last year I did manage to do an amazing charity trip- just 9 years later than originally planned though! I will def do more in the future.

Hey, I still FEEL 21 ;)

I don't think bucket lists were a thing before I was 21 - you just lived your life.

I went to India and university, plus various camping trips with friends in the UK and Europe, but it was just because the chances arose - no long term planning!

ShatnersBassoon Tue 09-Jul-13 10:39:51

I can't remember having any particular ambition before I was 21. I didn't have any hopes or dreams, just wanted to plod along enjoying everyday things.

Having said that, I did travel on my own, went to plenty of gigs, had a girly holiday, drove my own car, lived with my boyfriend and did various other of the things on a lot of the lists above before I was 21, so I don't think lacking ambition held me back grin

Livvylongpants Tue 09-Jul-13 10:40:12

If I could re-write my list I would:

sleep lots whilst its acceptable to be lazy
care less about other peoples opinions of you
study hard and you'll never have to study again
listened to my parents more they really did know best
be spontaneous

carriedaway Tue 09-Jul-13 11:10:38

Mine was to go to Glastonbury and luckily I had gone twice by then. I remember the time from 6th form to the end of Uni as one of great freedom and possibility, where getting enjoyment from going to gigs, travelling around and spending hours and hours laughing with fab friends was the norm. I look back so fondly on that time and hope my children get to experience that before a life of responsibilities take over.
Ps pink ladies are the only apples my dh will eat!

aftereight Tue 09-Jul-13 11:18:45

To live alone (tick)
To be financially independent (tick)
To travel round India (tick)
To have a career plan (didn't happen!)

OscarandLulu Tue 09-Jul-13 11:23:45

Travel the world, go to university, fall in love - once, be brilliant at something ( took me a while to accept that that comes at a price and actually we're all on a spectrum of averages with only a few exceptions! ) ... X

WildThongsHeartString Tue 09-Jul-13 12:22:46

When I was 20 all I wanted to do was settle down, marraige, children etc.

So - engaged at 21, ,married at 23, divorced at 25 - epic fail I would say.(no children then)

Looking back I should have broadened my horizons, travelled, met people. if I could turn the clock back I would do things diferently - but you know what they say about the benefits of hindsight!

ProfYaffle Tue 09-Jul-13 12:36:18

Mine's a bit of a reverse bucket list I guess. Throughout school I was told I was University material (in the days when it was unusual for a working class kid to go to Uni) and felt heavily pressurised to go and ended up making a poor choice of degree.

Looking back, it wasn't right for me to go aged 18. I wish I'd taken a few years out, worked, found out what I wanted to do and then decided on a degree when I was 21 and gone back as a mature student. I think I'd have got more out of the experience when I was slightly older and more confident.

I'll be telling my dc there's no one 'right' way to go about educating yourself, they'll have the space to make their own decisions.

bongobrady Tue 09-Jul-13 13:03:16

Stay Single
Work in Ibiza
Learn a language
Volunteer for as many UK festivals as possible
Don't Worry about the future it all comes right in the end
Enjoy being turned down to buy alcohol/cigarettes it means your face isn't drooping!
Don't rush to do everything or you'll have nothing left to do by the time your 40....I'm still waiting to get my tattoo ;-)

bongobrady Tue 09-Jul-13 13:04:58

hello
Stay Single
Work in Ibiza
Learn a language
Volunteer for as many UK festivals as possible
Don't Worry about the future it all comes right in the end
Enjoy being turned down to buy alcohol/cigarettes it means your face isn't drooping!
Don't rush to do everything or you'll have nothing left to do by the time your 40....I'm still waiting to get my tattoo ;-)

I knew I was an independent young woman when I bought myself a Honda 90, and set off not knowing where I was headed. I caught a ferry out to a remote island off the coast of Ireland, and as I leaned over the railings with the evening wind in my hair, the sunset golden on the sea, it occurred to me that no-one knew where I was. I had arrived.

nenevomito Tue 09-Jul-13 13:27:16

I wish I'd saved and travelled the globe a bit before I dropped into the world of work. Back packing in Thailand would have been amazing.

Other than that, it should have been "not to be a goth" because there isn't a photo of me between the ages of 17 and 21 (when I started work) that I don't look like an utter vampiric twit.

It would be nice to have a least once decent photo.

flamingtoaster Tue 09-Jul-13 13:29:22

I didn't have a list of things to do by 21. Things I wish I had done - gone to University but financially I couldn't do it. (I did make up for it with the OU later though).

I wanted to see the world and I wanted to come live in London which I had fallen in love with as a young teenager. Still lots and lots of the world to see but I've made a bit of a dent and lived 9 years in London. Of course those dreams have massively changed since then!

DeepPurple Tue 09-Jul-13 14:37:48

I wished I had lived alone. Even if just for a few months. Instead I left home to live with DH!

I wish I had said yes to more invitations and just generally gone out more.

I really should have appreciated my figure more!

GeekInThePink Tue 09-Jul-13 14:48:44

Live on your own
Travel
Sleep more- you won't get much sleep in years to come
Enjoy. Every. Minute
Go on girls holidays
Go to festivals
Don't be afraid to try and live your dream
Say YES
Eat more, your skinny thing-now is your chance!

