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have just read this post and i am having exactly the same problem and ashamed to admit some of the things he says. i know its an old post but did it improve or how did you sort the problem out

Have you looked into Pathological Demand Avoidance, or Oppositional Defiant Disorder? Both are associated with ADHD and Autism. I'm not a healthcare professional, but do understand the trials of trying to find out if there is something wrong with your child!

My son has High Functioning Autism, Dyslexia and Dyspraxic needs. He was diagnosed at 8 years old after half a dozen professionals told me that my son was lovely...they didn't know what was wrong with him.... but he was a lovely child.

Very frustrating.

Hi all, I'm quite new to this, so please bear with me, as it's quite long. I have posted this in the behaviour topic, but have been advised to post it here too. Basically, we've had an awful weekend with my 9 year old DS. This topic has probably been covered loads in the past, but he started 'playing up' from the age of about 4 years, but back then we'd just had a new baby, moved house, and he started school, so I put it down to all the changes in his life. Over the years, he has continued to have behavioural problems and I took him to the GP. This proved a bit pointless and although we were advised there were slight traits of ADHD, nothing was ever diagnosed and we saw a mild improvement. Also, he is very well behaved in school & gets good results in everything, so he can control himself. However, at home over the past year or so, he flies into rages over the slightest thing, particularly if he is being told to do something he doesn't want to, throws things around, damages things, threatens to hurt his sister, says the worse swear words he can possibly think of, screams and shouts, and is very aggressive. The worse part is that he has now started to hit me, jump at me, and nip me etc. He is so angry all the time and I am ashamed to admit that I hit him this weekend as I was in tears over this behaviour. We have tried to take things away from him, ie. X-box and computer, but when he gets them back, it starts again, especially if he loses a game or something. He will throw the controller and blame everything and everybody else for anything which doesn't go his way. His Dad does work a lot and although he loves him, I believe he doesn't spend enough time with him. We do try to do things as a family, but this is very often spoiled if DS doesn't like what we are doing or is bored. He has a complete lack of respect for me and occasionally other adults. This weekend has been the worse in his life and I'm really at my wits end as to what to do. He always says sorry like he did on saturday, but did the same again on sunday. As soon as the screaming cries start, it's very difficult to get him to calm down. Any advice would be appreciated from a very stressed out mum of two. (my eyes are swollen today with all the crying) Thanks xx