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KatieBMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 10-Dec-12 10:37:15

We've been asked by Infacol, the UK's leading infant colic remedy, to find out what Mumsnetters know about infant colic. Here's what they say: "Infant colic is a common condition affecting around 1 in 5 infants in the first month of life. It is often associated with crying fits, which can last up to three hours at a time and be distressing to both child and parents."

Do you or have you ever had a baby who has suffered from infant colic? How did you know what the condition was? What symptoms did your little one have and how old were they?
Please share anything in particular that helped to comfort your baby. What could have helped you during this period? What effect, if any, did colic have on you or your partner?

If your child doesn't or didn't suffer from colic, what do you know about the condition? Do you know what the symptoms are and would you know what to do if you thought your DC did have colic?

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piprabbit Mon 10-Dec-12 11:05:46

My DC1 had colic, it developed within a few days of birth. I was struggling with everything at the time (hormones, feeding, lack of sleep) and simply assumed that DC1s crying was down to my failings.

Luckily my MW visited, took one look at DC1 and said that she had colic. He told us to get some Infacol, try nipple shields to make me more comfortable and to have a shot at expressing some milk. It was wonderful to realise that the problems probably weren't my fault and there were things I could to try and improve the situation.

TBH nothing worked as an absolute cure, it really was a case of waiting and allowing time to do it's thing. But at least I felt more in control and less helpless. That MW's visit was a real turning point.

StellaNova Mon 10-Dec-12 11:22:59

Both my sons had colic, which I believe is defined as crying for no apparent reason for a certain amount of time, a certain number of days a week - can't remember what, but I know they met those criteria and some. It was very very difficult. I find it hard to remember even though it wasn't that long ago, and everyone around me says now "it wasn't so bad" - but I remember MiL in tears at DS1s crying and DM used to pass DS2 back to me after about five minutes saying "he's hungry" which he wasn't. I breast fed both, and both I feel had too much even though they say you can't overfeed , it seemed to give them tummy aches.

It was like they were either awake and screaming or feeding or asleep - there was no in between. I tried Infacol with DS1, I dont' really know if it made things better or not! I tried cranial oesteopathy - lovely and relaxing but no effect. I drank bucket loads of camomile tea - slight effect. It was basically a time thing. I wonder now if they were lactose intolerant or something and I should have cut things out of what I was eating.

StellaNova Mon 10-Dec-12 11:23:49

Just to point out the oesteopathy was for DS1 but I had some too, that's why iut was relaxing!

Tyranasaurus Mon 10-Dec-12 11:25:38

My baby had colic from about 2 weeks til 3.5 months. Symptoms were hours and hours of crying and farting (literally!) hundreds of times a day. We tried all the different colic remedies on the market and none of them had any effect. The only thing that worked was waiting it out.

mamij Mon 10-Dec-12 11:31:43

Dd1 had colic from about 2 weeks until about 2 months. The worse episode was crying from about 1am until about 4am! Two tired parents trying everything from feeding, sling, singing, music etc didn't help. Day time crying was terrible too when DH was at work.

We tried both infacol and colief, not sure if either actually helped. Funnily, the colic stopped when I stopped mixed feeding and solely breastfed and cut out dairy from my diet.

Djembe Mon 10-Dec-12 12:07:08

DS had colic, we switched to Dr Browns bottles and used Infacol religiously and the combination seemed to help. I don't think he was too bad, he didn't cry for hours and hours, but the poor little mite was just inconsolable at times after a feed, I'm sure it was wind. I think 'colic' is a catch-all term for a lot of things, which annoys me a bit. I suspect most of the time it's wind or other digestive issues, which Infacol can help with, but when HCPs brush serious crying off with 'oh it's colic' it's not good, like the poster above who suspects that it may have been due to intolerances. It's a bit unfair on babies having to suffer because they can't tell us what hurts!

WowOoo Colombia Mon 10-Dec-12 12:15:13

Ds had colic, but only for about a week. It was reassuring to know what it was - but I'm still not sure what it is really. I suppose it was trapped wind that made ds so uncomfortable.
I remember that it was horrible to hear screaming that went on for hours. One thing that could have helped would have been to have a relative or friend to take him for a while to give us a break.
I'm not sure that Infacol had any effect. The only thing that gave me hope was someone telling me it sorts itself out, so we just waited.

I am expecting my first baby at any time (currently 8 days overdue!) and colic is something that I'm quite worried about.

I know that it is lots of crying, for no clear reason, for several hours, several times a week at least. I'm worried that I will feel as if I'm a bad mother, that I can't respond properly to my baby's needs and that somehow I'll be failing him. I know this won't be the case, but it is something I'm worrying about, the feeling that I'm useless and my baby will hate me because I can't make him 'better'!!

I bought some Infacol weeks ago and have it ready just in case.

wheredoistartmrs Mon 10-Dec-12 13:10:23

my daughter had colic from birth,permanent wind,found it difficult to burp. every evening 2 hours crying and 2 hours head butting me. infacol worked ok but things like rotating there body ehrn burping trying to get the wind up, sleeping in a raised cot.

Tamoo Mon 10-Dec-12 13:24:55

My son had colic and his agonised screaming would start on the dot of 5pm every day. I knew what it was because my parents told me, and they also told me it was only temporary and there would be an end to it. This was the most comforting thing for me, knowing that it was finite!

He would cry and cry for approx 2 hrs every evening and though he would try to feed during this time (prob for comfort as much as anything) there was little I could do to help apart from cuddle him. This is the hardest thing, I think, as you expect to be able to 'solve' all your baby's woes pretty promptly, especially as a new/inexperienced parent. Some things you have to just do your best and ride it out.

What helped DS was to be held in my arms face down. I don't know if the position was just 'different' and distracted him on that basis but kind of floating him around the room with a bit of an accompanying sing song would (sometimes!) help.

I didn't medicate in any way although I know people who relied on remedies such as Infacol.

Am I right in thinking that gripe water was once used for colic? I was given it as a child and I remember it was still in our cupboard for years afterwards, because I used to sneak a swig aged seven or eight!

PaddingtonsMarmalade Mon 10-Dec-12 13:38:01

Both DD and DS had (what I think of) as bloody horrible colic from 8 weeks to about 12/13 weeks in both cases. They were both pretty similar in that they would cry from about 5/6pm through to about 11pm/12am with very little respite. There might be occasional pauses but you could say it was pretty much 4-6 hours of crying every night for 5/6 weeks solid.

We didn't know for sure what it was with DD but a bit of reading got us to the point that we sussed it was colic. When DS was 8 weeks spot on he had his first colicy evening and my DH and I nearly crumbled as we knew what was likely to follow. The sort of cries they did with colic were unlike any other they'd done then (or since).

We tried loads of different things to help them. White music played at ear splitting level would help both to differing degrees. Infacol - although to be honest as I was BF both on demand I found it almost impossible to get the timing of it right and I was a bit het up about not ruining their gut by introducing anything that wasn't BM (I had PND with both so had problems with anxiety and their health). We tried rocking, singing, walking, driving them places, walking in a sling, passing to willing grandparents to see if it was because we were so tense. Gripe water seemed to work for DS who used to belch in the most fantastical way when we gave it to him (and it seemed to settle him and work but we weren't sure if that was just because it was going to stop anyway IYSWIM).

Thank god neither of them can remember being colicky but DH and I can remember and it's one of the many reasons why there will only be 2 of them! It was extremely distressing to see them in what seemed to be considerable pain and not be able to do anything about it. It impacted on my PND and was extremely difficult for DH too who just wanted to be able to solve it and felt hugely powerless.

