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The folks at Pink Lady are looking for nominations from Mumsnetters for their "No.1" person. Here's what they say: "We're so proud of the great taste of Pink Lady apples, some say they're too good to share. We'd like to know who you'd give your last Pink Lady to and why they're your No.1 person."
So, do you have an adult family member or adult friend who you has done something special this year? Have they supported you through some difficult times? Maybe they've provided great advice or just been a shoulder to cry on? Perhaps they've had a tough year but you've admired how they've coped with it? Are they always being a good friend to you? Whatever the case may be Pink Lady would love to hear your nominations - you don't have to name them but just describe what they mean to you.
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My number 1 person would be my dp, we have been together nearly nine years and have had some rough times including 2 m/c's, his heart attacks and angina attacks, he lost his job due to his ill health and subsequent depression. However bad it's been he has supported me and been a wonderful dad to our 4 dd's. He drives me mad daily but he is the first person I turn to, he is my number 1.
I have to say its my dh too. We've been married for 15 years, and in that time we've moved long distance twice, he's been made redundnant twice, we lost three babies, I acquired a disability after an accident, he had a nervous breakdown, and he's facing major surgery with possibly an amputation. Oh, and my parents are very frail and mum has dementia.
And through it all, he just hugs me and says 'we'll get through it' - and we do. Just him, me and ds.
My no1 person is my lovely friend. We met 17 years ago at antenatal class with our first babies and been friends ever since. We have shared sleepless nights, toddling, first school days, second babies, childhood illnesses, secondary schools, exams, work angst, me going back to school (twice), good times and bad times and lord knows how many bottles of wine.
She's had an unbelievably rubbish year. Both her and her DH have bern made redundant. Her DHs father died after a long illness and then her own lovely dad died suddenly. And during all that, supporting her MiL and her Mum, she has decided to have a complete career change and gone back to college and run a couple of marathons.
Despite all this going on she is still kind and thoughful enough to be my friend. To be there for me when I need her.
I wish I had a quarter of her energy and patience.
Is this a 5-a-day version of "your last Rolo"?
i'd nominate my mum. she has had such a tough life and doesn't have much but is always there for us. if she sees us struggling she would give up her last penny and always puts us first. This year she's solved all my worries as she's giving up her job to look after my baby dd when I go back to work. I know she'll love it bit also that she's doing it for me. She would definately deserve my last apple and much much more
I'd nominate my friend. She's had a really bad year coping with family illness and some ill health of her own, but she has never stopped doing for other people. She has raised thousands for charity in various ways, spends more time making other people happy than anyone I've ever known and is a truly selfless person.
You'll all see her on one of those Noel's Christmas Presents sorts of programmes one day, being given the recognition she deserves, I'm sure of it!
I would have to nominate my Mum.
She has always amazed me with her ability to cope with the worst of situations and the most stressful of times and yet still find time for all 7 of her children.
However, over the last few years she has been a tower of strength to me and the rest of our family. My younger sister was diagnosed with a serious mental health condition and as a result had her daughter removed from her care (at 3 months old) my Mum at the age of 58 jumped into action and took residence of my neice, she then went through a year of hellish assessments and meetings and was finally granted special guardianship of my neice until she is 18. Over the last 4 years she has managed to juggle caring for my neice and putting her needs first as well as looking out for my sister and helping her through this horrific situation. She also helped me through a major operation last year and supported me to complete my degree and win a place on a social work masters course.
In the last 2 months we have discovered that my sister is again pregnant and the likelyhood is this child will be removed at birth My Mum at 62 years old is, after lots of heartache and sleepless nights, now putting herself forward again as a carer for my sisters new baby to stop it going into the care system.
I am also pregnant (due 4 weeks after my sister) and completing my masters and she always manages to support and encourage me as well as her other 5 sons.
I really don't know how she does it, I know she is exhausted and wishes things were so different but she just keeps going. At 62 she should be enjoying her retirement and seeing her family and grandchildren (she has 10 so far) travelling and relaxing. But she has chosen as she always does to put her family first and push through to make sure that those babies get the best possible start in life they can have.
She amazes me and for that reason she is my No.1 person.
I would nominate my dh, he is my best friend, and has been so understanding and supportive through tough times, I couldn't have done it without him. He always smiles and is cheery and is just amazing.
Jacqueline, your mum sounds utterly amazing. You must be so proud to have someone as incredible and inspirational as that in your life.
I am proud and I love her to bits even though she also manages to do what every good mother should and drive me bloody insane
It's my DH for me, too.
The boys can be tricky to deal with, sometimes (both have ASD) and he's right there tag teaming with me when it needs doing.
And he went out and bought and fitted a padlock for the understairs cupboard after DS2 learned to get in there, this week, so I no longer need to push the dining table against it all day. I'd happily give him my last apple for that alone (once he's picked his socks up off the bathroom floor - bit of a blindspot there).
For me it would have to be my Mum. She is the loveliest, most caring person I know. She'll always make time for anyone who wants to talk, and also volunteers as a counsellor at a local charity. She always puts her family first (my Dad and sister are very demanding on her time!) and I wish she'd spend more time on herself!
She always has a delicious cake in, and has been amazingly supportive of me this year with my new baby, and I am touched at how much she loves her new grandson. Every day I think about how lucky I am to have such a wonderful Mum so she could definitely have my last pink lady - which is quite a thing for me to say as they are my favourite apple by far!!
My number 1 person would be my Mum.
The last few years have been tremendously stressful. She had a heart attack 2 months after DD was born and the thought of her not being here to see her first grandchild growing up has weighed heavily on me.
She has powered through though, she quit smoking and is on umpteen medications every day, but her devotion to my daughter is unwavering.
Money is tight but she has stepped in to help out with childcare regularly. She finds it very tiring running around after a toddler but she wouldn't have it any other way.
She has been so supportive, even though she has been going through her own crisis, and I genuinely don't know what I'd do without her.
