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KatieBMumsnet (MNHQ) Fri 19-Oct-12 17:11:56

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Indith Fri 19-Oct-12 17:18:33


Anything else can be picked up once you know what sort of baby you have (velcro type or putdownable, vomity or not and so on).

The not so good? I don't know really. Just depends. I didn't use a change bag we had because there was so much wasted space with the bottle holders but if you are ff then you need that. I used boxes and boxes of breast pads but a friend gave me hers as she didn't leak at all. So just stick to the bare minimum and order stuff online as and when you need it. Not to suck up to Amazon but next day delivery can be a very good thing!

cipollina77 Fri 19-Oct-12 17:22:40

must have
1. nappies and wipes
2. vests
3. babygro
4. nappy cream (from Weleda)
5. pram/travel system

not so necessary
1. bottles & co, breastfeeding CAN go smoothly straight away. Bottles are available everywhere so if you are committed to BF there is no use buying bottles beforehand.
2. moses basket, you can have baby sleep in travel system or, as mine did, in my arms most of the time. Then I sloooooowly transferred to their cot.
3. pacifiers, mine never wanted one. (GP never understood this and kept insisting I'd try over and over again)
4. baby baths, I just laid baby in the big bath and added 2cm of water. Once they got a couple of months older they adored kicking the water and spraying it into their face
5. huge changing facilities. You just need a plastified mattress. By the way I never used muslins either. In some countries they simply do not exist.

of course for baby nr 1 I bought all the above and more. Could have opened a shop with various types and forms of pacifiers, botttles etc etc..... Am now on my third and have bought only necessary list items!

LeBoob Fri 19-Oct-12 17:30:55

Aden and anais Bamboo muslins
Amby baby hammock
Bumgenius nappies
Breast pads

Some of the most unused items have been-

Huggies nappies grumble
Baby bath
Disposable nappy bin

Pascha Fri 19-Oct-12 17:32:15

My personal list would contain:

No 1 most used and helpful product ever: THERMAL MUG. I cannot emphasise enough what a difference it makes to be drinking tea still warm after more than an hour.

2. Chocolate cake (vast quantities) to go with the tea
3. Carseat
4. Sleeping bags
5. Sling

Most pointless stuff that was never used or was just crap (for me anyway):

1. Snotsucker
2. Babybath
3. Snowsuit - What a waste of time trying to screw little arms and legs into all that. Much better to use a fleecy blanket.
4. Moses basket. Never known a baby yet who willingly slept in one.
5. Baby lotion/talc. Babies skin just doesn't need it, and it really irritates newborn sensitive skin.

Must haves.

Nappies. Disposable best for those first tar like poops

Blankets. Cwtchy warm blankets for mum and baby to snuggle up with.

Vest and sleepsuits.

Nipple cream. Lanisoh, nothing came close for me.

Moses basket. Not so important for others but I liked to put mine down somewhere they were cosy.

Not so important.

Proper clothes. Just no need.

Shoes. See above

Nappy bin. Get some nappy bags much easier.

Specific changing bag. Just get a big enough handbag that actually looks nice.

Wet wipe warmer. Enough said.

namechangeforthis1 Fri 19-Oct-12 17:42:45

1 three wheeler off road pram
2 sling
3 feeding cushion
4 hairdryer (for colic babies - stops them crying)
5 grobag

Don't need
1 baby shoes
2 expensive travel system pram
3 door bouncer
4 changing station
5 designer clothes

Nursing/maternity pillow (was a god send with DS2 and also used to get comfy in later pregnancy)

Nappies in the first 2 sizes and a good 2-3 packs (I personally found disposables a lot
easier in the early days)

Muslins or any sick cloths - nothing worse than getting out a shower, feeding and winding the baby feeling a little refreshed only to have them dribble milk or throw up down your shoulder grin

Sports bottle to put warm water in to pour on sore/stitched areas when going for those first post birth wees, a sports cap makes directing the warm water so much easier than a jug blush

Comfortable casual clothes for when visitors come, if you can be comfy and clean and presentable for when people come over it usually makes you feel a bit better than if you're in milky pjs.

CMOTDibbler Fri 19-Oct-12 17:45:52

Must haves:
1. boobs
2. sling
3. Nice nappies - I loved my teeny tiny Sandys
4. terry squares. Used as change mats, sick mopper, in moses basket to sick on etc etc, and 6 years later as small swimming towels (to stand on) and all sorts
5. thermal cup - stops spills and you still have a hot drink much later

Not so necessary

1. Designer or expensive "outfits" babies are happy in babygrows and vests, they are cheap and can be purchased in bulk. smile

2. Changing station - much easier imo to have a basket of changing things downstairs and upstairs and change baby in a cheap mat.

3. Baby toys - can be picked up when baby starts grasping and noticing things a bit more.

4. Dummy "charms" the ones with the diamanté bits on them... Yeah, need I say more?! wink

Chopstheduck Fri 19-Oct-12 17:59:21

1. nappy bin
2. decent travel system
3. babygrows and vests
4. muslin squares for the sick ups on shoulders
5. nipple cream

Not so necessary

1. changing mat (used lap)
2. changing unit (ditto)
3. baby bath (used sink)
4. Sling (after carrying them for 9 months, didn't want to lug them around for a minute longer)
5. dummies, despite my best efforts they jsut spat them out!

TheLightPassenger Fri 19-Oct-12 18:07:51

Top 5 -

wipe clean change mat
bath chair
muslin squares
hooded baby bath towel

Less useful 5

baby bathtub
baby bath products (just used water)
anyway up supposed non spill cups

cashmere Fri 19-Oct-12 18:09:05

Must haves:-

1. Muslins
2. Comfy baby chair (sturdier than traditional bouncy chairs as was only thing DS would sleep in)
3. Lansinoh
4. Baby bath (big bath hurt my back)
5. Natracare maternity pads- better than any others I tried and actually ordered on line.
6.(!) Natal hypnotherapy series
7.(!) Baby sleeping bag

Do without:-
1. Bath support for big bath
2. Mobile that attached to car seat!!
3. Heatable/freezable fillet things to go in your bra- didn't need them.
4. Widgey pillow, shape didn't work for me. My friends 'my breast friend' much better.
5. Expensive room thermometer. Got loads free with baby sleeping bags.
6. Moses basket- looked very sweet though!

Kveta Fri 19-Oct-12 18:10:13

1. sling
2. nursing bra and a million muslins
3. lansinoh
4. sleepsuits and vests and nappies
5. a camera to capture every single moment grin

not so great:
1. moses basket
2. little outfits with too many components to be vommed on
3. bouncy chair (get a swing chair instead, they are brilliant)
4. cuddly toys (cute wastes of space)
5. baby bath support - jettisoned after 2 uses.

Elainey1609 Fri 19-Oct-12 18:12:22

1)nappies and wipes
2)sling and I know some people hate them but moses basket
3)terry squares, muslin, sick cloths
4)babygros/very cheep clothes
5)nipple cream
Must have above all else is thermal.cup or when I finally get to my tea its still warm

Not needed

1) nappy bin
3)expensive baby toys They are tooyoung
4) baby shoes never wore them
5)expensive desiger baby clothes
6) baby deodrant....just why?

Elainey1609 Fri 19-Oct-12 18:14:28

1)nappies and wipes
2)sling and I know some people hate them but moses basket
3)terry squares, muslin, sick cloths
4)babygros/very cheep clothes
5)nipple cream
Must have above all else is thermal.cup or when I finally get to my tea its still warm

Not needed

1) nappy bin
3)expensive baby toys They are tooyoung
4) baby shoes never wore them
5)expensive desiger baby clothes
6) baby deodrant....just why?

moonstorm Fri 19-Oct-12 18:15:03

1 nappies
2 vests and baby grows for clothes only
3 crib/ cot to sleep + bedding
4 baby sling (Moby)
5 car seat

Not so great:
1 steriliser
2 formula and associated bottles
3 moses basket
4 special baby towels
5 baby shoes

MrsSchadenfreude Fri 19-Oct-12 18:19:38

Tinned Soup.
Chocolate Cake.
Drinking chocolate.
Tonic water.

TheProvincialLady Fri 19-Oct-12 18:20:14

Must have:

Nursing bras

Not needed:

Moses basket/crib
Expensive tank like pushchair
Shoes for babies - hideous, pointless things
Changing table
Nappy bin (unless you like the smell of old poo and old ladies toilet freshener mixed together)

smileyhappymummy Fri 19-Oct-12 18:22:32

Top 5
Sling - fabric wrap one for us
Car seat
Feeding pillow
Kindle for reading during endless breast feeds!

Bottom 5
Expensive pushchair
Bouncy chair - baby refused to go In either of these
Baby books - the advice never seemed to help
Baby bath seat - why??
Toys for newborns - cuddles all that's required!

ZombTEE Fri 19-Oct-12 18:22:37


A baby (can't believe no one has said this yet grin)
spit/vomit rags
soft blanket

Didn't need in the end:

Snot sucker
top and tail bowl, although I use it now, but not for washing
breast pump
outfits beyond a onsie
mobile for over cot

Bonsoir Fri 19-Oct-12 18:24:30

1. A subscription to The Economist (doesn't damage your baby when you drop it inadvertently while breastfeeding; keeps brain on track)
2. A massive plastic water glass (ditto: not dangerous for baby while quenching insatiable breastfeeding thirst)
3. A Baby Björn sling
4. A Baby Björn bouncy chair
5. Baby dressing gown and slippers (SO hard to find)

CelineMcBean Fri 19-Oct-12 18:27:36

I bought most of my first dc's baby stuff from Amazon and John Lewis. I've just had a look at what I ordered and what was most useful.


1. A bucket with a lid. Sounds bonkers but you get sicked on, pooed and weed on by baby and then you have various bodily fluids of your own oozing out the washing machine is not always empty. Being able to bung dirty items in the bucket and clip on the lid contains the mess and the smell until you can deal with it properly.

2. A Grobag night light. An absolute must for babies that wake in the night. You can set it low enough not to disturb the rest of the household but because it's a blue light you can still see enough to do a nappy change or find other equipment.

3. Paper knickers oh the glamour! But post birth these are a necessity. If a pad leaks or c-section wound weeps they can just go in the bin.

4. Disposable bed mats make great impromptu changing mats and can go under mum to protect beds and sofas from any leaks. Also very handy for when baby does an unexpected poonami. Can also be helpful if you run out of the other maternity essential muslins.

5. Plain white baby grows Life is too short to faff around with cute little outfits that stay clean for barely an hour. Plain white baby grows are easy to put on and take off, comfortable for baby and can be bleached clean.

Other essentials if I were allowed more than 5: electric Medela breast pump, maternity pads, Lanisoh cream, cooling perineal gel (keep it in the fridge), lavender oil to go in the bath (helps soothe sore stitches), baby bouncer.

Waste of money:

Top and tail bowl An ordinary bowl will do.

Steraliser unnecessary if you have a dishwasher

Designer baby clothes they will get pooed on.

hippoCritt Fri 19-Oct-12 18:28:02

1) nappies
2) baby clothes including lots of vests when nappies leak
3) easy to steer and fold pushchair
4) kindle for long feeds and when in car waiting for baby to wake up
5) more bibs than you thought you'd need

Not needed
1) a changing bag which looks great but is completely impractical <bitter experience>
2) prams sheets, just use cot sheets folded over and can be used of rlonger than the tiny ones
3) baby bath changing table unless you have lots of space
4) high chair, a booster style seat means they can sit with everyone else at the table.
5) a stock pile of nappies not realising how fast babies grow!

KnittingZombie Fri 19-Oct-12 18:29:54

1. Nappies and wipes
2. Sleep suits and vests
3. More muslins than you can believe (I had very sicky babies)
4. Lansinoh nipple cream
5. Connecta sling

Not so useful?