If anyone's reading this who is dealing with colic at the moment you have my abolsute and most hearfelt sympathies.

WomanlyWoman Mon 10-Dec-12 13:53:25

MY DD had colic and reflux. She cried more than she slept. We tried all sorts of suggested remedies to little avail. The best thing was putting her in the car and taking her for a drive. We tried different ways of holding her; she would sometimes calm if being walked about in a sling, also if DH held her with his arm under her tummy and rocked her, but he couldn't put her down. She also calmed if DH, (too painful for me after birth!), gently bounced with her on a gym ball. It was hard, we were exhausted. DH was very supportive, it wasn't unusual for him to come home from work and find us both crying. DD breastfed, a lot, one of the few ways of calming her. I experimented with my diet, cutting out various foods to see if it would help, (I checked with health professionals that this would be okay), but it didn't make a difference. Sometimes white noise seemed to help, other days it didn't, (the washing machine filling, hoover, radio static). Between 5 days and around 14 weeks it was utter hell, she calmed a little bit after that and finally, when she was around 6 months old the reflux also calmed down and we were better able to cope. I think different things will work with different children, you just have to experiment. The best advice I could give to anyone going through it is just to hold on in there, because it really will get better.

SantasHugandRollintheSnow Mon 10-Dec-12 13:53:38

Both my ds' had colic but ds2 was far worse.

He would start screaming at 7pm until around 11pm from 4 weeks to 12 weeks. Dh and I would take it in turns to walk the length of our house with him in our arms. He also screamed a lot during the day.

There are 4 years between ds1 and ds2 and the colic caused awful issues in our family while dh was in work. Ds1 hated his brother, said all he does is scream and asked us to take him back. I was totally stressed, had have PND (I'm now on sertraline). Dh would come home to the three of us in tears.

We used infacol as although it didn't get rid of the colic, if we ever forgot to use it the screaming would be 10 times worse. I recommend infacol to all new or expectant parents.

Ds2 is now the most laid back baby going thank god.

PetiteRaleuse Mon 10-Dec-12 14:24:12

DD1 never had colic. Dd2 is 7 weeks old and we're in week 2 of regular colic most evenings from 9pm on. She's very quiet the rest of the time. The only thing that calms her is no tv or radio noise, dim lighting and being walked up and down. It lasts three hours almost exactly every time.

Willemdefoeismine Mon 10-Dec-12 14:33:21

Both of mine had really bad colic which started at about a month and then suddenly miraculously disappeared at about three months....You don't really realise it's suddenly stopped (too sleep deprived by this point) until you emerge from a sleep-deprived fug and realise why you feel better and that the baby is sleeping a lot better.

I think the main remedy is some very calm, cool and collected adult who is not sleep deprived to just radiate calm and comfort around the colicky baby. DP was brilliant at playing soothing music (Massive Attack and Moby worked very, very well) and just 'being' with both DCs.

When I see cute looking babies and get broody, colic is the thing that I use to convince myself not to go down that route....

Hopezibah Mon 10-Dec-12 15:20:54

colic is so horrid for them and for parents who are left at their wits end not knowing what to do. With each of mine it lasted for about 6 weeks then improved. We called granny round for help- sometimes you just need someone else with you to help you keep your sanity.

Just do your best to comfort them and remember it doesn't last forever.

firawla Mon 10-Dec-12 15:38:56

luckily none of mine have had it, from reading the other people's replies it sounds really hard.
i did give infacol to my ds1, i think i just thought oh i better give him it it might settle him after feeds - even though he didn't have colic confused blush - it didn't seem to have any effect on him at all, but that probably cos he did not really need it.

StuntNun Mon 10-Dec-12 15:57:15

Only my first DS had colic, the other two escaped it. I just remember crying without end in the evening. The only thing that stopped the crying was driving him around in the car and as soon as you stopped the crying started up again. I used Infacol from early on and I hope it made things easier for him. One baby with colic was definitely enough!

Fortunately neither of my DCs had colic - at least I don't think they did. There were some extended periods of crying which I always attributed to being overtired so would treat my offering comfort feeds, lots of cuddles, rocking and swaying. With DD I did sometimes give Infacol after a feed as I thought i was supposed to as it seemed to be in every new Mum's arsenal of baby kit but I'm not sure what it did.... probably nothing as she didn't have colic so with DS, I didn't bother to stockpile it this time.

NowBringUsSomeFriggyPudding Mon 10-Dec-12 16:41:37

My middle child suffered badly from colic, we went through many bottled if infacol. She would curl up her legs, be dark red and screaming fairly soon after every feed. After 3 weeks of this agony, I read an article about soya milk and how far more gentle it is on the digestive system. (I realise this is a controversial issue) I mentioned it to my GP, who gave me a script for some, saying I would know in a few days if it made any difference. After one feed she was a different child, laid back and gazing round peacefully. It was amazing. She was never allergic as such, just sensitive to dairy. After a year I introduced dairy and she's fine. Not saying that's the solution for everyone but surely worth considering. She was a big baby but her system was not able to tolerate it so soon. Whether infacol worked I can't say, but it was worth a try in those desperate days.

Boggler Mon 10-Dec-12 17:23:06

Both my dc's suffered with colic my ds had it mildly for a few weeks but dd had it really really badly! With dd I was only getting an hours sleep every 4 hours at night and it was the worst time I've ever been through. We tried everything infacol, colief drops, massage warm bath to name a few. The only thing that saved us was my persistence with the hv and dr that there was a problem eventually reflux was diagnosed and appropriate meds prescribed. I think there is a tendency to use colic as an excuse for more serious problems.

Mindingalongtime Mon 10-Dec-12 17:54:16

Infacol wasn't around in my day, my doctor prescribed Merbentyl, it was subsequently withdrawn due to association with cot death sad but it worked like a dream.

DS had chronic colic, right from the day he was born according to the nurses who pumped his legs up and down after feeding to release wind!

He did sleep through from 5 weeks old, but from 5.00pm to 7.30pm he screamed!

My Ds suffered horrendous colic and with him being my first I had no clue at all what it was. It was only from talking to other parents that I discovered it was colic. I can still remember him being about 4 weeks old and screaming so much for hours that I phoned NHS direct as both my husband and I did not know what to do. After we were told about colic and realised it matched his symptoms I went out and bought Infacol. It was like liquid gold, he was soothed and settled for the first time in ages.

KelleStarOfWonder Mon 10-Dec-12 18:14:52

DD suffered badly from a few weeks old until she was almost 5 months. It just suddenly got better and then we noticed the peace and quiet. Nothing worked for us. Infacol/Gripe Water/Colief/dentinox where the brands I remember trying. We just adjusted our routine to cope with it. Though it frazzled my nerves hearing her cry like that. We even went to the osteopath, she enjoyed the sessions but not sure if they actually helped or not, we went fortnightly until it passed.

FrillyMilly Mon 10-Dec-12 18:25:13

My DD had colic from a couple of days old until around 12 weeks. Every evening she would cry and cry and pull up her legs. We used infacol and comfort milk when I stopped breastfeeding. We would spend hours pacing up and down with rocking her until we bought a swing. A dose of infacol and in to the swing really helped to soothe her.

Lucyhas Mon 10-Dec-12 19:00:33

Pops had colic from about 3 or 4 weeks old. Every evening she would just cry and cry. I remember for a week she stayed awake crying until 2am, and even when she did sleep would wake up in the middle of the night and cry for another 2 or 3 hours. We bought a swing (fisher price ocean - amazing) and took her to the drs for some infacol. It didn't work though. It turned out she had silent reflux and I had to Breastfeed her in strange upright positions and keep her upright for about 30minutes after a feed. I bought a sling (connecta) and then everything was right with the world.....

imdreamingofaskyebluechristmas Mon 10-Dec-12 19:03:46

My DD had colic every day at 6pm without fail. I tried rubbing her tummy, "bicycling" her legs, but nothing helped. We did try Infacol and the HV said it needed to build up to work.