My number 1 person is my mum. She's been an amazing support to me and a fantastic grandmother to DD. (She also loved pink lady apples)
She came to stay with us to help me night wean DD and got her sleeping through the night (well, to 4:30) when I was too exhausted to do anything other than boob to sleep in the middle of the night. she's always there for me, but never interferes. She looked after DD do DH and I could go away for a day by ourselves. I don't know what I'd do without her.
My fiance - I had a serious accident 4 months ago and he has rearranged the rest of his life around visiting me in hospital, supporting me getting home, enabling me to recover both physically, emotionally and spiritually. I am so lucky, never had a relationship like this before and very, very grateful.
It would have to be my lovely midwife (also a good friend) who agreed to provide one to one care for me despite being on secondment in a different hospital 2 hours away. She has a 4hour daily commute and still had time for my antenatal checks and to harass me about taking my iron tablets. Now that dd is here, she's been incredibly supportive and helped out with ds. When ds was born I really struggled with bf and again she came over and spent hours with me helping to get his latch sorted. I wouldn't have bf him past a week if not for her, and it was my bf experience from last time that has given me the confidence to bf dd.
I would like to nominate my friend J.
J and I have been friends since we were in the same postnatal group following the arrivals of our (now 5 year old) daughters. We gradually became better friends and over coffee while the girls played, we would chat and found we had lots in common and a very similar
filthy sense of humour.
J was on hand when my second daughter was born and helped out with DD1 when I was in hospital. Her offer of help was unconditional: whatever she was doing, wherever she was, she promised she would drop everything and come over and help when I went into labour.
5 weeks after DD2 was born, I had to call on J to help again. This time because my wonderful DH had been admitted to hospital and was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I remember the day he was diagnosed, I came home from the hospital in the evening, in absolute bits, totally exhausted physically and emotionally and J and her husband were there. Her husband was busy fixing a leak in the bathroom and J had tidied up the mess I had made earlier in the day in my rush to get to the hospital and was cooking us all dinner. She poured me a glass of wine and made me sit down whilst she took care of the girls. After dinner she bathed the children and put them to bed. I am not sure if she gets how truly wonderful it was to see her on that evening, and just how much I needed someone there. As well as all of the practical things, just having someone there to hug me and to listen to me through my tears, still brings a tear to my eye now.
During the last year of my husband's life, J was there. She has this incredible gift of always saying the right thing, of doing the right thing. She was on hand to help me with childcare if I needed to go to the hospital with DH, and then later if I wanted to spend time alone with him at the hospice. She was always there with a cup of tea and a hug and some bloody common sense! She was there the day of his funeral, when our two daughters (best friends!) played in the church. She took DD1 home afterwards when she had her very first sleep over, bringing her back the following day with happy memories from the day her father was laid to rest.
In the 18 months since DH died, J has always been there for me. She totally understands my hopes and fears, my dreams hoped for and my wishes dashed. We are currently rather rubbish gym buddies: we are meant to be helping each other regain some kind of level of fitness, but instead encourage each other to sneak off early, scoff cake and drink copious amounts of tea and natter away about life, the universe and everything else.
I know she values me as a friend, and perhaps that is why she has helped so much. But I think it's more than that: she is an incredibly special person who has an innate understanding of my situation. I would like to thank her from the bottom of my heart for being such a fantastic friend.
My dh is most definitely my number one! He is amazingly supportive and works super hard to help me with our 2 year old and 6 month old boys.
On Mondays, he goes to work at 8am, comes home at 6:30pm to help with the kids, make dinner, wash up, put the bins out. He then makes me a cup of tea before going back to work at 8:30pm and comes home again at 11pm.
He's my superstar! I would give him my last pink lady without any hesitation!
gosh this is a hard one.
I am very lucky to have a few amazing people in my life. My mum is great but my Dp really has been there for me through some tough times. I had 4 miscarriages before having dd and dp was an absolute rock throughout all of them, he never flinched when I took my grief out on him never made me feel bad for it.
nothing seems to faze him. His father had a very serious accident and there were some deaths in his close family but he has coped with it all and still has a smile on his face
most of the time
he's been made redundant more times than I can remember and he is currently making the most of that by being a brilliant sahd to our dd and my elder dc.
I'm off to tell him just how fab he is!
My mum. She's always been great but since exP walked out in May she's been especially great, providing endless emotional support and wine!
She's also provided me with practical help such as being a guarantor on my mortgage which will enable me and DS to stay in our home.
She came on holiday with me and DS and we had a lovely time and we've been on lots of days out together. It's made me see that family life did not end when exP left, it's just changed.
She's looking after DS today and is spoiling him rotten as every good Granny should!
As JacquelineHyde said, she does what every mother does and drives me bloody insane sometimes but I honestly don't know where DS and I would be without her help, love and support.
I have an amazing mother-in-law. Yep that's not something you hear too often as mother in laws can often be a real pain - but mine said that she would be a doubly-good granny when our first baby came along to make up for me having lost my own mum a few years before that. And she has certainly kept her word. She now has 5 grandchildren (3 of them my kids) and she is amazing at being there when we need her (which is quite often now we have three and the eldest being autistic - we feel like we have our hands full a lot of the time). I remember a few years ago when I had REALLY bad flu and basically could not have coped without her help. She came by every day while i was unwell and took the kids out for the day until i felt better again. I never really get to say thank you to her as she does so much it is really hard to know how to say a special thank you - but she is great and we love her!
My number one person is my mum.... We have been through thick and thin together over the years...when our family broke down years ago we found ourselves homeless..with only each other. My mother is my best friend and had supported me in my life...she looked after my children so I could return to work, I always say to everyone that I hope I become like my mum as I get older, she is a happy go lucky person always smiling and laughing, she is my insperation and the person I look up to.
I don't know where I would be without her.
We all love her and appricate her tremendously.