1. Cutesy outfits in small sizes. Sleep suits are practical and comfy, and you don't have to mess about changing their clothes before they can tell between night and day.
2. Cuddly toys. DS1 has only just started showing an interest at 3
3. Shoes. They will not keep them on
4. Socks. As above
5. Baby bath. Take them in with you - it's much easier on the back!

TeaTowelQueen Fri 19-Oct-12 18:38:02

My top 5:

1 muslins - loads, you cannot have enough, ever, and they do so many things, swaddle, clear up sick/milk whatever and protect your clothes and hair a bit. Then you can boil wash them and they dry in minutes

2 sleeping bag - no faffing with blankets and they can fall asleep wherever then be put in cot with minimal disturbance

3 sudocreme - the best

4 baby monitor - to give you the confidence to put the baby to sleep away from you so you get time to relax

5 bath thermometer - I did not trust myself to get this right and still don't

Things I didn't need - moses basket, hated the flimsy thing and bought a rocking cot for beside the bed instead after two nights

And yes, next day delivery is your friend - Amazon and Next were my saviours seeing as I live in the middle of nowhere....

HannahLI Fri 19-Oct-12 18:39:09

Top ones
1. Branded nappies like pampers that work
2. Bouncy chair
3. Towel with a hood
4. Pushchairs that goes over any surface - I personally love Phil and teds!
5. Good car seat - I like maxi cosi for the first seat!

Products you don't need;
1. Wipe warmer
2. Changing table
3. Baby bath
4. Medicine dummy
5. Bath thermometer - just use your elbow!

ZombieTribble Fri 19-Oct-12 18:43:08

1, Nappies.

2, Muslins.

3, Moby wrap, with a refluxy baby this was a lifesaver.

4, Lansinoh, when I was breastfeeding I went through this like no ones business.

5, Baby gap socks, they were the only ones that stayed on his feet.

Bottom five:

1, fancy changing mat, seriously a towel does the job.

2, toys, a window will suffice.

3, Posh changing bag, I wish I'd been sensible and bought a rucksack.

4, Night light, the ones I bought were utterly useless.

5, Nursing cover, I drew more attention to myself with that thing than my boobs ever would have done.

starlight36 Fri 19-Oct-12 18:48:02

5 essentials

Buggy with carrycot - essential to be able to get out and about ASAP.
Lots of sleepsuits as for us was day and nightwear for our little one. Plenty of time for cute outfits when they are older!
Baby gym - we got a foldable one which was easy to transport for visits to grandparents
Baby bath - using main bath alone seemed too daunting for a newborn and our sinks were all too small

Not so useful

Baby shoes - never worn
Scratch mitts- pulled off straight away. Instead relief on sleepsuits with built-in mitts
Electronic ear thermometer still in box and DD is nearly two!
Fancy Moses basket - if you use one it will get used for approx 3 mths only so go for cheap and cheerful
Baby journal - never had time to fill it in properly

poppy1973 Fri 19-Oct-12 18:48:43

1. New born disposable nappies are essential.
2. Delicate sensitive wipes or cotton wool and water.
3. Sleep suits. (I kept my little one in sleep suits most of the time - it was easier.
4. Nursing pillow - extra support for baby when feeding and good for your back. The pillows in the hospital are never enough and not firm enough while feeding.
5. Car seat - one that you can carry around out of the car - essential for trip from hospital to home and great for food shopping and getting around.

Must haves for me

1) Nappies and wipes
2) Vests and sleepsuits
3) Moses basket (though not everyone needs this, I find co sleeping impossible and newborn babies look lost in a cot)
4) Steriliser and bottles (I cant breastfeed)
5) Car seat.

Not necessary

1) A changing station. I have never got the point. They are so expensive and actually quite dangerous if baby rolls off. A changing mat does the same job.
2) Nursery furniture. Its often "minature" and seems such a waste of money. Adult sized furniture will last longer.
3) Socks and shoes for baby. Pointless invention when they spend a lot of time in sleepsuits.
4) Expensive designer pram.
5) Toys. A few rattles are enough. Babies get enough stimulation from everyday things.

gazzalw Fri 19-Oct-12 18:49:43

Nappies and wipes
Baby Bjorn
Lots of babygrows

Bottom Five
Bath thermometer
Cat net for the cot (WTF?)
Change bag (we still have the black Oasis rucksack DW bought 12 years down the line)
Moses Basket (DS really hated it and co-slept from several days old!)

Oh this thread brings back memories

horsebiscuit Fri 19-Oct-12 18:50:02

Most needed:
nursing cushion

Least needed:
baby bath
extortionately priced pram you can't fold
special nappy bin twisty thing
toys for a newborn. Newsflash- newborns don't play with toys!

DeeBeee Fri 19-Oct-12 18:51:11

Breastfeeding pillow - complete lifesaver
Plain white babygros and vests
Moses basket
Baby bath which we placed on a cheap foldout table, really helpful with a C section

Not used:
Nappy bin
Top and tail bowl
Sling - my baby hated it

nah1974 Fri 19-Oct-12 18:52:05

Muslins - lots of them!
A sling/baby carrier of some kind
A bouncy chair - very good I found for when the baby is grizzly
A Moses basket - one light enough so you can move it round the house with you
A light/easy folding pram/travel system. I didn't realise how important this was until on my first day on my own with DD, I could neither lift nor fold the enormous pram we had .... And when I eventually got it folded it wouldn't fit in my car ...

Not needed:
Lots of outfits - sleep suits & vests are fine in the early days
A cat net to put over the pram (don't even ask ...!)
Lots of toys
A big cot - Moses basket is fine for first few weeks
A bottle warmer (if you're FF - a jug of boiling water costs nothing & is quicker!)

IKilledIgglePiggle Fri 19-Oct-12 18:57:39

2.sleep suits, vests, scratch mitts, hat. (newborn clothing)
3.Nipple Cream
4. Baby bouncer, nothing fancy, just a fabric stretched over a metal frame, very soothing if you have a crier and you have tried everything else.....also allows you to pop too the loo.
5. Something to swaddle with, be it a blanket or a purposely designed swaddler.

IKilledIgglePiggle Fri 19-Oct-12 19:00:50

Oops pressed too soon

Not so needed.

Cot bed, too big.
Bottle warmer/wipe warmer....really
Nappy bin, ewwwww
Stupidly big pram

Asmywhimsytakesme Fri 19-Oct-12 19:04:06

Cot plus bedding
Car seat

Everything else optional though breast pump, pads and milk storage bags handy.


Angel monitor type things
Designer outfits

Teladi Fri 19-Oct-12 19:19:29

1. Video baby monitor - I know a lot of people would say these are overkill but if you have a baby that wakes in the night and starts messing around, it does help to see what is going on in there before you barge in and make them think its night party time.

2. Nappies

3. Vests. The poo goes everywhere!

4. Chair - my baby liked to see what was going on from quite early on and would yell if you laid her down. We got the BabyBjorn BabySitter which again some people would say is overkill but she still likes to sit in it now sometimes at 13mo and most other bouncy chairs would be way too small. Don't need a vibrate-y one though.

5. Muslins. Babies leak a lot.

Not so needed

1. Bumbo - by the time we thought it was a good idea she was sitting up herself in a week or two

2. Outfits for tiny people - they don't like getting dressed as it is

3. Scratch mitts - by the time they stay on, they don't need them anymore

4. Weird weaning food prep stuff. In my experience, by the time she was 6mo, which is when I started weaning, she was ok to just eat regular food, with some stuff mashed a bit with a fork.

5. Soft toys (like teddies) for babies... they don't care about those, they like the ones with the dangly bits to eat!

jumpinghoops Fri 19-Oct-12 19:23:14

Top 5 goodies:
Lansinoh cream- amazing
Swaddle wraps
Connecta sling
Medela swing breast pump

Bottom 5 baddies:
Breastfeeding pillow-bloody uncomfy actually
Wipes warmer thing (a present)
Breastfeeding scarf
Bath bath
Baby 'outfits'- vests/sleepsuits only in this house

1. Lansinoh - it saved my nipples!
2. Nappies and wipes
3. A good sling
4. Sleep suits, DD hated vests
5. muslins, DD is 2 now and we still use our supply - they are invaluable smile

Not so good buys -

1. moses basket
2. baby bath
3. all singing all dancing pram (see sling!)
4. teddies - how many do people think one child needs???
5. any baby clothes cosing more than a couple of quid

Clothing for baby - sleep suits are best
Infacol - better to be prepared
Dummy - in case of emergency at 3am after trying everything else
Biscuits! smile obviously necessary to fuel you producing milk for hungry babies and also to tackle the sleep deprivation and more importantly they can be eaten while feeding/ rocking/ cuddling said baby without worrying about dropping food on them! (crumbs don't count!) grin

Top 5:
- Nappy bin
- Isofix car & car seat base (transferring a sleeping baby is a massive help)
- Wipes, wipes and more wipes
- iPhone for keeping in touch with the world while BFing
- Sky+

Waste of time (for me):
- changing bag - just get a travel changing mat with some pockets. If you BF you don't need a huge bag of crap to carry round too
- expensive highchair - just get the ikea antilop for £12
- travel system. Wish I'd bought a quinny zapp extra and adapters for my maxi cosi car seat. Wouldn't have needed anything else and wouldn't take the whole boot up.
- bumbo. DS could nearly get out of it as soon as he was big enough to go in it.

ScienceRocks Fri 19-Oct-12 19:28:43

Must have - nappies, sleeping bags, car seat, baby carrier/sling, sleep suits

Pointless - muslins (never worked out what to do with them), change stations (used a muslin on the floor as i had no other use for them), baby bath (used a storage box in the shower cubicle for a few weeks then a couple of cm water in the big bath), nappy wrapper (the bin for empties more regularly so smelled much less), bibs (used tea towels as they are bigger!)

HoneyDragon Fri 19-Oct-12 19:29:38

1. Easy access to the internet (Mnet natch) / a book with booklight or Ereader.
For night wakings and overlong feeding sessions.
2. Nappies
4. Some sort of chair / moses basket to plop them in when you still want them nearby.
5. Sleepsuits and Vests.

MrsJohnDeere Fri 19-Oct-12 19:31:00

1. Grobags
2. Muslins (huge nos)
3. 2 changing mats - upstairs and down
4. Waterproof suit
5. Decent sized cot

Waste of money:
1. Scratch mitts
2. Baby monitor
3. Moses baskets
4. Outfits for tiny babies
5. Changing units

JustFabulous Fri 19-Oct-12 19:34:03

Must have

waterproof bag
car seat
vests and babygrows!

Don't need

Fancy pants travel system
poncy change bag
Real clothes - jeans/dresses
specific changing table
slound/light toy for getting them to sleep hmm

honoraglossop Fri 19-Oct-12 19:41:16

1. sling. i liked my meitai one
2. nappies and wipes
3. babygrows. and not "outfits"
4. fleecy blankets. can be used to keep baby warm/changing mat/ emergency sick cloth and dry REALLY quickly
5. lovefilm on computer/ or some good dvd boxsets when up and bored at all hours

not needed:
1. moses basket
2. any kind of baby entertainment...... and that includes mobiles/ fancy mats/ baby dvds all that crap
3. breast pump[ unless needing to get back to work very soon. far easier to just feed baby.
4. changing station unless have very bad back ( found it easier to do on the floor)
5. baby outfits

JacqueslePeacock Fri 19-Oct-12 19:42:12

Top 5:
Lansinoh for sore nipples
Washable breast pads
Moby wrap sling
Muslin cloths
Bouncy chair - it didn't actually bounce but was the perfect angle for putting a refluxy baby in after feeds so he wouldn't throw up

Not so great:
Expensive toys - baby just wanted to stare at people
Special swaddle cloth - he hated it
Teddy bears - so boring to a tiny baby
Books on baby routines - ha ha ha!
Special holder for baby to suck fruit through - hell to wash and utterly pointless (why can't baby just suck fruit directly??)