We also tried gripe water.

She grew out of it after a couple of months but it was horrible while it lasted. I remember holding my baby and crying because she was screaming and I couldn't do anything to stop it.

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter Brazil Mon 10-Dec-12 19:09:14

Do you or have you ever had a baby who has suffered from infant colic?

Yes, DS1

How did you know what the condition was?

Midwife diagnosed it.

What symptoms did your little one have and how old were they?

8 weeks - 12 weeks old approx. Crying regularly early evening and on/off during the night or a couple hours after a feed. Pulling legs up to chest. Generally unsettled and grumpy/tired.

Please share anything in particular that helped to comfort your baby. What could have helped you during this period? What effect, if any, did colic have on you or your partner?

Lots of skin on skin contact, letting DS1 nap on me when possible during the day on my chest. Letting DS1 comfort suck even after a breastfeed as this seemed to sooth him/help him fall asleep. Infacol helped, it didn't get rid of colic but it seemed to ease it. Eventually a NHS midwife specialising in baby massage came to visit to show me and DH how to massage DS1 to relieve and comfort him - the best techniques we found were the massaging the tummy round and round and then gently pushing knees up to tummy - which resulted in an amazing amount of wind!

More support from my son's helath visitor would have been gratefully received especially as I was a first time mum and inexperienced and more/quality sleep could have helped us emotionally. The effect: we were pretty much on edge until the colic passed, mainly through lack of sleep and feeling helpless whilst our baby suffered with the bouts of colic.

If your child doesn't or didn't suffer from colic, what do you know about the condition? Do you know what the symptoms are and would you know what todo if you thought your DC did have colic?

N/A

disparatefishwife Mon 10-Dec-12 19:39:01

My first baby had colic, and we tried everything including infacol. We even tried some weird remedy containing charcoal which gave her black drool and was very scary when we first saw it! The best remedies were white noise really loud and cuddling her while swaying quite briskly along with the white noise. The racket was awful but my girl loved it!

Jayne266 Mon 10-Dec-12 19:50:29

My baby had colic when he was about 3 weeks old, I was already aware that this could happen but didn't know how he would react boy did he react. He spent a full night only sleeping when held for a hour at a time and if put down started screaming. As a new mum I questioned myself and my ability to be able to look after him. ( as I didn't realise it was colic until after I thought it was just a bad day) My husband was amazing he seemed so calm and together where as I was screaming inside and crying on the outside.
Another mum suggested colic and we went out and bought 4 bottles of infacol at once. Ever since then we have not looked back infacol is a part of our feeding regime and is a simple add to our basket when we get the shop.

We have been lucky to never have another episode like that again since on the infacol.

littlemonkeychops Mon 10-Dec-12 19:54:08

DD didn't sufer from bad colic but i did use Infacol when she had trapped wind for a few weeks.

I'm not entirely sure what the definition of colic is, lots of crying and discomfort and trapped wind and pain but not sure what actually causes it

I have been very fortunate as my DS, now 18 months, never had colic.

What I know of it? He'll on earth and lots of crying. Reading some of the above replies, and seeing friends suffer with a baby who has colic, I seriously don't know how I would have coped!

sleepdodger Mon 10-Dec-12 20:40:34

Ds had collic it was awful and soul destroying
I struggle to believe if it was an adult condition the 'it'll get better attitude' would prevail!
We tried infacol which made us feel as though we were trying to help him but in reality had no effect
Colief was expensive and tricky to give when bf
Cranial osteopathy wa expensive but I would have tried anything. 4 x £40 sessions was all I could afford and it helped calm and soothe rather than cure, but always a calmer baby after.

Other things which helped...
Swing chair
Keeping them upright
Going out in car round and round and round for hours (fuel cost us alot!!!)
A friend to take them for 30 mins so you didn't explode wink

If ds had been born 6months later I would have bought one of those fisher price chairs which allegedly is like being in the car
Also sleep curve mattress

As you can tell, colic was bad for us, I'd have thrown money (I didn't necessarily have) at the situation to try to make it better for him and us

.... And after all this turns out it was silent reflux which they didn't diagnose because they were so busy assuming I was a neurotic mother and it was 'just' colic he'd soon grown out of angry

mummyofcutetwo Mon 10-Dec-12 21:05:35

Both my sons suffered from colic.

DS1 had it from a couple of weeks old to about 3 months old. He had it from 11am until late afternoon/early evening - you could set your clock by him. The only thing that seemed to work was detecting our car carrying Daddy home about a mile away! I'd send my husband texts through the day saying how bad the colic was and that the poor little thing was screaming and somehow was always all smiles when Daddy came home!

At weekends, my husband's remedy was to pick him up and dance to jamiroqai. It did the trick. My solution was Infacol, and when DS2 showed all the signs of colic at a couple of weeks I went straight out to buy a bottle. With DS2 I only felt I could stop giving him the Infacol when he was weaning. We got through so many bottles of the stuff as I felt as if I was almost constantly feeding him and gave him some before every feed.

ln1981 Mon 10-Dec-12 21:18:11

both dd and ds2 had colic (dd also had reflux). nothing worked for dd-we tried everything! from around 5pm until well after 11pm, me and dp would take it in turns to sit with her, she would feed on and off, vomit frequently then all of a suden she would just drop of to sleep! it was horrendous, i really dont know how I kept my sanity. thankfully it all calmed down the instant we started weaning her.
with ds2 i was prepared though! we gave him colysinth(sp?) granules, and i was shown how to massage him in order to release the wind. both certainly helped him greatly.

stickylittlefingers Mon 10-Dec-12 21:23:15

DD2 had colic from 3 to 6 months. It was very miserable for her, and the rest of us. We tried infacol and other remedies, but the best thing seemed to be cuddles with Daddy (he had his ipod on) while I went and put DD1 to bed - so we could spend time elsewhere. It did just magically stop. It would be nice to know how to totally stop it.

longlady16 Mon 10-Dec-12 21:40:25

I had a caesarean birth and my son had colic from day 1. It was do upsetting as we didn't know anything about the condition. We used in facial religiously which eased it, we also used dr brown anti colic bottles. The combination if the two things seemed to help

eteo Mon 10-Dec-12 21:53:05

My son suffered alot. So every feed, i will give him infacol in his milk. We had tried lot of other brand but they dont work on him. Later, we gave him massage and it work a treat!
My daughter, she dont suffered at all as she always burp by herself.

GetKnitted Mon 10-Dec-12 22:36:27

I thought colic was a myth until ds2 had it really bad for months. We used infacol and gripe water and took to putting a towel under his cot mattress to make an incline. In the end the only way he would sleep was on his front (hope the back to sleep police are not here).

It passed, and I am not convinced that any of the medication did anything, though gripe water does produce splendid burps smile

GoodKingWenSOLOslas Mon 10-Dec-12 22:47:22

My Ds suffered dreadful colic, writhing and screaming with a hard tummy. I did try Infacol and gripe water, but they didn't seem to work for him so I decided to make up some Camomile tea for him. I made up a strong pint at a time and refrigerated it and took a small amount from the jug each time, topping it up with freshly boiled water to dilute and warm it and it worked! it was such a relief to find something that worked for him. His colic and tummy aches lasted a good long few months.

Ds having colic was a difficult thing to deal with as it was just me and him, so I got no relief at all. The HV was good, but not good enough.