I wish I had lived on my own for a while before I was 21 so I had time to enjoy my space and my own company and get to know who I was as a person before having children at 22.

firawla Tue 09-Jul-13 15:58:37

I wanted to get married and have kids, which I did by 21. I think I would tell my younger self to travel more

mindingalongtime Tue 09-Jul-13 16:25:07

21, gosh that is a long time ago! I just wish that I had learned to save and not spend all I earned, and it was a lot too!

chrismse Tue 09-Jul-13 19:08:50

I wanted to live in London, managed to do this when I was 18 by working and living in a large hotel. Hated the hotel work but loved London. smile

Nigglenaggle Tue 09-Jul-13 20:28:37

I never had a list, but what I wish I'd done was experiment more with my appearance - dyed my hair purple, pierced my eyebrows, dressed like a goth - as its much harder now I have a grown up sensible job!

Babycarmen Tue 09-Jul-13 20:48:02

Travel
Decide on a career
get a piercing/tattoo
take a holiday with mates!

A few weeks after I turned 21 I finally shook off the terrible EA boyfriend that robbed me of my teenage years.

If I could say anything to a 21 year old me I would have told her your life has only just started. And it'll be alright.
And you are the most gorgeous you'll ever be. Just enjoy it!

HairyPoppins Tue 09-Jul-13 22:27:57

I wanted to live in a foreign country before I turned 21. Turns out I couldn't afford a gap year, but I moved to Paris to study French the day after I turned 21, and this turned into a job in NY within a year.

If anything I was too focused on what everyone else expected of me and not enough on what I wanted to do, and I'd advise the 21 year old me to be more confident in making her own decisions. And learn to network, it's basically being friendly to people and being in touch with them about work stuff and might have led to a really really really good job.

Howstricks Tue 09-Jul-13 22:31:56

Travel the world staring meaningfully into beautiful sunsets whilst looking gorgeously tragic. (What a muppet!)

Mines was....

Learn to drive.
Spend Christmas in New York.
Do a summer holiday abroad with just the girls.

Didnt do it by 21 or 31... Am still hopeful for 41 smile

The only one of these I'll encourage the DC to do is learn to drive, the rest they can decide for themselves.

eteo Tue 09-Jul-13 23:26:56

i always want to have a boyfriend before im 21. i didnt had one till 22. not good at all.

I wanted to go to university as far away from home as possible, so that I could be independent. I achieved this, by moving to a big city 300 miles away and loved every minute.

CalamityJ Wed 10-Jul-13 04:09:55

Leave home and go to uni so I didn't have to work in the crappy dead end jobs I'd been doing in my home town

Travel more but funds always got in the way.

See my football team play in Europe - tick, it happened!

Puppypoppet Wed 10-Jul-13 10:22:44

No I didn't have a bucket list of things to do before my 21st birthday. At the time I just wanted to party and travel. I just wanted to progress at work and earn more money which would lead to more partying and travel. I was not so bothered about live bands at the time I was more into house music / raves / clubbing.

I wish I had gone to uni just for the experience don't think it would have made any difference to my career though. I would tell my younger self to enjoy being slim - I was a size 8-10 at the time but used to live in baggy jeans and t shirts (well it was the early 90s). I would advise my DC to firstly ensure they are happy and do whatever job / study they want to - just follow their dreams really!

BlackeyedSusan Wed 10-Jul-13 10:35:47

go to university
live away from parents
travel abroad (other than a party destination) eg to see a significant landmarks or places of historical interest. berlin was particularly interesting.
learn to drive, change a wheel and basic car maintenance
go to a beach and have a sunset picnic.
do at least one of the following: windsurf/surf/waterski/whitewater rafting/kayaking in beautiful scenery/sailing/diving. i particularly recommend kayaking on the sea. fabulous.

snowymum12 Wed 10-Jul-13 12:04:28

I would definitely have worried less about the future and have been more open to embracing every opportunity presented to me. Definitely should have travelled more, a missed trip to Australia and on a tall ship really saddens me especially.

lottiegarbanzo Wed 10-Jul-13 13:18:32

Well, being pedantic, a 'bucket list' for things to do by 21 suggests you think you're going to die at 21. A list of things you dream of achieving by 21 can relate to the time that follows; steps on a path, or things you know you might not have time, or the inclination for, later.

I took going to university pretty much for granted but it was certainly important, in anticipation and retrospect.

I think I wanted to have fallen in love, read quantities of great literature and discovered what I wanted from life.

I do think that reading, travel, learning languages and seeking and seizing opportunities for new experiences are massively valuable, so much easier to do when young and have time and easy social acceptance doing things that mostly other young people do. That relates more to the 18-25 or 28 or 30 stretch than pre-21 though.

So, I think getting to know yourself is the really important one for that age. Listen to yourself and learn. Get an idea of what you want from life. Pursue that single-mindedly but allow yourself to try new, surprising and stretching things too. Don't be scared to change your mind, on your own terms. Do not dither about allowing yourself to be blown in the wind of other people's desires.

Blatherskite Wed 10-Jul-13 13:23:53

Do more travelling/partying/experiences before you are married and have kids and it's harder.