Must haves for me were:
Nappies & wipes
Breast pads

Not so necessary:
A steriliser that a friend gave me - took up loads of space & barely used as DD refused bottles & I got fed up of expressing for it to go down the sink.
A proper changing bag. Never used one. Just chuck a couple of nappies & wipes in an old washbag.
We didn't have a Moses basket, so I'd agree that's not necessary.

fuzzpig Fri 19-Oct-12 19:48:11

Argh I typed a long reply to this and then my phone died.


1. Pillows. Not necessarily a feeding one, I just piled loads up to start with. DS in particular was very heavy and it took a while to get used to just holding him comfortably.

2. Baby sleeping bags. I am very paranoid about baby pulling blankets over their head. (I still check them at night, they are 3 and 5 blush) - this eliminated that worry for me.

3. Bath chair. I found it very tiring trying to hold the baby in the bath, I had a deck chair type thing that held them comfortably while I had both hands free to wash them.

4. Bouncy chair. Essential for moments of sanity by keeping them entertained and safe.

5. Washable breast pads. I still wince at the memory of getting the disposable ones stuck to my skin instead of my bra! No thanks! Washables were much more comfy.


1. Disposable breast pads. See above.

2. Baby monitor. As it turned out, I couldn't bear to leave my DCs in another room for long anyway, and if we were lucky enough to get them to sleep early, I still checked on them frequently even with the monitor on, so it was pretty pointless.

3. Manual breast pump. We didn't really get into the swing of expressing anyway, but I wish I'd stumped up for an electric, as the manual one was exhausting and milk fruitless!

4. Cot mobile. DS just wasn't interested in this, until he was old enough to climb up to it. hmm

5. Light projector music thing. As above really - DD didn't like it. Both babies were not distractible - if they were upset, nothing but cuddles would do!

APombearsPicnic Fri 19-Oct-12 19:48:28

Top 5:
A comfy sling that doesn't dig into your skin! A life-saver with Babies who refuse to be put down - means you can do other things as well!
Feeding Pillow to give your arms a rest especially at night!
Soft Muslim cloths were really great with a snotty, sicky Babies!!
Really soft blanket, easy to wash but cosy to sleep in for Baby!
Very easy to clean outfits! After up-the-back explosions, they were fab and quick to wash but very hard to find!

Not really Necessary:
Changing Table - Takes up lots of space, a Mat does the same job and hog can take it anywhere!
Shoes - Week old Babies can't walk so why buy expensive shoes of no use? hmm Socks are much easier to keep little feet warm!
Nappy Bin - Old nappies lingering about in a bin are really not pleasant!
Snot Sucker - Really?!
Very expensive, massive travel systems - You end up thinking 'Why did I buy all this?' grin

howiwonder Fri 19-Oct-12 19:54:06

5 must have for us were -

Muslins, hundreds of the things, needed them all
Sling - after buying many, we discovered the Ergo (with newborn insert in early days) and never looked back
Sidecar cot
good breastfeeding pillow

5 pointless things we bought -

one of those nappy bin things
stupid 'clothes' for newborns e.g jeans and hoodies (my DH bought these I have to say), baby lived in babygrows instead
Baby bjorn carrier, killed our backs after a week or two
a strange, rather expensive, teddy bear that had a heartbeat (and various other) sounds, hoped it would be our sleep saviour - it wasnt.
a swaddling wrap, DS hated it

Jacques I forgot about that fruit sucker thing - seemed like such a good idea when I bought it but was a bloody nightmare to clean! I also bought a spoon with a squeezy handle to put the food in. Still in the packet...

EauRouge Fri 19-Oct-12 19:58:28

Top 5-

Decent comfy sling (not crappy Baby Bjorn-type one)
Lots of vests
Lots of sleepsuits
Car seat
Muslin squares

Not necessary-

Travel system- babies are not meant to be in their car seats for long periods
Baby monitor- ended up co-sleeping
Light projector thingy- neither DD remotely interested
Jeans/dresses/little outfits- not comfy or practical for small babies
Breastpump/bottles- never bothered and you can express by hand anyway

BornToFolk Fri 19-Oct-12 19:58:37

I'm basing my "must have" list mostly on what I still use now that DS is 5:

Reusable wipes
Big blanket for baby to lie/play on the floor
Sleeping bag (OK, DS doesn't still use one of these but I thought they were great!)

Not so good list
Complicated baby carrier. I had a Mothercare one that was a total faff to put on and DS hated it so we never used it.
Swingy seat thing. Was supposed to soothe DS. It didn't.
Baby bath. Never had one.
Baby lotion/oil/talc. I still don't understand what you are supposed to do with them!

Astr0naut Fri 19-Oct-12 20:01:59

1. Sling (we got an ebay Moby).
2.Sleeping bag.
3. Lansinoh.
4. Vibrating baby chair.
5.monitor where you can record yourself going: "shhh". It's saved us many a walk upstairs.

Sling (close or wrap not a hip dangler)
Aden anais Muslins
Thermal mug
Car seat

Astr0naut Fri 19-Oct-12 20:06:09

Not so necessary:
Feeling a bit smug here, because we bought hardly anything anyway. But from conversations with others:

1. Changing table
2. blankets - once we got a sleeping bag, they were redundant
3. changing bag - get it free from boots; it's not anyone's looking at you anyway - you are pushing a pram
4. socks

nextphase Fri 19-Oct-12 20:09:15

Best Buys:
1 Lansinol
2 Growbag sleeping bags
3 Happychick mattress protectors
4 size 1 and 2 nappies
5 bepanthan (not sudocream)

Not Required:
1 nappy bin
2 changing station
3 Clothes and shoes (baby grows all the way)
4 cot mobile
5 "emergency" formula and bottles for (and I quote the midwife) when breastfeeding gets to hard.
6 (sorry) Travel systems - babies shouldn't spend any longer than necessary in a car seat.

- Nappies/wipes - whether disposable or reusable. Disposable for the first week of hospital/first poos certainly.

- babygros. Warm, versatile, simple. Enough for a couple of days in hospital, plus a pack for "spare". People will probably inundate you with presents.

- lansinoh and breastpads. You will be leaky, you will be sore.

- blankets. Lovely, snuggly. Plus a wonderful keepsake

-scratchmitts. Both of mine savaged their faces regularly with their uncoordinated movements.

Not needed:
- fancy baby clothes. You will probably get a lot. If you don't, think yourself lucky. Nothing worse than wrangling a newborn into teeny, tiny, uncomfy jeans for them to have a poosplosion within seconds.

- changing station - we were bought one with DS2. It was great for a couple of days when I was sore - then it became a shelving unit. Floor is much safer.

- baby bubbles/bath stuff. Just use water. They smell yummy anyway.

- baby towels. The baby WILL grow out of them quickly. Use your own - they're nice to wrap around the baby to keep them warm.

Socks - baby socks fall off. Constantly. When their feet finally don't fall out, the baby learns to take them off. And the washing machine eats them anyway. Babygros don't require socks. 'Nuff said.

noseymcposey Fri 19-Oct-12 20:22:23

1)Bedside crib (3 sided to attach to the bed)
2)Babygros - got through about 5 a day
3)Playmat - the only place I could put DS down for 5 mins to get a cup of tea
4)Lansinol nipple cream
5)Moby sling

1)Shoes/booties for babies. He just wore socks till he was about one.
2)Teddy bears. Never been interested in any of them
3)Baby bouncer. Cried whenever he went in it despite getting a luxury vibrating/self bouncing version we prob used it about twice as far preferred just lying on the floor
4)All baby toiletries. Water is fine, and better for babies skin
5)Nappy bin - we just never used it

JollyJackOLantern Fri 19-Oct-12 20:29:09

Must haves:
1. Muslin cloths. They are useful for everything
2. Pram with Carrycot - we went out walking and DS slept in it during the day
3. Plastic tubs to fill with easy to microwave meals that can be eaten with one hand while BFing
4. DVD box sets to watch while BFing
5. Jellycat rabbit - everyone seems to have one now, DS loves his (possibly more than he loves me)

1. Babasling - do they fit anyone?
2. Agree with baby shoes. Pointless.
3. Baby bath
4. Rocking chair - it's difficult enough to position an newborn for feeding without having to contend with the chair moving too
5. Plug socket covers - they're dangerous and totally unnecessary

This is a good idea. And I see the poster above me has already mentioned the Connecta which is the one baby thing I couldn't do without! grin

Brilliant things:
1) Connecta baby carrier - still using it with 2 1/2 yr old
2) tripp trapp highchair
3) cloth nappies (they have now been used for three children, saving ££££)
4) Moses basket for when they are tiny and sometimes sleep downstairs
5) disposable breast pads
6) Jojo Maman Bebe pocket highchair (other brands available, I'm sure)

Not so good things:
1) Rocking crib
2) washable breast pads - really irritating
3) tripp trapp cushion and reins - never needed them, the babyset was enough
4) baby sleeping bag - child hated it
5) muslins (I know people swear by them but I just don't get it!)
6) impossible to wash soft-seat type high chair

Oh, was it just five? oops.

aimingtobeaperfectionist Fri 19-Oct-12 20:38:51

1. Nappies & wipes
2. Vests & babygros
3. Nightlight for night time feedings without having to wake everyone up
4. Weleda nappy cream- amazing
5. Muslin cloths- I had a very sicky baby

Not so useful:
1. Any clothing other than vests & babygrows, too much faff and totally unnecessary
2. Baby towels- just use a regular one
3. Nursery decoration eg bedding etc- we didn't do up our nursery until well after baby arrived. Baby is still in with us now so there's no rush
4. Nappy bin- one of those special seal up ones, just empty the bin every day!
5. Anything fiddly, gadget type- you won't have time to use it!

Alitoomanykids Fri 19-Oct-12 20:40:55

top 5 essentials

nappies / wipes
plain white babygrows and vests
car seat
buggy system with carry cot (make sure it fits in the boot of your car)

top 5 items rarely used

dummies (all three kids refused them outright)
nappy bin
scratch mitts - never stay on for more than 5 seconds
baby oil

Faverolles Fri 19-Oct-12 20:41:05

1. Sling. Preferably a moby wrap.
2. Lovely big feeding pillow.
3. Nappies and wipes.
4. Babygrows.
5. Chocolate.

Not so necessary
1. Outfits that do up at the back.
2. Cuddly toys
3. Moses basket.
4. bottles and formula "just in case"
5. Baby bath.

hugandroll Fri 19-Oct-12 20:41:15

Must haves:

1) nappies and wet wipes - stock up in advance, they go through a lot.
2) vests
3) baby grows
4) carseat (can't leave hospital without one)
5) your preferred feeding method so either your boobs or bottles, formula and sterilising equipment.

Not needed:

1) bottle warmer
2) nappy bin
3) changing table
4) dummies
5) baby shoes

Lfs2126 Fri 19-Oct-12 20:42:44

1)Fleecy blankets ( not red though - paronoid 1st time parent,moi, might think a bit of fluff in a nappy was a spot of blood)!blush
2) as many plain white sleep suits , vests
etc as poss so no need to separate washing.
3) dummies - sorry but sometimes....
4) little boxes of SMA for emergencies
5) sleeping bags- brilliant!!

muslins - large pack preferably nice colours.
nappies & wipes
Baby Bjorn bouncer - loved it
cellular blankets
snacks for Mum - I loved ninebars

not necessary:
cotton wool - I still have oodles of cotton wool I brought 2 babies ago!
booties & shoes for babies
changing mat
bottles - breastfeeding went well so I never needed bottles.
agree re outfits that do up at the back

zinaida Fri 19-Oct-12 21:07:06

1. Stretchy wrap sling
2. Snot sucking device - the alternative is so minging!
3. Nursing bras
4. Muslins (or 'rags', which are cheaper!)
5. Thermos mug to keep your tea warm

Unnecessary items:
1. Baby bath - take the baby in with you!
3. Lotions etc - water is fine
4. Moses basket
5. Separates- stick to vests and baby gros for ages.