Tempted to say my DH or my mum who are both amazing, but I'd like to nominate my friend, who is a fantastic mother and after a rough year she has welcomed a beautiful new DS to the world. I don't want to add too many details because she told me a lot of stuff in confidence but I can't think of anyone I know more deserving of no.1 person status!
My DD. She is kind, caring, helpful, funny, she amazes me every day and she loves apples. I would certainly give her my very last pink lady. I would say the same about DS too but he doesn't like apples. Not even covered in chocolate ones as I found out yesterday.
He has supported me through depression. He inspired and encouraged me to fulfill my ambitions.
He tells me I always look beautiful
which is a lie
He puts up with my dogs and various foster dogs sleeping in our bed, even though he claims to not be a dog person.
He brings me a cup of coffee every morning and knows to go away for 10 minutes and let me drink it before he talks to me
And he always compliments my cooking, even though he is a chef, and the kids are saying it tastes "weird"
I'd give him my last pink lady any day. But if I did, he would cut it up and give me half.
My friend has fought so hard for her sn twins future and education and has finally won her battle! she's exhausted and in debt, but is still (before, during and after the battle) there for everyone else.
She looks after the needs of her parents (both are elderly and infirm in many respects), is there for her other children and sc and husband and for her friends ~ me included. I don't know where she gathers her strength from tbh and how she puts everyone else ahead of herself I'll never know.
We've known one another for 42 years and I don't think I've ever met anyone as lovely, devoted, selfless or hard working. Her home is always clean and tidy and she goes out to work two days a week to make ends meet on a weekly basis. I don't know how she does it...She is fab!
She can definitely have my last Pink Lady, but I know that she'd cut it in half and hand me a piece
my friend and mummy substitute, both our boys are the same age even though there is a 26 yr age gap between us, and they both have the same special needs, she has been my rock. I have no family and have come to rely on her like a mother and she has never once complained! She listens to me moan, she is the only person in the world that i think understands what having a child with SN means sometimes, even DH thinks im fussing but when i talk to her i know that im not alone! and, if i gave her my last pink lady, i know she would appreciate it! she is lovely. (and often on a diet! )
My Mum. She has supported me through everything. My divorce. My moving home. My depression and my kids' special needs. She went part time to help with childcare and moved her days around to support me when my marriage ended. Even through her own illnesses she has been there for me, and she is amazing. I would truely not have got through the last 3 years or what life is going to throw at me in the next 3 without her on the end of the phone or being 5 minutes drive away. No one other than my kids comes close. If she wouldnt be so embarrased I would nominate her for the named award. But this will do. Truely a mum in a million.
Definitely my husband who has supported me amazingly through my pregnancy and the birth of our son. He brings me tea and breakfast in bed every morningand is such a loving involved father to our 5 month old, it's beautiful to watch them together.
My DH is my Number 1 person. He has stuck by me through illness that lasted years and when I lost his babies. He forks out loads of money each month to keep FABCat well fed and medicated (she is very old and ill) and is always willing to go to the shop when I need emergency chocolate. He is my best friend, is always on my side and has never ever let me down in 16 years of being together. He is my family as I don't have a birth one. I love him and always will.
Whatever I need, emotionally, financially, whatever, she gives it to me (and obv I pay back!!!)
We are an odd family though. Never show proper emotion (esp with parents) but we all know we are there.
I would love to nominate my Mum. I had a really tough pregnancy and with a one year old to look after earlier in the year was very tough. My mum has been incredibly supportive and it's the little things that make a huge difference, always willing to wash up or iron despite hating both. She has helped sensitively without treading on my husband toes and yet making me feel so loved and special. My mum is an amazing inspiration to me and this year has been tough for her too not only helping me and my family but also coping with the deterioration of her mother with altziemers and facing redundancy head on. I only hope that I grow into being the amazing caring mother, daughter, grandparent that she is too.
My DS. He is the reason for the brighter days after my DD died. I'd give him a while bag of pink ladies!
My No.1 person would be my husband. I know it's clichéd but he really is there for me throughout all my ups and downs. I am a wheelchair user and registered blind and my disability is degenerative. It makes it tough being a Mum because it limits me a lot but my DH is always there to support me, if part of my body has stopped working as well as it did, and it makes me feel down, he is there to cheer me up and try to make me feel better. He tirelessly does all the little things I find hard and never complains about having to hang up the washing, take my wheelchair in and out of the car, or fixing my white cane. He also springs some lovely unexpected surprises like taking me to the hotel where we got married for our 5th wedding anniversary last year!
Also, I am very blessed that because of DH, we have a gorgeous son and a beautiful daughter, who we treasure very much. My life feels complete with these three special people.
I'd choose a friend from work. Work has veered from crazy to hideous to even more crazy to beyond hideous lately and I've lost time of the number of times we've screamed, shouted, stamped our feet and cried on eah others shoulders. Without her to share it, I'm sure I would have run out screaming months ago. Despite all that, we also laugh a lot and talk a lot about shoes and dresses. We've even devised days where we dress in a certain way to make a crtain statement, which nobody but us knows! I value her friendship so much and if I win the voucher, it will be spent on new leather gloves, lace tights, 'statement' scarves and plenty of cake for both of us!
DH for always being so selfless and caring but witty and great fun too.
It's our 1st anniversary this week and I truly know he'll be there through the ups and downs of the next 50 years. I'd share my apple with him as I know he'd share his with me too....his beer and crisps may be a different matter!
My mum because she mucks in and has been a huge support -practically and emotionally - since the day ds1 was diagnosed over a decade ago.
But also ds1. He's severely autistic, non-verbal, but has developed a voice over the last year after being given an electronic talker by a mumsnetter. He also loves apples (actually pink ladies are his favourite, seriously) and if we visit people's houses I tell them to hide the apples in advance. Or there'll be none left.
Maybe I should nominate the mnetter who gave ds1 his voice a year ago.
