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Time off school for AS/ASD child - did anyone try?

(5 Posts)
Worriedandlost Wed 17-Apr-13 22:17:25

Dear all, my 5 yo DD is suspected to have AS, she has full time TA at school. Though she likes school and I think that school is good for her, I feel that she becomes overloaded (she has minor sensory issues - getting tired and withdrawn when noisy or crowded). I feel that it affects her behavior now (constantly have negative reports from school, like biting, pinching). Does anyone have experience of reducing school hours or days for the above reason - too much going on for an ASD child?

Honey2vinegar Sun 21-Apr-13 10:22:37

I have 7 yr old ASPIE DD. I had the same issues as you. I pushed her to attend for as long as I could, but from age 4-6 her attendance got worse and worse... As did her stress levels and coping. In fact thing slowly disintegrated so much she was a mess and the while family was feeling her stress. Incan relate to you about her loving school, it was strange like a love hate relationship, Broke my heart. I started homeschooling 7 months ago, TOUGH decision, but I'm so glad I did it. Her stress is massively reduced. As she is 7 now we can talk about these things. She recognizes it takes her 3 days to come back down after an event like a party, or fun fair type day. I think school 2 days a week would be perfect for her, ( and she does too) but they don't exist where I live. Hope this helps.

Honey2vinegar Sun 21-Apr-13 10:30:01

Also during these 2 years of school like you I only had suspicions of AS, I knew she had SPD, but wasnt sure what else, teachers were not too supportive, they said she was stubborn, and I was too easy on her etc....

this really makes it hard to know what to do, how hard to push her to attend etc....
I had a private formal diagnosis was age 6.5 this coincided with my decision to HE. it's nice once you know because you can move forward and learn about AS. I read so much and still do. It has been wonderful to spend these past months with her at home, learning social skills and just really getting to know her and how her brain works. I think she has benefitted enormously from this time, she has a lot of stuff to detox, past experiences etc always come up and we can discuss.
I am not sure what I will do in the future re schools....looking for a brilliant ASPIE school. DD dreams of a school designed just for aspies like her, any recommendations ???

CaptChaos Mon 29-Apr-13 11:50:26

My DS has a diagnosis of ASD, ADHD and Dyspraxia, he also has sensory processing difficulties. He attended a local MS school from reception until yr 5 at which point, I was having to drag him into school everyday, I was constantly getting called to come and get him because they couldn't cope with his behaviour etc etc. I had just lost (yet) another job because I couldn't be relied on due to having to collect him at least once a week, so I thought I would give HE a try. What a difference! We learned together, in his way and at his pace, we didn't do 'formal' stuff, but we turned everything into a learning experience. We did this for 2 years and then he went back into school, a year in MS again (which was a disaster) and then secondary at the boarding school he's at now, and he's doing brilliantly.

Honey have you looked at the NAS schools? They are amazing!

Worriedandlost Wed 08-May-13 22:12:28

Ladies, thank you for your replies. Glad to hear that HE worked in your cases, I just wonder now - is HE something we end up doing at the end? smile

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