Wigeon Fri 19-Oct-12 21:14:42

MNHQ - I think you should make it clear in the OP that in order to be entered into the prize draw, you not only have to post on this thread, but you also have to join the Amazon Family scheme - according to the Terms and Conditions linked in the OP.

As your OP is drafted, it looks like you just have to post on this thread (as for many similar MN competitions), and so I think it's rather misleading.

HoneyDragon Fri 19-Oct-12 21:20:11

Oooh that is a bit naughty. They want free research AND your credit card details.

1. So obvious, but nappies and wipes
2. More sleepsuits than you can imagine
3. A mode of transport, be it pram or sling, you'll want to get out and about for your sanity!
4. Lovely soft and cosy blankets
5. Cosy hats for winter babies, cool and shadey hats for summer.

Not required.

1.Bottle Sterilizer. Expensive mistake for us. Dishwasher is fine.
2.Changing Table. Never, ever used it. Ever.
3.Moses Basket. Only ever used it when person who gifted it to us visited.
4. Muslins. What am I supposed to do with them? Why not use a hanky?
5. Baby socks. I don't know what they do with them, but they don't stay on at all. Just stick to onesies.

HoneyDragon Fri 19-Oct-12 21:22:19

Also how do they know you've signed up?
We are anon on here? There is no link or way for them to know without them knowing your username and email address?

Wigeon good point. Well spotted.

Pandemoniumwearspurpleshoes Fri 19-Oct-12 21:41:51

Must haves:
1. Vests and babygos
2. Nappies and cotton wool (initially) then wipes
3. Muslins - white for bottoms and pretty coloured ones for everything else
4. Baby sleeping bags
5. Feeding pillow
6. Tumble drier (winter baby!)

Not necessary:
1. Proper clothes for baby- dungarees, jeans etc - too fiddly until 3-4 months old
2. Scratch mitts - difficult to put on, and didn't stay on long, better to get babygros with mitts built in
3. Snowsuit - too difficult to get a wriggly baby into!
4. Teddies, just not interested until much older
5. Top and tail bowl - bought by dh in panic mode I think! I use plastic pots/Gu pots

InterpretativeRepertoires Fri 19-Oct-12 21:47:16

Most useful;
big enough bed to sleep in comfortably if bf at night
comfy big pants for post birth and moist loo roll!
two changemats - one for upstairs and one for downstairs
breast pads for leaking boobs
nightgowns with zips/drawstrings rather than poppers when nappy changing at night

Pointless buys
Sling - my babies hated theirs for several months
nappy wrapper bin thing - just smelly
disposible pants - just buy cheapies from primark
babyclothes other than sleepsuits - just impractical
teething rings - does anyone's baby ever use them??

MainlyMaynie Fri 19-Oct-12 21:55:22

Must haves:
Amby hammock
Nappy bin
Tummy tub

We could have managed without a pram for a good few months.

MainlyMaynie Fri 19-Oct-12 21:57:01

I forgot the feeding cushion, could not have managed without it!

issimma Fri 19-Oct-12 21:57:11

Swaddling blankets

seabuckthorn Fri 19-Oct-12 22:01:36

Nappies & wipes
Cot wedge
Swaddling blanket

ArterialSpurtMonkey Fri 19-Oct-12 22:07:29

Aww, mine loved the tummy tub too Maynie, they'd go all weirdly alert but relaxed in it iykwim, and the water stays warm, and covers their tummy (mine never had any colic, don't know if it was connected) plus is much easier to do a quick water change in the event of a code brown.

So then

Muslins (just so insanely useful)
Nice bfing bra and breast pads
Tummy tub

Stuff I was given and never used: nipple shields, dummy (absolutely not against them, mine just would not countenance them), teeny tiny baby nail clippers (way too harsh, just nibble and peel).

OneTwoOrThree Fri 19-Oct-12 23:05:42

Must haves:
1 - nappies (lots of, although beware as they grow through the early sizes really quickly)
2 - wipes / cotton wool and water (whatever you prefer)
3 - lansinoh & breast pads (if bf, otherwise I guess you need bottles, steriliser and formula)
<getting bored of 'real' essential', so some other good products>
4 - ikea antilop highchair - cheap, easy to clean, legs pop off easily for storage / travel - perfect product. DO NOT SPEND £££££ ON A HIGH CHAIR - it is SO SO SO not worth it. <do you hear me?>
5- mocc'ons (half mocasin, half sock - and the actually stay on babies feet - fab!)

Not so essential:
1 - Muslins... Everyone will tell you these are essential, and they were with DC1, but DC2 has barely even seen a muslin. Every baby is different, so don't buy loads til you know whether or not you'll need them. With 24h online shopping, it'll only take a day or two to get them delivered if you need them...
2 - Scratch mitts - only for PFBs
3 - breast pump, steriliser, bottles <rrrrrrrrr, my bf DCs (yes, both!) refused bottles so a total waste of time, money and precious energy>
4 - change mat covers - fiddly to change, expensive etc. Just use a (travel cot) sheet (if you have a travel cot you'll buy these anyway) or a muslin. Easy & cheap.
5 - clothes. PFB will undoubtedly be dressed in clothes from a few weeks old. Subsequent babies you will want to stay like little babies for as long as possible, so will live in babygros until 6+ months. Embrace the baby weeks / months, they are very very short <secretly yearning for DC3>

GetKnitted Fri 19-Oct-12 23:09:31

1. Nappies. 2. wipes. 3. cot 4.plenty of onesies 5.pushchair/carseat (sorry that might be 6!

don't need

1. outfits (other people will probably give them!). monitor (unless you live in a palace, if baby is crying you'll hear them(IMHO)).

Must haves:
1. Lansinoh ( its what enabled me to feed really well with no cracking etc. miracle cream)
2. A good buggy thats flexible for your needs. I use a bugaboo chameleon and to have forward or rear facing, off road or city, sun hood or footmuff etc. brilliant.
3. A bouncy chair. Cheap as you like but just having a place to put them was heavenly.
4. Grobag especially a travel version. Perfect for just picking baby out of car and into cot already ready for bed.
5. A camera. You'll take a thousand photos even of an impressive poo at times!! blush

Waste of time:
1. Top/tail bowl. Seriously, one bowl dont double dip you'll be fine if you know a head from an arse!
2. Baby bath. Get a bath support and use the big bath. Better still use the sink!
3. Big frilly dresses. They just bunch up around your babies ears from all that kicking/wriggling. Sleepsuits are far better.
4. Bottles/steriliser etc. boobs are free.
5. Cot bedding bales. Just use a grobag and you wont worry about layers and heat levels.

LollopingLil Fri 19-Oct-12 23:15:39

Top five:
-iPad - saved getting stuck with nothing to watch/read but unable to move
-What DH kindly refers to as my 'vagina pads' (gel ice packs for perineal injury)
White noise CD

Bottom five:
-Expensive reusables (I never got past 'temporarily' using disposables blush)
-Sterilising kit
-Dummies, but only because the little blighter wouldn't take one
-Five thousand slightly different bouncy/vibrating etc chairs
-Baby's first swim suit. He'd grown out of it before I was ready to venture to the pool.

ceeveebee Fri 19-Oct-12 23:18:29

My must haves for twins
1) Baby bjorn bouncy chairs - can bounce one with each foot and useful for tandem bottle feeds
2) Travel cot with bassinette and changing mat for downstairs naps so they can sleep together instead of in seperate baskets
3) Tandem travel system with car seats
4) Baby bath seats so I could bath them together on my own
5) Baby monitor that also plays lullabies

Not so useful
1) Double sling - used twice, cost £90!
2) Twin feeding cushion - was so huge it was easier to just use normal pillows/cushions
3) Baby bath - only used for first couple of weeks
4) Bottle warmer - jug of boiling water just as quick
5) Iron. Who has time??

Cahoots Fri 19-Oct-12 23:25:11

Yes smile
Washing machine
Push chair
Nappy changing paraphernalia
Bouncy chair

No sad
Overly expensive pram
Excess baby clothes
Too many toys
Baby shoes
Special baby towels

CheeryCherry Fri 19-Oct-12 23:33:08

Baby's first book& nice pen to jot down all special moments. (yes I did it for all 4!)

Not needed...
Baby bath (get in big bath with them)
Changing station (put changing mat on chest of drawers)
Nappy bin (why?)
Soothing whale music...
Baby sling

ICutMyFootOnOccamsRazor Sat 20-Oct-12 00:18:50

Must have:
Car seat
Sling/baby carrier
Changing mat - so useful for exploding poos

Not useful:
cotton wool - why?
toys - not til much later
steriliser - although comes in handy for chutney jars
breastfeeding pillow - pointless
shampoo, bath wash, baby oil etc - still have it all, unused.

ICutMyFootOnOccamsRazor Sat 20-Oct-12 00:19:39

Oh, and forgot the most useless baby thing of all - I give you...the wipes warmer.

WhatWouldWitchesDo Sat 20-Oct-12 00:28:58

Must have:
Nursing bra and Breast pads (cloth not disposable)
Nappies (cloth) and Wipes (cloth not disposable)
Electronic breast pump

Didn't need:
Denim outfits
Amby Hammock

stealthsquiggle Sat 20-Oct-12 01:29:02

Must haves:

Bouncy chair
Flannels (cheap, ikea, lots of, for all purposes, still in use 10 years later)
Car seat
Changing table at the right height for parents' backs
Bottles and steriliser -BF doesn't work out for everyone, no matter what they tell you.


Just about everything else, really!

notcitrus Sat 20-Oct-12 07:03:34

5 things vital before baby:
Blankets to put baby on so could lift with one hand
Lots of laundry liquid!
Simple bouncy chair

5 things rapidly needed for me and my baby:
Electric breast pump
My Breast Friend cushion
Lansinoh breast pads
Functioning microwave and new kettle
Simple bulb snot sucker
And baby gym, swing, musical mobile and many more.

5 things I found useless:
Stay-hot drinks cup - not for long enough and not microwaveable
Cute outfits in first 6 months
Changing bag - couldn't fit washable nappies
Off-road buggy - I live in London and way too big
Most baby toys. Just keep giving mum chocolate and ready-cooked meals!

MrsHoarder Sat 20-Oct-12 07:21:06

1. Changing mat
2. Bouncy chair
3. Muslin Squares
4. Vests and sleepsuits
5 Sleeping bag

Not used:

1. Bottles and formula (EBF baby wouldn't take the occasional bottle)
2. Scratch mitts
3. Baby toys (until about 3 months, by which stage family/friends had bought mountains)
4. Dummies
5. Baby shoes

Essentially because everyone loves buying/making for babies, its best to buy stuff so that they will let you out of hospital and that will get you through the first couple of weeks. Aside from that, order online/go out to the shops when you think you need something rather than buying it in advance.

Bicnod Sat 20-Oct-12 07:50:38

Must haves:
1. waterwipes - no faffing around with cotton wool and water.
2. Lots and lots of muslins.
3. Sling - neither of mine tolerated the buggy til about 5 months.
4. sports bottle - to drink water easily in the night while lying down and feeding.
5. Infacol - bit controversial but seemed to help both of mine.

Didn't need:
1. Any clothes apart from babygros for first 3 months.
2. Buggy for first 5 months.
3. Cot mobile - meh.
4. Changing bag - just get one of those changing rolls and stick it in your own bag.
5. Special swaddle blanket - just use a normal blanket.

MegBusset Sat 20-Oct-12 07:54:04

Car seat
Bouncy chair
Muslins x loads
Breasts smile

Complicated and expensive nappy-wrapping system
Bottles & formula (people said YOU MUST HAVE THESE with DS1; with DS2 I didn't bother)
Top & tail bath
Baby lotion/shampoo/bath foam (just use water)

3bunnies Sat 20-Oct-12 07:56:22

Must haves:-
1. Nappies - large number which don't leak.
2. Sleepsuits - large number, not necessarily stain free or right colour, at 3am you don't care.
3. Muslins - protect your clothes, only necessary for first child, by the third child you have no nice clothes left.
4. Sling - far easier on public transport etc, and can be used around the house for the baby which doesn't want to be put down.
5. King size bed - this is the only one we don't have, cos our double is still functional, however it is the one thing I have craved over the years - more space if co-sleeping, an extra body could crawl in un noticed and more space for opening presents. If I could I would travel back in time and tell myself to spend the extra cash for a kingsize.