Can I have three?
My sister, she inspires me with her courage and patience.
Pink Lady apples - because ordinary, butch apples are just too tasty for me to eat.
My Daughter, she is 18 today, so officially an adult. I had her when I was young and was left by her father quickly afterwards. My parents moved to a large city just after she was born so I followed them after I found myself on my own. Just after she was two my parents died suddenly and I was left on my own with DD.
I totally fell apart and had a breakdown and struggled over the next ten years to get over everything, many times I just wanted to lie down and not wake up but she carried me through the worse time of my life, her little smile never far away, she literally held my hand through those years, her love and belief in me overwhelms me.
As I said, today she turned into an adult, she is still my best true friend, she is an amazing young woman, one I am so very proud to call my daughter.
I would nominate my sister, She has been such a support to me as I struggled with 2 small children (I am a wimp!). She carried on being a fantastic support even when her husband was diagnosed with cancer when their first baby was 7 weeks old. She seems to take it all in her stride, and is the most patient, brilliant mum, fantastically supportive wife to her husband, and lovely, thoughtful sister to me. And is, crucially very funny. Though what she sees in radio 4's Gaga, mags and bags is beyond me! (sorry for overusing the word support)
My number one person would be my child's headteacher.
She is inspirational, hard working, dedicated to the children in the very large school they attend. She has time for everyone, easy to talk to, a fabulous role model for both the boys and girls and teaching staff.
And she has just found out that her wonderful husband has cancer.
This lady has been so affected by cancer over the last two years and has lost friends and family to this terrible disease.
I respect her and admire her and am pleased to know her and have her in mine and my childrens' lives.
My number one person would be my friend A, he has supported me through an awful divorce and checks in daily to make sure me and my dd are ok.
He spends loads of time searching the internet looking for games and such to help my sen dd at school and sends her messages when she's feeling angry, frustrated or upset to cheer her up.
When she does well he texts to say how proud he is of her.
Because he has been there for me always, and always puts me and our daughters first - if I gave him my last pink lady apple he'd give it back for me to have.
I would nominate my amazing Mum.
She showed me how to be a Mum, and if I am half of what she is I will be delighted. She also put herself at the back of the queue...you know the queue? The queue for clothes, treats, shoes and many, many times food. She has been, and continues to be, the most amazing Gran to my four boys.
I love her dearly. She has been diagnosed with Alzhaimers we sat together and I told her there will be no crying over this disgraceful 'condition' we are going to laugh at it......when she forgets things we are going to laugh even louder. I told her that if she ever forgets my name there will be trouble.
She has been my rock following the loss of two of my four sons. She has held me like a baby and cried with me.
May my Mam reign forever as the best Mum in the world xxx
I'd nominate my brother. He's an absolute rock, and is always there for me if I need help. He let me move in with him with my 2 yr old son when we had nowhere else to go, and he let us stay for 18 months.
Chris, you are my best friend and I love you to bits
shame about the beard but that's another thread entirely and I would gladly give you my last Pink Lady.
My number one person is the brand new head teacher of ds's little school.
She was more or less forced into the job when the old head died suddenly over the summer. The school was in a very bad way and we thought it might close, but she has worked unbelievably hard and has really turned it around completely in just half a term, even giving up her weekends to paint and garden at school. All this despite her being in the middle of a demanding further education course.
We love the school and we love her and I'd give her ALL my apples (even though they're my favourite).
My mum is the best. She's always there for me, never judges. SHe accepts people for who they are. SHe gives without expecting to receive and put up with my siblings and I through our teenage years. She loves my children like they're her own. She is one of my best friends and I don't know what I'd do without her.
My number one person is my very oldest best boy friend (well I say boy, he's 40 but he's a male friend). He listens to my rubbish again and again without judging or doing the male trick of trying to fix things. And he's the soul of discretion too. He still tells me I'm beautiful even after I've run five miles and has says it's his job to raise me up when life beats me down.
My no 1 person without a doubt is my husband. I have a chronic illness and often use a wheelchair. There are times that I cannot even crawl to the bathroom but dh carries me to the toilet and back and unbelievably still finds me incredibly attractive. He lets me hide myself in him when im having an anxiety attack. When im screaming in pain, he rubs me, holds me, tells me funny stories and i know if he could take my pain, he would. He is my grounding. After losing my mum I felt lost and swimming in grief but he is there to carry me through. We face life together, he is my best friend and the most amazing daddy to out 2 wee boys.
Our youngest son had meningitis and septicaemia when he was a few months old earlier this year. Dh made me laugh when he could see that I needed it and he unfailingly supported us all when ds being in hospital was taking its toll on my health.
I'd give him anything in the world but it still wouldnt be enough to say thank you for loving me when I feel unloveable, for being a carer for me and for putting everyone in the world before yourself. If our sons are even half the man you are, then I'll be so proud.
My mother, who has been a rock for me through a very difficult year of family illnesses. Thank you Mum!
mine would be an old professor who despite not having seen me for years has been massively encouraging and supportive of me moving on from my stay at home with my son years. he has not only written me glowing references but has been really encouraging in emails as to my abilities and character as he sees them. it sounds small but he has made all the difference and i have just landed a fantastic job and return to work in a couple of weeks after 5 years out. he is a large part of why i had the confidence to apply and go through with the group interviews and other daunting parts of the process.
having someone you respect believe in you goes a long way.
I would nominate a very dear friend who has lost her husband to MND this year, leaving behind three children (10, 6 & 6). She had fought for six long years ensuring that her husband never missed a second of the childrens' and her love whilst he was still on this earth. Her children are unscathed considering what a terrible loss and tragic death.
Throughout this time she has encouraged me to go professional with my photography and been a real champion of my talents.
Ok, for me it's my DH.