Ds was a tummy sleeper and that was the only way he'd sleep (it's a family trait!). He enjoyed laying over my arm and found that comforting with the colic, but it didn't cure him of it.

I was very relieved that Dd didn't have colic, but as she screamed almost solidly for 6 months, I guess she could've had it without me knowing. She wouldn't take anything other than the breast, so I didn't get to try the Camomile tea on her.

If I'd had a nanny, that would've helped enormously!

Cambam2010 Tue 11-Dec-12 13:01:59

My DS was one of those babies that was never happy unless he was constantly held or being breast fed. The older generation grandparents didn't really get the idea of attachment parenting and therefore said "he's got colic", "he's a colicy baby". As a first time mum I listened to their advice and treated him with Infacol and other prescription treatments. On hindsight, I don't believe he had colic. He didn't cry for hours on end. He just cried when he was put down. He was just one of those babies that wanted to be carried and held and fed. It didn't do him any harm though.

People are too quick to say a baby has colic just because he/she is crying. I believe that a truely colicy baby is unconsolable.

Babycarmen Tue 11-Dec-12 13:21:46

DD2 had bad colic and would scream and scream, it was horrible to watch her go through. We used infacol and gripe water which did help a little, we also swaddled her.

janglebells2013 Tue 11-Dec-12 13:59:45

my dd had colic for first few months and it was awful. she screamed and screamed and it did cause a lot of tension between dh and i. he got frustrated with the crying and didn't have the patience for her. he found it very difficult because there was no clear reason for the crying.

i did know about colic because i was a 'crying baby' myself and had heard all about it from my mum, i was terrified dd would end up like this. dd was nothing like i was... she would cry a couple of hours at the most. i cried continually. things that help are movement, music, comfort (being held) and being in an upright position in our case. i think some crying can be related to tensions experienced in the womb (for example the stress of the mother etc) or the stress of being born into the world. well we got the infacol, gripe water, all that. nothing really seemed to work, but finally she got diagnosed with silent reflux and ranitidine made things a lot better, so im not sure if this was the problem right from the start.

PostBellumBugsy Tue 11-Dec-12 15:03:08

Even though my DCs are 13 & 10 there colic is etched into my memory so firmly, I expect I'll remember it on my death bed!
Eldest DS was the worst, he screamed from 6pm until midnight every single night for the first 4.5 months of his life. I tried everything: infacol, drinking gallons of chamomile tea, gripe water, stopped eating any spicy food or cruciferous vegetable in case my milk was affecting him, had tests for reflux, went to baby aromatherapy, tried homeopathic remedies & even cranial osteopathy. NOTHING worked. The only thing that helped was to have him up over our shoulder & walk. We literally wore holes in the carpet walking every single night for 6 hours a night. It was beyond awful.

DD was relatively bad, but she only screamed inconsolably for 3 to 4 hours every night, so it felt like a walk in the park!!!! Again tried all the remedies & even attempted a treatment for oral thrush to see if it might be that - but once again nothing worked. This time I had a rocker chair though - to save the new carpet we'd had to put down, so up over the shoulder and on the rocker did the trick with her - still 3+ hours rocking manically every night though.

It is a really awful way to start life with a baby & I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

StellaNova Tue 11-Dec-12 15:14:06

PostBellumBugsy Your experience sounds almost exactly like mine, except mine were both boys. The walking, the walking....

The reason I am not having any more children is basically that I know that I couldn't cope with another baby with colic.

SantaFlashesHisBoobsALot Tue 11-Dec-12 16:02:09

I was told DS had colic in the early days.

Its only as I've done my breastfeeding training that I have learnt that there is nearly always a reason for it. I was upset by that at first, but it explained why nothing like Infacol, Colief or grip water worked (especially not gripe water; how the hell can they even justify that still being on the market?!). Sometimes its a simple thing like positioning and attachment when breastfeeding, or the flow of the teat if bottle feeding. Sometimes its a food allergy or intolerance. Sometimes its misdiagnosed silent reflux.

Whatever the reason its horrible. I wish that I had known more then, however, so I could have tried to reduce what was going on if nothing else.

My brother had 'colic' too. He is six years younger than me, and I remember the screaming even now.

MistyB Tue 11-Dec-12 17:04:14

All three of my babies had colic. Two are wheat and dairy intolerant and one is dairy intolerant. I tried everything! Cranial Osteopathy helped, as did white noise and constant movement though I think they are just pain distraction. I wish I'd trusted my instincts more and pushed harder as if I'd known earlier, the first few months wouldn't have been so hard. I still feel emotionally drained by the memory of the baby years.

Everyone's experience is different but I would love to know what percentage of uncomfortabke babies are intolerant to some food or other.

If I knew then, what I knew now, I would have excluded my sickness triggers from my diet when they were in the womb (I knew dairy and sugar made me feel bad) and while I was feeding. I would have used Kinesiology to foods and creams on them (DS2 reacts to petroleum which is in Kamilosan (sp) and seeing what it does to his skin, who knows what it was doing to his gut as I used it after every feed) and I would have consulted a nutritionist to help balance their gut bacteria earlier, though perhaps none of that would have been necessary if I had excluded the problem foods.

icclebabyjesusheave Tue 11-Dec-12 18:52:54

Both of my DCs had colic - DS worse than DD. Nothing worked other then them growing out of it. I think all of the things you buy are to do with parents feeling that they HAVE to try and do something and they will try anything that says it may work. Nothing does and its a bit of a con.

My advice to any parent who has a child with colic, is to get used to walking up and down a lot holding a baby AND buy some earplugs as its a hell of a lot less stressful if you can't hear the screaming so much. Don't bother buying Infacol, Colief, Gripe Water or any of the other stuff that I spent a fortune on with DS as they don't work. I didn't bother with any of that with DD and she grew out of it in just the same way.

missorinoco Tue 11-Dec-12 19:23:04

Memories of colic. Shudder. Second the ear plugs. You can still hear your screaming baby but it's not as loud.

I didn't find Infacol helpful, I mainly knocked it over it the dark repeatedly. DC1 associated it with a feed though, as has always been amazing about taking medicine froma syringe since. Worth a try if your baby has colic.

My regret is not trying cranial osteopathy, I wonder if it would have helped.

As well as ear plugs, my other tip is a fabric sling to put your baby in whilst you pace around. Alternatively, build up a bicep whilst you hold the child on your shoulder and pace arpund the room.

madwomanintheattic Tue 11-Dec-12 20:20:10

I danced with ds upright against me for three months, from 5pm to 11.30 pm, every night, breaking a few times to feed him a bit more. If I stopped moving, he started screaming.

It was much better for my weight loss than infacol. grin

Dd1 (pfb) used infacol - she was a refluxy kid.
Dd2 was tube fed. When she finally started to take suck feeds, we could only feed her during the silent hours as her muscle tone was too high to coordinate a swallow during the day. So she screamed all day from hunger, and I had to set my alarm all night to fit in enough feeds.

On balance, colic and a bit of evening dancing was a breeze.

TheMysteryCat Tue 11-Dec-12 21:24:29

Ds has colic from about 8 weeks old. I tried lots of things; infacol didn't have any impact, gripe water ( when old enough) didn't work, propping the Moses basket up didn't work. The only thing that eased it was baby massage.

He would become so distressed, tight stomach and thrashing. Mostly I just held him.

I think it eased off after 12 16 weeks.

I would try the massage again if I had another child.

WeeSooty Tue 11-Dec-12 21:28:12

My DD is 9 weeks and has mild colic. After a feed she squirms and crys and curls over her tummy. Apparently when I was wee I used to do this as well but much much worse.