Waste of money:-
1: Baby bath - used it once, baby felt too slippery, ended up co-bathing.
2. Nappy bin - gets smelly, best to just chuck out regularly.
3. Booties - you just lose one and they don't serve any real function.
4. Socks for any child which doesn't have shoes. Again they fall off, you lose one and then end up with odd socks - for tiny babies just put sleepsuit under every outfit - in a sick emergency it is clothing in its own right, for older babies of either sex use tights, they don't know, and they can't pull them off.
5. Moses basket, 2 out of 3 hated it and grew out of it in 2 months.

Sparkles23 Sat 20-Oct-12 08:04:11

Top 5 must haves:

Top 5 not needed
Baby bath
Baby socks
Nappy bin
Top and tail bowl (i used 2 old ice cream tubs one saying bum and one saying face!)
Outfits (ds lived in sleepsuits for first few months!)

EwanHoozami Sat 20-Oct-12 08:25:56


1 - Baby changing unit. Loads of people will say this is unnecessary but it saved my back to have them at the right height. I have the East Coast one which will happily turn into an unobtrusive shelving unit when my DSs have ditched the nappies.

2 - reusable nappies. Motherease.

3 - bouncy chair. Even small babies love to watch their surroundings and gives you some hands-free time.

4 - LoveFilm subscription. Early breastfeeds are looooong.

5 - account for making books of the pick of the thousands of baby photos. Bit of an indulgence but what's the point of having a phone full of pictures? Makes great gifts for the family too.

Useless (for me):

1 - slings. Of any kind. Aforementioned bad back and giant babies made these into torture devices.

2 - door bouncer. SO hard to get babies in and out of.

3 - pram suits and snow suits. Lots
Of layered clothes and blankets are so much easier to manage.

4 - parasol for a pram. Why make the blooming buggies even more bulky? They never cover the right spot anyway.

5 - those special towels that clip round your neck. Just tuck a bath towel under your bra strap and save yourself twenty quid!

BoyMeetsWorld Sat 20-Oct-12 08:35:58

Top 5 must haves were:
1.bottle steriliser
2. Quinny zapp pushchair - folds up lovely & small!
3. Play gym mat (so can actually put baby down sometimes!
4. Bibs & Muslins for all the sick
5. Moses basket for first 3 months

Will know we don't need next time!:
1. Huge & v expensive 4 wheel designer brand pram. Way too big to be practical.
2. Millions of lotions, talcs, bath products: they last a fair while
3. 100s of cute outfits. Babies grow so fast & basically just wore babygros to begin with
4. Sling. Sure some people like these but I quickly realised I'd never carry my baby in one
5. Actual changing table - just a good mat is enough & mainly got used on floor anyway

BedHog Sat 20-Oct-12 08:59:44

A 3 sided bedside cot - made night feeds so much easier
Teething powders - work like magic!
Sleeping bags - saves all the faffing around with blankets etc
An easy-to-use camera - to capture all those cute expressions and magic moments.
Bandana style dribble bibs - catch all the drool and stop them getting a soggy chest and a sore neck.

Things I didn't need - a moses basket, fancy changing equipment, a baby bath, a big changing bag, books, dummies, scratch mitts, bootees, bouncer chair, talc, baby lotion etc etc.

TheMysteryCat Sat 20-Oct-12 09:01:10

Nappies and wipes
Vests and babygros

Not needed
Baby bath or bath support
Booties or shoes!
Gripe water
Scratch mitts

BettyandDon Sat 20-Oct-12 09:54:48

- Door swing once they're old enough (3-4 mos)
- Bumbo (lasted from 3 months to well my DD 2.2 still likes sitting in hers!)
- Sophie the giraffe
- The bugaboo (been used every day very happily for 2.2 yrs)
- Gro-bags!! Perfect for wriggly babes

Completely unused;
- sling
- swaddle blankets
- baby bath
- highchair (went from Bumbo to toddler chair & table)

SilverCharm Sat 20-Oct-12 09:59:59

Bottles (can't breastfeed)

Pretty basic really!

mumah Sat 20-Oct-12 10:05:29

1. Sling (Moby wrap or Mai Tai was all that my DS would happily sit in, he hated the BabyBjorn we had picked out in pregnancy)
2. Changing bag big enough to fit the whole house in.
3. Itti Bitti Reusable Nappies for us have been incredible since birth.
4. Vests (all in white makes doing the million leaky nappy and vomit washes a lot easier when you're in a sleep deprived haze.)
5. Kindle for the long cuddly nap and feeding sessions.

mynameis Sat 20-Oct-12 11:16:33


1. Bath seat for normal bath
2. Nappies
3. Washable breast pads - why did I only discover these on dc4?!
4. Gro bags
5. Cellular blankets, pram size - all mine used theirs as comforters

Not needed

1. Baby bath
2. Muslins - I know loads of people use them but mine just stayed piled up in the drawer
3. Top and tail bowl
4. Bumbo - luckily only borrowed one
5. Bottle/food warmer s - take forever to heat anything up!

AnnMumsnet (MNHQ) Sat 20-Oct-12 12:10:19

mrscumberbatch, HoneyDragon and others who raised a query about the T&Cs - thanks for flagging - it's a mistake in the copy - entry is just by adding your comments to this thread. We'll get Amazon to amend it on Monday. And as you say there's no way of knowing from MN nickname who is a member of family and who isn't.

Thanks for all your amazing tips so far..

Dillydollydaydream Sat 20-Oct-12 12:24:43


1 Lots of breast pads
2 Muslins - cheap and have multiple uses
3 Lots of nappies
4 Plenty of body & sleep suits
5 Nipple cream!!

Don't needs

1 Baby shoes, they won't keep them on more than 5 seconds.
2 A baby bath I barely used mine
3 Ditto top & tail bowl
4 expensive outfits. In the early days body suits and sleep suits are easier and much more comfy.
5 changing table. During the night baby was changed on our bed and during the day we were downstairs so it was easier using a changing mat on the floor than walking upstairs and downstairs numerous times a day.

SirBoobAlot Sat 20-Oct-12 12:28:43

Top five:

- Breastfeeding cushion. Not just handy for the early days, but great for when they're learning to sit up, and fab for when you have a bad back too grin
- Breast pads.
- Muslin cloths
- Nappies
- Baby grows.

Five not needed:

- Baby bath
- SHOES. Why do people always buy you shoes for a baby?!
- Same with jeans etc in "newborn" size.
- Baby grows that unbutton at the back <shudder>
- Cot bumpers. Always frustrated me that a lot of places only sold bedding in groups, including cot bumpers.

Good quality sleepsuits/vests
Bt baby monitor
Huggies pure wipes

Not so good are tiny dresses on baby girls, makes them impossible to handle! Thick snowsuits, impossible to put on a tiny baby, get a thiner one and add a blanket! Cuddly toys, they have a favourite or two and the rest are in the way forever more as dear relatives brought them. Baby guide books, just ask mumsnet! Parasols(umbrella sunshade things) for buggys absolute shite! Shade a babe/solar shade are far superior!

HoneyDragon Sat 20-Oct-12 12:54:56

Thank you Ann smile

Don't they let you the weekend off? wink

BooCanary Sat 20-Oct-12 13:11:58

Top 5
Muslins and lots of them!
Bouncy chair/baby seat
Pushchair (suitable from birth) and car seat that attaches
Moses Basket
Basic baby clothes - vest, babygros, nappies.

Pointless (IMO)
Baby bath
Baby toiletries (talc, bubble bath etc etc)
Anything 'faddy' (e.g. bath seats, car mirrors to see rear-facing baby)
Highchair (just use quality booster seat)
Baby nail clippers - dangerous IMO.

DairyNips Sat 20-Oct-12 14:12:26

Strange, I thought I added to this thread but can't find my post now or remember what I wrote!confused
Will try again!

Top 5
Breast pads
A nice soft blanket

Not needed:
Baby bath
Wardrobe (drawers are better)
Baby shoes
Complicated outfits
Nappy wrapper bin

ScreamyShriekyFrightyWoozyWooo Sat 20-Oct-12 14:12:48

Top 5
(Aside from the obvious nappies/flannels/breastpads etc)

- Pram that I can attach car seat to. Perfect for school run/small shops where I can't take pram inside.

- Changing table. Saves my poor back and bad hips changing on the floor or bending over the bed.

- Bouncy chair/swing seat.

- Lansinoh

- Sleepsuits with fold-over scratch mitts


- Newborn size outfits.

- Shoes.

- Baby body wash/shampoo.

- Breastfeeding cushion. Tried a few, and they were all too hard/too soft/too big/too small etc. I just used a normal pillow.

- Wipes. Gave both my babies nappy rash. Just use cotton wool and water.

aufaniae Sat 20-Oct-12 15:08:02


Sling (wrap around or Ergo style)
Bouncy chair
Car seat


Baby Bjorn sling - (bad for my back and not good for the baby to have all their weight on the crotch)
Baby shoes
Baby toiletries (water is all that's needed!)
Very dressy outfits (sleepsuits are great on the other hand)
Specially designed nappy bin

blooblies Sat 20-Oct-12 15:25:16

1. babygros and vests - outfits are fiddly and uncomfortable until baby uncurls and grows a bit
2. blankets and hats for layering when in the house or out and about
3. nappies. We swear by motherease washable nappies, now on dc3 and unsurpassed in poo containment.
4. feeding pillow/cushion to stop your back seizing up
5. somewhere to sleep. We use the pram carrycot downstairs and a sidecar crib upstairs to minimise the need to get out of bed <lazy 3rd time mum>

I never use:
lotions and potions. Grapeseed oil is enough.
cuddly toys are the bain of my life, and the kids rarely pay attention to them
anything in a catalogue - it is likely to be unnecessary, overpriced and clutter the house even more
weaning clobber. All you need are a few sleeved bibs.
shoes, socks and scratch mitts and anything else that doesn't stay on more than 2 mins

DioneTheDiabolist Sat 20-Oct-12 16:18:42

Must Have
1. Disposible nappies
2. Changing mat (babies are very wriggly and the mess can get everywhere)
3. Travel system. Pram and car seat. You need to get around easily or you will go mad.
4. Wipes. (see point 2)
5. Babygros and vests.

Not Necessary

1. Baby bath. It's easier to wash a small slippery baby in a basin at the sink.
2. Toys.
3. Proper clothes.
4. Nappy bin.
5. Moses basket. It will only last a couple of weeks if used at all.

BlastOff Sat 20-Oct-12 16:33:37

1. Disposable nappies & wipes
2. Sudocrem
3. Baby sized towel with hood
4. Lots of baby grows (no need for 'outfits')
5. Changing mat

1. Moses basket
2. Scratch mits
3. Shoes
4. Sling (hardly used it because i so worried about tripping or smothering them)
5. Breast pads (just didn't need them despite years of breast feeding)

Must have:

1. Car seat
2. Nappies
3. Wipes
4. Sleeping bag
5. Smartphone to keep me entertained during night feeds

1. Bottles
2. Breast pump
3. Bumbo
4. Baby massage class!!
5. Baby rice

dinkystinky Sat 20-Oct-12 18:55:31

Top 5
1 - muslins - who'd believe there were so many uses for one item!
2 - sling/baby bjorn
3 - lots and lots of babygrows - we got through SO much laundry in the first couple of months as we were pretty inept at nappy changing and our babies were pretty good at filling their nappies
4 - swaddle blanket
5 - tummitub - both kids loved being held in there up to their shoulders in warm water - was an instant calmer-downer

- breast pump
- toys

Top 5

1 Wipes, lots of
2 Muslin Squares
3 Basic bouncer chair
4 Playmat
5 Vests & Sleepsuits

Not needed

1 Baby book to fill in - never found the time
2 Baby Bath
3 Top & Tail Bowl
4 Books by experts - bought too many, ds ignores them all!
5 Any toys

Lilyloo Sat 20-Oct-12 19:21:01

Breast pads
Bouncy chair / swing

Also wine and someone who can give you 5 minutes to yourself to go to the toilet

flamingtoaster Sat 20-Oct-12 19:29:08

Must have items:

Babygros and vests
Lanisoh if breastfeeding
Sheets and blankets
pram/buggy that is easy to fold

fluffacloud Sat 20-Oct-12 20:02:49


1. Breast pads and Lanisoh
2. Plain cheap muslins/terry towel squares
3. 6x vest and 6x sleep suits (100% cotton only and nothing with fastenings or buttons at the back
3.2. A Grobag
4. Thermal mug - else you'll never have hot tea again!
5. Entertainment - books, films etc for those loooong first few nights

What was I thinking?!