He has given up everything for me. I have a catatonic breakdown after loosing a baby and breaking my pelvis. He looked after me on his own for a year keeping me out of an institution and new this was the death nail of his career. He has never complained. He has now left his much loved navel career so he can continue to look after me. We are now 3 years in and I am finally on the mend. I am so luck to have him.
my eldest daughter. she is only 12 but she is so grown up, she helped me through a difficult pregnancy and after the baby was born and i was still very unwell. she is part of the young carers project but doesn't get enough recognition for the amazing things she does for me and her brothers and sisters. we are so lucky to have her and i am amazingly blessed to have been given the gift of a daughter like her.
Mine is my mum. I had a very difficult pregnancy/birth/hysterectomy when my DD was born and she picked me up, supported me, accessed help when I had a breakdown and still helps me and loves me unconditionally now.
She has a lot of health issues of her own including Rheumatoid Arthritis, recurrent Pleurisy, ulcers etc. She also looks after my 2 year old niece full time as my Brother and SIL couldn't cope and she was going to be a Looked After Child. She is an amazing woman and we all luff her lots <3
Not to copy the poster above but I would give my last apple to my DS. My gran used to tell me how when she was raising her own children (alone, in the 1940s and '50s) she would often have nothing more than an apple to give them, which she would cut in half and give one piece each to the two of them. I like to think that I am raising my son with this in mind: that every little I have is for him. He is a wonderful young man and a joy to parent, and gives meaning to my life even when it is a struggle materially and financially.
My number 1 is my amazing mum
My dad has terminal cancer, currently in hospital after another chest infection and steroids iv to try and stop the bone cancer from paralysing him for the last few weeks/months of his life
My mum is still working as there is not enough financial help for them, I have never heard her complain even once during the last 4 years that she has supported him through primary cancer, remission and then the dreaded secondary terminal cancer.
Today for example she is working from 9am to 3pm as a career for the elderly, to then come home walk the dogs have a quick cuppa and off to the hospital until 8pm which is an hours drive in traffic.
She has spent her life caring for others but never ever accepts help and is the most strongest wonderful person on the planet ( along with my lovely dad and husband )
Actually it doesn't matter if she doesn't win as its just nice to write it down and acknowledge how much I love her!!
I would definitely nominate my DP. He's had a tough year with constant back troubles, for which he's now being urgently tested for bone marrow defects. He's coping with it admirably and is also a wonderful father to DS (7yrs) and DD (9months).
I would nominate my DH, he is the most patient, thoughtful and kind person, always thinking of everybody else, taking on everyone else's worries. He's not in good health but he's my number one.
My number one person is my best friend who I have known for the last 30 years (gosh, are we that old!?!).
She has had a tough time herself over the years but is always there to support me no matter what she is going through herself.
We share laughs, tears, wine, chocolate and being rubbish at the daily telegraph crossword and is a rock in my world when the rest of it falls apart.
The Lady who held my hand on the bus when my Mum suddenly phoned to tell me she had cancer.
She was sat next to me and as I was trying to talk quietly and not cry for my Mums sake simply reached out to pat my hand and never let go. She asked my when I was off the bus if I was Ok and wanted her to stay with me and I shook my head and mouthed "no" and "thank you".
I will never know who she was, and I never gave her the thanks she deserved for her warmth and kindness that day. But I'll never forget.
That has made me tear up HoneyDragon. I hope your Mum is doing okay.
She's been in remission for 18 months
HoneyDragon what a wonderful thing to hear, it restores my faith in mankind.
I'm glad your Mum is doing well.
I would have to nominate my mum. She has been a tower of strength since my husband walked out on me earlier this year. She has helped me financially, emotionally and with childcare. I quite honestly could not manage without her.
I nominate my sister. I live around 250 miles away and she has been there for my parents who are in their 80's, moreso over the last few months as Dad had an accident. She moved in with Mum whilst Dad was in hospital. She is coping remarkably well under the strain (has health issues of her own) and to be honest without her help Dad would have had to go into a nursing home to recuperate. He's now on the road to recovery and I feel it would not have been so soon had it not been for her help. She has also offered to help our aunt who has cancer, so that she won't have to spend her last days in a hospice. I know she will continue to be there for Mum when auntie's final day comes. It is such a comfort knowing that she is able to be there when I can't.
I nominate my mum. She's been an absolute rock to our whole family for years, always calm in a crisis and there when you need her. She always puts herself out for others and nothing is too much trouble for her. She has set me such an example that I am trying to live out for my children. When she was diagnosed with cancer she remained positive and all through the really tough treatments she never complained, never made a fuss, and made such an effort to enjoy as normal a life as possible. She's amazing.
My nomination is my disabled child's carer.. he is v hard work with challenging behaviour (read: aggression) but she is devoted to him and to planning fun and stimulating activities for him.
She frequently goes over and above in so many ways even having him unpaid for part of Christmas day so that we can manage to eat a family Christmas dinner.
She has recently been in bad health and has insisted on helping me plan alternative childcare options from her hospital bed!!
I would not find another one like her.... .
My number 1 person is my DGM, my Father died when I was 3 and my Mother left, my DGF died shortly after and my DGM brought me up from very young on her own.
I have struggled with disability since I was 10 or 11 and she has always been there fighting for me and I still live with her and she helps me a lot, even through times when I was a teenager and very hard work she has never given up on me, most would have.
She is nearly 69 and still works nightshifts as an Auxilliary Nurse as she has supported me for years and when I have been unable to work.
She is the most caring person I have ever met.
My Dad is amazing. Now he is retired, he spends his time helping other people. He runs a group to support refugees and asylum seekers, he volunteers at a school and at a homeless shelter. He helps me and my DH with the children. He is truly an inspiration.
My DH. I had a major health-scare at the beginning of the year, and he supported me in changing my ways and losing 2 stones. He never criticised, just been there and helped me have the time.
my no 1 is my husband.
our first little girls is 10 mnths already and we are dead tired...both of us.
i am a full time student,and need to go to school,so he wakes up during night time-20-30 times a night as she is teething,and he has some rest during day time.we asked his mum for some help but she could not come........so is just us 3...we love you daddy!!!!!!!