I wish I'd gone backpacking and gone to more gigs and made more of being young, skinny and free before I wasn't anymore

noo1985 Wed 10-Jul-13 13:35:01

I have to say I never saw it as any time to have completed things by! I would say it is a lot more achievable to think of things you want to achieve by 30 which I am rapidly approaching.

If I had to think of things now I wished I had achieved by the time I turned 21 they would have been to complete or being in the process of completing a degree, to have lived by myself, be in happy relationship!

justtired Wed 10-Jul-13 14:21:38

travel somewhere exotic
live on my own and feel in charge of my own life
finish uni
have lots of fun being single and carefree before settling down.

managed a couple of them :-)

Mouseface Wed 10-Jul-13 14:58:46

I didn't really have a Bucket List as such, I wanted my boyfriend to ask me to marry him on my 21st, which he did, and I wanted to get my own place, which I did. I dumped him a few weeks later, after finding out he was cheating on me. B@st@rd!

Is there anything you wish you'd done before turning 21? - Travelled to Australia with my best friend.

If you could, what would you tell your younger self to do? - Say NO to the boyfriend when he asks you to marry him! And don't get that tattoo on your arm, put it somewhere hidden if you have to have it, even though you designed it yourself and it's not horrid, it'll look dreadful when you are 60+ with wrinkled arms and no longer clubbing!

What would you advise your DC's to do before they are 21? - Live their lives to the fullest, the way that THEY want to (unless they are still living under my roof grin), remember life's precious, it's wonderful and it can be the most amazing gift ever, carve your way carefully. smile

Wheresthecoffee Wed 10-Jul-13 15:15:27

I didn't have a list as such, if I had it would have been along these lines..
Travel further
Party more
Learn to drive

smile

lottiegarbanzo Wed 10-Jul-13 15:28:39

Argh, I needed a comma after 'about' in my last sentence. So, make the effort to learn punctuation, grammar and syntax. You then have it for life.

Before 21 bucket list successes were:
Go to uni
Get a tattoo
Get a piercing
Do a skydive
Things I didn't do but were on the list:
Travel
Be in a loving relationship

What I wish i could tell my younger self:
Save a bit (less clothes and nights out)
Do your travelling
Stay away from bad boys

I hope that my DCs will be able to live independently, travel, and find a measure of happiness in themselves by the time that they are 21.

alreadytaken Wed 10-Jul-13 20:44:48

I have never had a bucket list, hadn't even heard the phrase before 21. What I badly wanted to do was

live away from home
go to university
fall in love

and I did them all. After that I was keen to have a home of my own and even if it took a long time to own more than the front door I managed that too. I wish I'd learnt to drive before I was 21 as it would have been easier than learning later in life.

My DC has far more ambitious aims than I had. They have already

travelled to several countries, including America
been on holiday with friends
learnt to drive,
abseiled
stayed up all night
learnt to play an instrument

Their current ambitions are to ride in a hot air balloon, stay in America for several months, go to medical school and visit every continent (may take a bit longer than 21). I tell them that the friends they make at university will probably be friends for life so look beyond the people you live with.

WhyIRayLiotta Wed 10-Jul-13 21:15:12

I didn't really have a list. But I remember being about 14/15 and dreaming of going to festivals. And promising myself that as soon as I was 18 I would go to Glastonbury. I never did. So I regret that. Now I'm too old / have a baby so I don't think I'll ever do the whole festival thing.

As for advice - I would say travel. I never took a gap year / or any long term travelling. And that also seems unlikely now.

I also really wanted to go to a proper fancy black tie ball. I remember seeing my cousins when they were leaving. The handsome man in the tux (EVERY man looks handsome in a tux) and the roses and beautiful gowns. It looked so glamourous and grown up. I did get to go to a few balls and always loved the preparations.

Oh and I also REALLY wanted to get a tatoo! I never did and I'm really glad! As that butterfly / dolphin / flower would probably look daft now!

chocolatebuttiiins Wed 10-Jul-13 21:45:25

Wear a mini skirt all through the summer. Or several different mini skirts. Or shorts*. Or a mini-dress. Because when you are older and it is no longer appropriate you will wish you had because you really did have the legs for it.

*Not ones that show half the cheeks of your arse as I saw in town the other day. Just enough to show your slim, shapely, none saggy-kneed legs.

MustTidyUpMustTidyUp Wed 10-Jul-13 21:52:01

Am racking my brains to think of anything I wanted to do before I was 21. I was so short sighted I was just interested in what was happening that weekend. grin. Looking back I should have done some travelling before I settled into a career then had a family. But I'm not sorry that I did what I did - I was lucky to be supported through university etc. my parents have always been fantastic.
I'm not sure i would advise my DCs on what to do before they are 21 - other than the usual get your education etc. it's more what I want them to be; happy, healthy, respectful, confident, kind.

SirBoobAlot Wed 10-Jul-13 22:32:16

I turned 22 in May.

I wanted to travel, and I went to Australia at 16 with a youth organisation to perform, which was amazing smile I didn't do as much travelling as I would have wanted because I developed CFS six months later, but this was a once in a life time opportunity.