I use infacol at every feed and it really seems to help. However the dropper that infacol comes with often doesn't fill up with the full dosage, it looks full but it's not so we have found she sometimes gets worse as we have mistakenly not been giving her the correct amount. Several of my friends with new babies have the same problem. It would be a great help if the bottle could be redesigned!

Ds got colic at 6 weeks old - but as he was 6 wks premature, adjusted age he would have been a newborn.

How did I know? I just did from the constant crying and it was a night and day affair for him. My health visitor agreed with me it was colic. I found it makes the baby cues very hard to read - you're really not sure when they're hungry or need winded or in pain. Infacol didn't work, along with everything else I bought. Comforting him upright on my chest while tapping his back shhing him helped slightly. Putting on the hairdryer stopped the crying almost instantly, which would resume as soon as it went off.

Honestly it was one of the toughest periods of my life. Several times I had to put him down in his cot and just walk away as I was frightened his crying was going to send me over the edge.

6 weeks later it magically, blissfully seemed to stop almost overnight.

TheGrandPooBah Tue 11-Dec-12 23:07:57

DS, who was exclusively breastfed, had terrible colic for 6 months. He was fine during the day, but would suffer from about 5 pm to roughly 10 pm every night. Standing up and walking around with him helped - if we sat down with him, the only way to stop him crying was to hold him up in the air. He would often wake in the night, and the only thing that would soothe him was to hold him in my arms and bounce on the side of the bed. I'm sure our neighbours thought we were having frequent and and amazing sex, but nothing could be further from the truth. It was absolutely horrendous and completely draining. What did seem to help - although this may just have been coincidental, when he was growing out of it - was the teething powders. Our younger DD thankfully never had colic at all.

MistyB Tue 11-Dec-12 23:37:56

Oh and standing outside in the rain in the evening with DS in the sling using the time to inspect the guttering, wondering if I could watch TV through the window and if the neighbours would think I was weird!

MrsHoarder Wed 12-Dec-12 00:00:16

Ds had colic, he cried solidly for hours. We have him infacol after every feed, not sure it made a difference tbh. His bouncy chair in vibrate sometimes helped, our being carried about. Other than that we just held, fed sang and reassured whilst we rode it out.

hobnob57 Wed 12-Dec-12 00:05:49

What is colic - inconsolable crying in a small baby with no apparent cause, often in the evenings

I've had 3 babies with 'colic', as identified by gp's an hv's, all from birth until long after the 'magic' 3 months. For one it was constant. The last baby it was early evening until 1 or 2 a.m., sometimes all night. They all have food sensitivities and silent reflux which made things much worse. Even with medication and adjusted diet, the colic symptoms were there. Fussiness, inability to settle, even on the breast, crying and thrashing around. We have used infacol - not sure if it did anything but it made us feel like we were doing something. Nice marketing strategy.

Things that helped were jigging up and down, walking, constant movement (but not rocking side to side oddly). Using a mei tai sling. On occasion a dummy helped. Sometimes a change of scene.

What effect did it have on us? My partner felt helpless and defeated by it and eventually resigned himself to the fact that only mummy could possibly console the baby (sometimes) and I began to resent the fact that I never got a break. But we know it does stop. It does make you jealous of other babies that are meek and mild and settled and how their parents can stare at them as they sleep peacefully instead of crashing out during every nap.

MegBusset Wed 12-Dec-12 09:42:20

DS1 had colic, or rather he cried A LOT, every evening, til he was about 3mo. In retrospect I'm not even sure if colic is A Proper Thing rather than a description of symptoms; is there a recognised medical definition? Anyway he was a very unhappy baby, had reflux and eczema and (we found out later) a crapload of food allergies. We got through loads of Infacol, I was never sure if it was doing anything but he seemed to cry more if he didn't have it!

It was a pretty horrible time tbh, we tried white noise, carrying in sling, feeding, tiger-in-the-tree hold, baby massage, god knows what else. Nothing really made much difference, we just had to wait it out!

DS1 didn't get colic at all, but DS2, who is 4 months old now, had it horrendously until he was 10 weeks old. We did try Infacol, gripe water and cooled boiled water. None of it really helped. He was a smaller baby, when he was born, than his brother (7.11lbs) and I think that when he grew, hence his tummy was bigger then it eased. It was awful at the time as I had to have a second c-sec so found it over-whelming and would try anything to help prevent colic.

*would have tried anything to help prevent colic.

milk Wed 12-Dec-12 10:21:07

"It is known that women who smoke during pregnancy double their chances of having a baby who develops colic.
This may be because smoking causes a rise in the levels of a hormone called motilin during pregnancy. Increased levels of motilin may lead to symptoms of indigestion and colic shortly after birth."

With this information known, why do I keep seeing pregnant women smoking?!? angry

turnipvontrapp Wed 12-Dec-12 10:22:08

Do you or have you ever had a baby who has suffered from infant colic? Yes, had 2.

How did you know what the condition was? Usual symptoms - crying, pulling legs up, lots of wind.

What symptoms did your little one have and how old were they? Crying, pulling legs up, wind.

Please share anything in particular that helped to comfort your baby. The only thing that worked for mine were Cranial Osteopathy, it worked like magic.

What could have helped you during this period? A resident cranial osteopath!

What effect, if any, did colic have on you or your partner? Very stressful at the time

Mibby Wed 12-Dec-12 10:45:56

DD had colic till about 4-5 months, we did use infacol and it seemed to help. It was mostly trapped wind and even now, at two, she still has ' windy' days. Cant seem to link it to anything specific tho sad

R2PeePoo Wed 12-Dec-12 11:08:57

DS had colic that was linked to lactose intolerance. He screamed from 8 weeks until he was six months, was a real struggle to feed and really found it hard to sleep. He could scream for hours and hours. I don't remember a huge amount about that time as it made me really unwell physically and mentally but I remember the arguments with DH about it. Poor DD didn't get much attention at all.

The only thing that helped was me stripping off and putting him in a Moby wrap sling in the froggy hold (with his legs sort of out and up) in just a nappy. The warmth and skin to skin contact gave him enough peace to go to sleep and after a few weeks I could put my clothes back on and it still worked.

Nervousfirsttimer Wed 12-Dec-12 12:05:38

My ds suffered from about three weeks through to ten weeks. You could pretty much set your watch by him, kicking off at 6 and he'd scream through till 9pm. We got good at eating one handed! Infacol helped to ease it a bit, but nothing cured him completely, just time! Now he's 20 weeks and we have teething screaming instead!

turkeyboots Wed 12-Dec-12 12:25:09

DD had colic. It was horrendous and we had no clue what to do. Was told by various HCP that we had to suck it up as crying was what babies did.

In retrospect DD probably had reflux. But no-one seemed to be able to differentiate between them, so we struggled on til she was 8 months and it vanished.

Wail of anguish at the memory!

SpitSpot Wed 12-Dec-12 12:26:33

Do you or have you ever had a baby who has suffered from infant colic? How did you know what the condition was? What symptoms did your little one have and how old were they?
Please share anything in particular that helped to comfort your baby. What could have helped you during this period? What effect, if any, did colic have on you or your partner?