I think it'd have to be my DP. For the last couple of years he has supported me through illness, helping me to get in and out of the bath, carrying me when I needed to get upstairs (fortunately a temporary symptom) and he has helped me through severe PND.
He did all of this without complaining whilst facing the loss of his job.
I really don't know what I would do without him.
My mum. I can't think of apples without thinking of my mum. It was all she craved when she was pregnant with me and says I was born about 50% apple.
She has stood by me as I've made all the wrong choices in life. She has supported me when others have deserted me. She always reminds me of what I have achieved. She has never judged.
She is the only one who looks after my elderly grandma (her mother-in-law), in any meaningful, practical way. She does this with love and sympathy, even though this was a woman who called my mother a 'filthy Nazi' when she first met her, and said she would never be welcome in the family. (My mum is of German descent. German JEWISH consent).
Most amazingly, my mum is now caring for my brother who at the age of 30 was involved in a freak accident. He was left paralysed down one side of his body, and with severe long term and short memory loss. Over the last five years, she's re-taught him to do everything she taught him as a child. Sometimes he hits her, as a toddler hits their mother. Sometimes he wakes up crying in the night and she comforts him. Often they laugh together. This is her retirement.
My best friend. She is always "there for me" when I need a shoulder to cry on, or a good moan, or to share a precious moment of adult conversation.
I hope she would say the same about me.
My DH who today got us all home safely driving me and the dd's in a rented motorhome through snowy country lanes - we had multiple diversions, tricky hill starts with no traction, tricky downhills where any more than minimal braking would have seen us skid into the hedge, several floods to avoid or drive through carefully (caused by melting snow), and we passed more accident scenes than i would care to mention. I am so grateful and proud of what he did today, and what he does quietly all the time to keep us safe.
Rindercella J is truly a very special friend. She sounds amazing.
I would not only give my last pink lady to my mom but I would give her the world if I could because she deserves it. She has Always put me and my sister 1st throughout the years. She has had her fair share of heartache and problems too including diabetes, divorce, depression, my younger sister passing away and loosing her dad which absolutely devastated the whole family and my mom had to go through the painful experience of trying to revive him. She has helped me endlessly and has been a massive support in the past few years to look after my son whilst I have had severe post natal depression. Through it all she always keeps a smoke on her face and carries on..she is such an inspiration to me and such a selfless person. (been a cater for 13 years) I could write a whole book on why she is so amazing but she really does deserve something 'for her'.
Sorry she's been a carer for 13 years
My number one person is my friend, Sally. I've had an awful year with one thing after another- family, friends, work and personally. She's been there to support me throughout it all. Thing is, she's had a rough year too- worse than I've had it, but that hasn't stopped her caring and supporting me. I think she's amazing and she is my 'number one'. I'd love to treat her and show her my thanks.
My number one person is actually my ExDh!!!!
We were together for 13 years until June 2011 when we both decided to go our separate ways as we had grown apart.
We have one DS together and since we split my ExDh is still very much there for me and our son. He looks out for me and is still my best friend. We still do a lot of family things together, go in holidays and he always ensures that we are looked after, supported, happy, ok financially and if I have any problems or am feeling down he says the RIGHT things to cheer me up everytime.
It's a shame we just don't have that extra thing that means we can be together, but I am so lucky that he is still my best friend. I know I can count on him for anything. He goes out of his way to ensure we get the best of everything.
We offer each other advice in our new relationships and we are both happy to spend time with each others respective new dp's. He genuinely wants me to be happy.
Even though we lost our relationship I'm so lucky that I never lost my best friend.
I'm going to nominate someone I've never met IRL. Expat has had a shocker of a year, to put it mildly.
I just saw today that her problems are ongoing. If anyone deserves a break (or probably the vouchers more) it's her.
I would nominate my dad, he looks after my mum who has severe dementia and everyday is a struggle for him nursing the woman who he has been with for 50 years and raised 3 happy children. He loves the outdoors having been a keen walker and fisherman but because my mum cant be left alone he has had to give up all the interests he had. He never complains for himself just how sad it is for my lovely mum. He really deserves To be recognisd. And my mum has eaten an apple every day for 60 years still gets enjoyment from a pink lady, thats her daily treat.
I would nominate my Mother In Law. She is a truly special lady who is one in a million.
Since I no longer have my own parents she has become such a help and is always there if I need anything. Nothing is too much trouble.
Both her and my Father In Law are amazing people.
My number one person is always my brother. We have been through so much together from a severely neglectful early childhood and domestic abuse in later childhood years. He was always seen as the black sheep of the family, the problem child, yet he has gone on to get qualified in his career and proved everyone wrong. I have adored him since as long as I can remember and even though he lives so far away, he phones nearly every day, is always there for me no matter what. This year hasn't been easy with becoming a lone parent, but he has helped me and his nieces and nephews hugely, not just financially at times but emotionally too. He was, is and always will be number one with me.
Mine would absolutely be my husband. We have been together for 15 years and it is no exaggeration to say he saved my life. I was drowning in alcoholism, drug misuse and chronic debt - he saw me through some hideous times and had so many opportunities to leave, but somehow stayed really strong with me and helped me through the worst few years ever. I got us into serious debt and he still stayed and is sorting it out. We have two children and I have a child from my first marriage who was in danger of being taken away from me when we met...he took her on and loves her as much as his biological children. Not only all of this, but he is kind, thoughtful and helpful to everyone and never complains when he is clearly feeling the strain. I have also suffered, on and off, from mental health problems and there have been times when he could have just run away as I was dreadful. I love him so much. We rarely go out alone - we didn't even get a honeymoon as our son had been serioulsy ill in hospital the week before our wedding and he spent all this time sorting out the wedding, dealing with my pain and staying strong for all of us. There is so much I have to thank him for, and I never know how to.