I also performed for various dignities, including swinging swords (possibly just outed myself there...) on the Captain's Bridge of HMS Warrior, for Prince Michael. Performed standing directly in front of Prince Andrew. So that is ''Do something special'' ticked off the list! That was before 17.

I wanted to meet some inspiring people. I met, and spoke to for a good half hour, Dame Vera Lynn, who was by far one of the most amazing individuals I have ever met. As well as her, I got to know the French paratrooper veterans, who were so utterly lovely, I can't put into words how wonderful they were. And sometimes on down days, I remember laughing with them all as they were sneaking us boiled sweets behind standards in the rain, and that makes me smile.

I wanted to perform on a big stage. I performed on two before 17, both singing and dancing.

I wanted to find some meaning in my life... And that came in the unexpected form of DS. 'Having a baby' certainly wasn't on my bucket list, but I'm glad it found it's way there. He arrived at 18.

I wanted to help people... And so after having DS I then trained as a peer supporter at 19. I know it helps people, because they tell me.

When I became ill, all my priorities changed. I then was desperate to prove that I would be able to achieve something, and to feel like I would be able to again one day. Life still isn't perfect, but before turning 21, I found out I could still learn things, I could run a shop single handed when covering for my friend, I could handle the admin for said shop, I could cope as a single parent, I could start new friendships and relationships, and I started writing again. All this after being completely bed bound, and staying awake for maybe one hour in twenty four.

So I didn't do everything, but managed a fair amount actually, reading that back smile

SamsGoldilocks Wed 10-Jul-13 22:41:29

Travel, travel, travel. I had list as long as my arm of places to go, still do really. Don't see a lack of funds as an inhibiting factor.

I wish I'd realised what a beautiful body I had, and had the confidence to wear what I wanted. So I would say be confident in who you are and learn to like yourself to anyone under 21.

MmeLindor Wed 10-Jul-13 22:55:42

Find a job that you really love and do it well.

Took a bit longer than my 21st birthday, but I managed it before my 40th!

westcoastnortherner Wed 10-Jul-13 23:09:51

To feel beautiful in the body you have

ThePeppermintHippo Thu 11-Jul-13 03:46:01

The things most important to me that I wanted to do at that age were move out and go to university (which I did when I was 18) and enjoy my life doing that. i had loads of bands I wanted to see live on my "bucket list". Also live abroad, which I did when I was 20.

Hazelbrowneyes Thu 11-Jul-13 10:25:58

Buy a decent car and I achieved this on my 21st birthday when I picked up my beautiful Audi A3 grin I loved that car.

I think my main priority was to have fun and I managed to do that and so much more.

Fun things I wanted to do before I was 21:

Travel to Hong Kong to fly into the old airport
Work in the city
Buy a fun car

Achieved 2 out of 3!

Things I wish I had done before I was 21:

A lot more growing up, it would have saved a lot of wasted time and pain.

I'd have loved to go on a girlie holiday with friends when in my late teens - but I was already a parent by then so it wasn't possible. I didn't go in a plane until I was thirty!

beeelaine Thu 11-Jul-13 10:51:44

oooh well im a little over 21 but here is my bucket list

see Lee Evans live (done)
see the Northern Lights
Visit Fiji
hire a Harley for the week if i dont win the lottery
Swim with Dolphins
Learn to Ride a motorbike (done)
visit Sigiriya in Sri Lanka (only because it was on Duran Durans Save a Prayer Video) - Done! :-)

Lent1l Thu 11-Jul-13 10:53:09

Things I did and don't regret:-
Had a job (part time on Saturdays) - by earning my own money I was allowed to spend it on what I liked!
Moved away to university - independence is a good thing
Studied Abroad - scary but such an adventure
Fell in love, and out again
Learnt to drive
Saw in the dawn having spent all night talking

What I would tell my dc is to enjoy life, regret the things you've done not those you haven't, make the most of every opportunity and chance that comes your way. And if everything goes wrong or you need a break from it all home is always there waiting for you.

melrose Thu 11-Jul-13 11:55:33

Live I my own
Have sex!

helcrai Thu 11-Jul-13 12:03:32

Leave my dead-end job & go to uni
Find the love of my life
Go abroad as many times as possible

Happy to say I managed them all!

majjsu Thu 11-Jul-13 12:26:32

Laugh, love, live life to the full, explore, grab every opportunity, travel, have as much fun as possible and be happy.

I would say go out there and experience life the best you can. My motto has always been have no regrets!

Isthiscorrect Thu 11-Jul-13 14:15:56

Gosh so many things but what I did,
concerts and festivals,
go out with someone famous blush
travel - Europe and the US
fall in love (and out again),
stay up all night and watch the sunrise,
make a political statement,
say yes to more fun things and opportunities,
say no to things you dont want to do and make you feel bad,
listen to older people, sometimes they really do know what their talking about,
sail around the world (sadly not achieved)
don't overthink things,
do save some money,
be kind to others, its easy when you're young to be unkind,
yy to being able to open champagne and to open wine without a corkscrew,
take time to breathe and enjoy life.

To DS, take every opportunity that isn't illegal (sorry cant condone drugs or other crimes), enjoy yourself and dont forget to be nice to your lovely mum

therumoursaretrue Thu 11-Jul-13 15:07:47

I wanted to go travelling by myself. Was talked round to going to uni instead...which I promptly dropped out of.