SpitSpot Wed 12-Dec-12 12:30:02

DS2 had colic from about 3 weeks until 3 months. He screamed every evening in obvious discomfort with an arched back. We tried various different treatments but the only thing that seemed to help was Colief in some expressed milk given in a bottle. Also massaging his stomach and holding him front down along my arm while rubbing his back helped to soothe him.
It was very hard to deal with the screaming and seeing my baby in pain, and it was exhausting! It was a massive relief when he seemed to grow out of it.

weenwee Wed 12-Dec-12 12:31:54

Ah, Infacol. We had about 50 bottles (it seemed!) of that stuff lying around at any one moment. I don't know if it helped, but it sure as heck didn't hurt! smile Sadly, time and the knowledge that your child isn't dying were the only true cures.

henryscatoscar Wed 12-Dec-12 12:40:07

Much like most people our go said we had a colicky baby which is a catch all term with no exact medical definition. We tried rapid pacing which sometimes worked. The best thing we used was a grace sweet peace(I think) which swings the child side to side,this was pricey but gave us some relief. In the end it turned out our son was milk protein intolerant. Hence we had to use a substitute.infacol did help but much persistence on our part and seeing manus docs got the right diagnosis.

DGMommy Wed 12-Dec-12 12:56:35

My first had terrible colic for her first 4 months. My go-to position for her was to hold her with her back to my tummy, my arm under her tummy and sort of half facing down, half facing out. It put a small amount of pressure on her tummy and seemed to relieve her a bit. Plus, she was close to mum, which is still her favorite place to be (she's 7!).

OanaChi Wed 12-Dec-12 13:54:33

My wee one cried a LOT the first few months. We thought she had colic initially and we tried(among many other things) Infacol but unfortunately she turned out to be refluxy and we had to resort to medication in the end.

CordeliaChase Wed 12-Dec-12 13:57:35

Infacol was an absolute godsend for my DS! He had reflux and was colicky, poor thing was so miserable. I tried everything for his colic, new bottles and off the shelf remedies. Nothing worked. Then I was in sainsburys one day and picked up some infacol. I popped some in his next bottle, and it worked! I couldn't believe it! I had spent a small fortune trying everything else, and a little bottle of infacol sorted it. I have since recommended it to a few of my friends who have colicky babies, and they all think its great too.

BadMissM Wed 12-Dec-12 13:57:37

DD had awful colic..., from a few weeks old until about 6-7 months. I was miles away from anyone in my family (they were in another country), and my MIL seemed to think that pain was good for small children. I was despairing about what to do, I didn't know what was available in france as it is quite different to what is available in the UK, until a Dutch neighbour suggested weak camomile tea with a little honey in it.

I tried it, and it worked like magic.... But it would have been nice to have a simple, over-the-counter treatment!

We think DS had colic for a while, it was horrible watching his little face contorted with pain. We gave him Infacol and I do think it helped him. Also, he had a slightly sore toenail and had to have antibiotics, which tasted VILE (properly disgusting, even I would object to taking that medicine) and we found that a squirt of infacol after the medicine helped to take away the taste, and stopped him from getting an upset tummy smile

AmandinePoulain Wed 12-Dec-12 15:14:56

Both of my babies had colic. Dd1 got diagnosed by the HV who happened to be there when she was having one of her crying episodes, she got some infacol prescribed which really helped her bring up her wind but didn't completely stop the episodes, which tended to happen in the early afternoon and early evening. We carried on using it until she was around 4mo.

Dd2 started off with a similar pattern, I saw the GP who told me that I was feeding her too often hmm, I didn't follow her advice to put her in the car if she cried too soon after her last feed! We tried infacol but I think her issues with wind were further down, she never had a problem bringing it up but she was very windy at the other end so we didn't really find that it helped. What really helped her, and pretty much stopped the crying episodes, was abdominal massage.

noseynoonoo Wed 12-Dec-12 15:52:44

It was through a BabyCalm course that I was able to understand what colic is - and what it isn't. I thought that it was a specific ailment, affecting a specific part of the body but the actual definition is that a baby has colic when a baby cries for at least 3 hours, 3 days a week, for 3 weeks. It's really just a catch-all term for unexplained crying - i.e. crying that we don't understand.

We did try infacol but that had no affect - daughter hated it despite it tasting quite nice (in my opinion). What did work was picking up our baby, using a wrap or sling to keep her close and generally having the time to be with her. This would generally stop the unexplained crying, so perhaps the explanation was that she needed more of us.

RabbitsMakeGOLDBaubles Wed 12-Dec-12 23:43:17

Laying my DS across my knees and rubbing his back used to help. As did baby massage after a warm bath with me. With DD I used a sling so we were in constant contact, seemed to help with her constant fussing.

PeazlyPops Thu 13-Dec-12 08:51:17

My son didn't have colic, but was very unsettled after a feed when he was 1-3 months old, and I found it hard to wind him.

My mum and MIL both suggested gripe water, and my mum went to fetch us some, but came back with infacol was gripe water wasn't available. I was skeptical, and we didn't want to give DS the infacol was we felt it was unnecessary.

We came round to the idea and did give it before a feed. I'm not sure if it worked or if he would have got better anyway.

Do you or have you ever had a baby who has suffered from infant colic? How did you know what the condition was? What symptoms did your little one have and how old were they?
Yes, I think DD had colic. At approx or was it precisely 4pm every day from approx 4 weeks through til 12 weeks old shock. I could tell by what appeared to be uncontrollable discomfort, knees up to the tummy and constant crying which none of the checklist would help i.e. feeding, less stimulation, more stimulation, checking for illness, sleeping etc. I guessed it was colic by the lack of other illness symptoms and the regularity of the crying.

Please share anything in particular that helped to comfort your baby. What could have helped you during this period? What effect, if any, did colic have on you or your partner?
I tried to help DD bring up wind after BF, and not lie DD on her back too soon after a feed. I also watched my diet and tried not to eat foods that could encourage wind in DD. I was discouraged from using any bottled remedies as a lot of what I read and discussed suggested that nobody truly knew what colic was, what caused it and were dubious on the effectiveness of the bottled remedies confused. I now regret trying a remedy as the crying did have a big impact on me and DH creating tension sad on how we dealt with it and whether we needed to try to resolve it or let it resolve itself.
Clearer information about colic and a recognition of its impact on the family would have been more helpful, rather than a disregard of it like it didn't exist which lead to little constructive advice on how to deal with it.

mistlethrush Thu 13-Dec-12 12:50:33

Do you or have you ever had a baby who has suffered from infant colic? How did you know what the condition was? What symptoms did your little one have and how old were they?

Yes - my son got this - the first time the classic (for him) crying and rooting / head shaking appeared was on night 3 - the MW on duty (in hosp as emcs) said I must be feeding him 'wrong' and tried all sorts including clamping him to me, all to no avail. On a bad night, when he was about 3 weeks old, he would start crying (a very distinctive cry) at 7pmish and carry on until 4 or 5 am, with the odd 5 mins off if you were really lucky.

Please share anything in particular that helped to comfort your baby. What could have helped you during this period? What effect, if any, did colic have on you or your partner?

When we worked out later on that it was colic we first tried infacol - that helped a tiny bit. We then tried Colief which helped quite a bit, but cranial osteopathy seemed to make it just disappear overnight - there was no lessening of symptoms - he had it then it was gone.

When he was bad, keeping him fairly upright and rocking was the best option - a swing seat helped. Sometimes lying him over your forearm, head in hand, arms and legs hanging down either side and again rocking helped.

prettybird Thu 13-Dec-12 14:19:20

Ds never suffered from colic but my best friend's first child did. He was the only one of the 4 to do so.

If I called them at about 7pm he would invariably be crying; she (and her dh) just let him cry it out and got used to the noise. Iirc, it was about an hour long period. They were/are both GPs, so I presumed that was an OK approach. They knew he was otherwise fine, so ignored the crying.