1. Bath products for 'new mums' - like as soon as you've used gas and air you can't possibly use what you have been using for at least the last 9 months?

2. Outfits, utter waste of time and they'll be ruined by day-glo yellow poo in moments

3. Baby socks/scratch mittens. If you get them to stay on for more than 2 mins, you deserve a medal

4. Cot toys. Cots are for sleeping in (not that my baby agrees), not playing in. It will make you want to cry when you've oh so gently put your baby in their cot, they're finally asleep and then you/they knock the cot toy and 'twinkle, twinkle' blasts out and wakes the baby!

5. Baby books are a lovely idea but rather impractical. I once went 2 days without brushing my teeth when my baby was tiny, I certainly didn't have time to log every bloody move she made.

BoysWillGrow Sat 20-Oct-12 20:07:16

Top most important I used and still do
1) a nice quality baby blanket
2) a cute hat (for in hospital)
3) bepanthum (not sure if spelt right, skin cream, good on bums)
4) baby socks, sleep suits.
5) camera.

not so important
1) Proper baby outfits (jeans etc)
2) baby bath
4) Moses basket
5) mittens/ socks

AnnMumsnet (MNHQ) Sat 20-Oct-12 20:09:10

HoneyDragon grin

BoysWillGrow Sat 20-Oct-12 20:09:36

Number 5 should say mittens/shoes. :-)

ScorpionQueen Sat 20-Oct-12 20:21:50

For baby:
Travel system
Moses basket
Baby gros
Mary Poppins style bag containing nappies, wipes, cream etc.

For mum:
Nipple pads
Other pads

changeforthebetter Sat 20-Oct-12 20:26:48

Disposable breast pads good quality tea honey for calorie-boosting snacks tea tree oil for sore bits figs for post natal constipation #glamourofmotherhood <grin>

Liskey Sat 20-Oct-12 20:48:32

Must haves:
Play mat
Car seat - get as early as possible in case you need to be admitted/induced early
Baby sleeping bags - in case of a wriggler like DD who constantly threw off blankets in the depths of winter
Travel cot
Muslins - very useful for lots of things

Pretty useless:
Nappy bin
Baby outfits - sleep suits are a lot more practical
Bumbo - DD was very good at getting out of it and trying to fall on the ground
Moses basket looked pretty but after it got thrown up on the sheets never fitted it properly again
Baby bath - after filling it up with water and then spilling it swore off using it again!

IvanaDvinkYourBlad Sat 20-Oct-12 20:49:35

"Must haves" (things we used a lot or found essential):

*Large cotton pads for nappy changes (cotton wool pleat and balls rubbish by comparison!)
*Nipple shields (esp first child, boots own - went on to breast feed for a year after horrific start!)
*A "play place" by Bright Starts I think, like a play gym but with sides
*Jumperoo (second child didn't take to it though! N.B. good resale value)
*Glider chair (ditto resale) and music in the background to rock baby off to sleep to smile

Not used / "not so necessary"
*Outfits (sleepsuits for 3months at least!)
*Cot bumper - these are purely decorative as current guidelines don't advise using them near baby's head anyway
*Gripe water / infacol / colief -nothing made a spot of difference to colic sad baby seemed to outgrow it after a very long few weeks
*A "yummy mummy' changing bag, bought for me - was returned and money spent on much more useful things and less tacky like bedding
*forehead strip thermometer - not recommended as they are too vague

Roseformeplease Sat 20-Oct-12 21:25:39

Must have:

Car seat / travel system
Baby grows (sp?)
Breast feeding pillow (mine was made by the maternity unit boss to raise funds)
Breast pads

If I am allowed 1 more - an endless supply of clean clothes / t shirts / cloths to help with the inevitable mess.

Didn't need

Clothes other than baby grows.
Moses basket
Tiny baby toys
A perfect nursery or any of the extra bits and pieces I spent so much money on.

kefybaby Sat 20-Oct-12 22:13:54

Must have:

1. Sling
2. Swaddling blanket
3. Car seat
4. Muslins
5. Onesies

Not so necessary

1. Baby bath
2. Outfits
3. Bath thermometer
4. Dummy
5. Shoes

babylily Sat 20-Oct-12 22:27:37

Lansinoh area
Lansinoh breast pads
Baby bjorn sling
Musical/light mobile
Muslin squares

Baby 3 and there were the essentials!

MrsShrek3 Sat 20-Oct-12 23:05:09

Our must haves...
1)Swinging crib and bedding
2)Lots of muslin squares
4)Baby carrier - front (we had baby bjorn)
5)Pram that lies flat

If there was a bonus / replacement then
6)fleecy suits for sleeping as all babies get out of cot bedding wink

CointreauVersial Sun 21-Oct-12 00:07:27

Must haves:

Muslins (lots of)
Bouncy chair
Breast pads
Baby sleeping bag

Don't bother:

Top-and-tail bowl
Baby bath
Posh travel system
Pricey branded changing bag
Bottle warmer

PuzzleRocks Sun 21-Oct-12 09:25:24

Must have:
Mumsnet - saved my sanity
Baba sling - so comfy and hands free was a huge help
Dream genie pillow - great for supporting bump in bed then doubles as breastfeeding pillow
Properly fitted bras

Not so necessary:
Sherman tank sized pushchair
Bibs - girls hated them on
Snowsuit - nightmare to get on and off, just layer
Breastpads - never used a single one when breastfeeding either
Cot - co slept until they transferred to proper bed at 1yr, total waste of money for us

Whirliwig72 Sun 21-Oct-12 10:07:50

5 must have's:

Loads and loads of nappies- estimate what you think you'll need and double it.

Baba sling and or baby Bjorn

Car seat

Wet wipes (again loads)

Soft cuddly blanket

* You probably won't need these straight away if at all. *

A bottle warmer

Lots of cuddly toys

A bath thermometer - trust your common sense instead

A wipe warmer

Baby toiletries

LoganMummy Sun 21-Oct-12 10:13:05

Top five (excluding nappies, cotton wool etc)
1. Travel system
2. Babygros -lots of
3. Nappy bin - living in a third floor flat
4. Lamaze Freddy the Firefly - DS loved it instantly
5. Bath support - made bathing so much easier!

1. Shoes for under six months - waste of time
2. Fancy clothes for under six months
3. Cot mobile
4. parasol for buggy
5. Wet wipes warmer grin

Top 5 not counting nappies and clothes
Warm stretchy blanket that can be used to swaddle
Baby chair/ rocking seat thing
Changing mat
Night light so you don't have to put main light on for night feeds
Microwave steriliser
(And for mum maternity pads - lots of them)

Not useful
Scratch mittens - don't know a baby who would keep those on!

Pourquoimoi Sun 21-Oct-12 10:27:35

5 essential

1. Car seat
2. Travel system, ideally which car seat pops in to
3. Muslins
4. V shaped pillow
5. Changing unit for easy changing at the right height post c section

Obviously I've concentrated on equipment and not consumables such as nappies and clothes there.

Not so necessary in my experience
1. Bottles
2. Steriliser
3. Sling
4. Baby bath
5. 'Proper' clothes

Hope that helps

JulesJules Sun 21-Oct-12 10:54:43

Top 5 (not including boobs and MN):

disposable nappies/wipes/nappy bags
car seat - essential even if you don't have a car yourself (I don't), mine clicked onto the buggy
V shaped pillow
babygros and sleeping bag


Changing station - all you need is a cheap changing mat.
Moses basket - not just unnecessary but dangerous imo - lots of people don't realise that those handles are just for show.
Baby bath/top & tail bowl. I used a cheap washing up bowl (bought specially!) when they were tiny, and then the ordinary bath.
Proper outfits/shoes for the baby. Actually, I didn't need those either grin

SpookyAndFrights Sun 21-Oct-12 11:42:04

My must have when I had my dd's.

Terry squares, bigger and more absorbent that muslins, I had one within reach at all times for the first 3 months or so, we used them on shoulders at winding time, as impromptu bibs, to express into as I had superfast let down and choked poor dd4.

Kimono tie side vests, brilliant for night time nappy explosions, no pulling a vest over the head and smearing baby in crap, just untie and slip off.

Nighties for baby, just pull up for nappy changes, no poppers to confuse dp. Lasted much longer than babygrows.

Baby swing, the only time dd2 slept was whilst she was on the move, I could put her in the swing and get on with other things for 30 minutes. Luckily the other three weren't so demanding.

Cabbage leaves, the only thing that soothed my engorged boobs when dd's 1,2&3 refused to bf. although sending my dad out for them was a mistake as he didn't tell me until I had them in my bra that he's picked them up from the floor outside the green grocers as he didn't need to buy a full cabbage that way hmm

lottytheladybird Sun 21-Oct-12 15:04:14

Top 5 must haves:
1. Lansinoh
2. Sleepsuits
3. Breast feeding support cushion
4. Baby bouncer
5. Musical cot mobile
Not so important items:
1. Toys
2. Comforter
3. Shoes
4. Hats
5. Nappy stacker

sybilfaulty Sun 21-Oct-12 15:17:09

Must have:

1. Some sort of sling
2. Carseat
3. Lots of babygrows
4. Babywipes. Still use them now and DD is nearly 8.
5. A rainhat. Never did master the buggy plus brolly combo.

Didn't need:

1. Disposable knickers for hospital. Just wear old ones.
2. Changing table.
3. Changing bag.
4. Steriliser - dishwasher on hot setting fine.
5. Fancy clothes - too hard to get on newborns. Babygrows much easier.

ouryve Sun 21-Oct-12 15:51:49

Must have

Boob cream
Breast pads
Firm nursing cushion
Huge pile of nappies
Ready supply of quick and easy food

Not necessary

Nappy wrapper (seriously - they don't even manage to hold the smell in. A decent bin is fine)
Fussy outfits that are impossible to put on and impossible to wash once they've been puked on
Baby wipe warmer (just why?)

ouryve Sun 21-Oct-12 15:54:09

strawberry penguin - scratch mittens are useless, but when DS2 got a bit older, he was constantly scratching himself - we put him to bed with old socks over his hands. They stayed on much better.

BellaVida Sun 21-Oct-12 17:11:17

I have had 4 children including a set of twins, so have learnt through bitter experience what is essential and what is a waste of money. Here are my recommendations:-

5 real essentials for baby (excluding what Mother Nature provides)
- nappies, wipes, Sudocrem (also useful for any other rashes, eczema, spots, grazes for you or siblings!)
- front fastening vests and baby gros (fron fastening is so much easier than over the head vests or back or bottom only fastening baby gros)
- muslin squares (for general dribbles, mopping up and improvised changing mat)
- baby bouncer suitable from newborn ( a perfect safe place for baby to rest and play whilst you get on with the jobs other than looking after baby!)
- travel system including lay flat pram and car seat (so nice to click the car seat into the chassis and not have to wake baby!)