Finally managed to finish uni and graduated last week...but I still want to see the world!

Bear Thu 11-Jul-13 15:17:34

get some cooking lessons

snowgal Thu 11-Jul-13 16:11:33

Have various hairstyles and dye your hair
Snog lots of random wo/men
Amass an amazing group of friends
Live away from your parents
Try out lots of different styles before you decide who you are
Travel with friends
Get a job. even if it's just a bar job to pay your bar bill
Get to know your siblings
Have an unsuitable boy/girlfriend, and work out why they weren't right for you
Stay up til dawn
Don't forget your skills - whether it's gymnastics, playing the trombone, calligraphy...., someday you'll wish you'd kept doing them...
Go to lots of gigs/festivals
Dance like crazy
Never turn down an opportunity

snowgal Thu 11-Jul-13 16:14:04

Crikey, should have added:

Fall hopelessly in love
Stand up for your beliefs

x

angell74 Thu 11-Jul-13 16:15:04

I was going to get my A Levels (yes), go to Uni (yes) and travel the world (managed Europe and the USA), was going to have a high powered career (for a while) and never have kids (total fail on that one I now have 2) ..... and I wouldn't change a thing.

Openyourheart Thu 11-Jul-13 17:56:08

I would have lived in Spain for a year in order to learn to speak fluent Spanish. I did A-Level Spanish and if I had lived in Spain I would probably still be able to speak it.

makemineamalibuandpineapple Thu 11-Jul-13 20:55:25

Would have loved to have travelled around Australia and America. Determined to do that when my son leaves home!!

littlemonkeychops Thu 11-Jul-13 21:06:17

I didn't have a bucket list before i was 21. I had one for 30 and am compiling my one for 40, as in my 20s i just thought hmm i better make sure i try and do things i really, really want to do as otherwise life can drift along. But 21 is so young, i'm not sure there's anything you must do by then.

My advice to my younger self would be more about outlook on life, eg don't worry so much what other people think, be more confident and enjoy yourself. That would be my advice to my DDs too, you only get one go at life so enjoy it!

JoInScotland Thu 11-Jul-13 21:13:53

Learn what it is that makes you happy and try to do that every day. If you can make money doing it, so much the better!

And travel, and try different languages, foods and culture as much as you can, before you get busy with work, family, children, life....

MortifiedAdams Thu 11-Jul-13 21:17:41

Learn to drive
Own a car
Earn a reasonable wage
To have travelled a bit
Have a degree

Managed to tick them all off whoop!

By 21 I was married, divorced, mortgaged, had kids, full time job, became a landlady and had a breakdown.

I can assure you, none of those things would have been on my bucket list!

Alidoll Thu 11-Jul-13 23:14:11

Now double that, when I was approaching 21 probably pass my exams at university and land a dream job. Have a boyfriend that wasn't a cheating scumbag with the morals of a louse, travel to some exotic places and PARTEEEE!

Now I am 42, bucket list would be;
Enjoy my daughter before she starts school and I'm no longer the centre of her world.

Eat more healthy

Do more exercise

Stop kidding myself about the last 2!

Enjoy life, having my parents around still to see their granddaughter growing up and laugh loads

tunde Thu 11-Jul-13 23:24:19

At 21 I was at college studying to be a tourist guide. Learnt about all the best places to visit. I decided then that no matter what I have to see the famous painting The Birth of Venus in Florence -don`t ask me why - once in my life. 2 years later when I stood in front of it I almost cried. It was just as beautiful as I imagined but I had noone to share the experience with.
Since then I found my other half. Now I would like to see the Northern Lights...

stephgr Thu 11-Jul-13 23:34:21

I didn't have a list but I wanted to graduate before 21 which I did and have fun at university which i also did. However, I didn't do anything exciting or inspiring and I really wish I'd gone travelling on my own or had a gap year.

BonzoDooDah Fri 12-Jul-13 10:36:52

I absolutely really and utterly wanted to visit Machu Picchu. I saw a black and white photograph of it in my mum's world atlas and the mystery of the place absorbed me. Being able to travel all the way to Peru was so out of my reach it was an utter fantasy.

I did it though. I went in 2005 and walked the trail and saw the place with my own eyes. It was everything I hoped for!

celestialbows Fri 12-Jul-13 20:29:52

Travel, travel and more travel!! Make friends with all the older people in your family and really listen to what they tell you. Use sunscreen and exercise daily, brush your teeth twice a day and respect your body.

cather Fri 12-Jul-13 22:41:19

I wanted to visit Malaysia as Mum had a penfriend there, I still haven't managed it!
Pass my Accountancy exams - I did.
Buy a house - I did but not until I was 23

Spottybra Sat 13-Jul-13 19:15:56

Finish uni (I did as my birthday is in the summer)
Save for a gap year (took another year to do this)
Learn to drive
Write my first novel

Didn't do the last as I was too much of a party girl to study and write.

Hopezibah Sat 13-Jul-13 21:56:50

Having gone power-boating on the Thames last week - I have no idea why I didn't do it sooner - It was AMAZING and a definite one i'd recommend for a bucket-list.