Said child is now in his mid 20s and seems none the worse for it! smile

LittleLolly Thu 13-Dec-12 16:30:37

My 8 week old DS is suffering from terrible colic at present. I have tried infacol, colief, cow and gate comfort, dr brown's bottles, a special mattress wedge, keep him upright after feeds. My GP has now started him on infant gaviscon which seems to have made him a little more settled. He as screaming from 9pm until 1am, and 8 am until 11 am every day. Now he just cries at night, and not every night. His dummy seems to help him, and I never lie him flat after a feed. During the day I carry him in the sling if he is crying, this seems to sooth him. I'm just hoping he grows out of it soon!

LittleLolly Thu 13-Dec-12 16:31:44

Oh, we've also been to a cranial osteopath. This made no difference to him.

flamingtoaster Thu 13-Dec-12 17:15:56

My DS had awful colic for a few months - he would scream (very obviously a pain cry rather than just tired or annoyed) for a couple of hours every evening, drawing his legs up. We tried various remedies (Infacol wasn't around then). We just carried him around, talking quietly or singing to reassure him, during the attacks.

Griselda Thu 13-Dec-12 20:17:19

Every nappy change I would massage both my dd's tummies (2yrs 8mth age gap) with a routine I had learnt at a class. It might have done the trick but mostly made me feel useful.

MulledTurkey Thu 13-Dec-12 20:36:31

All of my babies had 'colic' according to various HV and some doctors, turns out they all actually had reflux which is treatable and when you find the right paediatrician they can stop your baby suffering.

My babies had a milk intolerance which the reflux was a symptom of and they grew out of it eventually, the latest baby very early at 6 months which was fantastic.

My tip is get reflux and intolerance ruled out before you allow people to dismiss your baby's distress as colic it could literally change your first few months together.

I still breastfed (still am much to my amazement, dd is 8 months!!) I had to stop with first baby because of the colic symptoms and general exhaustion but wish I had known about reflux. I ate a dairy free diet this time for 6 months it was fine and baby is the happiest one I have had yet! When bottle feeding there is special milk which is prescribed and takes away symptoms.

If reflux is not a symptom of an intolerance there is advice and medication if needed which can help SO much. Of course not all babies who scream will have reflux and there is no need to medicate always but trust me it IS worth getting a good doctor and at the very least ruling it out. So many people I have met have thought their babies had colic but it wasn't.

Thatsinteresting Thu 13-Dec-12 20:58:31

My ds had terrible colic from just a few days old. He would start crying at 4pm and keep crying until he feel asleep with exhaustion. He would sleep for 10-20 minutes and then start crying again sometimes until 6am with just 5 or 6 of these very short breaks. Nothing really works except waiting for them to get older. Boots own gripe water seems to help a little. My only real advice is to pick your child up and tell them you love them (even if you don't). It doesn't fix anything but it's hard to feel anger towards someone while telling them you love them. And you do feel cross with your child even though you know it's not their fault, you're just exhausted and desperate for some rest.

abiw92 Thu 13-Dec-12 21:36:58

My DD suffered with it from around 3-8 weeks bless her although i had tommee tippee anti colic bottles she still got it. i did try infacol on the adice of a friend sorry to say it didnt work just made her scream loader as her cries was more like screams i would settle her then it would start again it was difficult being a single mum and still recoving from a water infection from the hospital and a load of stiches. So i decided to try gtipe water which helped a bit then when I was visiting my brother as he had not long had a baby after me and his fiancee showed me a mam anti collic self sterillising bottle she had been given for her little girl and it looked great and innotive so although i had a very tight budget with waiting for child benefit and tax credits ect to come through. it was starting to get me down even more so i decided too look round for the mam bottles they wasnt cheap as they were just over £30 for 6 bottles but they worked amazing and a few days after changing her bottles she was much better and is now 12weeks and hasnt had any since thankfully.

Merida Thu 13-Dec-12 21:53:27

DS suffered horrendously with colic teamed with reflux. Oh my days, we went through everything. We used (at various times, and occasionally combinations of one or more of...

Infacol, Gripe Water, Colosynth granules - all worked for a couple of days then seemed to stop working so we used them on rotation!
Umpteen burping positions and 'pass the baby' as we each took turns
Jogging up and down on the spot
Dummies
Dancing round the room
Swinging him in our arms, and when most desperate extreme, the carseat (successful but knackering)
The most successful? We went on youtube and searched for baby white noise. We found a short track called 'baby got colic'. It is horrendous, it's like unleashing the hounds of hell upon yourself. However, the instant DS heard it he stopped screaming.
Cue us playing it on repeat over, and over, and over, practically every night for over a month.

What do I wish I'd known? We fed him on demand when we thought he was hungry, which was when he cried. I wish we'd realised that just because he was crying didn't meant he was hungry. He was quite a sucky baby and I'm sure now that we could've settled him with a dummy and let his last feed settle for a while before feeding him again.

They do say that hindsight is 20/20...

gemma4d Thu 13-Dec-12 22:19:33

I don't know if DD1 had "proper" colic or just always cried a lot at the same time of the day. With DD2 I discovered Tummy Tubs. All the relaxation of a bath but without the time (and cost!) of filling a big bath. It would definitely be on my "must have" list for DC3!

DS had colic from around 3 weeks old to around 17 weeks old. It was hell. He cried for at least an hour every night for each of those weeks (usually around 3 hours). It felt like we tried everything - osteopath, 'tiger in the tree' hold, over the counter medicine, crying over the GP, begging HV for help, shhhhhhhh, white noise, the five Ss, a light show... I can't even remember most of the things we did!

To be honest, nothing really worked to cure it. He just gradually got better until we realised that he hadn't screamed for a while!

Even now, at 16mo, he doesn't sleep very well (waking at least every three hours overnight) and I wonder if those unsettled first few months have led to this.

I wish more was known about colic and I wish there was a cure.

OscarPistoriusBitontheside Thu 13-Dec-12 22:51:06

Both of my boys had appalling trapped wind. I was repeatedly told that breastfed babies didn't get wind.hmm

I used infacol with both of them along with generous doses of baby massage. I honestly recommended infacol to all of my friends now if their babies are windy.

Another thing I used to do was put them cross ways over my knees and rub and pat their little backs, seemed
To help move stuck wind.

DMAGANTI Fri 14-Dec-12 06:32:16

My 1st child had severe colic till about 40 days. i remember clearly as I did not sleep more that 3 to 4 hours each day and then suddenly she was out of it.
We did give her colic medicine which would help for some time but it was the same after a few hours.
The colic pain would invariably happen during the nights and she would continuously cry. No amount of rubbing the back or carrying her would soothe her.
I had a feeling that it had something to do with the food I was taking, I am not sure what! Also I later found that it could also occur due to incorrect feeding posture, where the children gulp in air along with the milk!

Iam just lucky that I did not face the same with my second born...

MulledTurkey Fri 14-Dec-12 12:08:32

Oscar- I was told the same thing about breastfed babies and wind! What rot, they do get it!!! Sometimes I wonder about the information we are given by professionals, not all obviously but some of them

supergreenuk Sat 15-Dec-12 18:28:02

Both mine had colic but with my first I was totally uneducated and had no idea what it was. To be fair she didn't suffer terribly but she was so unsettled and made lots of noises. With my second we were much more clued up. I gave infacol alongside massage and lots of burping. It felt pretty helpless really although doing something was better than doing nothing.

supergreenuk Sat 15-Dec-12 18:29:39

Both mine were breast fed and both had it. More so with my second as he had tongue tie.

Oopla Sat 15-Dec-12 19:38:20

Colic's awful, nothing worked but like a desperate fool I tried everything. Best advice for new parent facing it is Grit your teeth and wait it out

EnjoyResponsibly Sat 15-Dec-12 21:01:14

I didn't wait to see if DS actually got colic, having seen how awful it was for DN I gave it to DS from day 1. He didn't get colic.