My friend who I have known since school -we have been through everything together and I can tell her anything at all. Very special!
My number 1 person would have to be my mum. This year has been particularily hard for her as she has had to deal with her own mother being poorly and the guilt that she has felt about moving her into a care home. During this difficult time she has also stood by me and helped me and my toddler through the break down of my marriage. She is an exceptional lady and needs time to herself to really relax and unwind.
I would nominate my best friend, who has been an inspiration to me this year, she has shown true courage in the face of adversity and kept her chin up through her IVF treatment, keeping going even when it has failed again. She has been really brave this year!!
My wonderful husband Andy. In March he retired from the army having served the maximum term he could, 22 years. Since then he has had to make big adjustments to being a civilian and trying to find work. He has yet to find a permanent job but has been taking any work he can get through agencies to support me and my two gorgeous girls (6 and 2). He's a fantastic daddy, a great husband, and will always be a hero in our eyes - with or without the uniform.
I'd give my last pink lady to a good friend of my partner's. My partner was wrongly accused of a crime and it required quite a lot of support and help from everyone around him to get him through it with both his mental health and his dignity in tact. This particular friend was an absolute heroine. Not only did she spend countless hours researching and effectively teaching herself both law and criminal process, but nothing domestic was ever too much trouble. I work long hours and when my partner needed someone and I couldn't be there, she was only too happy to oblige. She helped with the children, she spent hours just listening to my partner's worries and she is an incredible cook. I happen to know that her unwaivering trust caused her some relationship problems of her own, but one day we will repay her for her kindness and her generosity. She's a star.
my mum, she is always there for good and bad, full of energy and strength
I'd give mine to my next door neighbour. She's rescued me from all sorts of situations, including several emergency hospital admissions, vomiting bugs, locking myself out, she even supervised my builders for me when I was on holiday. If I win I'll give her the prize
My work colleague. We work in a hospital and she always goes above and beyond her working role especially for those who are in their darkest moments. She took leave to volunteer in the Olympics and holidays as a volunteer in Africa. All this and she still retains a sense of humour! A completely likeable and selfless lady.
My mum - diagnosed with cancer the very day my DS was born (2 years ago)- and she didn't tell me for weeks, in case of post natal depression. Throughout the radio & chemo she was always cheerful and helpful, never once complaining, giving me invaluable tips & hints so needed with your first newborn! Even when she lost her hair & felt rough and exhausted, sometimes too tired to hold my DS she put on a brave face (and her hair was so lovely). Thankfully she has made it out the other side, has hair as beautiful (if not more so), and celebrates my DS birthday with relish!!! During that time my dad was made redundant, twice & my younger brother has emigrated to Australia, and she is helping her sister cope with the fact that her husband has terminal cancer! She has had one hell of a couple of years but is still the funniest, helpfulist, compassionate mum nanny & best friend ever, an absolute Supermum - I just hope I could be like her in these circumstances!!
My number 1 person is my mum. I don't know how I'd manage without her. She has a back-breaking job in a car home, working long shifts yet still makes time to help me with my DCs and cooking. She is amazing!
I would nominate my best mate. She spends so much time doing stuff for other people. And she knows I'm broke and gave me a pair of lovely boots that she was bored of. Seems small compared to some of the other things but it meant the world to me.
I would give my last Pink Lady to somebody I hate because they have the consistency and taste of apple flavoured cottonwool.
Hereford and Egremont Russets- Now they are Apples.
And I'd give a Russet to HulllyGully for her wonderful 'Report Everybody' thread which has made me laugh despite my kidney infection and recent loss of my Father.
My Beautiful wonderful amazing Daughter.
She is a woman now, but she has had a tough time growing up.
She always struggled at school was diagnosed with dyspraxia & dyslexia. She was bullied and picked on by other kids & teachers. She remained calm steady and quiet & so dignified on the outside, on the inside she cried every day.... The eyes gave it away...
She had bladder problems, and still wet the bed at 13 which meant hospital procedures and investigations which were so humiliating as a teenager. But throughout it all she was patient and calm.
She was diagnosed with ASD, and she bore that with grace and acceptance.
I took her with me on a work trip to help other kids in horrendous conditions in a third world country, this she did with humility and kindness & she was able to put smiles on the faces of children who had nothing. I could not have done the trip without her as she acted as my assistant and I will be forever grateful for her hard work.
I am indebted to the amount of time she has freely given in looking after her younger siblings while I have had to work.
I am touched she says I look beautiful when I think I look like an old hag.
My Daughter is very special, she was told she would never do well. She gained 11 Gcse's and is just about to sit 4 A'levels
My daughter wants to go in to nursing as she likes to care for others.... This amazes me as in the past people have been so cruel to her. She will make a wonderful nurse. I remember when I was a wreck as I had to have our dog put to sleep, I couldn't walk in to the vet. My lovely girl calmly walked in and was with our dog while she was put down ....Amazing!
When my mother was diagnosed with an horrendous life limiting terminal condition it was my DD who held her hand, brushed her hair, fed her and washed her. It was just something she felt she wanted to do.
To be honest I could write a book as to why this special young woman is my No 1 person in the whole world, I love, respect and admire her.... and I would love her to be acknowledged for the incredible person she has become.
To my DD, struggling so well against prejudice, with dignity and pride. Love you, sweetheart. x
My No.1 person is this lady
She lost her DS2 at just 23 months to a brain tumour and has set up the charity in his name, she's amazing and so inspiring.
I don't want to name her publically, but have put the link to the charity facebook page instead. How she finds the strength to carry on day to day normal life as well as Reuben's Retreat I don't know, but she does and she's just amazing.
I would give my last Pink Lady to my friend K.
She's my No. 1 Lady because we both just seem to be there when the other is in need of an ear.