Also tried body-boarding for the first time a few days ago - so I'd add that on as I wished I'd done that sooner.

The biggest piece of advice I would give a 21 year old me is to be more confident and just 'go for it!' I would believe in myself more and have a more positive attitude to life. Since 'having a go' at things in more recent years, some incredible amazing, once in a lifetime, opportunities have come up and I wonder why I didn't have this attitude sooner!

Also learn to cook (at least a bit) from your parents before it's too late. You assume they'll be around forever but they won't be. There are SO many of my mum's signature dishes that I wish I had learnt to cook but didn't and sadly now I never can.

I left for uni only knowing how to cook pasta and spag bol and I totally envied another student who knew how to make chocolate brownies!!! If only I had learnt to make something like cakes or cookies and some easy meals - that would have really helped!

(I cook all the time with my kids now so that they can learn the basics).

louisianablue2000 Sat 13-Jul-13 22:13:04

It was half a lifetime away but I wanted to lose my virginity, go to university, and travel. I did them all smile

SaltySeaBird Sun 14-Jul-13 18:42:50

Is there anything you wish you'd done before turning 21?
Travel more. Can never have too much travel.

If you could, what would you tell your younger self to do?
What would you advise your DC's to do before they are 21?

Same answer to both. Think about what you love doing. Think about what career you earn good money doing with plenty of opportunities. Find a balance between the two as just one without the other won't make you happy. For me I loved science, got all A's at A level. Should have done medicine.

twoboots Mon 15-Jul-13 10:28:01

Be honest with your family!
Learn how to walk in high heels other than platforms.

sis Mon 15-Jul-13 11:24:07

learn to walk in high heels and take more risks!

Worriedmind Mon 15-Jul-13 11:52:36

Learn to drive
Travel the world
Train as a children's intensive care nurse (which careers officer told me I wouldn't get grades for and should become a nursery nurse instead and by the time I did get grades it was too late to apply boo hoo)

TiggyD Mon 15-Jul-13 11:53:15

I always wanted to kill somebody by 'stoning' them to death with overpriced apples.
That and gain the qualification I needed for my profession.

Both done!

Worriedmind Mon 15-Jul-13 11:54:04

Yes yes to learn to walk in high heals - still can't
Oh and learn a language
live abroad

WouldBeHarrietVane Mon 15-Jul-13 13:21:02

21 is the start!! There was nothing I felt I had to do before that!

PlainOldVanilla Mon 15-Jul-13 13:21:27

Okay because no one knows me.

I wish I had a ONS blush that really ain't my style but an experience. I met my DP young and we've been together ever since.

I wish I did a girls holiday. Went to more student nights. Spent my wages on ME and not bills!

I was pregnant for my 21st and I always thought I'd have a big party and night out but it doesn't matter now smile

WhitegoldWielder Mon 15-Jul-13 13:22:27

Not sure I had a bucket list as such as I had a fab life, particulary as a student at uni doing a subject I loved in a city I adored.

The only thing I can remember a desire for was to learn how to play the drums and join a rock band in order to meet and impress several drummers I had a thing for as a teenager. Then I got heavily into Depeche Mode........

TheFutureMrsB Mon 15-Jul-13 13:37:16

There are things that I wish I had done before I was 21 ...

Go to uni
Holiday with friends (without children!)
Go to Australia for 6 months
Not smoke!
Told myself I was NOT fat!
Have lots of fun whilst you still can
Dance all night

Not that some can't still be done, but it's nice to be able to do things when your still young and carefree. I wasn't btw, I had three children at 21 blush

MyMillsBaby Mon 15-Jul-13 14:22:56

Definitely wanted to get into university before my 21st birthday. I achieved this! It was my mums dream for me before she died.

scottishmummy Mon 15-Jul-13 15:21:50

I had No bucket list,it seems a dreadfully indulgent affectation
At 21 I wanted career,to be solvent,to be with boyfriend
I'd tell my 21yo self to work hard,keep it real,don't get distracted

MTBMummy Mon 15-Jul-13 15:32:59

I had no bucket list, but if I could go back in time, I would probably tell my younger self to lighten up and enjoy life. I was far too serious, and had very little social life, because I was either working or studying, I never took the time out to be young and have fun, now 15 years later, its a bit too late.

That said if I changed anything back then I wouldn't be where I am now, and I wouldn't swap DD and DP for the world

ditsygem Mon 15-Jul-13 16:57:59

Go to university, Dance lots, wear crazy clothes, take time out to travel, holiday with your friends, spend some time being single

Lurleene Mon 15-Jul-13 17:14:31

Go on a date in Venice with a beautiful Italian man..... I had the chance to do this when I was 18 and on holiday, but a friend persuaded me not to in case he was an axe murderer. I've always regretted standing him up!