5 totally unnecessary items ( but ones which you are made to believe are essential)
- changing table ( a changing mat or two which can be used on the floor in any room are much more practical)
- nappy bin (put them straight in a nappy bag and in the bin- nappy wrapper cartridges are very expensive and they don't hold in the smell at all.)
- baby bath ( just use the sink when they are very small, then a bath with a cheap bath support)
- bottle warmer (just use boiled water as you are supposed to and cool it in a jug of cold water).
- musical cot mobile ( music, lights and other stimulating toys are not for the cot).

internationalvulva Sun 21-Oct-12 17:46:01

Top 5 must haves.

Baby car seat (can't take baby home from hospital without one and our first DD wouldn't sleep without a short car trip to start with.)
Muslin squares, loads.
Sleep suits.

Top 5 useless.
We bought, and never used...
Baby changing table
Top and tail bowl
Baby bath
Baby clothes (both lived in sleep suits for the first 3 months.)
baby bottles and all paraphernalia.

I know they said 5 but a huge one for me, which isn't strictly equipment...

Any ginaford/Tracey Hogg/other baby 'guru' book. These damn near killed me with stress, a short visit to the MN boards has sorted me with every issue since I binned those evil tomes!

SuiGeneris Sun 21-Oct-12 17:47:23

1. Nappies
2. Sleepsuits & Bodysuits
3. Sling
4. Nipple cream (biofem, hated lansinoh)
5. Travel system with proper pram attachment (used for daytime naps and nights away)

1. Baby hammock for bath (just laid them across my arm)
2. Baby cologne (babies naturally smell lovely)
3. Day clothes for winter babies (sleepsuits are all they need)
4. Baby shoes (see 3 above)
5. Baby "book" that can be rigged around the cot (was given 3, DCs hated all three).

supergreenuk Sun 21-Oct-12 18:51:32

Must have

Car seat
Baby grows

Not required

Cot bedding set and bumper
Baby lotion

FluffyFish Sun 21-Oct-12 19:34:50

Must haves:

Formula in case bf not working
Bottles as above
Lovely snuggly blanket

No need:
Cotton wool
Nappy bin
Room thermometer
Snowsuit (always way too big for newborn)

Grohlsgirl Sun 21-Oct-12 19:39:43

Top 5

1. Babygrows/sleepsuits
2. Disposable nappies and wipes
3. Grobag swaddle blanket
4. Car seat!
5. Nursing bra and breast pads

Not necessary -
1. Outfits/designer clothes - totally unfair on a tiny baby to be faffing around getting them in and out of clothes that will just get pooed/vommed on!
2. A vibrating bouncy chair - the point of a bouncy chair is that the baby learns to bounce in it.
3. Mobile for cot - (and probably not the cot either for the first few months!)
4. Mobywrap. 25metres of cloth that has to be tied in an origami type fashion in order to be able to carry your baby around. My babybrain couldn't work it out, and when I did manage to tie it (with help from two people!) my baby just puked over me. So then I had to work out how to untie it without dropping my screaming baby and without spreading puke onto any other soft furnishings. Just not worth the hassle!
5. Dummies/bottles - just wait and see, you might not need them!

burleyburley Sun 21-Oct-12 19:42:07


Car seat
Cellular blanket
Sleep suit and vests
Bouncy chair

Not required

Booties/mittens - they don't stay put
Bath equipment
Snot sucker
Cot bumper set

CharlotteBronteSaurus Sun 21-Oct-12 20:00:52

stretchy wrap sling
from birth buggy (not fancy-pants pram/travel system)
bouncy chair
baby sleeping bags

not so good:
baby bath
baby bjorn
actual clothes, as opposed to vests/sleepsuits in 0-3mo
mother/baby toiletries

AllSWornOut Sun 21-Oct-12 20:23:10

Baby gros
Amby hammock
Moses basket
Manual snot sucker

Not so essential:
Expensive change bags
Wet wipe warmer
Anything that isn't machine washable
Blankets forbaby to sleep under (gro bags much better)

Must haves:

Nappies of course
Cotton wool
Basic sleepsuits/vests
Muslin cloths, lots!

Others I appreciated as a new mum - those cups that keep drinks hot, lots of chocolate and good comfort telly/DVDs for when you're stuck feeding smile

Not so much:

'proper' outfits for the baby
Swinging chair (basic bouncy one was great, high tech swingy one not really)
Baby manuals (baby whisperer, Tina ford etc, what works for others won't necessarily work for you!)
Mobile over cradle

SlinkyPebbles Sun 21-Oct-12 21:08:42

Bra extenders
Soft sling
Slumber Bear
Clarins Tonic Oil

Need :
1. Baby Grows/vests (lots)
2. Disposable Nappys
3. Steraliser
4. Pram/Travel system/Car Seat
5. Moses Basket
6. Gloves ( Babies scratch their faces a LOT)

Not Needed:
1. Clothes
2. Changing Table
3. Top and Tail bowl
4. Baby Monitor (unless you live in a mansion you WILL hear them cry)
5. A fancy cushion for breast feeding, a pillow works fine

Cies Sun 21-Oct-12 21:09:35

Must haves:
stretchy wrap sling (Moby for me)
Lots of easy access vests and sleepsuits
bouncy chair (only had the most basic type)
breast pads

Unnecessary (for me):
breast pump
thousands of teeny tiny bootees and hats - a baby needs about 4 max I'd say, but everyone gave us them
proper outfits for baby

FreelanceMama Sun 21-Oct-12 21:18:04

Five must-haves
1. Sleeping bags - 1 tog and 2.5 tog
2. Musical mobile - at 9 months on it still distracts my baby for up to 30 mins so I can take a shower/sit and eat/do some urgent task in the house
3. Internet on my mobile - can email, shop, ask Auntie Google for advice at 3am, while breastfeeding at night.
4. A baby monitor with a room temperature monitor
5. A bouncer with a vibrate function for easy naps up to 6 months old

Didn't need:
1. A changing bag - used an old rucksack (better for your back, unisex, doesn't swing off and smack the baby on the head when you lean over them.)
2. A changing table - much safer just to change the baby on a mat on the floor or on the bed.
3. Carseat base - borrowed one, it was a major pain to get the car seat out sometimes, v glad we didn't buy it and glad to give it back
4. Stick on car Window screens to stop the sun coming in. They fall of at the worst time and you can't put them where you really need to (on the rear window)
5. Manual breastpump - injured my thumb joint from using it after just a few goes. Definitely get an electric one.

Ghouljamaflip Sun 21-Oct-12 21:20:50

Must haves:-

Maternity pillow (for feeding)
breast pads
nappies and wipes
easy to use travel system.

Not needed:-

Nappy wrapper
top and tail bowl
Changing mat (towel just as good and easier cleaned)
nipple shields
moses basket

Must Have
1. Muslins
2. V-shaped pillow
3. Steriliser
4. Sling
5. Bottle warmer

Not so necessary
1. Top and tail bowl
2. Scratch mitts (socks on hands is easier)
3. Grobag
4. Burp cloths
5. Baby shampoo

Most used equipment:

1. V-shaped pillow
2. Cot top changing board
3. Bath support seat
4. Car seat
5. Ice cube trays for home made baby food at weaning stage

Didn't use

1. Baby bath
2. Bottle warmer
3. Bath thermometer
4. Top & tail bowl
5. Moses basket/ crib (co-slept)

pucienne Sun 21-Oct-12 22:11:12

must haves:
1. babygros with feet - for day and night wear
2. lots of muslins - still using 5 years later - covering eyes when hairwashing, wiping spills etc
3. good pram that dismantles/folds easily
4. breast pump
5. car seat

not so must-haves:
1. nappy bin
2. shoes until standing
3. shade-a-babe (for the UK)
4. snot-suckers
5. top and tail bowl

vic1981 Sun 21-Oct-12 22:38:45

Top 5: Lansinoh ( a lifesaver)
Baby gro
Baby wipes
Baby monitor

Bottom 5: Snot sucker (useless!)
Nappy disposal bag
Designer fiddly clothes
Baby shoes
Gro company swaddle blanket ( baby hated being swaddled)

mumnosbest Mon 22-Oct-12 01:04:31

and more lansinoh grin

Ok also
Nursing bras and breast pads
Cotton wool and top n tail dish
baby grows
kindle (for endless hours glued to the sofa feeding)
ooh i know its number 6 but a camera.

Not haves:
Muslin squares (more washing and expensive)
Lots of pretty clothes
baby coat ( you can't get tiny arms in,blankets are best)

mumnosbest Mon 22-Oct-12 01:06:29

You need scratch mitts!
Can we make it top 10?

Agree with not needing scratch mitts, top-and-tail bowl, bath thermometer or a nappy bin. We didn't have any of those and I can't imagine why you'd need them.

Vijac Mon 22-Oct-12 06:42:06

- post birth sanitary pads
- baby gros/ sleep suits/Gro bag
- nappies and wipes
- Baby music and baby Einstein DVD
- feeding pillow and nipple cream
Not so necessary
- nappy bin (use bags)
- baby bath (use baby sponge)
- coats and shoes
- loads of baby blankets
- bouncer

Moses basket (I did without one first time round, I must have been mad, it's brilliant!)
Crib sized cellular blankets
Cake (and plenty of it)

Didn't need...
Larger cellular blankets (they were in a Grobag by then)
Baby bouncer (DD kept nearly braining herself on the doorframe)
Bumbo (a lot of fuss for really a very short window)

Oh and if cake isn't allowed because you can't get it on Amazon, I'll go for muslins instead

Tyranasaurus Mon 22-Oct-12 08:15:13

Terry squares
washing machine
straw for drinking water 2hilst holding baby
candela rechargeable lights for night feeds

Not needed/used
Bottles/formula etc
Baby bath (got given 2 (didn't want any))
Sling (baby hated it)
Pink baby clothes
nursery- bab y still in my room

thekingfisher Mon 22-Oct-12 08:48:27

Top 5:
1) Muslin cloths ( DS age 9 still sleeps with his!) but can be used for anything
2) a V shaped pillow - great whilst pregnant to help sleeping great after birth for loads of positions
3) Sudacrem
4)travelling kit of nappies/wipes set - really useful and can just slip into a normal sized bag
5)sling - could really get about anywhere

Not needed:
1) dresses - ('She' turned out to be a boy! - my mum had bought all these gorgeous dresses in Portugal so no returnable)
2) heating bottle warmer that took about 1/2 hour to warm milk up -
3)proper clothes .... loved in onesizes for aggggges
4)Crib - when we also had moses basket and a cot
5) top and tail bowl - why????????

pushitreallgood Mon 22-Oct-12 09:14:35

baby grows (lots of)
nappies (stock up)
blankets (for swaddling great for getting little one settled)
grobags (great for getting bigger babies settled)
microwave steam steriliser (fab)

not so needed-
baby bath (just pointless, either get a seat for your bath or take them in with you)
baby shoes (always fall off get lost, waste of money)
expensive any thing, clothes, blankets, buggys.
change bags (waste of money, use a normal bag)
change mat (it is always up stairs when you are down stairs or visa versa. baby gets plonked on floor of sofa or bed. just pointless and ends up collecting dust in a corner).

1. Car seat - Amazon can do something really amazing here and help promote ERF seats. I know all newborn seats are rear facing, but there is an opportunity to save children's lives and prevent horrific injuries, by letting parents know about the benefits of keeping a child rear facing as long as possible when they're buying their first car seat. I will get off my soapbox now.

2. Lansinoh

3. Chocolate cake. Actually scratch that - just any calorific food that can get from plate to stomach in less than a second.

4. Books with recipes for nutritious meals that can be cooked in less than 30 minutes.

5. Slings - can we bring the sling into the mainstream please, instead of it being seen as something only hippy mothers use? It does make life so much easier for both mum and baby.