Welovecouscous Sat 15-Dec-12 21:05:14

I was told by my HV not to use any of the OTC remedies as there is no proof they work.

We found gently bouncing him while holding him upright helped when he had wind.

nikkihuk Sat 15-Dec-12 21:51:22

Colic is awful. My son had it very badly and scrunched his little body up in pan all the time. His tummy always felt tense and his screams were piercing! It was a hugely stressful time for both of us. I found massaging him delicately, placing him on his tummy and using Infacol the best remedies and advise all my friends the same.

MsTitanium Sun 16-Dec-12 00:44:21

My 2 DSs didn't have colic but then my DD3 did from about 6 to 14 weeks. It was hell! She would be inconsolable all day and would claw at her face and my chest so that we were both covered in scratches. It seemed to come over her in waves. I tried everything systematically, infacol, colief, anti-colic bottles, easy digest milk... My wonderful HV got me an appointment with a paediatrician to check for an underlying cause but found nothing. Weirdly once I accepted that there was nothing else I could do or try and i just had to get on with it, it became easier to deal with. It annoys me that 'colic' is given as a general reason for a baby crying (all babies cry from 6pm-10pm, fact grin). I just can't forget how she would scratch at herself in obvious agony.

rockinhippy Sun 16-Dec-12 01:15:23

My DD suffered badly with colic from the day she was born until I found a solution with my diet - she screamed & screamed & was ridged with pain, her stomach bloated & tight as a drum I still remember pacing the floor with her, trying eveything to sooth her & feeling so helpless. Initially nothing worked, none of the usual remedies helped much at all & our GP wasn't that interested. DH did his best to help us both, but it made sense that he tried to sleep as he was working & there was no point in us both being up all night, as was often the case. We did find some baby massage techniques helped a bit & DH had just the right sized upper leg bonevto lie her face down & rub anti clockwise through over the back of her gut in a squared motion - this calmed her enough for me to cope, but she was still distressed & in pain, but al least not squealing in an obviously agonised high pitched wail - I would continue this massage myself after he went back to bed, it was the only way to get her comfortable again.

Thankfully an old friend worked in alternative medicine & she suggested I looked at my diet. It hadn't occurred to us that food could be to blame as I was exclusively breast feeding. She told me about layered foods, lettuce, onions etc & also spice & any foods with additives & how they passed through into breast milk & so into DD, cutting these out made a HUGE difference - we still had odd minor bouts, but it was 99% better unless I accidentally ate something layered, such as the time I grabbed a sandwich when out & didn't realise it had opinion in it - such a tiny amount, but the effect it had on DD was huge, again she was wailing .& ridged with pain - it proved it was no coincidence & made me far more careful - the very minor bouts that occasionally flared up after that were easily helped with massage & things like infacol.

DD went onto be diagnosed with IBS & more recently Hypermobility Syndrome, which affects the stomach too, looking back I realise her extremely bad colic & reflux problem was probably the reason.

rockinhippy Sun 16-Dec-12 01:19:02

Should have read - probably down to this reason

ProtegeMoi Sun 16-Dec-12 03:54:14

I think colic is very misdiagnosed.

My DD suffered awfully, she was in pain, she was vomiting and she was screaming.

She was diagnosed with colic and were given advice and medication, it did nothing.

We were told to persevere, told she wouldoutgrow it. She didn't.

It turns out she has severe reflux, not one person looked any further then colic and due to this my DD suffered far longer than she had to. sad

Dd suffered even though bf and I used infacol, I was nervous as she had not had anything other than breast milk. She seemed to like it and didn't spit it out and it did make a difference. If I forgot or ran out you could tell if she hadn't had it.

JenniferHelen Sun 16-Dec-12 14:33:03

Bot my babies suffered from infant colic. DS stopped at 11 weeks and DD is still suffering - she will be 12 weeks next Friday. I knew it was colic because it was the textbook build-up of wind and discomfort throughout the day until both babies were in a lot of pain late afternoon / early evening, resulting in hours of hysterical crying, inability to feed and distress with their tummies hardening. After hours of crying, both flaked out asleep and when they awoke, their systems had calmed down, they were able to feed again, and usually slept very well at night. My DS's symptoms peaked just before they ended, just before 11 weeks, and at 11 weeks it was as if someone had flipped a switch and he didn't have any of the above symptoms anymore.

3 things helped to comfort both babies; sucking on my upturned little finger (no need for dummies - you only have to wean them off them and pretty soon they can't get to sleep or settle without them which is a pain!); carrying baby upright on my shoulder and walking around the house and going outside for bouts of fresh air whilst singing / humming gently (the vibrations in my throat from singing was comforting); and breathing calmly (the babies keep trying to mimic this rhythm which can help to calm them down and get them to flake out asleep). The only thing that could really have helped was something to give my babies that helped release the wind during the day, minimising the discomfort by evening. I haven't tried Infacol, but it sounds as if that is what it aims to do, which must help. Fortunately my partner was really patient when he was around (he works unconventional hours) and he was especially great at pacing the floor and singing. My babies loved this and the fact he didn't smell of milk helped settle them too as they weren't attempting to feed when their tummies wouldn't let them. It's tough, but it's temporary!

ISawSantaKissingThePortlyPinUp Sun 16-Dec-12 14:48:08

My 4 dd's didn't suffer with regular colic but would have days when they required either gripe water or infacol. I used to love the little gripe water smelling burps they used to do afterwards grin

Things that worked for us included, warm baths, baby massage, being held upright in a sling and walked around or being passed to my granddad who never fails in getting a baby's wind up, even if he does ruin numerous matinee jackets in the process.

HotheadPaisan Sun 16-Dec-12 18:36:29

DS2 had this from weeks 6-13. I walked him around in sling for so many hours I got plantar fasciitis (very painful foot thing). Is it really only classed as colic in the first month?

Anyway, I guess it could have been reflux or some other gut/ system immaturity thing, whatever it was, he would projectile vomit and be extremely distressed, writhing and crying, always in the evening.

I raised our bed, he co-slept and breastfed and I just walked him around a lot in a sling. Maybe I should have tried some medication, I think you find yourself in a situation and try to get through it as best you can.

milkymonkey Sun 16-Dec-12 18:53:25

My second appeared to develop colic at about 2/3 weeks old and I just couldn't work out why as he was BF and I'd not had a day of it with DS1.

Turned out he had tongue-tie which had been missed, I thought I noticed it, a friend agreed and the HV confirmed. Had it 'snipped' at 5 weeks and we reastablished BF within a few days (and BF for 14 months) No more 'colic'!

Always get this checked out as it is not automatically diagnosed early on! Hope this bit of advise helps someone!

monkeypuzzeltree Sun 16-Dec-12 21:07:49

DD had colic, from week 3-15, I walked miles around the kitchen table. We used to find sitting her up and leaning her back and forth helped - as if you're found "row your boat!" Tricky when they're little though.

We used infacol, seemed to work since if we didn't, would def take longer to bring wind up. I kept it everywhere just in case I forgot it!- upstairs, downstairs, in my bag, the car!

My son has been ebf and we've not had it at all, not sure if that's the difference or if we just escaped it this time. With DD i saw my doctor in desperation, saw a locum who told me colic was in my head and there was no such thing ..... Hmm, took a lot if self control to walk out without screaming at him "fancy popping in at 7pm and seeing for yourself!!"

RarelyUnreasonable Mon 17-Dec-12 07:13:55

<stumbles blearily-eyed in>. Ds is 3 weeks and appears to have colic, screaming and farting all evening and night. Will try Infacol today as well as the other tips on this thread. Will also cut dairy from my diet after this coffee.

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