Rulesgirl Mon 15-Jul-13 20:40:41

why 21. Your still basically a child, still finding your feet and moving into adulthood. Your life has been protected and nourished by loving parents. Bucket list at 30 maybe.hmm

scottishmummy Mon 15-Jul-13 21:08:41

21 is age lot folk finish uni,start career,are having relationships.traditionally it's a biggie
21 isn't teeny young it's young woman,30 is adult done more,not so new out education etc
It's sponsored quiz not a deep exploration of emerging into adulthood

Rulesgirl Mon 15-Jul-13 22:09:48

To me the age between 20 and 30 is much more significant with regards to life adventures. The 21st birthday might be a big one but you have only really been an adult for a couple of years so one wouldn't normally have done a lot of proper life experience. Usually you finish uni and then start travelling, living with others, careers etc. I would have said what bucket list did I draw up when I turned 21 that I planned for my life and how did that turn out. Much more interesting.

lolancurly Wed 17-Jul-13 09:55:46

Fall in love - before you are 21, you should experience a little romance and maybe a little heartbreak. Enjoy the wild heart pounding butterflies and the gut wrenching yen of separation. Unrequited love was my poison of choice, but I wouldn't have had it any other way.

inraolyn Wed 17-Jul-13 09:58:28

My plan was short and to the point:

Write a book and get published
Go to Egypt

Then DS happened, and I have achieved neither. Still writing though. One day, eh?

vb21 Wed 17-Jul-13 10:28:02

I wish I could tell my 21 year old self:

Don't be afraid of what might happen, grab those opportunities and run with them!
Travel!! Every chance you get!
Tone those legs and get into good habits fitness wise, it'll be worth it in ten years!
Fall in love..and tell him you love him don't play it cool..he's not a mind reader and you'll only end up wondering why you didn't say it when you had the chance.

x

hjmiller Wed 17-Jul-13 10:33:26

Girls holiday everytime! ESSENTIAL part of the late teenage years!

travel travel travel travel travel...and more travel.

And just know how beautiful you are at that age.

Sigh.

Julestar Wed 17-Jul-13 12:54:17

Use contraception wink

chrismse Wed 17-Jul-13 14:24:09

Carefree travel,
when you get older you still travel but worry more smile

namechangeforaclue Wed 17-Jul-13 15:13:14

See the northern lights.
Will try scotland first, if thst doesnt work then iceland it is.

Pennyloveschocolate Wed 17-Jul-13 15:21:36

Travel, fall in love, be amazingly thin, learn to drive, learn a language, get a career. Have managed to do 2 1/2 of them and I'm much older than 21.

goldenretriever Wed 17-Jul-13 17:23:00

Don't get pregnant. This is your time. TRavel.

CestTout Wed 17-Jul-13 17:36:49

I wanted to (and did) live abroad for 18 months. Best thing I've done!

Sarahjhancock Wed 17-Jul-13 18:46:40

P ick good and true friends
I nvole yourself fullywith life
N ever forget who you are and your values
K iss 21 frogs to find your soulmate
L ive your life to the full
A lways have a goal
D ont go to bed on an argument
Y ou can achieve anything and remember that
2 gether you are stronger
1 day you will look back with no regrets or what ifs

Travel to Australia with a girlfriend. Don't think I'll ever do that now.

isitsnowingyet Wed 17-Jul-13 21:05:39

Go to Nepal.

Complete nurse training.

See the Rolling Stones live

ataraxia Wed 17-Jul-13 22:18:21

A did travel and go to gis when I was younger so my wish I'd done before 21 list is a little more low key - I wish I'd taken advantage of the opportunities at uni such as developing photos in a dark room and working on the student radio.

maximum4 Wed 17-Jul-13 23:31:51

I wanted to leave home, buy a car and support myself - which I did.

Is there anything you wish you'd done before turning 21?
I wish I'd gone to University.

If you could, what would you tell your younger self to do?
Work harder in school and 6th form college.

What would you advise your DC's to do before they are 21?
Take every opportunity offered, live life to the full, work hard in school and be happy x

MollyBerry Thu 18-Jul-13 01:56:45

I didn't have a goal as such. I've drifted through life so far so I guess when I was 21 I just hoped things would be ok as I normally do!

louise88uk Thu 18-Jul-13 10:36:06

Me & my best friend had always wanted to travel to America at 21 because it looked so fun on the movies. We then moved in together, fell out & unfortunately we haven't spoken since. I also wanted to get a diploma in nursing by 21 too but after achieving what I needed to be accepted in to uni they stopped doing the nursing diplomas. I met my daughters dad when I was 21 though and my life changed completely for the better. I can't imagine my life without her and I'm thankful my life changed at this age. I now have new plans & dreams which involve my daughter & I'll still be young enough to do them eventually grin)

al88 Thu 18-Jul-13 11:29:59

Be independent was the biggest thing.
Also:
Get a degree
Get a job
Live away from home
Travel

Letitsnow9 Thu 18-Jul-13 15:59:18

Help 21 people (like in the film pay it forward)
Travel to 21 different countries

Maggietess Thu 18-Jul-13 19:35:51

I lived at home throughout uni (we were a mile down the road so it made no sense at all to move out) so I found my best "coming of age" experience was to go and work in the US for the summer. It doesn't have to be a specific place but I think a summer working (and travelling if you can squeeze it in) is a great way to grow up, particularly if you're living at home for college or uni (as more and more are these days given the fees!).

rusmum Thu 18-Jul-13 22:25:56

See live bands,
Travel, see the world.
Go with the flow, tomorrow comes too soon grin

florencebabyjo Fri 19-Jul-13 04:36:30

Look in the mirror and realise how beautiful, vibrant and alive you are and how your life is so full of promise and potential .
At a time with no responsibilities you are at your most free ;)

AnneEyhtMeyer Fri 19-Jul-13 07:37:36

Travel
Live abroad
Remember that you have years ahead of you so have fun now

AllThatGlistens Fri 19-Jul-13 09:40:26

Go to gigs, festivals.