She has had a rough couple of years with personal and family problems and the next few months will be the hardest of her life. Yet still she is the only person to pick up on my own sadness, when no one else has realised I've been down about something.
She's coming round on Friday night and in exchange for her cuddling my newborn for a few hours and entertaining my toddler, I am making her some chocolate and cinnamon cakes.
Maybe I'll give her an apple too...
My mum and sister, for coping with my Dads immobility following a badly broken hip 2 years ago and his subsequent decline into Altzheimers. My Dad is 87 and my mum is 84 and copes brilliantly. She is ensuring he stays in his own home and enjoys what he can out of life, my sister also. Without them I don't know what I would do as I'm 400 miles away. I owe a huge amount to them and love them both dearly. They both have their own health problems to cope with - Macular degeneration, Fibroid Myalgia and Carpel tunnel etc etc but both dedicate themselves to supporting my dad, It means the world to me
My dh. I've had a difficult few years with my family, especially my dsis and dm and my relationship with them has broken down quite badly. My dh is always on my side and without him I'd feel very alone. He's also an amazing father, and a wonderful husband and partner.
My number 1 person would be my daughter katie she has dealt with her brothers being diagnosed with autism so good shes only 6 her brothers are 16 & 7 She has taken on board that they need extra help with things & she has helped so much shes our amazing girl MY NUMBER 1 Very proud of her x
My DH he has held my hand through 8 MCs,is an amazing dad to our DD, has listened to my rants and raves through 5 years of TTC while putting DD and I first always. He has cried on my shoulder and I on his. He's my best friend and I would give him my last apple
My mum, who has been an amazing support to DH and I since the birth of our children.
My No 1 person is a very special friend from uni - she is a fantastic mother to 3 young children under 5, works full time and very sadly, does everything she can to support a sister who is terminally ill and now receiving palliative care. She makes a 4 hour round trip to regularly visit, supports her BIL and their mother especially hard now in the run up to the Christmas season. And despite all of this pain, she remains a stoic and cheerful woman, a great friend and always ready to laugh - my admiration knows no bounds.
Right now, this very minute, my number 1 person, is my grandmother, who died yesterday, age 102. She was so brave, living alone, and sometimes with my Dad. She had lost all her friends, was always going in and out of hospital, but never complained. We saw her three days before she died, bringing her cakes and cards. She was so happy to see us, so lucid, and I filmed her talking about the war days. My children think she is amazing and were hoping she would be the oldest person in the world one day. I will miss her ringing me, to ask after the children and to see if everything is all right. I will miss her being in my life.
Me! I am pretttty amazing , sometimes, I even amaze myself
I would pick my sister. She is a great mum to 3 boys aged 4 and under so she has her hands full but still finds time for me as well and we are great friends!
my mother-in-law has been amazing looking after my children when I had pneumonia even though she's not well herself. She has never once asked for anything in return although I spoil her whenever I can because she's made such a difference to our lives.
My number one person is always there when anyone needs her. She should really put herself first every once in a while but she'll never be told. Thanks.
My dsis, she is very self sacrificing and also very hard up. She is supporting our very elderly Aunt and cares and cleans for her. She has to walk at least a mile to her house, my dsis has diabetes and crumbling spine disease. She is often in pain but does not make any kind of complaint. She also does a lot of childcare for her grandchildren, who are sweet but the four year old is a lot of hard work. She always puts herself last. She has supported me all my life and is quite a lot older than me, she is the Mother that I wish I had as our own Mother was abusive.
Despite some truly terrible events, she has always looked to a brighter day ahead and her motto has always been 'jam tomorrow'.
She's pretty amazing my mum. A really lovely lady and always there for everyone. Barely has time for herself but cares beyond belief about the rest of the world.
Half each to my boys. I love them and they love Pink Lady apples.
My dad! He has supported me so much over the last few years. He is a very practical man and when it comes to bargains and money savings he is a legend. It was him who insisted I put in a cheeky offer for a house, which was accepted, and it literally saved me £30k. I would not have dared to offer such a low price without his support.
My mam, I can't even begin to describe all the reasons why she's amazing.
She's the most supportive person I've ever met, she's my best friend and I love her with all my heart
Definitely my hubby, currently pregnant with no.2 with a toddler to run around after and despite working fulltime in a stressful jib he's being a star looking after DD and doing all the shopping/housework so i can lie on the sofa feeling bleurgh!!!!
I'm gonna say my DH. I have been so unwell since not long after we got together and to be honest I didn't think he would stick around and I wouldn't have blamed him if he hadn't
But he did and his life has been so difficult as a result.
He does so much, work, childcare, housework, looks after me
I don't know what I would do without his help - I'd probably cease to function at all
Mine number 1 person is my nan, she's so positive and has an amazing outlook on life.
Her positivity has got me though a lot. With DD2 she tells me that just because she can't do something today, doesn't mean she won't be able to tomorrow. And there's only no hope if you stop believing, if you believe there's hope and a chance.
My number 1 person I must admit it's my dear beloved DH, he is amazing husband and father. He is there for me all the time, especially postnatal when I was on the verge of a breakdown he made sure I had all the support around me.
My sister who is also a mums netter. She is just really funny, kind, and would get my last pink lady as she always feeds me loads when I go to her house!
I'd like to nominate my Dad. Even though he is nearly 80 he is amazingly strong mentally and someone I still turn to for advice and moral support.
He got through bowel cancer and despite the physical toil it has taken on this one very fit man he still enjoys his life, keeps up with the news and his beloved TV sport and is a great granddad to my kids. We have lots of great chats putting the world to rights and he is very proud of me and my career.
He has to monitor the care of my younger sis who has learning difficulties and and financially bail out another of my siblings but he never complains about it.
I love him loads and don't know how I'd cope without him
Thanks all for your comments. The winner of the £100 M&S voucher is...
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thank you thank you thank you so much.
I will be giving the voucher to my fantastic mum who has supported me so well since XH left earlier this year.
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