Things I didn't use:

1. Top and tail bowl.
2. Bath support
3. Steriliser (bf and found out didn't need to sterilise bottles for bfing)

heymammy Mon 22-Oct-12 10:23:27

Top 5 haves:
1. Car seat
2. Rocker chair (not bouncy chair), baby ds slept in this for about the first 6 weeks then I slowly transferred him to the Moses basket. I think he liked it because it wasn't completely flat and seemed to snuggle his body more than a flat mattress in the Moses.
3. Muslin cloths...great for mopping up spit up, covering your boobs a bit when trying to get a teeny ban to latch on esp. good if you feel awkward feeding in front of the many visitors!
4. Lansinoh nipple cream...a bloody godsend!
5. Feeding pillow of some sort to rest your aching arms on when you've been feeding for 2 hours straight grin

Top 5 have nots:
1. Baby bath, utterly pointless, just top and tail at first then, providing you're fit and healthy, just lean over the big bath.
2. Those nappy wrapper things.
3. Outfits for newborns are a bit silly really, dungarees...on a 1 week old!?
4. Changing bag, just stick a few nappies in your handbag!
5. Changing table...expensive piece of kit that you don't really need.

The3Bears Mon 22-Oct-12 11:17:59

DS2 is 9 weeks so im discovering again whats useful and whats useless

Must Haves:
Giant muslin blankets: these have been great since day 1 and ds2 loves to hold them when sleeping.
Large cotton pads: as someone else said cotton balls etc are useless
Kindle: Currently Bf and it's keeping me entertained
Feeding pillow: I can eat while bf as I can use my hands grin
Sling: Im using the close baby carrier and it's great, it means I can get on with things while keeping baby happy

Have not's:
Outfits for newborns: learnt this time round that investing in good quality baby gros make much better sense rather than getting lots of useless outfits.
Baby bath: I have a mamas and papas baby bath that cost £30 sad and ds2 hasnt been in it once yet, he just gets in the bath with me.
Scratch mits: useless!
Bottles: have loads and not used one yet as bf
Pram parasols: as someone else said there rubbish dont keep sun of baby, I just put a muslin blanket over carrycot when sun was v bright

aufaniae Mon 22-Oct-12 11:28:06

" Amazon can do something really amazing here and help promote ERF seats. I know all newborn seats are rear facing, but there is an opportunity to save children's lives and prevent horrific injuries, by letting parents know about the benefits of keeping a child rear facing as long as possible when they're buying their first car seat."

I would totally agree with that. It's really hard to find rear facing seats in the UK, which I just don't get, seeing as they're so much safer.

lagoonhaze Mon 22-Oct-12 11:58:42

The womanly art of breastfeeding
The baby Book by sears

heymammy Mon 22-Oct-12 12:20:58

" Amazon can do something really amazing here and help promote ERF seats. I know all newborn seats are rear facing, but there is an opportunity to save children's lives and prevent horrific injuries, by letting parents know about the benefits of keeping a child rear facing as long as possible when they're buying their first car seat."

Also completely agree with this. We got our erf seat sent from Sweden as it worked out cheaper than buying in the uk, so Amazon...if you could promote and sell erf seats at a reasonable price you could be the 'go to' site for these products.

bulletwithspookybatwings Mon 22-Oct-12 12:26:21

Must have:
Baby Wipes
Lasinoh Nipple cream
Breast pads

Not so useful:
Food warmer
Changing table
Millions of toys
Can't think of anything else!

WhatWouldWitchesDo Mon 22-Oct-12 13:56:41

Another in support of Amazon promoting rear-facing car seats, absolutely.

modernbear Mon 22-Oct-12 17:27:51

1. Nappies and wipes
2. Vests and sleepsuits
3. Ipod/kindle/Ipad - take your pick (something is required when DC goes to sleep on you and you can't budge due to waking him/her.)
4. Flopeze Breast Feeding Pillow (Marvellous when DC had colic)
5. An interesting, remote controlled mobile, with non irritating music.

Not needed:
1. Sling (By the time I felt confident enough to try it out, he was too heavy for my back).
2. Snow suit (I've still kept it though. Keep thinking I could make it into a teddy bear.)
3. Baby bath. (Gave up with this after a few shots. Resorted to going into the big bath with DC.)
4. High chair
5. Bouncer chair (DC didn't like it. Made this obviously clear.)

Must have:
Car seat
Bedside cot

Buggy cosytoes
Moses basket
Bath support
Electric steriliser
Kettle with thermostat

toomuchteaching Tue 23-Oct-12 14:15:17


1. Breast pads
2. Some kind of sling
3. Sleeping bags
4. Washing machine
5. Muslins - lots, ours are still the only bibs we use!

Not necessary

1. Outfits under 6 months - keep them in sleepsuits as long as you can!
2. Moses basket - rustly when you put them in, what a stupid idea!
3. Top n tail bowl
4. Lots of bottles etc. - breastfeeding might be surprisingly easy
5. Special newborn toys, wrist rattles etc. - pointless

ChasedByBees Tue 23-Oct-12 21:26:19

Must haves:
* Nursing bra and breast pads
* Moses basket
* Muslins - useful for almost everything!
* cotton wool, lots of it - ditto
* ready made cakes to offer guests and scoff myself

Very obvious must haves include car seat, nappies etc but I've left them out.

Not so useful
* bottles, dummies etc. I have a drawful of expensive and unused items.
* proper clothes and shoes. I just couldn't wrestle my DD into these!
* baby soaps and bath products. We use water (and now oats soaked into bath water. Anything else sets off terrible ezcema.
* change table. I have a change mat on the floor and she's way too wriggly to use anything higher.
* sling. I so wanted to be able to use a sling but I think I would have needed to pay more attention in guides to get the hang of the knots required.

MsMoastyToasty Tue 23-Oct-12 23:34:56

-nappies and wipes
-Moby wrap
-baby sleeping bag
-concentrated hand cream (washing hands after every nappy change really hurts after a while)

Not so necessary:
-soft toys
-changing bag
-baby bottles and assorted paraphernalia
-massive pushchair travel system

MySecretSelf Wed 24-Oct-12 00:40:47

Must haves:

1. A king sized bed. Wriggly babies take up a lot if space as do poorly 4 year olds
2. Car seat with a click in base - my lower back was shot to pieces after DS was born and it would have been agony for me to lean over and fit an infant car seat every time
3. A changing table. Lots of people don't rate them, but see above re: back. No bells and whistles though, the basic ikea one did the job
4. An iPod touch/iPhone etc to keep you sane when trapped on the sofa with the baby
5. Something you can put the baby in so you can go to the bathroom/make a cup of tea/go to the other end of the house and scream - for me a bouncy chair first, then a learn and groove station thingy with a seat in the middle

Quite a few other things - grobags, poppered vests, sleepsuits, squillions of muslins etc

Not so necessary
1. A baby bath - real faff to fill and empty
2. Nursery furniture e.g. Expensive drawers with a built in changing table
3. Massive travel system or adapters to fit your car seat onto the pram
4. How to raise your baby type books - that's what mumsnet is for grin
5. Special swaddling blankets - a regular blanket does the same thing

NonnoMum Wed 24-Oct-12 00:49:14

Must haves...

maternity pads...
a few more maternity pads...
clothes that fit (maternity too big, non-maternity too small, oh, and need boob access too)
hand me down sleep suits, because they grow out of them in a day

lisalisa Wed 24-Oct-12 00:55:25

5 most useful -

Moses basket and rocking stand
swaddling cloths or blankets

And the above are from a breastfeeding mum who couldn't take the cracked nipples and needed just a small break with an occasional bottle. I was so pleased when that steriliser and bottle walked through the door that I cried. And still breastfed a few months later too smile

5 most useless

soft toys
lullabies music type thingys
pram ( for me anyway as I had such massive problems post dd4 that by the time I could properly go out she wanted to be more upright so had to ditch the lie flat only pram that cost a fortune!)
snowsuit ( even for a winter baby for the same reason )
Expensive designer dresses in newborn size - why would people buy these when newborns ( and us as the dressers of newborns) are so much happier in babygros .

ShouldIWorryAbout Thu 25-Oct-12 12:08:26

Top 5

Breast feeding pillow - no more sore arms, an left a hand free when feeding
Gro-bag - no blanket worries for a wriggly baby that hated being swaddled
Muslins - used for everything
Bath support - no one tells you how hard it is to hold a wet and soapy new born
Anti-scratch gloves/mittens - dd looked like she'd been fighting with cats until we got these

Never used
Moses basket - dd hated not being able to see me
Baby sling - dd and I both hated it
Outfits for new borns - really what is the point?
Shoes for new borns - even more useless than the outfits
Baby oil... Why would you want an even more slippery wet child?

mummyofcutetwo Thu 25-Oct-12 21:43:29

5 must-have products:
- grobag sleeping bags for night time (so the baby doesn't wake up by getting cold after kicking off the covers)
- baby wrap carrier (great even though I have a bad back)
- "day" clothes for after the first few weeks (really helps the baby to work out when it's day and when it's night - my two have both slept through the night since 8 weeks)
- Lansinoh nipple ointment (a godsend for breastfeeding mums)
- Lansinoh or Tommee Tippee breast pads (I've tried them all and only these two didn't leak!)

5 not-so-essential products:
- baby talcum powder (I've been given bottles and bottles of the stuff and not used it even once with either child)
- baby bath support (tummy tub or a shallow filled bath is much better for the little one)
- shoes (completely unnecessary until the baby is on the verge of walking)
- expensive clothes (I've found that even mango stains and there are plenty of lovely and well made cheaper clothes around)
- bottle warmer (seeing as you should make bottles up as you need them surely this is now obsolescent?)

RachelHRD Thu 25-Oct-12 22:50:22

5 must have's:
Wipes - now used for a multitude of things including housework!
Baby carseat - so practical for travelling and carrying a small baby and with a rocking facility which can be foot operated!
Pre-made formula in cartons - for those of us who couldn't breastfeed...
Steriliser and Closer to Nature bottles - see above ^^
Muslins - so many uses

5 not necessary -
Baby oil and talc - not needed on such delicate skin
Large and heavy travel system - just needed a good portable carseat and a decent lightweight pushchair - barely used my Quinny Buzz
Baby outfits - mine lived in baby gros and vests
Cotton wool - such a faff and mess compared to wipes.....

RachelHRD Thu 25-Oct-12 22:53:37

oops and no5 -
snot suckers!!

asuwere Fri 26-Oct-12 14:33:49

Must have:

1. boobs
2. nappies
3. pram
4. vests/sleepsuits
5. terries (much better and more useful than muslins in my experience)


1. baby outfits - such a faff
2. changing station
3. nursery furniture in general (other than cot)
4. baby/parenting books (babies haven't read them so don't know the rules!)
5. steriliser

Belmo Fri 26-Oct-12 14:48:21

5 must haves:
Moby wrap sling
Sleeping bags - absolute life saver
Angelcare sensor monitor - a bit ridiculous I know but I was scared to go to sleep until we got it blush
Gro-egg thermometer
Isofix base thing for the carseat

Didn't need:
Bottles/breast pump/steriliser/dummies - we found breastfeeding pretty easy and she wouldn't take a bottles
Moses basket - literally never spent more than 5 minutes in it
About a thousand blankets, 2 would have done
Muslins, bought loads and never used them
Babygros with buttons in awkward places.

Ignoring nappies as they are definitely a requirement...

1. Lansinoh nipple cream (worth every penny if you're breast feeding)
2. Babygrows
3. Cheap bouncy chair - one that's so basic you can take it apart so it's flat and take it everywhere with you.
4. Laptop or other internet device to get MN while you're up in the night feeding. Kept me sane.
5. Insulated mug for keeping your tea warm

Don't bother with:

1. Cot mobile - DD just hated hers and it kept her awake rather than sending her off to sleep.
2. Tiny clothes for your newborn - DD was in babygrows until she was about 8mo old. Quick and easy to change, cheap to buy and no risk of breaking her while trying to get tiny cutsy jumpers/tights on.
3. Baby bath - I had one but only used it for a few months, would have been just as easy to use the washing up bowl grin
4. Educational toys - no point when they're this little, save your money for when they're older
5. Can't think of anything else, we didn't buy much for DD and she was just in a cot in our office for quite a while blush

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