Travel the world grin

northwest12 Fri 19-Jul-13 12:30:34

When i was turning 21, i wanted to be married, living happily in my home.
Which didnt happen!
If I could give advise to my younger self would be to enjoy life, slow down, take everything in, enjoy new experiences. Dont settle for the first man you meet, get a carrer behind you before you have children.

Most of all, LAUGH UNCONTROLLABLY!

Little bit of craziness, keeps you young, happy and health, have a good laugh

alice93 Fri 19-Jul-13 19:11:27

As my due date (07/01) is just a few days after my 21st birthday (01/01), there are loads of things I'm thinking I'd love to do and I haven't yet got round to do!

The main two are: Inter-railing and a music festival. These are a must - and believe it or not I have done neither! (I can't complain though, I have done a lot of exciting things - but these two are something I'd love to do).

Another cool thing of 'turning of age' is "Come Dine With Me". Me and my friends have enjoyed starting to 'play grown up' with our little dinner party meals. I would put that on a recommendation list for anyone!

And finally, buy a bottle of champagne and drink it all! That is something I have done ;) (before I was pregnant!)

kasbah72 Fri 19-Jul-13 21:25:56

Is there anything you wish you'd done before turning 21?
I was lucky enough to be with the guy who I have now been with for 23 years. That means I probably missed out on a lot but gained a huge amount!!
I think worrying about what other people think and that you are not good enough are the things I would berate myself for now. Oh, and wearing hot clothes for the super-hot body I had but totally didn't realise!

If you could, what would you tell your younger self to do?
Grab life with as much energy and enthusiasm as you can. Wisdom comes with age, but so do stretch marks, sagging bellies and wrinkles. This is your time to do something amazing and just jump out in to that void and go for it. Who knows where you may land? Oh, and ditch those negative friends who love to put you down. You will ALWAYS be better than someone who likes to make people feel bad.

What would you advise your DC's to do before they are 21?
Travel, travel, travel, travel and get an education in all things academic but also all things independent. This is your time. This is the wealthiest you will ever be, even if it is on the lowest wage. You can go and experience life. Be responsible, have great manners, be nice to people and you can do whatever you like!

Mummy2MiaD Sat 20-Jul-13 16:55:13

I would advise DD
-don't settle down too soon
-enjoy being young
-make the most of every opportunity
-go to Uni, live in halls, enjoy the student lifestyle whilst also working hard at getting a degree
-have girly holidays

I'm 21 now and haven't done any of those things, I had DD at 21 and had to settle down fast. I'm hoping she learns from my mistakes

Whirliwig72 Sat 20-Jul-13 17:36:03

Take a singing course and see if you can do something with your dreams!

scottishmummy Sat 20-Jul-13 17:36:17

Phrase settle down chills me,it's like going to knackers yard or something
Go to uni
Make a career
One be dependent upon a partner
Always have an escape plan if it goes tits up

scottishmummy Sat 20-Jul-13 17:42:33

Phrase settle down chills me,it's like going to knackers yard or something
Go to uni
Make a career
Dont be dependent upon a partner
Always have an escape plan if it goes tits up

mamamidwife Sat 20-Jul-13 21:11:38

Forget boys, forget skydiving, forget travelling the world.
I so wish that me and my best friend (of 27yrs) had gone away together for a few days and spent some good uninterrupted quality time together. Time that is so precious and sparse now that I wish I had made more of it when we were young and free!
She is my second self.

Solo Sun 21-Jul-13 00:32:53

Hmmm...don't know about what I had on it back then, but if I could have a serious chat with 18 yo me, I would tell me to not get married, but to go live in Australia and not with exh either!!

MummyMastodon Sun 21-Jul-13 10:03:04

This may have already been said, but it's a bit distasteful calling it a bucket list, that is a list of things you want to do before you 'kick the bucket'. I hope my DC will live past 21.

Anyway, 21 is waaay too early for a list, all you can really fit in before then is school, 6th form and a three year degree course, or maybe have a gap year at 18, but really all the travel and stuff can wait until after uni.

Anyway, all these lists ever make me want to do, is put 'swim without dolphins.' grin

Solo Sun 21-Jul-13 10:57:13

I couldn't think how to put that MummyMastodon but yes, I was thinking that 'bucket list' was wrong too. Thanks for that!!

zaphgb Sun 21-Jul-13 17:41:33

I wanted to work abroad. I managed to achieve this by working on cruise ships (minimum age was 21) for a couple of years. Sailed around the Med and across the Atlantic to sail around the different Caribbean islands, Mexico, Florida etc.

AngelieMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 22-Jul-13 16:42:31

Thanks for all your comments! isthiscorrect has been selected as the winner of the pink Taittinger champagne and champagne flutes - congratulations! smile

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